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davidylan:
this girl is funny. Trust is a "trivial" matter? Respect is "trivial"?  

Wait till your bf skips work to "chill" at another woman's house.

If she's not cheating on him anymore how can she gain enough of his trust to be able to visit her male friends w/o the bf casting shadows of doubt?

It doesnt at all. Except of course you're only trying to defend your own baseless point.

maedan:
he stares at you because he's so utterly amazed at ur audacity. asking a guy if he likes u. wow girl, u've got sass. play cool for a while, maybe then u'll really spark his sincere interest.

davidylan:
Do you understand what a relationship is at all? Its not about playing bf and gf like many of you think. It is a serious business that requires love, trust, respect and SACRIFICE.

Secretz:
@ 190

YOU are not serious!

It is you that needs locking up. Psych ward No. 6.

No1 Troublemaker.

wavemasta:
The whole "insecurity" card seems to be overplayed. Most people here throw it around like they just heard the word.
This is a marriage bound relationship. To get there, theres been a lot of sacrifices and trust involved.
To tell a lie about who you were with, is unjustifiable. And calling her male friends pet names in front of the guy?
Does she respect him at all? Except if it was a joke and he knew about it.
And she wont be on NL spilling her guts if she was right.
Male friends or friends of the opposite sex are ok, but in this case she compromised her integrity.
Drop the "insecure" word.
And FYI, no one is 100% secure. When you love with all your heart, a little insecurity always lies there. The only thing is not to let it control you.
That doesn't apply to this case.
The girls BF had every right to act the way he did. I wonder how many of you actually respect the meaning of relationships, and whether or
not you respect those you claim to love.
Abeg!

astuto:
Leave her ALONE. These guys seem to have been bitten in some way similar to dis story. so don't blame dem. Dem fit continue like dis all nite

MrCrackles:


English Language just died!

davidylan:
"Insecure" based exactly ON WHAT? Pls can someone show me? Perhaps you females are privy to one story that the rest of us cant see.

tope5000:
Agreed maybe the guy have insecurities issue
But does it occur to any of u guys supporting the poster that MAYBE it was the girl that turned him into that with all these hang-up on calls rubbish i smell shyte here somewhere

I think there is def more to the story.

davidylan:
he has never asked me to put them on phone,he doesnt even call me to know whom i was with,that day was the first, i just had the feelings he might cos he had been talking on the issue,his main argument was that i should be careful cos of my inexperience people may make me do what i do not want to do, and it makes absolute sense cos i have experienced it,[/color]

michelin89:
She was careless. Very different from cheating.

They are not even close in words. I call people sweetheart, darling. Does that mean I am a freaking bisex? Oh spare me.

Who does the man think he is? If he wants to father so much why doesn't he produce a son? Pathetic.

@weak acid

I am very amazed at your ability to pick out every fault from the poster without considering the guy's. I am sure these bunch of sheep will kindly read your own version and forget the rest. You see they are so miserable in life that their only satisfaction is to hate and judge someone who hasn't even done anything wrong and of course they don't know.

Isn't that sad?

astuto:
My sincere apologies. My bad. i guess i read d post upside down. Sorry.

tope5000:
@Poster
What were u too doing in a guy's house very early in the morning?
I bet u slept over at this ur 'male friend's' house . . . . . . say the truth
You are cheating!!! if not why did u hang up on him when he asked you for ur friend's name?

he doesnt even call me to know whom i was with,that day was the first

I was careless there was one  occassions like when I used the words sweetheart and honey with a guy and accidentally he heard me

his main argument was that i should be careful cos of my inexperience people may make me do what i do not want to do, and it makes absolute sense cos i have experienced it

like sometime he did put up a write up on the wall of my Fb ''MY ROCK'' I found myself deleting it Asap

one  morning he called me,i was supposed to be at work but was just chilling with a friend(male)

astuto:
I assume the poster is telling the truth. This is what I think:

1. Her boyfriend shd not have asked to speak with d guy. Is he hounding her or what? and they are not even married yet. I dont see why he shd monitor everyone d girl moves with. I dont want to think he's insecure.
2. Please, let us give our girls a break, and for once treat them like people who have a mind of their own. That is the young girl of today, sensible and independent. Let us stop seeing them as weak-minded lazy individuals who sway in whatever direction comfort and material wealth dictates.
3.As for the poster, i think dat she MUST talk things over with him so that they reach an amicable compromise. If they cannot trust each other, let them please seperate as quickly as possible. Marriage is not child's play.

ifyalways:
and u think not forgetting it its good for u and whoever u claim to have forgiven?
Lets be frank,it wud always affect the relationship cos u wud never be comfy with the Picture stuck in ur head.
u wud only end up putting ur mind in prison and torture. . . .paranoid for everything and nothing.pesin dey intentionally lock him mind for Kirikiri?