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 Nairaland General › Re: Cow Attacks A Man And His Wife In Aba, Destroys Their Car (Pics) by calabardick(m): 8:59am On Nov 20, 2016 |
drerocker:How you go take leave naija? There's cow on the runway, there's cow on the road, abi you wan use leg waka? Abi na canoe you use or train ni? |
| Nairaland General › Re: Cow Attacks A Man And His Wife In Aba, Destroys Their Car (Pics) by calabardick(m): 8:33am On Nov 20, 2016 |
Frustration has entered the animal kingdom
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| Family › Re: How To Know You Are In A Healthy Relationship Or Not by calabardick(m): 8:20am On Nov 20, 2016 |
tosyne2much:That kind babe Na eharlot, all you have to do is to flee from them |
| Politics › Re: The Second Coming Of Goodluck Jonathan - Dele Momodu by calabardick(m): 8:14am On Nov 20, 2016 |
NaijaMutant:The form is free, download, print, fill and summit to the appropriate quarter
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| Politics › Re: Achebe Center Moves To Block Buhari’s $29.9bn Loan Bid •writes World Bank by calabardick(m): 8:02am On Nov 20, 2016 |
Here we go again? 2 Likes 1 Share
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| Romance › Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She Is Dating? by calabardick(m): 10:42pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
Doctorfitz:She's just there to open her legs for him to insert his money Majority of woman today are just empty vessels, that's why I don't have anything to do with under 30s' 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: Should A Lady Cook For The Guy She Is Dating? by calabardick(m): 10:40pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
Whether you cook for him or not, he'll either eat outside or another woman will cook for him 3 Likes |
| Family › Re: John Edobor Caught In Bed With Another Lady (Pics) by calabardick(m): 4:15pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
na like this una dey start, very soon person go jump for ikoyi bridge |
| Politics › Re: 3 Suicide Bombers Attempting To Bomb Court In Borno Intercepted By Police (Pics) by calabardick(m): 4:01pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
God punish malsi the Religion of peace |
| Romance › Re: The Difference Between The Thinking Of Married & Unmarried Women by calabardick(op): 3:46pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
Shifting Views The thoughts of married and unmarried women can change over time. A previously happily married woman will yearn to be single, when irreconcilable differences cause a marriage to break down. A single, independent woman, when falling in love, will face the dilemma of giving up some independence, or risk losing the chance at a relationship. A married woman will sometimes feel the need to be more independent by taking a course or getting a job. This need for independence isn't always indicative of an unhappy marriage. An independent woman, on the other hand, may give up everything after falling in love. |
| Romance › Re: The Difference Between The Thinking Of Married & Unmarried Women by calabardick(op): 3:44pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
Weakness versus Strength Young, independent women will often consider themselves to be strong for not needing a man in their lives. But a married woman often considers a single woman as scared of commitment, and will see it as a sign of weakness. An independent woman will feel that it's a strength not to have an urge to start a family, at least until later in life. Coping with the responsibilities of married life is something a married woman considers to be a strength. |
| Romance › Re: The Difference Between The Thinking Of Married & Unmarried Women by calabardick(op): 3:43pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
Family versus Career When a woman is married, the family becomes her main focus. Many women will give up promising careers to concentrate on family life. Some young women will concentrate on their careers, and will not think of raising a family before they reach age 30. Some women will be able to juggle both their career and family life. Not all women, however, will want both, but will concentrate wholly on the family or their careers. |
| Romance › Re: The Difference Between The Thinking Of Married & Unmarried Women by calabardick(op): 3:42pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
Freedom versus Stability A woman who is single by choice will feel that she has greater independence than a woman who is married. By contrast, a happily married woman will feel that she has greater stability in her life. In either circumstance, both women will be equally happy, because they both have what they want. It is sometimes true that a woman with freedom will want stability, but not at the expense of her freedom. Conversely, a woman who is happily married will always want some independence, but not at the expense of her marriage. |
| Romance › The Difference Between The Thinking Of Married & Unmarried Women by calabardick(op): 3:42pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
Married and unmarried women will often have very different views on marriage and being single. But, circumstances help to shape their opinions. Circumstances can result in a change of view, whereby an independent young woman and a happily married woman adopt the views previously held by the other. Many women will also not be affected by a change of circumstances and will adhere rigidly to their views. |
| Romance › Re: 7 Secrets About Men Most Women Don’t Know by calabardick(op): 3:07pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
