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mrsefan:
Please help me.
My husband whom I go married to for 4years, always fill his form as single, when ever he is filling any form that requires MARITAL STATUS.
and aside from that we don't normally have any issues (fights) and he doesn't even have sense of jealousiess towards me,
Is he really inlove with me ?
Why is he always doing that ?
Please advice me what should I do
Am really in pain and having mixed feelings.

Are you legally married to him?
Was your bride price paid?
Was circumstances surrounding your marriage norms according to acceptable values in your society?
I have discovered no one valued what he got free!
Review your 'communication' with your spouse and ask for an explanation for such an act. If you Pple are born again and belong to a bible believing church where you are a member, contact your church leaders.

ChuzzyBlog:
Facebook user, Ebere Amalaha who is a single mum, dressed up like a man to celebrate Fathers Day which was yesterday June 18th. Posting these photo of herself dressed in a male attire,

she wrote

"Happy Father's Day to all the single mum out there God bless us".

SOURCE: http://www.chuzzyblog.com/2017/06/nigerian-single-mum-dresses-up-like-man.html

So father's function has been reduced to 'show' and mothers can perform that function effortlessly now. means there's no need for father in our society. this trend is evil and condemnable. it's not good for us as a Pple. I pray God to raise men and women of virtue that will kill this trend before it becomes culture like 'baby mama&daddy'.

fingard02k:
These suspected thieves were caught by the security operatives at Ilufe East community in Ojo, Lagos state.

The robbers were caught by the security operatives in the area around 1:00am, despite the heavy downpour the security men were able to overpower them.

Ike Akuekwe, Stephen Umeh, Emeka Okoli and Chinedu Eke were caught with bus fully loaded with stolen musical instruments.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cxnvXV-FEiY

] http://www.enzyhub.com/four-thieves-caught-beaten-and-tied-by-mob-in-ojo-lagos-video-photos/

Did anyone notice that crime has increased in the last 15 months or so?

Toks2008:
We all know that men sometimes can be very overbearing and sometimes responsible for some actions their wives take but nevertheless,women must understand that marriage is a great,decent and sacred institution that must be treated with utmost respect and guided with all sense of decency.

To be frank,there are some silly things some married ladies do that do not show any form of respect to them,their men and their marriage.
These are things that need to be avoided by the lady irrespective of whatever excuse they may have.

I have had many friends who have been married and some are divorced and after discussing with them,i have come to realize that some of these women were infact the architect of their failed marriages and i will try to elucidate on some of the awkward things ladies do that break up their marriages.

1. Poor communication:

In every relationship we find ourselves,communication is vital. No one is a mind reader and no matter what it may be that could be a reason for your unhappiness,speak out immediately in a stern manner and not laikadaisically.
Many women are found of calling their hubby's relatives to complain about certain issues meanwhile the hubby at home does not have an idea of how hurting they are concerning that issue.

2. Sharing their marital issue with a male admirer/friend.

Not every guy you know is responsible. We have some low lives that has no regard for any form of decency and it is no news that many guys are in this category.
When you discuss your marital issues with an admirer or a male friend,most times what these guys hear is "im vulnurable,i need you as a succor". This is why most times,when a married woman take solace in a male friend,the end result is usually an illicit affair.

3. Being careless with male friends.

I have always maintained that there is nothing like just friends between a married woman and another man.
If he is not your childhood friend,co-worker,co-student,business partner then you have no business with him.
Many married ladies have a careless habit of keeping male friends indiscriminately and worst still get so careless allowing these guys call them by their maiden names.

I will never call a married lady by her maiden name because just as the name suggests,its her unmarried name but will rather put Mrs,sis,madam.

When a married lady is called by her maiden name,it diminishes as well as tarnishes her respect,image and matrimony giving room for a potential unethical relationship between her and the "just male friends".

4. Seeking vengeance.

Many married lady tend to take some actions in order to prove to their hubby that a sauce for the goose is also ok for the gander but unfortunately this will destroy your marriage more.

