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@rosydabomb no need to kill yourself with guilty conciense. I don't believe people can be snatched if they don't want to be. It takes two to tango you know. The guy is equally guilty of the deed and wanted it as much as you did. You need to move on with life don't get bugged don in the past, its all history now.

@BellaRouge hmm this thread sounds familiar you must be a member of several naija sites abi? The feedback here should be very interesting.

@Papermoon, Wow that is a hot gist.

To tell you the truth girls dating married men is actually the norm for "runs" girls on our campuses, every runs girl has a collection of married men she dates and visits on alternating weekends, I know this because most of my friends are married and a great number of them have "smallees" by the side. I am quite sure there are a lot of such girls on this site but being the nigerians they are, would rather pretend, become hypocrites and condemn those who do it. How many of our campus girls can actually afford the cloths and luxury items then have in their rooms. Single guys don't spend very much money on girls but married men would spare no expenses to make a girl comfortable. Anyway I hope some would learn from your gist.

MS-Access is good, it can run from a shared folder on a peer to peer network or even a server based network. I had a business application which utilised MS-Access as the database and VB for the front end. The only problem I had with MS-Access was data corruption if there is a power failure during a write operation. Running the built in repair function doesn't always retrieve all your data occassionally it truncates or cuts out some records. The quickest way out is for all the systems to be on UPS.

Another database you can utilise is SQL Server Desktop Engine, this can run from any workstation on the network and is based on the SQL Server core, it is more reliable than MS-Access as it is a true RDBM and not a file sharing/data management system like MS-ACCESS the minus side is that you can't have more than 5 concurrent users on the system.

Okay guys lets put a twist to this assuming there was no sex involved in the co-habitation arrangement would your views change?

I have been asked before by a girl whom I considered a close freind. We weren't even sleeping together as I had just ended a long 3 year relationship and needed some breathing space to recuperate. We were working together in the same organisation and used to go for lunch together, during one of those lunch breaks she was unusually quiet and after a while she asked "Are you going to marry me", I was shocked and speechless for a while as I wasn't expecting it but I recovered quickly and ,

Thanks now i am getting the balanced view I expected. There are advantages and disadvantages in co-habitation, some do it out of convenience, others because they are scared of signing the dotted lines yet and lots of other reasons. I wouldn't practice it because I love my breathing space, weekend sleep overs are fine but nothing on a long term basis.

I have been using AVG Free Antivirus software for almost 5 years now. Of recent I connected my home network onto the internet and started experiencing virus, worm and trojan attacks. I have one particularly sturbon Trojan rdisk.sys which AVG detects, cleans but it comes back again within 5 minutes.

- Has anyone experienced this trojan?
- How did you get rid of it permananetly.
- What antivirus package is the best (catches at least 99% of everything)

E be like say this FOC antivirus no be am o! I wouldn't mind paying for a complete Internet security suite but I need recommendation from those who have tried some. Any useful info boys?

<<mod: click the above link to discuss the Internet security suite>>

Do you know what I find most inetersting in all the responses except one , everyone is busy condeming this practice. But if you look closely at what is happening in our campuses you would notice that lots of off campus accommodation are shared by couples. In Ekpoma (Ambrose Ali University) for instance it is a common practice for babes to share accommodation with their boyfriends for a whole session. How come I ain't seeing such feed back here or are we just playing to the gallery. Lets be real and lay down the gist the way it is and not the way we think people want to hear.

There is a term in English law called Common law Marriage, it gives legal status to couples that have stayed together for a given minimum length of time. So for those practicing co-habitation without the intention of marrying watch-out, you may wake up one morning and find yourself married against your wish, and for those not willing or capable of footing a normal wedding bill this might be a cheap way out.

Lawyers in da house is this law applicable in Nigeria in view of the fact that most of our laws were dubbed from the English.

Personally I don't have anything against co-habitation since it allows couples simulate marriage conditions, however I don't think it is right or fair to produce kids from this kind of union. I know there is nothing like illegitimate child in Naija once the father accepts the kid as his, but why allow kids to go through this trauma of being the product of a non formalized union?

The practice of couples living together for many years before marriage seems to be a norm in the western world, but in Nigeria it is still being frowned upon, even though couples are doing it in hiding. The way it's practiced here in Nigeria is the babe has her own fully furnished one bedroom apartment for appearance sake but hardly stays there instead she lives and operates from the boy friend's house whenever her family members come visiting she relocates back home.

My question here is what is your take on this?
- Is the practice good?.
- Should the society accept co-habitation?
- Does it provide a means for the couples to understand themselves better before taking the quantum leap?
- Would it reduce the frequency of divorce since the couples have already practiced living together?
- Have you practiced it before or currently in one?
- What is the experience like?

