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OP. Take a hike and move on with your life. She's not your type.

OP. Run for dear life if it means anything to. That guy is worse than Ebola.
Don't let anyone talk you into considering his proposal. He's obviously fake from your narration. Cut off all links with him.
You've been warned.

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@OP. This write up is the reason for 30% of first borns in marriages in the last 10 years not been fathered by the hubby.

What won't we read on this forum. Its like no holds bar these days.

Respect them, celebrate them, appreciate them and love them like your parents.

Visit www.december26couples.org.
There are numbers to call and speak with a marriage counselors.
Whatever the issue, rule out divorce.
God will see you through this in Jesus name.

@OP. Why on earth did you have to go dub jacknjilllive?
Bros Leke can sue you for this if he finds out. It called plagiarism
The least you could do was to give credit to the source and not make it look like yours.
Stop the copy cat syndrome and be original. You short change yourself and thwart your creativity.

All this mafia mobsters. Just so u guys know, a lot of ciao's and Midi's have moved over to the REAL Family, the REAL side, GOD's family. Preaching and evangelizing the gospel of salvation and winning souls for Christ. I implore you to leave the dark world of mafioso and embrace the TRUTH in totality unconditionally. God bless you all.

The more reason I say I will not stay in the same compound with any landlord, their relatives or proxies.

Most instances that I know of is because the man/hubby lost his job and is unable to get another one at the moment. Meanwhile, the wife fends for the home and family thereby putting strains in the relationship in most cases. But where there's understanding and mutual cooperation among them, the situation is well managed. In some cases it tightens the bond among couples/family while in others it has become the basis for all manner of abuse, strife, quarrels, fighting with dire consequences.
I use this medium to thank all you women who's been "holding down" for your man and family. God will restore your husbands soonest and wipe those tears from your eyes. Please keep praying for and continue to accord him his respect. God bless you.

@OP. I'm truly so sorry on behalf of ur hubby for putting u thru dis. Pls forgive him 1st and pray for him to have a repentant heart.
As for your question, "How can I stop him"? I'm afraid you don't have the power to "stop" him. That power lies with the Holy Spirit for he is the Spirit of Truth. Pray for the conviction of his soul while also taking protective and precautionary measures such as insisting on HIV/STI screening, have enough savings, alert his parents and perharps siblings. Also, rather than confronting (which is a fertile ground for denials) make him realize the implications and consequences of his actions now and in future.
Moreso, give more attention and a good dose of sex anytime, anyhow, anywhere, anyways (healthy tho). Become his "BITCH" (pardon me) in bed.
Pay him unschedule visits @ work and take him out for lunch and "short time". Let him know you're just a phone call away anytime he's "Hot".
The competition for us married men is assuming a dangerous dimension. So who get her husband make she hollam wella.

@OP. Wisdom says "marry who you love or love who you marry".
Live with the choice you made and enjoy it with every breath you've got NOW. Life is quite simple to be complicated.

After 42 views no response. Phew. Just wondering.
@OP, how much money do u need? Have tried applying for scholarships? I know a couple of multinationals do dive scholaships. Some states also give bursary awards.
Give a total breakdown of all u need to see you thru each semester. What skills do u think u av dat can be developed? Can you run a little biz by d side while studying?

Save wifey n unborn child (that's 2 lives u know)

My mum has fulfilled her part in life.

My kids do say so (thank you) in my native language.

I also say thank you to me spouse (sometimes)

I make use of wallet. Its part of a guy's fashion accessories. Losing it @ anytime can be painful but still shouldn't stop a guy from using one. You can choose to have varieties based on your dress code and the occassion. Always remember to keep them pockets where you can feel them. If you find yourself in a rowdy place, remove it if you placed it in your back pocket and put in front while holding.

