Philantropists:
Thank you guy for all the wishes, to mark this birthday, I will do GIVEAWAYS AS USUAL.

N20k each for 25 persons.

Comedian2019:

Ask your friends who use honda

Tocynone:
If you stay in Lagos, go to oyingbo behind the abandoned Mainland Hotel. There are enough mechanics who specialize only on Honda. I mean Honda only

Themarkethere:
Because your husband who just c
I would say book an hotel then go from there but tell them you came from your aunty's. If they didn't receive you well stay till evening and tell them you didn't tell your aunty you would be staying back then go to the hotel and go back the following day. But if they recieve you well join them in the preparation till next day and forfeit your hotel money meaning you have to pay for a day first. Also carry only a bag containing what you may need if you have to sleep over.

Themarkethere:
Because your husband who just came from there is still not comfortable with you staying with them for two days, then he probably knows much before things end up getting messy.

I would say book an hotel then go from there but tell them you came from your aunty's. If they didn't receive you well stay till evening and tell them you didn't tell your aunty you would be staying back then go to the hotel and go back the following day. But if they recieve you well join them in the preparation till next day and forfeit your hotel money meaning you have to pay for a day first. Also carry only a bag containing what you may need if you have to sleep over.

delishpot:
If its For just 2 days stay at the family house. Since it might be all hands on deck for the preparation.

Oblongata:
My sister, get an hotel...simple!

You want to put yourself on hotseat? Make dem Dey say na you kee dia papa, because money wey him pikin suppose use treat him papa, say na you Dey chop am!

Nothing you fit to do wey go right for dem eyes, even if you wash the floor, dem go say na eye service.

Why not save yourself stress, and jeje go hotel, anything wey dem talk, u no go kuku hear. Do your part and japa after 2days...

A word is enough for the wise

EkelediliBuhari:


Never pot mother against son, or make it look so...

Rather call the mom first, tell her you're coming. Then tell the son you spoke with mom o, that you look forward to seeing her at the family house...


Wives are the pivot in the family. You are meant to create balance.

EkelediliBuhari:


Sometimes, you have to face your problems... Stay with them, manage where ever you find.

How much can a few days hurt.... Lodging can be misjudged as being high minded, or avoidance...

EkelediliBuhari:
OK. What's the question exactly...??

ThatPetiteChic:


https://www.nairaland.com/4966258/childs-welfare..we-need-advice

Here you said your salary is 95k
@bukatyne

Yummymummy07:
Yes u r wrong ,let him go and take care of his dad. Remember that u r also a mother with sons and one day u may find urself in this position , how would you feel if one your sons stop him from visiting you while you are seriously ill.

bukatyne:


Madam,

You said your father in-law is sick and invited his son (your husband) over.

You don't want him to go because
1. You have never spent Christmas together
2. He will return broke and you will always bear the household expense for January

You are the embodiment of selfishness ma'am.

I don't know why other years you haven't spent Christmas together.

It is either you all go to be with his sick father or you pray for a safe trip and let him go visit his father.

If you already know that he will be broke every January, why don't you take up that responsibility? Agterall, he finances the home Feb - Dec.

Oya pray that every spirit of self-centredness will die by fire.

boldx:
bryanarchie,

Let us assume your mother in law is not in good terms with you and she always complains about everything you do and she always nags about you anytime you are around.

Let also assume your husband reports you to his parents.

Please bear with him. Every trial is for a season. This will soon pass away. Don't allow the devil to sow seeds of hatred and resentment for your husband and his family. It is well. Please be strong.


I'll let him be and focus on my son and have s good time... thank you

Karleb:
Let us pretend time travel is now possible and we are 35 years into the future and you ask your married first son to come visit you but his wife didn't allow him because she wants them to spend time together, how would you feel?

what happened to going with him? must you be invited to go over to your in-law's?

Karleb:
Let us pretend time travel is now possible and we are 35 years into the future and you ask your married first son to come visit you but his wife didn't allow him because she wants them to spend time together, how would you feel?
but
what happened to going with him? must you be invited to go over to your in-law's?

LadySarah:
Travel with him.You are legally married to him and so his home is your home.
God forbid you are an orphan,where will you go ?
I dont know what trouble erupts each time you travel but you guys need to address it.
This is a pure comm stuff.

On the area of finance,present Januaryzs bill now so he can cut down what he is going with.If he doesnzt,cut down what you will support with come January.So when the heat comes,he might remember come Dec 2020.If you keep taking over the bills in January he won't understand very well and the cycle continues!

On a recent thread, a man was lamenting how his wife leaves him every christmas to her own place now a woman wants his man to not travel.

Life!

babythug:
With a man like yours the sooner you accept and rise above certain things the better for you!

It is what it is, if he understood your point of view he would make the trip before Christmas and return to spend the holiday with you but he doesn’t so let it be.

Change your mindset despite what has previously gone wrong. Let go of all resentment you’ve built up over the situation and over the years. Give yourself peace my dear!

Even though he won’t be home
Spend the day with your child or children and make it as much fun as you can. You don’t even have to go to your parents and remember your happiness must not and doesn’t revolve around your husband or his presence.

As per his returning home broke be gracious about it. The bills you can cover in January do so and what you can’t cover please don’t kill yourself let him know and see that you’ve covered as much as you can.

God speed and I wish you the best of this season.

mcdokwe:
you are a very selfish and inconsiderate being for saying this rubbish! How are you sure you won't leave this world before his parents?

boldx:
Bryanarchie,


I do hope you read this. Before my dad passed on, I got a lot of calls from my mom and my brother to come and see him. I kept postponing it cos I felt it was not time for him to go. He was really sick and frail. I kept calling and sending money. At last, he passed on without me seeing him. (I travelled to see him 2 years before he passed on with my entire family). That was 6 years ago.

In December 2018 again, my mom who had been on and off hospital needed to see me urgently. I could not make it. I called several times and sent money for Christmas. She was very happy. She was very sick in January. I traveled to see her in 2017 alone and the previous year with my entire family. I kept calling and talking to her. After a while, my brother called that I needed to be home immediately. The day I took permission from my boss, within the space of 3 hours, she passed on first week in February.

My advice.

Allow your husband to travel. He will find it difficult to forgive you if anything happens. Have you traveled to see your father-in-law recently?

crackhaus:

This long story is very important, you should share it here because I suspect it is the real reason you're against the trip, certainly not the family chicken you want to kill together or crossing-over.

Besides, if your husband was invited, it means you are automatically invited also as family. Or are you expecting your own special invitation?
Were you specifically told not to go along?


You have not shared what is actually going on.

culf:
you're not wrong but mode of presentation and time of presentation matters alot.