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peacenow:
Can you give full job description please.
I have an experienced professional driver, trustworthy.

To drive me. To and fro work

NaijaSumigan:
What the take home amount?

50k

I want a company/private driver urgently. The location is Magboro near punch newspaper on Lagos ibadan expressway. Interested person should contact me though this post.

FirstCounsel:
I've heard about the efficiency of these Togolese labourers compared to 9ja ones. Can you enlighten me more please. Thanks

I repeat use cotonou or Togo boys for all your work. Do not make mistake of using Nigerians. Especially those Oshogbo boys

I need to take a decision to either use polysterene ceiling and pop ceiling.
I was thinking polystyrene option will be cheaper but it seems it isnt that cheap at 4k per square metre.

Your take

Dear Nairalanders, I am at a dilemma as per the choice I need to make concerning my house.
I have a deadline to move out of my apartment this December, at best my landlord will tolerate me till first week in January 2021.

I therefore decided to manage to complete my house to a reasonable extent to move my family in since at best I will get a good house to rent at about 1.5m/annum.

Now my dilemma, I am not sure I have the money to tile my house, which may be coming to about 800k.
Now I am asking, will finishing the floor with cement and carpeting(rug) the entire house be a cheaper option, considering the cost of quality rug?
I may decide to tile the house in later future. Size of house is 5bedroom duplex.
Kindly advise on cheaper and sensible options

Note: Finishing the floor with fine cement without carpet is not and option for me.

kaptaintintin:
call me. 08138789337

Noted

Ok will call you

Lalaxy23:
08136063833

I need a young, smart, professional driver to drive me for a month. The person should reside any where from ogba, ojodu or Berger in Lagos. The job is immediate and pay is 50k. If I am comfortable with the person he could retain the job for long. Send me a contact or reach out thru this medium if you are interested or know any body that may be.

Dear all my architect advised that I used polystyrene parapet. Pls what are the pros and cons

Ok, thanks. It is a 1storey building.

Dear all,
I want to roof my house, however prices of roofing sheets have really gone up so high.
I am forced to buy longspan aluminium sheet. Even at that the cost is still huge. Now I am considering 0.45mm guage because of paucity of fund gauge over 0.55mm which is my preference.

Please what is the implication of using 0.45mm. I am making purchases tomorrow monday.
Please urgent response will be appreciated.

With this your neco age, it shows you are a baby, with your reasoning, it shows you are even more a baby, 52yrs old

NECO1998:
I must commend the young man for this write up. Also, I want to use this opportunity to tell him to maintain what ever decision he chose to take irrespective of the condemnation from some Nairalanders. Again, it goes to show the writer has something 'upstairs' Vis a vis the type of wife he wants. Young man I salute your courage! At 52 years, I don't think a widow should be encouraged to remarry except if she chooses to remarry. After all, she has seen all in marriage. What was the business of that young girl telling the young man to persuade his mother to remarry? Is she not too young for that? Can't she control her tongue? What does she know about marriage? There is the saying that when your neighbour's house is on fire,you put yourself in your neighbour's situation. What I could decipher from the young girl statement is that: 1. She may not be able to endure the 'heat' in marriage 2.She is too talkative 3. She does not mind her business 4. She is not a wife material for a serious minded person.
The reason for the high rate of divorce today is because very many young men refused to think properly like the young man. They think love is what that matters in marriage. At last, break up. Men should look before they leap.

Good morning poster,
I will want to stay facts here rather than attacking you.
1. Your girlfriend has not done anything to warrant this sort of thoughts to the extent of thinking to cut off, such a deep thinking woman.
2. I appreciate your love for your Dad, it shows you are ready to protect his inheritance and memory.
3. Three, your mother is still very young at 52, if she lives till 82, that is 30 years of lonely life, more than he lived with your father.
4. Loneliness especially at old age kills more than illness.
5. Your girl is futuristic in thinking but you are focus on present.
6. Have you asked yourself who will stay with your mum in case you move away to some where far away, eg abroad.
7. Elderly people are susceptible to illness as they grow, and they need a partner to go through the journey with.

Think about these few points and many more when you are alone.
Pls, dont cut of your relationship because of this, may be for another reason, but not this.

