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baby124:
I even wanted to send money silently when Tehn confirmed. Na wa o. It seems like I am a confirmed mugu these days.What they are doing is not good because it makes givers paranoid. I even just saw the thread of Coogar's drama just today. I thank my God that I don't communicate with anyone outside NL. People can be so deceptive, I am shaken to my bones at the personalities that abound here. It's making me reconsider my membership.

My dear i dont worry about rendering internet monetary help because i see a lot of real people that i can help . You are just seeing Coogar's thread? Lol, for some reasons i wasn't particularly shocked . Just stay and catch your trips jare.

cococandy:
I don't even know what to think. Not necessarily a scam but I consider them to not have their priorities straight. Both of them online at the same time wasting mb while their kids haven't eaten in 2 days (or maybe that's just an exaggeration)

It's the new born baby I feel sorry for.

Once one is caught in a lie ,i cant believe any part is true anymore .

Dyt i just read her previous post . Op pleaae change your triangular life style ,your self esteem is 0.

cococandy:
Nairaland

Nne odiegwuooo!!!

Dyt:
She has a previous thread about him cheating and all

In all honesty
Her patience is ehn
I dunno

Eeehhhh!!! No need ,what is she struggling to keep then ? Nawaoooh, nah she know wetin she want jare .

Dyt:
Not all that easy oo
They have been trying for 5years
She will feel insecure no matter what

Honestly I do not what to advice oo
Also I am sorry I had to pick that from your advice

5years? I didnt see that part but you really cant keep someone that wants to leave . It wont make sense for him look back years from now and see her as the witch that impeded his success. Set him free ,if he returns ,he is yours for keep. What will be, will be .

Abeg Nigerians dey try for English ,see their bullets .

;DObodo naira .

Story , some people prefer to stick to their kind and that shouldnt be a problem.

Nah to throway that number 1ooo.

Let him go and brace yourself. If you dont , he will despise you for it believing he would have become more than he is if only you let him pursue his dreams. If he returns to you, good, if not ,so be it. It is actually better that you aren't pregnant because pregnant and alone doesnt seem cool at all. Start a real family when he returns for your own sanity .

The man should rebaptise himself to chimuanya.

OP what is your friend scared of? Let her do what is right, MIL is the one that needs to watch her bp if she stirs trouble, so why worry over nothing? You might end up enjoying her stay.

Op don't you watch porn or have them in your phone?

raumdeuter:
You know I am yet to marry because of your supernatural clairvoyance?

Oh yes!

raumdeuter:
I have been asked and I have asked people and I got answers that satisfied me.

I dont know why anyone would be offended unless you are wary that you dont have the satisfactory answers

You got satisfactory answers but you are yet to marry them because? they ran afterwards,am sure of that .

cococandy:
5minsmadness, I want to call you out to pls state the venomous posts in her other thread that you're talking about. It seems you can't put forward your opinion without looking for who to denigrate. So instead of being slimy about it, quote the particular post you're referring that is responsible for her not having reconciled with her ex.

Is it my post that told her to take him for HIV screening before taking him back sexually (that's bad advice?).
Or is it tearose's who simply stated that the man behaved badly (someone can't say the truth anymore?)
Or is it efemena's or byvan's? I could go on and on.pls Who are those happily married women responsible for her not being with her man that you are indirectly talking about.

If I recall, there was a man on that thread who was even more vocal about it and suggested she doesn't go back to him. but as usual your obsession with 'married women' of this section won't let you see that.

I want you to quote the venomous post that is responsible for her being single right now.

The usual grasping at straws, nothing new.

raumdeuter:
I wonder why anyone will be relunctant to state what he or she brings to a relationship, Those who usually are defensive about it are people who dont bring anything tangible

You mean the robotic question and answer section? These things are spoken about indirectly in the course of a relationship, seems you are a starter that took this popular NL line to heart. I don't believe you have posed that "what are you bringing to the table" line, recited your poem and got a yes. Revisit Ujoan's post.

Mindfulness:
Byvan03 and Ujoan,

you ladies are mean.

I think Raumdeuter's poetry was like awwww even though it only included standard equipment, we want more extras, luxury.

Raumdeuter,

come on now. The things involved should go without saying.

What about a fat bank account, a fleshy extra size willy, height, good looks ---> good genes --> beautiful children?

Babe you are the mean one right now by rubbing it in .

Ujoan:
ROTFLMAO

Sorry, I just had to get it out of my system . . . You crack me up! !

Of course you know he was referring to her financial capacity . . . No sane man asks such a silly question. He dates her first and if he sees the qualities he desires he proposes to her . . . Let's not pretend we don't know what that paticular guys question is all about.

Thank you, no sane man will ask that ridiculous question.

[quote author=Ujoan post=50283866]The thing tire me ooh. Abi na debate? [/quote


Before he yarn this one finish, the babe go don collect sofa start snore.

raumdeuter:
I am bringing commitment to the marriage
I am bringing fidelity to a single partner.
I am bringing a belief of raising children with good morals
I am bringing transparency in all dealings financial and otherwise
I am bringing dedication and hardwork to make this union work and seeing divorce as an absolute last resort
I am bringing a no tolerance for violence or abuse of any kind and I hope to receive same
I am bringing a commitment to work and provide for my family to the best of my ability


So now my dear what do

you bring to this marriage table.

So you recite This like a poem or in prose form? Written or oral ? I wonder how it sounds to listen to someone reeling this out and the person is a suitor .

This is totally robotic, not human at all . Your senses of perception and assertiveness will guide much more than your scripted poem "am going to do this and that, am going to yadadh yadaheyadah blah blah". Even a robot won't have such a dry ,lack luster conversation.

raumdeuter:
What is wrong with the question? What are you bringing to the marriage table?

You and others always advocate discussing extensively before marriage and an attempt to discuss and ask the main question about a marriage is also offensive to you?

Please construct an appropriate answer for that utterly f*oolish question. I believe a wise person must have mentally done his checks and balances before taking a wife. I await your answer to the question "what are you bringing to the marriage table".


You people lie a lot on this forum, quote me where I talked about discussing extensively before marriage. I advocate that two people that wants to walk together will always find a way to do so. Don't say what doesn't exist because you are trying to make a point. You want it to work, you make it work, you both make it work. I don't care about pre-planning every marital move , dating for a thousand years or whatever. You see a shoe that fits, you know it. No need for ridiculous questions such as "what are you bringing to the table".

"what are you bringing to the table "? Nawaoh for the 21st century dating scene, what type of business transaction is that? Good you deleted his contacts , to outrightly ask that sounds really silly.

Trust me, single ladies are frustrated too because jokers have dominated the dating scene. Relax, it will happen when it will.

I wanted to say A bu A but I won't say it .

Mindfulness:
What seminar?

Work seminar.

Good one!

Mindfulness:
Emotional Intelligence dear!

That was our last seminar topic"Emotional Intelligence " .

Frustrated Nigerians bashing a woman because her husband doesn't want her in the kitchen but in the other room resting .

Mindfulness:
She is at least less likely to.

Am yet to see a woman that will expose her husband 's nude pics, I haven't even seen one that exposed that of a mistress. They come here all the time complaining of nudes sent by mistresses, yet they aren't uploading their pics for the world to share in their sexiness. That counts for something, women manage emotions better.

Mindfulness:
Acting on his feelings was fo.olish although understandable. This is what happens when men claim that they are not emotional. They never learn to transform their negative emotions into something positive.

Byvan03

Very right on that. A woman will not pull such a dumb stunt because she will calculate the possible outcome and decide it is not a plausible course of action.