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ponishah:
you have brain clog

So explain to a lay man since you have unclogged brain

With this new proposal to implement N35,000 across board to all FG workers over the next six months,

Does this mean the new minimum wage will now be N30,000 (existing ) + N35,000 (Proposed) = N65,000.

Do you think Labour should accept this offer?

5G internet finally in the heart of the city of Warri delta state as seen on my phone this morning.

Did anyone else living in warri notice this ?

gasparpisciotta:
Ten years and four kids...kudos to your wife despite the pains.

As for your sexual issues, discuss your dilemma with your wife and make her understand that you might be constrained to seek third party solution

Ok you mean, seeking counsel?

boom99:
This is very serious. I pray that she gets perfect healing right now. If you have faith you will see God settling her case. Amen

Amen sir

Met my wife 10years ago.

We have 4 kids now.

All these while, my wife had had this toilet infection which she has been treating without results.

We have been to the best hospitals and done several tests, swabs and scans. It was diagnosed as UTI.

It comes with painful urination, painful sex, lack of libido, complete vaginal dryness, lots of frustration etc on her part.

While I have been a faithful partner over these years. I have believed God will intervene in this crisis.

I have gone for my own diagnosis and nothing was found but I was asked to use sone form of cream for a few days.

Now, the problem now is,

My wife now has a complete phobia for sex as it would usually would lead her to pains mentioned earlier.

We have tried native herbs as well.

Hundreds of thousands have been spent both in modern and traditional herbs without remedy.

It disappears for some days and appears days after sex.

If not tackled with some vaginal creams could lead to sour and whitish diacharge and lots of pains after a few days.

Our sex life has been a war.

I have to literally ask, beg and persuade my wife before we can give a trial.

Now, she has given up.

I dont know how long I can continue to remain faithful.

Each passing day has seen me spending more time at work and project just to redirect my energies.

My wife really dont have sexual feelings anymore.

I am afraid of what could happen if there is no intervention coming speedily.

Pls help with useful contributions and please response only from the married.

Thank you la la for this platform.

In less than 12hours into the New year 2020. There has been 11 (eleven) gun shootings across various cities reported as at the time of filing this report.

The city of Philadelphia has recorded the highest homicides of 355 in 2019 alone.

On the 31st of Dec, 2019, which is barely less than 24hours ago, 93 shootings were reported across the various US cities!!!

Gun control has been a major threat so far in the US states.

Just last sunday in a church in Texas, a gunman shot and killed a parishioner and another was injured before members of the congregation could pull their guns in defence and killed the shooter.

Hundreds and thousands of persons were killed in 2019 alone.

https://www.gunviolencearchive.org/last-72-hours?page=4

My bro, those facts are immaterial.

It's normal. If this things goes to FP with the true facts my wife would surely know I created this thread. So those facts should be predictable. Cheers

Lalakas:
Op na
liar.

In his other posts, he said he begs his wife for sex, here, his wife begs him for it. In the other post he's been married for 9 years, here he's been married for 7 years.

Here he has 3 boys, in his other posts, he has 2 girls and one boy.

What do you want now? If she keep to herself you'd open a new thread say she no allow you. Sex after disagreement is part of make up. No crying over spilt milk. She has forgotten the past and ready to move on, ride kn her and enjoy. You both have no issues. Thank God for your kind of woman.

I don't know what point you're trying to make, that she doesn't do much aside taking care of the kids n cooking, haaaaaa? I hate it when I hear men say this. Do you know the stress involve in those chores? And I don't know why you mention the amount you give her as monthly upkeep. 130k and so what? If she doesn't aplogize then you do. You both are wrong keeping straight faces after a fight.

https://www.nairaland.com/4613939/married-only

God bless you sir.

All you said is very true of my wife.

Imagine I initiate morning devotions. If I don't the. She prays privately.

I initiate almost evergthing.

She is VERY stubborn.

She has told me and I've seen.

She is too Strong willed.

I take it to God in Prayers.

Let His will be done.

profmallor:
A good man or woman despite his or her sexual urges, would first sit to listen to the spouse, raise their points and then try to resolve the burning issue before sex. She obviously is saying in a subtle way that she doesn't care - that's wrong either from a man or woman in any marriage. Infact that's insulting. The time for sex is different, the time to discuss is different. You have married a stubborn and strong willed woman and patience and prayer is the only way I know you can resolve this, You need God to touch her and then both can at least talk. Cause there would be more quarrels, there are in every marriage, is this how sex would overrule all grievances at all times?.

My wife has sworn she would never openly apologize severally.

I have always been the one initiating but at this point I felt overwhelmed and needed her to apologize.