Mvici:
I Lost Confidence In My Girlfriend The Moment She Asked Me To Marry For My Mother.

I had a girlfriend some few months back before the covid 19 outbreak, that was after we went home from school due to the strike and the pandemic, we both are in the same school which is IBB university lapai, in our final.

So at home this faithful day, I put a call through! We both were talking, laughing on phone, so she ask about my mum, I said she was fine and she now ask abt her loneliness because no one at home, I told her but I'm still here with her, she ask what if school resume and what if we should go for our service next year, she now told me to marry another man for my mum.... lol... telling me who knows" that my mum might like the idea if I should table it with her. Gosh! I actually laughed about it then on phone with her but inside me, it wasn't funny at all.

The next day, what she told me was still bordering me, so many things were just running on my mind...so even if by mistake I wife her in future and the Lord decide to take me when we have a grown up child like me, who is planning on becoming a graduate this year and have even spent 30 years in marriage already....she won't even mourn me for long before accepting another man's proposal or bleeping with another man or probably her one time ex.

I decided to ask my mum with play, mum be sincere to me, you and my dad have been married since far back 1986... U both were in marriage for about 30 yrs before he past away few years ago, may his soul rest in peace..this is 5yrs now are you considering on marrying any one or having any kind of body movement or even can stand the presence of another man in your life?

Guess what her reply was....
Mum said my dad was the only man she know in her life and that's how it going to remain by God grace, period! and I shouldn't ask her such again with cry/smiles on her face because she has me and I will give her groundchil........

Seriously I don't know why I brought this here but pls tell me, any girl that can ask a 52 Year old woman to re_marry even after she has a child, isn't it clear that she can't stay without having sex to anyone as long as her husband is on a peace keeping mission or even travel abroad?

Thanks everyone.

Hi sorry about this. If I may ask, for how long have you been married? See it is obvious your husband is under pressure from certain things, it could be work, health, finances or other issues and he may be holding up a lot.
It doesnt mean he is no longer in love with you.
I am a married man, some times my wife push me like that and later want picture, I sometimes want to burst out or even slap her. The only difference is I haven't done it. But it doesn't mean I don't love her.
Just chill for him and stop pushing him on anything he doesn't feel like for now until whatever pressure he is going thru is resolved. He will come around. But if the beating continues then run for ur dear life.

Mrsprissy:
Good evening my brothers and sisters in the house. First , I am not a troll . I've been a member on NL since 2008 and am very active, but I prefer using a new account for my story to seek advice and also learn from other experienced people in this great group.

On christmas day hubby and I were invited to attend a special dinner at his friend's house and I picked a nice outfit for him to wear on the day, he wore another outfit, a t shirt and jeans his every day clothes so I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

He was in our room for an hour while the kids and I were still waiting for him, I even sent the kids in their room to play, he later came out he only changed his top but didn't changed the trousers and trainers. I had decided not to say anything for peace to reign, so as we were leaving, I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly, he only stopped because my children were screaming and crying for him to stop.

I am so pained because before the incident happened, we were fine, no quarrel at all, I just don't understand his reasons for beating me like this and I swear to God, I didn't say something to make him this angry, he left me there and went out, his friend later called to know if we were still coming because he couldn't reach hubby on the phone, I told him we are coming.

I cleaned myself, changed my clothes and I left with the kids to his friend's house, to my surprise he was already there, we acted like everything was normal and I tried hard to stop tears coming because I was in pained.

For the past 3 days he has been acting as if I did wronged him, he doesn't talk to me, he doesn't eat my foods and he left the room and he is now sleeping in our son's room. I just don't know what to do again

And you believe that. So you want to be used as scape goat for those other women to thank God they were not in ur shoes. He is saying all that to lower ur self esteem.

dannyla:
The funny thing is there are women lining up to date him o. So he feels he's doing me a favour / I'm the lucky one

I know you want to marry him no matter what we say. But remember this, people don't change, they only cover up who they are until they have full dominance over you.
Dear, you will cry your eyes out when he will start dealing with you after marriage.