When you take a revenge on your hubby by sleeping with another man because he cheats on you,of what use will that be to you?

What value will that add to your life?
Learn to maintain your dignity no matter what because at the end,the shame will all come back to you and as I always reiterate. ..nobody can make you do what you are not capable of doing.

5. Talking down on your hubby.

This is one foolish mistake many ladies do. You and your hubby are one and talking down on him means talking down on yourself. It is one thing to voice out what he did and another to use outright abusive words on him.

In situations where a couple seperates,some ladies will not mind talking down on their hubby with a friend,their family and even with male suitors and i keep wondering if the woman thinks this will earn her any form of respect.

If you call your hubby a sick man then what does that make you? Or you call your hubby an asshole then it takes an asshole to tango with such a man.

No matter how angry you may be,don't ever rule out reconcilation and even if you are never going to reconcile,respect your matrimony with him even if he deserves no respect from you.

6.Moving out of their matrimonial home hastily over an avoidable reason.

What excuse do you have for running out of your marriage?
He cheated on you,he does not give you attention,he took you for granted,he curses you and many more are the excuses married ladies hold on to and i keep asking this one question;
Will leaving solve the problem? Even a divorce is not a way out because its a 50/50 chance that the next man won't be worse so i advice that you confront that problem and try your best to solve it.

7. Believing there is always a better man out there.

This is one foolish thing married ladies believe. That they will get a better replacement.There are more than enough never married ladies out there for the unmarried guys so you will do yourself a great honor by sticking to your husband.

There is really no better man out there and except you are faced with an unrepentant violent man,please remain in your marriage because you will soon realize that its the same cycle we all go through in any union we find ourselves and there will always be one reason to leave any man you are married to.

Many women divorcees realize this too late as they end up as a toy in the hands of randy men,as second wife,or end up single for a long time as many men will believe they are doing them a big favour by wanting to be with them.

If you must throw in the towel on your marriage,make sure you have exhausted all means of reconciliation because i keep saying that it is better to be single at 40 than to be a divorcee at 20 and a 40 year old single lady is more maritally appealing than a 20year old divorcee,funny but true so think very well before you run out of your marriage.

8.Sharing their marital issues with single female friends..

Like seriously! it may surprise you to know that most of your friends who are still single are not happy that you are married so take your marital problem to them at your own risk.

9.Not looking sexy enough.

If our sultry actress Omotola jalade is looking this sexy after three children then tell me why you can't look sexy too.

Laziness is one big problem with most married ladies.Men get carried away by what they see so do yourself a favour, get that big tummy down and get into crazy bum shorts and flaunt that thing.

We know you cant maintain that sexy look we saw the very first time we met you but at least try your best to look sexy for the next 30years for us after marriage.

10. Never sorry.

Many women are so proud,egocentric and sturbborn to the extent that when they do or say things that are conspicously wrong,they will never or hardly apologize but rather would want to buttress the rationale behind their actions and most men see this as an appalling nature. Be quick to apologize even when you are right..men are naturally egocentric hence the need to bring down your ego to avoid the case of two men married to each other.

11.Geting insecure and monitoring her husband

I have always advised married women to let their men be. Believe whatever he says even when it is clear that he is lieng.The moment you start getting overly jealous,suspicious is the moment you begin to lose your self worth. Don't bother whether he is faithful or not but sternly tell him to play safe if he must be unfaithful and warn him to do it far from you cos what the eyes do not see do not hurt. Yes this sounds crazy but trust me,it works like magic because the husband will likely be on his toes and respect you the more. Remember that a man will always be a man and you can never monitor him.

12.Not good enough in the kitchen and the other room: .

If you are a married lady reading this please don't ever joke with these two places because any woman who knows how to use these two places will most likely have her husband where she wants him cos the way to a man's heart is forever through his stomach and down there.

13.Taking the job of a full housewife.