7. Men are given mixed signals from a young age about what women want “Be a gentleman.” “Treat a woman with upmost respect.” “Always put her before yourself.” Men are hammered with this advice growing up. Then, what happens to a guy who always follows this advice? He ends up in the damn friend zone! It’s no wonder guys get confused about what women want. There are mixed messages coming from the media, their parents, and even other women (who in their eyes ask for one type of guy then date another) about what exactly women want. There aren’t too many young boy’s mothers who give the advice, “Son, open the door for her in the car and pull out her chair for her, then smack her ass hard while she moans in the bedroom.” And if someone tried to teach this en masse, someone else would take it out of context! Young men are forced to figure it out for themselves and often get it wrong. So remember, sometimes, it’s not a guy fault if he doesn’t know what to do. It’s because everyone has been telling him different things his whole life. Whether or not you believe men have the advantage in dating – at least, in these 7 areas, there’s no question – women have the advantage. So, next time you get frustrated with a man, because he won’t make a move, doesn’t seem to ‘get’ you, or seems insecure about his abilities with women, remember, men have pressures on them you haven’t been brought up to identify with. Understanding such pressures and, perhaps, having a little more forgiveness and empathy for a man’s, sometimes inexplicable, behaviors will see you approaching dating with more patience and acceptance, leading to more fulfilling experiences and relationships with men. |
| Romance › Re: 7 Secrets About Men Most Women Don’t Know by calabardick(op): 3:07pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
6. From a man’s point of view, all a woman needs to pick up is… looks And well… they’re right. Sort of. A woman can pretty herself and pick up every night of the week – if she wants to. Of course, we both know if you were to actually do that you would rarely pickup the guy you actually wanted. Still, the point is that no matter where you are in life, if you get dressed up and go out, you could get something. Look at this from a guy’s point of view. He doesn’t see the reality – you struggling to get the attention of the guy you want and getting hit on by creepers all night. He just sees a pretty girl with half the bar looking at her and trying to talk to her. What is that going to register in his mind? “Jees, women have it easy.” Perception is reality. If he sees this (and believes it), then that is enough to make it real that you (and women like you) have the advantage. |
| Romance › Re: 7 Secrets About Men Most Women Don’t Know by calabardick(op): 3:06pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
5. Men aren’t good ‘people readers’ Men are less intuitive and socially adept than women, which works in women’s favor on the dating playing field. If the task was to carry heavy boxes upstairs, this would give men an advantage, but in the social world of dating, the shoe is on the other foot. This stems from an evolutionary background, where women relied on social skills, rather than brute strength to survive. Your average woman can read people better, make better conversations, and be more dynamic in her ability to read people than your average male. So, if you’ve ever met a guy, who hasn’t been able to keep up with the social pace or missed a couple of cues from the group, try to have empathy. Men aren’t born to talk and read situations the way you were. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Romance › Re: 7 Secrets About Men Most Women Don’t Know by calabardick(op): 3:05pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
4. Men are encouraged to be independent and not ask for help When a woman asks for help with something, she generally has no fear of being judged for doing so. However, many men, raised with the belief that a man should be independent and strong, shy away from the possibility of admitting they may not have all the answers. In dating, this is especially problematic. Men are told it’s shameful and disrespectful to seek help to improve their dating skills. So much so, we’ve cancelled the Visas of men, who’ve tried to come to Australia and teach it! While some of these men may be coaching derogatory tactics, those who are genuinely trying to help men improve their dating lives and meet women, sadly, get tainted with the same brush. This ties men’s hands when it comes to improving the parts of themselves that would make them more attractive dates, lovers, and partners. In my own life, admitting I was terrible with women and asking for help (then being looked down upon for trying to find it) was one of the most bitter pills I ever had to swallow, proving extremely bruising to my ego . It was worth it in the end, but such an experience highlights that men, both as children and adults, are actively encouraged against seeking help, especially in this area. So, spare a thought for the hopelessness a man, who isn’t good with women, must feel when he sees other men walk around with natural charm. |
| Romance › Re: 7 Secrets About Men Most Women Don’t Know by calabardick(op): 3:04pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
3. Society puts enormous pressure on men to be good with women Like it or not, more pressure is on men to have skills with women than the other way around. Growing up, boys who can flirt and interact with the girls are heroes by their friends, whereas girls who show extraordinary socials skills with men are often shamed by their jealous peers. The underlying message given to men is that they are not a true man and should be ashamed if they cannot attract a woman. Take a moment to think about the gravity of pressure this message puts on men. If a guy is around his mates at a bar, how does this pressure effect the chances of him approaching you? He’s likely to shy away, not wanting to risk failure at something so ‘important’ in front of his friends. If he’s sober, and you reject him harshly when he asks you out respectfully, how is he going to feel? Probably, like never approaching another woman again and taking his feelings of rejection out on women in the future. And, if a guy isn’t good with women, what is he likely to believe about himself? “I’m not much of a man; I’m pathetic.” The underlying message given to men is that they are not a true man and should be ashamed if they cannot attract a woman. So, before you go saying things like, “Well, I wouldn’t date any guy who doesn’t have the confidence to approach me,” take the time to understand where he is coming from and how much pressure society puts on him to be good with women. If you’re giving resting bitch face or turning your back, he might be the perfect guy for you and a great person, but he’s never going to approach you. |