Regards and see you then, pls use this same username then so that we can remind you.

dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

You could be reacting to something. Check your daily living and try to figure out what it could be that triggers it.
I once read a story of a woman whose baby was having painful blisters and skin reaction. No solution despite visiting several hospitals.
It was while talking with her mum that she told her that as a baby she had that same problems and it was caused by washing machine that is not regularly clean over period of use. She stopped using washing machine for the baby's cloth and the probs stop.
My suggestion, talk to family members, try to check out possible things that you could be reacting to. I wish you God's healing.

Ifeelsad:
I've had this recurrent skin issue for about three years now. I've used everything usable both creams and drugs but its not going. Its getting worst, its on my face, breast, neck, all over my back even on my stomach. I don't know what to do again I'm tired

Please has anyone had this kind of rash
I'll like this moved to the front page for more views because I'm getting frustrated and my husband is getting impatient

I use dettol or izal to bath and I bath twice a day sometimes 3 times depending on d weather so I won't say its uncleanliness

folake4u:
Lol Op, leave the child,she's still growing.
I smiled while reading your complaints because I was once like your daughter, at her age back then. Nicki Minaj was my celebrity hero and Tiwa Savage was like the GOAT for me. I downloaded all their songs, in secondary school that time, I used my friend's phone to download and rap to Nicki's songs, I even had a rap book dedicated to her where I and my friends in school will freestyle to her songs.
At home nkor, my PC instead of using it to do meaningful things that time, anytime my father subscribed data, I'd use the modem to download Tiwa Savage's pictures. I kid you not, I had over 2,000+ pics of Tiwa on my PC. That's to tell you how obsessed I was then. They could do no wrong in my eyes then, tell me Nicki or Tiwa was trash then, and I would kill you .
Ah! they wanted to even conduct deliverance for me that time sef, the obsession was too much.

But guess what? I outgrew all these things esp when I finished sec school and when university show me shege . I hardly listen to Nicki or Tiwa Savage these days. Although i listen to their very old songs seldom anyways but give it time, she'd definitely outgrow this.
Take it from me .


PS: Despite my obsession for them as at that time, I still topped my class and listened to news, read papers and all. Just advice her that she also has to pick up interest in other things. You have a smart daughter anyways, she'd do well.

Cc: bugativeron.

Thanks for this, seeing other people who it happened to and how they outgrow it gives respite. I will work with ur suggestion. Cheers

Magnoliaa:
lolzzzz... It's alright. She'll grow out of it. It's not something that's not normal na. And for her age.

I've been there. Taylor Allison Swift was (and is still) my idol. I knew every single thing about her including her cats' names and records/achievements as a musician. I also argued with my teacher about her for over an hour ... because she's dated more than nine guys in ten years. He was judging her.

I don't follow her as much now... Growing up...

Hmmmm, thanks for this.

RSVP:
Is Cardi B part of their school syllabus?


If my daughter is in JSS3 and she has no clue about something as simple as Malawi but rather giving me gist about one yeye azz tweaker in another continent... I will wake her up at 1am and beat hell out of her sense.

Story, how old are you? Mind you she is an all As student. It is easy for people like you without any child to come and make noise. When you start raising urs we will see. Mean while some people have given reasonable advice that I agree with. Park comot for one side

RSVP:
How did she got to know Cardi B?? That's the first question I'd ask myself if I were you.

U need some serious discussion with ur wife.


A wise female NLder once said:
"Stop marrying slaykwin that doesn't have sense and still won't take counsel from the person that has sense".

She is in JSS3 for God sake, why won't she know Cardi B? Even when I was growing that there was minimal tech we knew world singers.

theButterfly:
Her becoming outraged when anyone says anything negative about Cardi B, and her castigating Nicki Minaj means her fanaticism for Cardi B is an obsession, which isn't healthy.

Hmmmmm

Themarkethere:
Try to be careful with your words with her when you are angry, if it is you who ask about Cardi B next time, she would say she doesn't know.

Your son's addiction should also be checked, at this stage they are bored by a lot of things so if you don't engage them on time with things that interest them, when they find one they become hooked on it. This means you have to scout for other interesting things that also catches their fancy to share the time and energy given to their addictions and possibly distract them.