@OP. It's evident ur hubby is or was not a "hinjus man". If not, he's in the best position to fix dis issue and end ur misery. Ur neighbour has figured out he's a weakling n not capable of standing him up. His insistence on moving to his "own house" as remedy to the situation @ hand tells me you're not his priority right now. You don't use longterm measure(s) to address pressing issues like dis. Desperate times calls for desperate measures. My spouse gets toasted every now and then and we laugh over it but not "harrassed" in your case, moreso by a "randy-wife beating-skirt chasing-adulterer". Some hubby wld av fixed dis guy to d point he'll be d one washing ur car every morning.
As for you, I'd suggest you document all his sms, record his calls, put him on speaker whenever he calls for other people to witness, make an entry @ the nearest police station and seek legal advice as how to sue d "worthless piece of shit" and claim damages for the trauma he's causing now. And don't let your hubby stop you @ that point cause you seem to be On Your Own now.
All the best of luck.

@Madam OP. Pls don't abort. All things are falling into place for you and your family. This particular pregnancy and eventually delivery will give you reason to thank God all the days of your life.
Stay blessed.

@ OP. I've been in that situation before. Told my friend about it, he didn't like it. Actually warned that I back of. Today we are married with kids. If your intentions are genuine and you truly and honestly love each other with plans for the future, please tell your friend NOW and promise him you won't play his sister. All the best.

@ OP. Its pointless entering a marriage with baggages u can't cope with. Pls exit quietly by becoming less visible after telling her u want out and why it won't work. A long courtship is not a guarantee 4 a successful marriage. Thereafter retrieve all ur belongings, prayer harder n watch ur back. All d best.

@ OP. Your wife is wetin? Bros, go stockpile lots of dat defence shield called "PATIENCE" u need am bad bad if u want 2 remain in any marriage. I can almost tell u more is still 2 come frm ur wifey.
Brace up man. Welcome on board.

@ OP. From ur question, I'll say yes u can cos u said "wife" not fiancee or gf. Marriage is contracted either by customary law (native law n custom-NLC), state law (registry) or the church (a.k.a white wedding). Some churches will even require u meet @ least one of d 1st 2 mentioned earlier. So I think u can begin ur "conjugal journey" if so desired. IMO.

@ OP. A guy proposes early in a relationship, you're suspicious and uncomfortable. I'm sure you've in relationships in the past where you expected the guy to propose and nothing came. The same mum asking you to slow down will be the one pressuring tomorrow if this guy and other ones comes and goes same way. Instead of slowing the guy and the process down, why not set parameters and test him to know if he's suitable. Prayer is important as much as determining what kind of marriage you want. Have you done genotype, fertility and other forms of tests? Have investigated his family and their history? Try know as much as you can instead of worrying more about his early proposal. Wishing you the best of luck. Cheers.

Was with her all thru antenatal to delivery. Have video clips of all 3 births. The last was via CS so was not allowed into the theatre but recorded it immediately he was brot out. Have them in my archives to show them once they reach the age of reasoning.

Come try waffi slap. Its deafening. Waffi slaps makes you "correspond" sharp sharp.

Be yourself. Don`t try to impress people becos you want them to accept you based on their terms. They should accept you as you are. With time they `ll come around. But your hubby needs to behave and play his role except he`s mummy`s boy that will make it tough.
Keep a cheerful face and never let them see you hurting when they do hurt you.
All the best.

OP. Congrats on your upcoming wedding. However, reading your story it sounds you were more convinced to settle with this guy becos of his good financial status. Now ask yourself n your secret place and truthful: would you have agrred to his proposal if he was not ok financially but had the other qualities you mentioned?
All the best.

If this story is true, ten you have to "divorce" your so called landlady. U re sitting on a barrel of BOMB waiting to explode. The target is your husband. Landladay wants our husband. Start looking for another accommodation.
Reasons like this is why I say I`ll never stay in the same place with the owners (landlord/lady).
Madam, cut all ties with this woman or better still reduce it to the barest minimum and move out of that place. I wonder why some women don`t listen wen the husbands talk.
A word is enough for the wise.

My own beating in retrospect was more like drum-beat. I was tied and flogged (with all types of whip ou can imagine) and pounded with blows, till I became immune. Then entered the corporal punishment. Phew, men I chop beating as food no be small.
Sometimes, I give a little dose of it to my kids and they almost freak out. I`m slowing down fast.
Sometimes I really wonder what I would have become if those beating did not come into my life, cos me self no say I worry my parents as a "rebel".

I personally will pay her allowance under the scenario no matter how small. There`s a blessing that comes with it.