Besides it's harder initiating when u knw the other is the one wrong.

generationz:
Truth is because you never put it out there that you should first resolve misunderstandings, she never mad any effort to.

People are a product of their habits


To her reconciliation is done when she initiates sex.

It seems though that you always wait for her to initiate the reconciliation.

So it's a case of she not wanting to talk to you and being offended but then only Kongi makes her come back. Same as you.

In my opinion that's a very unhealthy relationship.

I don't believe in sweeping things under the carpet.

I'm disappointed that you never try to reconcile with your wife prior to her initiating sex.

As far as I'm concerned it's like two people who use jokes and banters to reconcile always.

Sometimes it's good to just laugh it off and other times it's not safe for any relationship.

In this case, both of you are wrong.

You are proud in that you never want to be the first to reconcile except it's she uses something you can't refuse.

She's also manipulative.

However, if you had from the beginning told her no, let's iron things our she won't do that again.

Blecco6:
Op that's how best your wife knows how to apologise,some will not even mind you at all,so accept it and make ur marriage a joyful one.but one thing is this, is she the only one at fault every time,how do you tender ur apology to her or are you that pride type that want the other to apologize even when they are at fault?

If am wrong I settle at that moment. I try to tease her with romance and thats all. I expect same from her. Imagine showing up for sex when am thinking of serious discussion

extremelygolden:
Op, do you know you can actually find a way of settling the misunderstanding and still have some sizzling sexual intercourse in the process?

When she walked in unclad, you could have pretended you were going to hold her, but just go lock the bedroom door and keep the key under the pillow and lie down as if you don't care.

Tell her she'll get the Bleep when she has finished apologizing. Just pretend you are not happy ( and of course you're not). If she's a romantic wife, she will understand what's up. And I pray she shouldn't let pride and stubbornness put a dent in her marriage.

After the "drill" start up a conversation about what actually led to the misunderstanding and iron it out completely.

My wife will ignore you if she doesnt want to talk about her past mess.

She has her pride. I've always ignored and accepted her sexual apologies. It I just noticed she needs a different tacties

izaray:
Okada drop me here biko

How can a husband and wife keep malice for good 2weeks? What are u two teaching those innocent kids of urs self? Una dey try sha, all because of lack of communication!

The malice is coded o. Am not sure the kids know sef. They might just notice daddy doesn't come to watch TV at the sitting room but stays to watch in his room. My wife is just stubborn!
She wants to be treated as a queen. Don't dare scold her

themaestro08:
Quite a funny post. Your marriage lacks effective communication and you know it's the backbone of every successful union.

There is room for improvement you can start making changes today.

You are correct. We dont communicate much. She prefers to communicate with immediate family more on phone than with me

omochelsea004:
guy i really understand how you feel, but by now you should know that is her own way, you guys already have 3 kids meaning it's not today that your wife started the behavior, there is no booklet or manual for being happy in marriage bro, so i will advise u keep doing whatever you feel it is that is working for you guys, don't start now by thinking in a certain type of way plssss

Without ironing issues, how do we learn from our mistakes then. She has has ego and pride. Allowing her settle with sex wont change her. She needs to understand that. We are only keeping faces, not like quarelling pat say. I still go errands for her hoping for her apologies when I return but she go still lock up

J111333:
I hate emotional blackmail.
You offend them, you beg, they offend you and they will also want you to beg.
Kudos for standing yuour ground, man.

Forget about the she will collect it elsewhere crew here, you did the right thing else you'll continue to be a sex slave in your own home.

God bless you bro. Afterall sex is not a big deal after all these years. I prefer make up sex after reconciling not before.

tee59:
She knows your weakness and uses that to her advantage most times but was disappointed this time. Always take your stand on any disagreement and let her know, dialogue among yourselves can resolve issues than sex. Although, some men never resist a naked woman even if it's gonna cause them a disaster.

It wasn't easy even as she got closer but I was determined to change the narrative.

oglalasioux:
This wife is the type that loves beating and settling through sex. Many women are wired that way.

I have beat her once and she enjoyed it. Infact she wanted it. She once told me she wants me acting fierce, it turns her on not being too gentle. But me as a gentle man, d thing tire me o

thesicilian:
You have a wife that still wants to have sex with you even when she's angry with you. Lucky you!

The point is, she offends you and doesn't e en care how you feel. She waits for her hormones to come up and she shows up for sex while am dying for an apology or ironing out.

How da hell am I suppose to substitute remorse with sex??