| Romance › Re: 7 Secrets About Men Most Women Don’t Know by calabardick(op): 3:02pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
2. Men cannot get a date or romantic attention easily If a woman wants a date, sex, or even just a little ego kick, it’s not exactly scarce. It could be as simple as jumping on Tinder or getting dressed up to go out for the night. A woman has the security of knowing romantic attention – at least in some form – is always available, should she want it. Each time a man has to move the relationship forward, there is a chance of you rejecting him. Spare a thought for men, who, even if they jump online or go out, are not guaranteed any of the above. A man always has to risk rejection to earn a date or more from a woman. Many men, especially those who are good guys but aren’t necessarily confident or good looking, never know where their next hit of romantic attention might come from. |
| Romance › Re: 7 Secrets About Men Most Women Don’t Know by calabardick(op): 3:01pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
1. Men have to risk rejection a lot more than women If there’s a standout advantage women have, this has to be it. The fact is, women must deal with a lot less rejection in dating than men. If a woman is unwilling to make a move on a man, she can sub communicate to him she wants him to make one, without risking a real rejection. If that doesn’t work, a different man will try his luck. She can meet and get chatting to a lot of men, without having to risk a direct rejection. While women are just as vulnerable to rejection, once in a relationship, a woman can have a successful dating life, without ever being rejected. She may not have quite as many options, but she’ll still have options, especially if she knows how to give men proper green lights. If a man doesn’t – at some point – ‘man’ up and make a move, then generally he’s going home alone. No matter how much he gives a woman eye contact, it will usually be him who has to walk over, him who has to kiss her, and him who has to ask her out to lunch. Even if he’s not approaching you in a bar, wherever he meets you, he still must take the risk in asking you out. For many men, confidence does not come naturally. Unfortunately, in dating, where men must risk rejection regularly to have success, confidence is required. This can be a huge, sometimes insurmountable, obstacle for some men to overcome. No matter how you cut it, for men to get results in dating, they have to risk rejection much more than women. Remember this next time you’re getting frustrated with a guy’s hesitancy to make a move on you and help him out by making sure you make your signals to him clear. |
| Romance › 7 Secrets About Men Most Women Don’t Know by calabardick(op): 2:59pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
Have you ever taken a moment to think what dating must be like for… men? Many women believe, when it comes to dating, men hold all the cards. This could be because they’ve been rejected by men in the past, been played or cheated on by men, or simply brought up to believe that’s just the way it is. Whether or not you think men have the power overall, I write today to increase your awareness of some ways in which men definitely do not have the power. Many of these may never have even occurred to you. The more you can understand men and where they are coming from, the more success you’ll have in dating and forming relationships with them. So, here’s 7 disadvantages men have in dating you might never have previously considered. |
| Politics › Re: END Of The APC In Lagos State - Displaced Slum Dweller Claims by calabardick(m): 10:53pm On Nov 17, 2016 |
EnEnPeecee:Please what is the glory of Nigeria? - Corruption - International prostitution - money laundering - drug trafficking - bribe - abuse of power - political killing - kidnapping - boko haram - militants - looting - senseless leaders - poverty - APC vs PDP - tribalism - daura monk - etc What glory? Where's the glory? The only glory I know was the British colony, are you praying Nigeria should be colonized again? We keep on recycling the same criminals in power and we expect change. The devil cannot be your father-in-law then you expect God to be a guest in your married ceremony, never |
| Romance › Re: "I Knew She Was The One After We Had Sex" by calabardick(m): 10:34pm On Nov 17, 2016 |
thebluntt:
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| Nairaland General › Re: Top 15 Things We Used To Do In 80's/90's We Do No More by calabardick(m): 10:32pm On Nov 17, 2016 |
AfonjaStinks:Baddest nigga |
| Family › Re: John Edobor, Man Accused Of Breaking Wife's Legs Tells His Side Of The Story by calabardick(m): 10:28pm On Nov 17, 2016 |
Viking007: 1 Like
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| Foreign Affairs › Re: 10 Signs We Are Heading Towards World War III by calabardick(m): 7:56pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
capatainrambo:Nigeria has no place in world power tussle, bother not |
| Politics › Re: Avengers ‘blow Up 3 Pipelines’, Say Doomsday Ahead by calabardick(m): 7:53pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
Grundig:Nigerian government is tormented by a demon called Lie Mohammed 1 Like |
| NYSC › Re: Ex-Corper Travels From Ibadan To Makurdi On Bicycle (Photos) by calabardick(m): 7:52pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
Dekingmoses:You have to go mental in Nigeria before you can be noticed |
| NYSC › Re: Ex-Corper Travels From Ibadan To Makurdi On Bicycle (Photos) by calabardick(m): 7:50pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
This is the cobolistic manifestation of brainiac anxiety |
| Food › Re: A Few Reasons Why Ladies Love Or Should Love Cucumbers by calabardick(m): 6:51pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
abdulahi001:It increases sales, I even plan going into the business like the one attached 1 Like
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