UK used to be a liberal place for most Nigerians coming to Europe, because they dont lay emphasis on documents unlike Germany that is known as a police country; but is like what used to be practised in Germany is now happening in UK. Honestly, it is heartbreaking but i think the bad economy is the major reason behind this and this trend is becoming the norm of the day in UK.

It will be a step in the right direction but to say we will overtake US, that is a far cry becos for the whole body to function it needs the head and other parts. So electricity cannot make our Niger a world economy even if it is free for 24 hrs.

OKURINMETA:

how is good governance possible without itemizing things you want to do . didn't fashola promised good governance as a matter of fact that 's his logo anywhere anytime, for a president not to have an agenda to run with means we are just running the wrong direction heading no where, this is a shame on him.

Talking from a leadership point of view from Africa leaders, when things are itemized the leaders tend to focus solely on the so called agenda forgetting other parts of government therefore, giving room for loopholes where either funds are syphoned or round pegs would be placed in square holes. A good leader should be able to have a firm grip on every aspect of government and in as much as he would have some sectors where much emphasis is needed, it is better if he doesn't start setting agenda or else he is setting a trap for his opposition.

what sense does it make to outline a seven or nine point agenda and at the end of the tenure not even one is achieved. Good governance encompasses all and when elaborated, it is more demanding and it allows him to have his eyes on all than focusing only on some sectors.

ronkebp:

Sit down there, let your own pant be wearing you!!!!!! culture ko, culture ni, some women, are doing it neat!!!! after all is if she is ever caught, if she is not, nothing has gone down and nothing will, simple!!!!!!

It seems as if you buy the idea of married women cheating; i do´not support married men who cheat on their wives but dont you think that a woman who is involved in outside runs just to get back to her husband is totally missing it. For the Bible says " a  wise woman builds her home but a foolish one destroys it.

ronkebp:

Infact i prefer it that way, it keeps everybody on their toes.

Na you sabi, think what ever you want to, i just gave you a small picture, ' in as much as you men do not want to think that your wife might cheat on you, it is better you do, it is not only the men that cheat, some women do too, especially those that are pretty and sexy, some men outside would want to have a taste, as you bleep other peoples wives, so your wives would be bleeped, with all leisure and sweat.!!!!!

In as much as we believe in the phrase " what goes around comes around" i tend to disagree with you that whoever bleeps(using ur word) on somebodies wife, his own will be bleeped upon. The culture will have in Nigeria puts so much pressure on the female gender that once she is married she finds it difficult to look out,and if by chance she decides to indulge in extramarital affairs,it is doomed as a tabboo and an insult to her entire family while on the other side(men) it is seen as a man's right.

when an issue that affects each and everyone of us is raised, we tend to deviate and start lavishing unnecessary praises to the individual and the region he/she is from. Nigeria would have been a better place if TRIBALISM is not the order of the day in every sector of Nigeria's economy.Be it Ngozi,Atiku or Aganga who ever tends to profer a solution to our present predicament,it should be viewed with patriotism and the spirit of ONE NIGER.

There are areas in Abuja that curfews would not and never be obeyed;for instance most satellite towns and i think the pronouncement is mostly concerned with joints in Abuja central. House wives shouldn't start rejoicing because an addicted fellow would always look for alternatives.

this thread shows that most of our small sisters selling on the streets are in trouble, "dis one wey guys dey look for big yansh and fine face" child abuse dey o!!!!!!

The electronic registration of persons living in Lagos by Gov fashola tends to put smile on the faces of some Nigerians but i ask will it mean good or another way of syphoning money from poor tax payers.

The presidential flagbearer of CPC said he is opting out of the Council of state's meeting until the hearing of the party's petition against PDP is finalised. His statement calls to question his patriotism to his "Beloved Country", this also shows that he is a soar loser and he is not interested in the wellbeing of Nigeria rather for his own selfish interest. You have filed your petition, i don't think there is anything wrong in attending the meeting and contributing while the court performs its functions. Moreover, he is still being paid as a one time Head of state; i thought he was a patriot but this recent attitude of his beats me.

Perfect! Its high time these soldeirs are taught a lesson; what makes them feel they are above the law.

I agree totally with you because it has been really bad on her side. She has actually gotten it really rough in all her relationships that atimes i wish i could help but no way.

Why not, some make the best of wives and if  i am better of it makes it easier because there is room for upgrade.

"Queend" thanks, i needed someone to put out that fear of doing it alone and you have just done that.

190:

^why wont she wanna break the oath!

Does she wanna keep you attached to her, bro go see your personal pastor and get this done with

cos blood oath/ties is never something to dare with

She wants to hang on despite my telling her it is over but does IGNORANCE Play any role in oaths!

190:

^didnt u hear i said u're in soup

Now i am really getting scared? Do you have any idea of someone with such an experience because i want to get done with it and move on but my worry is doing it alone because know she wont give in on it.

Pesoranlly i would say no but it depends on individuals and the extent of closeness before breakup. There is a saying in Hausa that " medicine is made out of old honey"

queend:

I don't it works.

then how comes we have both failed in keeping steady relationships or is it coincidence!!!!!

M M M:

op

wetin pikin dey carry play na e mama bre-ast no be e papa pen*s.