Firstly, I hope your wife doesn't watch entertainment too much as well. Find out her close friends, they may also be hooked on entertainment news mainly and it possibly takes 90percent of their conversation.

You can start to diversify her channels, when watching TV together, you can see some entertainment news not about CardiB to get glued to the same TV with you, after a while switch to news or something more educating yet entertaining and stay longer. While at it try not to comment, trust me they HATE it when parents make comments like what did you learn? what happened in a scene you both watch, interpretating characters or comparing them to their time etc you can watch their reactions with side eyes. Engage them in entertaining books reading, sports like basket ball, swimming etc allow them have their friends over so that you can spot and fish out negative influencing ones, you can also do this through your wife who can ask question about her friends and what they talk about.

More importantly, find out their primary love language and use it often. Build their self esteem with words, books. Children with esteem issues easily fall into the path that leads to addiction.

This is wonderful, thanks for the insight and nugget sharing. Regards

NwaAmaikpe:




Individuals have unique fingerprints, they also have different interests.
You're lucky hers is Cardi B and not Mia Khalifa.

As a parent you should take it as a gift.
Michael Jackson, Kylian Mbappe, Tiger Woods, Serena/Venus Williams and Lil Bow Wow's parents took advantage of this same complaint of yours.

She's pointing you to the area of life she will effortlessly excel in.
Besides; Nigeria needs a quick and better replacement to Weird Mc, Sasha P, Muna and Mo'chedda.
Help her forge a career in rap.
Not everyone will be professors, doctors or lawyers.

Errrrhm.
But, how does your wife know that Cardi B's daughter's name is Kulture?
You may just be accusing the wrong person of obsession only because she is more vocal about it.

Thanks for your observation. I will check this out

CAPSLOCKED:
SOME ADULTS' LIVES REVOLVE AROUND FOOTBALL AND TELEMUNDO TOO.

CURRENTLY, WE HAVE ADULTS FIGHTING OVER WORTHLESS BBNAIJA, TASHA, MESSI VS RONALDO, AND "IPIGS VS EWEDU".
YOUR DAUGHTER'S CASE IS A HUNDRED TIMES BETTER THAN THAT OF THESE SO CALLED ADULTS.

YOUR KIDS ARE STILL TRYING TO GROW, WITH TIME THEY WILL EMBRACE WHAT THEY SHOULD, AND ABANDON ANYTHING WITHOUT WORTH. DO NOT RUSH THEM.

FOR NOW, JUST LET THEM BE CHILDREN.

Got you. Will try to ignore it while pointing out the danger to her. Thanks

I am a father of two children. My children are addicted to two things, my son is addicted to watching English league even though he can't play soccer, but the one that disturb me most is my daughter addiction to cardi b. If you want to see her rage, just say something negative about Cardi b and she will talk none stop about her and castigate every other artiste such as Nicky minaj that she feels are against cardi b.
They both don't have access to social media, but my daughter access you tube once in a while when ever my phone WiFi is on.
This morning during family worship we spoke about Malawi and she said she had never heard of the country name before, so I and her mother started harassing her that she will never listen to news but entertainment. In annoyance I said if it is cardi b now she will know, and her mother ask her when kulture cardi b daughter was born, guess what my daughter knows the date, the day and time.
There I gave up. What do I do? The passion with which she follows cardi b sometimes is draining, she believes she is from the lower ladder of the social economy and she made it against all odds.

paul1995:
doctors in the house I need your help my fiancee has ALS and she always complain of cold ,weakness and pains in her bone I hate to seee her in pain I love her and I don’t know what I will do if she dies I don’t want to lose her ..
my question is? Will she live for a long period because the research have made said 5 years or more
How can we stop the constant pains ?
She is my everything Please help

Sorry about your fiancee, but in as much as there is no known cure, you should read about Stephen Hawking, he lived with it for 50years.
I wish you guys well.

Noooo, I need a professional.

DEBUCHMANNY:
I am not a professional in CV writing. And have been searching for jobs for two years now. But I can assist you in my own small way. Give me a private message

I strongly need a professional person to help do my CV. Who can help

Jeezuzpick:
Something like this:

Yes something like this is cool