- Is it wrong for a couple to live together before marriage? -

Thanks but Microsoft Antispyware only works on XP and I am yet to upgrade to XP. My systems run Windows 200 and Windows 98.

I have recently connected my home network onto the internet and am concerned of security breaches such as hackers, viruses, worms, identity theft, trojan horses, adwares, pop-ups etc invading my home network. Does anyone know of a good Internet Security Suite which can handle all these threats?

I currently use AVG - Free Antivirus program, Spybot - free anti spyware and adware remover. I also have ZoneAlarm Firewall - free firewall from Zonelabs, however anytime I activate ZoneAlarm it stops the other computers on my network
accessing the internet.

By the way I use Microsofts in-built Internet Connection Sharing on windows 2000 to share a dial-up access to the internet.

Any hint on this would be appreciated.

Val's day is not a day for making yourself bankrupt. I don't understand why people need to spend so much to impress their babe. All the gift you need on that day is a Card and a box of chocolate or Biscuits simple no need for all those expensive gifts. It isn't even advisable to go out as the whole town would be crowded and jam packed, so stay home with your babe and catch up with some TLC.

Wow thelma2, I am totally speechless, that was definitely worse than mine.

Back in the days when I started programming, my first computer was a Sinclair ZX81 which you connect to a TV, download the programs from a casset player or type it in raw. It was very interesting and my main objective was to load in games from specialised magazines with time the games became too slow and I optimised and tweaked the codes written in Sinclair BASIC until I couldn't squeeze out any more juice from it, this was how I ventured into Z80 assemble language programming, since I didn't have an assemble to use I had to convert the nemonics to machine code, a very tedious process you don't want to get into today. The end result was a turbo fast program and the next challenge was how to slow down the program.

Assembly language is very powerful if you know how to use it but very time consuming, you are dealing at the lowest level of instruction with interrupts into the operating system and any mistake in code would hang up the system.

These days you don't really need to kill yourself programming in assembly as most high level programming languages can handle almost any task you can think of, but knowledge of it could come in handy if you do need to program devices with limited memory.

Okay reality check guys, let me dig into my archive of experiences and offload this gist of how I goofed on valentine's day years back. Enjoy.

There was this new babe I was trying to date, a colleague who just joined. Incidentally we happened to be in Lagos together on the week of Valentine, so I asked her to be my Val, well you know how naija babes are she didn't say yes or no, so I felt she was just playing hard to get. I went on with all the planning and at the appointed time I called her up in the hotel, the phone ring tire no response , several attempts later I gave up as it dawned on me that the babe has bursted my side. What a lonely Val's day it was for me, all my pals were busy. I kept blaming and cursing myself.

Anyway make loneliness no kill me I decided to leave the confines of the hotel and take a stroll down to bar beach and Kuramo beach and guess what?, I saw the babe chilling out in one of those pepper soup joint with another colleague of mine. Instead of being upset, I was really amused. The babe don play fast one on me.

I never mentioned anything to her, I stopped chasing her but we were still friends and occassionally I would take her out for lunch and help out whenever she needed my help.

Months later the guy jilted her and she started chasing, me I didn't play hard to get O! (how can) but I made it clear that it was because the bobo had bursted her side that was why she was falling back on me. She didn't say anything. Shortly after we started dating full time and I then revealed to her what happened on Val's day 6 months ago. She was shocked and appologised, I told her no need for that, so far as she followed her heart. Anyway the relationship did not last very long before I called it quits. She wanted to know why so I told her I was her second best option and I didn't want to build a long term relationship on this premise
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Does anyone else want to share their past Valentine day experience?

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If courtship is the period between when the babe agrees to marry you (after the guy has proposed) and the time it takes to do the wedding, then I think that period should be very short 1 to 3 months depending on how fast you can put all the arrangements in place.

Now if relationship on the other hand is the period of time it takes to woo the babe, start dating to the time you ask her to marry you, then the period of time is variable as there are so many factors involved.

The problem most guys have is that from the first day they meet the babe they start proposing and telling her they want to marry, that to me is crap, never promise what you can't deliver, and you can't deliver if you don't know the babe that is why you need to date first. How long you date depends on the parties involved.

I strongly believe that by the time a man ask a babe to marry him he has already made up his mind and decided that this is his life time partner as such there is no need for further delay just get married as soon as possible.

A guy should never ever promise a babe marriage if his intention is just to sleep with her and move on, it is totally deceitful, unacceptable and unforgivable

tayotina:
Because I want to get screwwwwwwwwweeeeeeedddddddd

You don't have to be married to get that, infact variety is more and quality is better when you are not.......

No I don't think so. it is all about leading the person on or giving them ideas without any intention(at least initially) of going any further, but if you go further and kiss, smooch and feel without going further then it's teasing. By the way there is a thin line between flirting and teasing