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move on. don't fall for the sob stories.

Nothing to offer? Why would anyone in his-her right senses marry persin wey get nuthin to offa?

Come again?

Sissy it will soon be our turn.

Oh come on. I have had that happen to me when I was in Nursery 2 lol.

[quote author=big_bumper link=topic=275438.msg3923829#msg3923829 date=1243299831]If you really really really wanna hear the truth, let the Moderators hide this thread and dig up the other one, then get everyone (about 50 posters) to post that the OP is a greedy cheat who got her comeuppance and that she does not deserve the guy, because she is a lying, trifling, b*&%^ and I BET SHE WILL SPILL ABOUT HOW CONTROLLING AND STIFLING HER DUDE REALLY IS.

Now she no see front hence her "just please help me win him back at all cost" stance [/quote]She could always lie whenever she wants.


[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=275438.msg3923838#msg3923838 date=1243300228]WOAH. like a truck hit my face. epele o

I guess he's a guy. "OMG so truee"[/quote]
Stop being so emotional will ya. Sheesh omg

LOL The topic is a dead horse. It's been flogged mercilessly. Time to roast it on fire and feed it to the gods.

trueluva:
i think that you should leave her. Because you will always have feelings that she is still cheating on you. You want somebody that will be faithful to you and love you.

You are actually right. I agree with you that those feelings will stay with him for a while.

ya freethrows are crucial in big games.

good game by the mcnuggets tonight

Can't blame him.  He is playing the field. Just like she did.

Can she still born baby?

[quote author=big_bumper link=topic=275438.msg3923781#msg3923781 date=1243298756]I can see a bit of top-up in the OP, getting defensive and whatnot [/quote]pLOL . I seriously hope you are not a psychologist.

Girl said

I dont really think he is insecure cos he is those kinda guys that can really get most girls they want,I see the way he distances himself from them,I didnt really take note,now that we just talk I see he aint putting any efforts to stay off anyone again

[quote author=big_bumper link=topic=275438.msg3923740#msg3923740 date=1243298267]OK, so we are going with Tope2000's words that the OP caused the guy's insecurity, i.e. [size=16pt]TOPE HAS FINALLY AGREED THAT THE GUY IS INSECURE[/size][/quote]We are not going with tope's words.  We are going with logic and with the girl's words.

You even tried ramming it up the girl's throat that the guy is insecure, but she flat out basically disagreed with you and gave her reason.

davidylan:
another lie . . . where did you see this? transcript pls.

LMAOOOOOO

The girl dey see double.

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=275438.msg3923726#msg3923726 date=1243298104]I thought you were a guy [/quote]Hey, stop trying to change topics now. You got cornered. Keep waiting for the knockout.

tope5000:
Lol . . . if i remember correctly, u also said she cheated . . no?

LMAO Yeah she did.  And then she boinked on it.  She said the devil made her say it.  

I don't think I'll take it easy with a bf that leaves work to "chill" with a girl. And you even failed to pick up his calls after that? Personally, the bf is finished.

From the post, you already had trust issues, why pour kerosene in the fire?

You asked for advice, well you just have to beg, that's all.

OMG So true.

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=275438.msg3923679#msg3923679 date=1243297566]what are you saying? she is more comfortable telling the truth than the lie? She seem to be more comfortable telling the lie in my opinion.
I would be more comfortable telling the lie. I don't want him to send hired killers to me at night just because I told him i'm chilling at my cousin's house , but he happens to be MALE. lol
guys like that deserve lies. imagine youself as hitler's wife now. would you be comfortable telling hitler the truth?[/quote]Halt! I absolutely disagree.  Marriage-bound relationships are not to be taken lightly.    Where is the integrity? If you do not respect yourself, your man, and your relationship, you do not deserve to be taken seriously.  If your kind prefers to get into relationships filled with lies and coverups at least let the guy know so he can stop wasting his time with your childish games.


p.s. it wasn't her cousin.

tope5000:
God bless you
I think iyalode is being sarcastic

LOL I agree. Iyalode is a silly gal

Oyinda, it would really do you some justice to read well before you post.  
As someone mentioned, there are different versions of the story.  She left out minor details in one version, that are present in another.

he doesnt even call me to know whom i was with,that day was the first

davidylan:
Oyinda isnt speaking based on facts . . . remember that.

Oops I almost forgot she posts first and reads later.

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=275438.msg3923604#msg3923604 date=1243296561]lol. she's a bad girl. skipping work to chill at friend's house.  
but isn't it funny that the bf wasn't concerned about the bills and his gf getting fired.
all he was concerned about was the gender of the friend. lol talk about trivial.[/quote]LOLOL This girl is not serious o     .  Where is your brain?
If my girlfriend is not at work (where she is supposed to be) I would want to know who she was with or what she was doing.  Is that so difficult to comprehend?

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=275438.msg3923585#msg3923585 date=1243296323]he is never going to change his mind. He is forever going to stalk her 8am in the morning to 11.59pm at night. He will hire undercover to track her footsteps and lock her in the house never to see the day light or the face of any man ever.  She is doomed. I suggest she pack her bags and leave fast!!! lol[/quote]Contrary to what you actually think, the girl herself said that was the first time her boyfriend had called to inquire about what she was doing.

[quote author=big_bumper link=topic=275438.msg3923578#msg3923578 date=1243296243]Stop speculating and parambulating and go and read her very first post again [/quote]To be honest, you are actually the one speculating. You are hell bent on the idea that this guy is a control freak, but you can't even support the claim. You keep waiting for some miracle post to surface from the girl to back you up. I reply based solely on what we presently have to work with.

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=275438.msg3923572#msg3923572 date=1243296183]"meaningless" is your word man. I quoted it from you go back and re-read ur post.  
he already decided by asking the who where when why what, "can I talk to your friend" of the situation. I would hang up as well if I were her. lol[/quote]I don't care whose words are which.  This is not about word-ownership.  It doesn't matter what you consider meaningful or meaningless.  I only try to respond reasonably to your posts as they come.

Neglecting your source of income to hang out at "some guy's" house is not trivial.  You could get fired, and your boyfriend might have to pick up the tabs for paying your bills.  Would you still consider it trivial then?

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=275438.msg3923538#msg3923538 date=1243295778]the boyfriend doesn't find what she's doing meaningless.
like I said before, what she considered trivial (visiting her male friends and other things she didn't mention) were more serious offenses to her bf. So she is scared. At first she ignores it and won't listen to her bf because she considers it trivial but now she sees that she might lose him as a result and doesn't know what to do. Should she sacrifice her personal convictions and become a "whatever you say I do" girlfriend??

you are getting it   [/quote]Is this another one of those statements that is "implied"?
The boyfriend never got a chance to decide what is/isn't meaningless.  She hung up and never again picked up.

Why is an innocent girl who is not cheating, who has nothing to hide, be scared of telling her dude that she's doing something meaningless.

Nope.  It's because she was getting  her in-between cemented by her "friend".[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=275438.msg3923455#msg3923455 date=1243294893]yea because everyone was saying she was cheating and I reread her post and didn't find evidence of that there. I was also going with the flow of YOUR post. lol
her writing is not very clear and like tope said, she is omitting somethings that are important to figuring things out.
of course she has reason to be worried.  lol
I just thought that it must be really serious for a girlfriend to be scared to tell her bf she was at her male friend's house because of "male friend trust issues" In that situation, then partial blame def. goes to the bf, in my opinion.  why remain in a relationship like that?[/quote]Mba.  You should  have read before posting.