Pettyprincess:
She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude


Lol this got me laughing out
Truth be told you both had some fault!!! At least it's not bad if you try to reconcile nd patch things up with her it won't cost you anything!!! It's far better than ignoring nd keeping malice with each other!!! Your wife definitely full of pride nd instead to apologize she wanna bribe you with sex since she knows your weakness

She would be the last to apologize if at all. I'm not enjoying the malice but at least am eating my served meals. I think she has an over bloated pride.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Some people get turned on by disagreements sha . You guys can actually iron out the differences while having d sex actually. Be creative.

Ordinarily you can't just get in that sexual mood without having a feeling respite. Sexual chemistry requires alot of synergy.

We got married in 2012 and ever since then we have been blessed with 3kids (3,boys).
I have a monthly upkeep of 130k for my wife as she only comes to our factory and goes home without doing much for the day aside taking care of kids and cooking.

I noticed that each time we have a misunderstanding, we both keep straight faces for days and she behaves as though she is less concerned to make up. It doesn't affect her chores or cooking as for me I hardly reject food served.

Now, after a couple of days, she would come for sex without wanting us to discuss and resolve the disagreement first.

Even when I feel rudely insulted, this happens. She feels whatever she does doesnt matter as long as Las Las na sex go end am. But I feel it's wrong and issues should be kept straight and fun time separate.

So we had same issues last week and we have been keeping straight faces yet I've been eating her food. Sometimes she joins me for mng prayers, sometimes she does her privately ( we do together before any misunderstanding)
So this mng she appeared stark nude to my room and demanded for sex after almost 15 days. I told her it would be unfair if we sweep the pass e events under the duvet. She got up and told me she wasn't ready to discuss any past misunderstanding that she came to f*uck. I told her I wasn't ready till issues are ironed out.

She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude but today I was ready to turn her down.

I Want to know if it's proper to always treat ur spouse the way you like knowing fully well that sex is their weak point for reconciliation?

Mature minds pls

You dey mad gan

Balet:
See how our former president has been reduced to small boy, just because he wants to get cheap cheap popularity as a good democrat. Can u see his co - observers on the stage?

I noticed Madams are generally hostile to female house maids.

Could it be related to instilling fear so they dont mess around wife oga

Its a norm for the roadside mechanic to convince you we have a harsh weather here and you MUST remove your thermostat to avoid engine damage

I'm here to dispute that falacy.

Countries look like Australia is even harsher than Nigeria during their summer periods and beyond.

China has almost same temp with major parts of Nigeria during summer as well.

The engine was designed to work optimally at a particulate which must be attained before the fuel and oil consumptions can be optimal.

Removing the thermostat allows for increased time before this temp can be achieved.

Unless the thermo is stocked, then in this case you can replace it and not outright throwing off.

You endanger the engine by running without a thermostat.

If the thermo is working properly , it actually saves fuel and increases mileage. Reduces wear on the engine sleeves .

Above all, the thermostat actually helps to reduce overheating by allowing the engine maintain a particular temp while circulating round the water line system.

I hope this helps arm you next time the mechanic insist you remove your thermostat completely.

Rather have it checked for consistency and replace if it fails.

Cheers

wandeay:
I need a concise but comprehensive explanation please, ee learn everyday, thanks

You invest into FGN bond.

For instance you want to invest 1m @ 10% for two years.

Your 10% per annum equals 100,000 per annum.

Divided into 12 months gives N8,333 monthly.

You will receive alert of N8,333 for the next 2years and get your 1m + the last N8,333 on the last month.

Lordbooster:
Unshakable bond....anyways check our signature handle for some 18+ naija contents

Don't be a candidate of He'll by sharing people's Nudes.
There are better things to share brother

Black bum is common nah, why make me feel unease

Somebody give me that cr7 and ref yelling pic

BoboKush:

ur own black too abi?

Pls my people my woman always dey yab me say my bum too black though I'm light skinned.

Please any doc in d house, why is the bum always black from birth??

Well, the truth be say, if I wanna avoid my wife, I have to keep a straight face so I won't have to admire her at all cos if I look a her twice, omo my johnthomas go disgrace me sharperly.

I can maintain with her by been less friendly ,talk less and mingle less. But then, it would appear I'm having misunderstanding wit her but I'm she would not still bother to discuss with me if I'm bothered, she would rather continue with her house duties especially ensuring my meals are always ready on time.

chemK:
WELL, IM ALSO IN YOUR SHOES, I DONT LIKE IT WHEN IM THE ONLY ONE ASKING FOR SEX , MY WIFE WILL ALWAYS SAY SHE CAN STAY WITHOUT SEX FOR YEARS WHICH I KNOW ITS TRUE. RECENTLY. YOU JUST HAVE TO ADAPT ELSE SHE WILL SHE YOU AS SOMEONE THAT IS INCONSIDERATE.

Adapt in what ways pls?

Continue asking for sex or slow down to accommodate her?