As you can clearly deduce,being a full housewife is a big job because those who babysit get paid so I quite understand how demanding this can be but nevertheless,don't settle for that,no matter how demanding the task of keeping the home front can be, still do something to be financially independent. Your husband may tell you he does not want you to work promising to provide all your needs but we both know he really can't do that without asking funny questions from you when you demand for money so it is important to have something doing so that the financial pressure will be less on your husband and you can also be self reliant.Being financially independent can also come in handy if your hubby faces any financial crises so take this advise seriously because financial pressure is a great destroyer of marriage.

I don't know if these makes sense.

good!
well thought.

judedwriter:
This sounds like a fabricated story, but if its TRUE, then i can tell you that as much as 95percent of our spiritual battles occur between 12-4am. Most of our battles are fought spiritually at midnight-and according to your testimony, your problem started with bad dreams at midnight.

If you can dominate these hours spiritually with praises, worship, fasting and aggressive prayers, bible reading, for like 3 weeks, your situation will greatly improve.

Ignore this hours at your own spiritual peril, try it and you will thank me later...cheers please note, i am not a deliverance minister, i am just sharing things i have exprienced.

Please note: midnight prayers can only work if you are born again, are you?

OP is not born again so he will keep looking for help in a wrong direction. being child of God will help you to know your right in Jesus and you will enter into your rest. all these suggestion will not work because he can not pray to God he did not know nor worship.
Be born again and see the different!

what do you expect in a society where populace have lost confidence in the justice system. what our fathers have sown is what we're reaping today. if you hand over criminal to police they will collect bribe and let him go so the society resorted to jungle justice. Jesus , Nigeria need you now than ever!

is there genuine herbalist?

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dictatorship has its own merit. in recession a Nigerian is having the most lavished ever wedding while pple are dying of hunger all over the country. the dictator will just arrest all of them and jail them for not patriotic. I pity those donor countries and individuals. they should go to poor countries, weren't poor Jo!
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communication is known to have solved this kind problem unless you are both not mature. talk about it instead of neglecting her for the wrong reasons.
sometime seeking spiritual help from a genuine man of God may be the solution. if you're both Christian, doing more spiritual activities will go a long way to helping you.

RaggedyAnn:
How old is your marriage? I'm sure her enthusiasm will fade with time. Until then, try to keep up if you don't want an assistant. Sex is healthy for both of you; you can resort to positions that stress you less, and let her do the heavy lifting if you're not up to it.

you're right.

hi,
are these the big ones called 'igbin' or the small specie called 'essan'.
I got interest in this farming can you help educate me . I reside in kaduna.

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Am sorry moddibo, if you were one of BBN housemate you will have been celebrated but for this brain work...... you're on your own.

Reading tru the comments, most nairalanders lacks sense of good judgement in crucial maters. I supposed these are going to be leaders of tomorrow but the future is uncertain with this kind of attitude. young people made comments sentimentally....is there hope for Nigeria?

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This subject has been a burden for many men for so long time. our societies protected ladies maliciously when it comes to the matter of sexual harassment. this protection is unjust in all its senses. men are more and often sexually harassed by women! imagine the images of women dressed half naked on our medias. in public places ladies often provoke men with their nudes outlook but no one is saying anything about it. I think it's time for policy makers to look into this odd situation and enact laws that protect men from sexual assault from their female folks

@op you deserve award! pls permit me to post it on my whatsapp group.....courtsey No21 n

AB Bumps is a clinic specialised on issues like this, i know of some successes they ve had however their service used to be on the high side they got branches in kaduna lagos and abuja you may google for AB BUMPS CLINIC for further infomaton

I do not believe this. where is the church name? where was the address? this is not fair to preachers

going tru the various posts shows there is friction B/W Nigerians n the police..
we're not just getting everything right in this land!
wea's community policing?
I think this one of our major problem..our law enforcement agents are not trusted by the populace...
IG, this a big assignment..

This awesome! very educative.. beat all those jagons pple posted most time op! pls keep it up...

naira land forum will soon be turn to a mere garbage where every lies can be dumped. can't moderator do something about this. lies everywhere everyday.

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i think this report is baseless and lack truth. the tone is falseful. roporters mostimes are just fake