Na im be say i don shit 4 church abi, but for the fact that it was done out of ignorance will it still be binding? eventhough recent happenings makes it looks as if it is binding irrespective of ignorance or commitment.

Mynd_44:

You people have seen to much NOLLYWOOD movies

This had nothing to do with NOLLYWOOD movies,have you ever been in a situation were atimes you are carried away with a few minutes pleasure and before you know it, you have crossed the boundary.

In as much as i still have respect for her and what we shared, i dont love her anymore and i am not married. It might sound easy to say when one does not understand but whenever i tell her that i have moved on, she tends to bring back old memories and it's not funny.

Wislet:

what do u mean by u tried avoiding her but she insisted? Insisted on what?,,, And NO. You cannot do it separately. It was an AGREEMENT. One person alone cannot negotiate wit himself. Two or more parties are needed for it to be called an agreement(covenant). ,, The two of you spoke words TOGETHER in AGREEMENT. You MUST therefore come TOGETHER to CANCEL IT. U have to contact her and convince her of de importance of doing that. Even if she is angry wit you (maybe u were the one that caused the breakup), she cannot be blind or foolish enough to play with her future. It is affecting her too. Tell her of the consequences of not undoing dat. She needs to be free to be able to move ahead successfully- so no amount of anger against you should make her jeopardize that (if she is reasonable).

Honestly Wislet i understand your stand on this and what i meant by avoiding her is, she has just gotten out of a relationship with so much disappointment and now that she was able to locate me, she is bent on having me back. Well to give you a summary,we broke up about four yrs ago and it was when she was in the States while i was back home,she just felt she needed to carry on after i was denied a visa to the states. we had no issues and i also moved on. I decided of late to get into facebook and behold she was there asking all our classmates of my whereabout, they told her i was in Germany i had no idea that she was still looking for me becós i had moved on with my life. i had to deactivate my account with facebook because of her but the blood oath is aactuallymy worry.

2buff:

Well you shouldn't be keeping malice anyway.

You can let her know before hand what u intend to do. Schedule a time with her and your local pastor.
call her up during this time and all three of you agree to break things off in the spirit.

no travelling neccessary

she should be a part of it.

It quite difficult cos she is in the states while i am in Germany and moreover i had suggested once to her that we go back home and sought things out but she objected.

2buff:

By faith, everything is possible.

That i know but i must be cautious because i need to know if doing it individually without her might have any consequence and if she holds any grudge against me,would it hold?

ZnO:

I, too, have traversed all the northern states several times. I dare you to give me names like I asked for.

How do you mean? are you insinuating that if i give you a name you will be able to locate the girl anywhere in the north.Or you are looking for ready-made hausa/fulani girls that parade themselves in the north.

Wislet:

OP, BLOOD IS SOMETHING U SHOULD NEVER JOKE WITH. You might have done it when u were starry-eyed and ignorant, but now you should know it is not ordinary. Get in touch with the girl, both of you should<must> visit a true man of God and undo(unsay) whatever it is you did or said together. Otherwise you will NEVER be free of her. Without that you cannot be free of her. Your spirits will always seek for each other. Even if you succeed in marrying de woman of your dreams, your happiness will not last - cos u're still bound to someone else. Don't destroy your future- act fast and free each other.

Is it possible to do it separately? I am asking because i have tried avoiding her but she keeps insisting and i am sure she would resist any attempt if i bring up this issue. Cant i just meet a pastor and get it over with.

Excelboi:

Op, pls dnt take it for a joke! I bet your nt married yet,to even come across eachother all of a sudden after many yrs needs u to take a drastic step: try to break that bond cos it may have negative effect to you later on. PEACE

She has tried getting married and honestly none has worked, i tried keeping a steady relationship that might lead to marriage but honestly the whole stuff backfired. I want to move on but i am scared of failing again.

2buff:

You did WHAT now?!!
What the heck man?! why would you go ahead and do that?

You better get in touch with a good christian and have the both of you have a session of agreement to break it. Don't joke with your blood!

Are you serious and is it that bad? i did it out of ignorance and honestly it is just of recent that it started giving course for concern. The funny part of it is that she is in the US while i am in Germany at the moment.

ZnO:

I doubt if you have traveled half as I have in different parts of Nigeria. So keep your claims to yourself.

Are you sure? i have lived in the north for 25 years,schooled,served and worked there before i left the country, there is no state in the north that i have not been to. you cant just draw conclusions just because you have seen 13yrs old get married in Hadejia. I think you have something against the northern chiks,is there something you are not telling us.

ronkebp:

Zno, you need to travel abeg, go to the north and see wats up, maiduguri for an example, 60% of their ladies are mermaids, height/beauty/figure/ and are educated, they are getting wiser now, even their parents want their kids to be educated before marraige,

Those of us that have been priviledged to travel to the north would understand what we are talking about but for Zno, i just wish you will do a more elaborate research without being bias and i assure you that all those qualities you mentioned, you will find them in a fulani chk and you wouldnt even find adequate adjectives to describe.

His grammar might be very correct but we fail to understand that when English becomes inconceivable,then it becomes rubbish.As far as i am concerned he was just making a fool of himself because he has never spoken anything comprehendable.