₦airaland Forum

ifyalways:
Are you not the lady that sorted her child support wahalajust the other day?

Are these blog stories aka figment of your imagination or what

cococandy:
I don’t sense any team work here. You guys could benefit from a family budget. Stick to the budget and who brings what to the budget. Fair share.

Why was it on you to get your family a new generator?
Why do have to beg him for money after spending yours on the family’s need? Why was he recording your disputes to play for his family?

That’s not the action of someone who wants peace. He should know that will spook the flames all over again.

Seriously if you guys are going to stay together but he declines going to counseling , then you have to be the one make clear the things you can accept or not. And you also should try to make your points without abusive words. When you do that, that’s all they remember. Not the point you’re trying to make.

His family should have tried to made peace between both of you instead of lashing out at you and your child. Nobody likes when others gang up on them. He made the video to show his parents so that they could turn on you and they did. I don’t see a better ending than you walking out at that moment. Walking out to avoid responding badly to his parents was a good choice. You might have said something you could NEVER take back. If you have apologized for walking out, free your mind. You have done your part. You also deserve to be respected.

He should be willing to contribute as much as you to the family both financially and otherwise.

yvelchstores:
Ur father in law begged u not to go, u still went. God is gracious and kind, I would have said u deserve what is going on.

Eventually when your head calm down, u will so regret everything. Who ever or what ever is pushing u should continue. But u go hear am.

Advise, go to the family and beg them.... If your pride will allow u cos the pride is already up to your neck, but it's choking u sis.

Chubhie:
The nature of the quarrel that made you walkout on the family must be too grievous.

yvelchstores:
Ur father in law begged u not to go, u still went. God is gracious and kind, I would have said u deserve what is going on.

Eventually when your head calm down, u will so regret everything. Who ever or what ever is pushing u should continue. But u go hear am.

Advise, go to the family and beg them.... If your pride will allow u cos the pride is already up to your neck, but it's choking u sis.

CityNGR:
Go for counseling.

bobobooge:
Would you love to share dear, strictly at your jurisdiction, exactly what went wrong.

I feel there will be something important to learn from you most especially for some of us who have that 'gut feeling' for our intended spouse.

Thanks

@ ur last sentence; I like how you still believe in love and marriage despite the odds.

Chommieblaq:
Let's keep sentiment apart and be realistic.
Is the 20k fixed or subject to increase when the child starts schooling,

If it's subject to increase then i think it's unfair for someone with 95k salary, I know you both pay rent, plus other responsibilities, 95k is nothing in today's economy.

Try and reach an agreement with him, if it involves getting someone you both listen to, please do.

So that when the child starts schooling, it won't be another tug of war to collect school fee.

jakandeola:
if I tell u bad word u will hate urself.u are a wicket woman. is it not same salary u earn yet u want 20k from him. sware u will use all that 20k on the baby. see as a man did u know his challenges of course he may want to be saving in bank and trying to build property for the baby. he has his parent to take care of his younger ones. what if he wants to remarry? wont he get small savings. what is 95k in naija today. school fees 15k for a term. how many cloth or food does baby eat? understand pls that 20k is much if u too love ur baby can't u spend on her too . am sorry I hate divorce I wish u are together the money 95k *2 is enuf. I wish u d best dear.

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2. Haier Thermocool midi refrigerator 45,000
3. Dstv decoder and dish 8,000
4. 1.8kva Firman generator 48,000
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Asquare84:
I thought ql1there was curfew so why are u risking your life

MrBrownJay1:
up til this day i have NEVER EVER been to a household in Nigeria where there was not a minimum of one housegirl/boy, even when the madam was unemployed.... i guess i must be going to the wrong households.

MrBrownJay1:
women's reality?! what woman do you know in Nigeria that is married to a gainfully employed man, and has herself a 9 to 5 job, that would then come home to pick up a broom to start cleaning the house? if they have children then someone else is raising these kids and if the house is dirty someone else is cleaning that house.

indeed a blessed day to you too sista.

adebayo3449:
I think you should wait till the next time ur husband plans to visit, go together and come back that same day if it's possible.
But I think there is something fishy in this story.
Why would the family think there is no need for you just to come and say hello or check the man? Or do u plan to pack there?

Bankyshinani:
How much?

rosekatiej:
Wow!! He is so big and cute.I would really appreciate the baby cloths ma but I stay in Uyo and can get someone to get them for me in I.K.Thanks .

ImaIma1:
The woman is probably stressed out when nieces and nephews comes over because she gets to care for extra people.

Do you guys help around when you go there? Or you just eat and eat and watch Tv while she does most of the work you guys create when you are there?

Marriage is not cast and stone. It takes understanding between the couple. A lot of couples i know hardly allow family members come and spend days in their houses to avoid one problem or the other.

Allow your uncle and his wife to sort out their issues and stay out of it.