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Not exactly.  It's just that I can't push myself to make this a bigger issue than it really is.
Forgiveness is a choice.  You can't shove it down someone's throat to forgive you in all "totality" .  
Sure, it makes sense to you that if you are going to bother to forgive someone, you should forgive him/her completely.  That aspect of forgiveness is still a choice the forgiver makes.

ifyalways:
ITs even pathetic when peeps make issues as simple as forgiving so complicated with the phrase . . .Forgive and Never Forget.
Plus,the choice to forgive and move on is something one has total power over.Its either u forgive in all totality and move on or u just dont forgive.How do u relate to someone u claim to have forgiven but Not forgotten ist that a form of mental tortue?
why not forget?waiting for a re-occurence or an opportunity to pay back?i see it as Hypocrisy.

Too complicated for you to understand isn't it?

Forgive and move on is entirely different from forgive and forget. It's not rocket science my dear.
It should be so easy for you to see that I can forgive you completely but in many cases can't forget what you did.

ifyalways:
Give him space and time. . . .Time heals all wounds.
whatever wrong u have done,as long as u have apologized,If he truely loves u,he wud forgive u.Perharps hes still hurt,give him time and he wud get over it and come back BUT if he does not,Life is good. . .move on.

And you are under the automatic assumption that apologies should automatically fix whatever wrongs a person has done.  Except, in reality things don't work that way.

Heck, the choice to forgive the offender usually isn't as much for their happiness as it is for your peace of mind.  Even though I still have a difficult time dealing with hurt when it happens to me, I have learned that in most cases holding on to anger and resentment actually hurts  you more than it hurts the person who hurt you.

I think it's even more of a pity that you have a hard time understanding something so simple.


And, plenty of times the choice to forget something is not left up to you. Especially when it has been hardwired into your memory like I mentioned in the post before.

You are a bastard. It is stapled on your forehead.

I'm sorry you have a difficult time understanding the concept of forgiving vs. forgetting. Just remember that the human memory is a powerful tool.

Shouldn't you be in a juvenile hall somewhere screaming thug life? Who had the audacity to let you out of that cage

LOL @ Sisi . Amazing what a good pair of hands would do.

Pepeye:
U too . . . u aren’t helping matters

Hey my guy, why picking on me?

I wish Mr. Ike a very happy married life.

What did you do?

Even if he forgives, he has not forgotten.

Love is some derivative of brainwash.

Step your pimping game up brother. Keep curting her until she gives in. It could be hard to get.

Builder:
@ Poster,

Why are you bothering your mind, believe me, u are better off with this your so-called guy , why does he wants to know who u are with, are you not old enough to go whereever you chose, the guy even wants to know the name of your friend , i sincerely think a line has to be drawn somewhere.

I think its best you let your man live his life because i can bet my life if you go back to him, he will make your life a living hell, cos the dude will be a control freak.

I really dont know what is wrong with these nigerian men, they think because they are dating a babe, then the babe has no right to privacy and must be under their control. Insecuritiy is a sad thing.

Hey dipstick, try using your head once in a while. Your girl is at some random dude's house very early in the morning. You call to find out where she is, she has nothing to hide, but she quickly hangs up the phone because she didn't want to have to explain to you. LOL


It's not about Nigerian men, but about a stupid girl playing games.

Because the women are always so quick to jilt them in love.

You have been with this girl for 6 years and are just now realizing that you are human? Why not use your human will-power to shutdown your penis until she is ready.

I don't know o. It seems alloy emeku is his rimming partner.

I don't need to know him personally to know about his public image.

He comes across as arrogant because he is arrogant.  The bad part about it is that he is an overglorified actor.  Dude is mediocre.  I am LOL @ girls  who think he is the best thing since sliced bread.  So many Nigerians have bad taste o.

LOL! You

Moonstone:
Oh jeez! Another loss. . . I don't know who to blame for this one. A-40 warned me o! If Magic win, I won't be as surprised as I should be. . . This is not LeBron's year - I guess. I can't wait for tomorrow's game!That's very sad because I know how CP3 trusts his team mates and I always get mad at him for that. They need to resolidify their bonds. LeBron can't be messing up and allowing such simple free throws to ruin his team and yeah, I was actually impressed that Magic won without Howard against Celtics. I am convinced that Howard is not a mere man. That guy is just too phenomenal in games - I still can't forget his 24 points and 24 rebounds (10 offensive or so and 14 defensive). . . Still can't get a grasp of that.

You are almost ready to self-destruct.    Ready to lose hope on your team with 4 games still left to play? BW fans sef.

And I think magic fans should be concerned about the officiating for game 4.  They might send  Lebron to the line 40 times in that game.

Sweeet.

You are spot on. And I think true fans would know that's one of the biggest aspects of the game that separates Kobe from Lebron. LeCantShoot can continue to bully his way to the rim for the next 2-3 years. But until he masters the perimeter game like Kobe, he would never be a complete threat, and will soon slow down.

Of course everyone is judgmental. Don't be silly. One way or another we make judgments on a daily basis. Ponder on that.

That's because you know your stuff.

I told my friends "Do not be surprised if the Orlando Magic beat up on the Crapaliers. They have yet to face a true playoff team"

ROFL ROFL ALL BALL! Did Y'all see that block by Howard on Lebron? The refs have been paid off to rig it for LeBroBro

Tope, come on baby you know I never do tha test driving stuff.

Lol ELA

bawomolo:
that seems like a flimsy excuse. People have sex before marriage because they love to bust a nut. nothing much.

ahhaha ma nigga you got that right. these fornicating ass niggas always looking for excuses to nutt.

What type of civility is this one talking about. I can never be civil to any friend, lover, or foe going up against my Lakers. EVER!

You used sweetheart and honey with a guy . . . and he heard you? Even after he warned you to stay away from these boys, you go so far as to start calling them puppy names.
One thing is, you do not respect your man. If you did you would back off from doing those things that hurt him.
you have planted the seed and it's your turn to reap.


I don't even feel half bad for you.