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Yes they can be if and only if they find something repulsive enough to keep them from being lovers.

hmm Nice concept I love it. Afterall polygamy is close to this. This may just be the solution to reduce the currently high divorce rate. Couples should only practice it once they have had all their kids and the marriage is at least 5 years.

Tell her not to loose sight of her obodo oyibo bobo, occassionally ask about the bobos welfare. Make it clear to her that you would like to remain friends with her and wouldn't mind an open relationship (friends with benefit) afterall body no be firewood and you two have your needs. I know she would agree and when she does shine the congo and have fun, but keep in mind she is not the right babe for you and be on the look out for a better girl. Make sure she doesn't crowd you and try to prevent you from meeting someone else just the same way you have been considerate knowing that you are sharing her with her obodo oyibo guy.  Enjoy her as much as you can while you can but manage your money carefully. Don't let her take you to the cleaners and don't be stingy she may have genuine financial needs. The best way is usually to have a monthly budget for babes. I used to do that and it worked perfectly, just don't let her know that this budget exist and manage it properly


Once you find yourself a better babe, stop sleeping with her and let her know you now have a serious person you want to plan your future with but nevertheless you still treasure her friendship and would like to sustain it without the sex part. She may accept and she may not, but any which way you have made the whole thing transparent and open and she cann't wake up tomorrow and claim you used and dumped her.

Something similar happened to me years back and I managed it in a similar manner the babe and I are still very good friends till today.

Good Luck man and ENJOY.

Most happening babes today on Nigerian campuses are runs babes, a typical runs babes may have a steady (so called serious) boyfriend and a string of single/married men she visits on alternating weekends. The married men are her preferred choice as they provide her with the money she needs to sustain her expensive life style (expensive cloths, well furnished off campus apartment, car etc). A typical runs babe sleeps with about 12 different men in a year and never spends her weekends on campus, today it's Abuja, next week, Port-Harcourt, week after Lagos etc, they keep a very busy schedule, missing lectures and test at times and are very good at settling their lecturers.

Runs babes don't have any qualms about premarital sex and in that area they are very very good and would turn almost any guy's head. The smart ones also brush up their home management and cooking skills. The gurus among them can carryon interesting and engaging conversations with any guy.

What else does a man want anyway, a good companion to gist with, a lady who can run the home properly and a tiger who can keep him entertained in the bedroom.

It is a widely held belief that runs babes are street wise (know what men want) and tend to settle down more quickly than other babes. Is this true or just an urban myth? Do such marriages stand the test of time or do the babes break out shortly after to pursue the glamorous life they’ve lived?

From Sil: @CalabarMan
She didn't say a word, I watched her but she didn't look at my face either.Men do i have to go talk her?

Something tells me you have already lost her, but it is good to talk to her, tell her exactly how you feel and find out how she feels about the guy/you. Find out whether they have slept together (she may lie about this but body movement may reveal the truth). Like others have said she may actually be testing you too so find out as well. Lots of questions to ask but keep cool, don't get violent and surpress your anger. If all is lost call it quit and move on. Keep your pride and don't collect the money.

This story is incomplete. what is your babes reaction/view of this offer?. I am assuming she was present when it was made. If she didn't say a word nor react in a negative way against the offer then you have lost her. if I were the one I would burst the chick and tell the guy to swallow his money.

If she is still yours then she would have been offended by the offer and would have bursted the guy. In which case you don't have to do anything but love your babe more knowing she truely loves you. Any which way i think it is a good test for her.