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Why was I spam-banned? Cos I laughed at BelaMorena?

it is well:
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What? You don't like the picture?

Yanno!

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=750870.msg9226736#msg9226736 date=1317089149]Stop arguing all the time -[/quote]Stop taking poo personal all the time and we weren't need to have any bouts of any kind.  


OP.

Grown adults in a relationship or marriage will not solve anything with silent treatments. Communicate like adults and lay it on the table.  If you have to play childish games with your partner just to get a rise out of them then don't expect your relationship to get any more mature then it is.

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=750870.msg9226702#msg9226702 date=1317088064]It is Chima - ahahahahahaha

woman you are something else!!!!!  I knew it sounded like you.  stop playing!!![/quote]Stop lying because you already knew it was me when someone told you on another thread.  

I see you calmed your arse down because I am the last person you want to get into a personal tic and tac with.  

If you are getting upset because someone's opinions doesn't agree with yours you may want to get that checked. That's not healthy.

REALITY101:
You're one chick I would love to go on a date with. . Imagining what she looks like 

Ms. Chima please don't interfere  

Trust me you are on your own and I don't have any interest of derailing this poster's thread.  


Moma Mukina, Please read the beginning of the thread and see for yourself I adhered to the rules unlike some people.

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=750870.msg9226613#msg9226613 date=1317086065]ok - how old are you?  you sound ignorant and childish - almost like a very unhappy woman who enjoys nitpicking and constantly finding fault with others - you contribute very little that is helpful - but you are quick to contribute counter-productive "name calling" to those who do contribute

my contributions to the thread are to help others who are dealing with this type of behavior - while I am contributing helpful suggestions - you are quick to call me and others "childish" and other "degrading" names - you sound like Chima under a new username - I wonder just how correct I am - if it is Chima - what I find childish is your constant bans, over and over and over again and your constant "new usernames" - you are so desperate to stay on NL you clutch at straw after straw after straw to maintain your presence - now how "childish" is that - you who are such a "grown woman" - who doesn't engage in "silent treatment" - I wonder if your husband many times gets on his knees and prays that you do "go to bed at night giving him the silent treatment" - that you say you don't do - I can bet if he had the money he would pay you to stay quiet.




[/quote[/quote]Now I see why the guy acted childish, he was matching style for style.

Oh you really want to get into personal tic and tac Ms. Going to See A Man You Don't Know, Never Met, and Don't Trust?

I will adhere to Mukina's warning about not derailing threads and will not get into a bout with you.

Excuse me OP this person doesn't want someone to have an opinion that is differ from hers and take minor things extremely personal.

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=750870.msg9226529#msg9226529 date=1317084178]Then you must have stumbled in the wrong thread

That is the difference between you and I - what is seen as a time waster to you - brought me many results - as I no longer had to deal with "Silent Treatment"

Many men and women use silent treatment in this manner - it is good that you "didn't let the sun go down without attempting to talk" - the problem with your response is that you are responding to a thread that is directed at those "Who are UNLIKE YOU"[/quote]You responded to my initial response to someone's else post so you stumbled on the wrong person.

Good for you the childish method worked on the guy and did you and the guy lived happily ever after?

Yes, I don't waste my time majoring minors.

[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=750870.msg9226505#msg9226505 date=1317083750]if they're adults, i'm not sure how the matter concerns anyone else, the thread starter's s.tupid post aside.


silent treatment without malice and grudge keeping is far better than ranting and raving all over the place.

however, if the silence is accompanied by maliciousness, then that's witchcraft on the part of either the man or woman.


imo, its not everything that needs to be carried on one's head. Sometimes we need to learn to let things go and stop majoring in minors.[/quote]Granted some people doesn't talk much when they are upset and that is natural but to engage in silent treatment to get something or because you didn't get your way or what you wanted is childish and temper tantrum-ish.    

Real adult men and women should talk to each other and work it out without having to go kindergarten on each other.

REALITY101:
I don't care

Of course you don't.

REALITY101:
phew

What are your views about silent treatments between adults?

I don't know about you but I am on topic and voiced my opinion that silent treatments are temper tantrums and those who scooped to that level are just as childish as the one doing the silent treatment.

I know for a fact I wouldn't waste my time doing what you did above because I believe in effective communication and do not let the sun go down without at least attempting to talk about it like adults. 

Again that is my opinion.

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=750870.msg9225810#msg9225810 date=1317071877]^^^^

Revenge is a response directed "out of spite" - to pay someone back.

I don't call doing what I did - revenge - because my motive wasn't one of "spite" - I needed "results" that would eliminate my having to experience "silent treatment"

I posted my post so that anyone experiencing silent treatment could also "eliminate" it from their video by knowing that there are "options" available to them - just because someone "dishes" out something doesn't mean you have to "take it".

You can decide what you will and what you won't put up with,

From a spouse or a mate.  Many people don't consider "silent treatment" as childish, I actually consider it as "uneducated" - many people actually consider the use of silent treatment as a better option than arguing or violence - they consider "silent treatment" as quite adult compared to arguing.

I don't categorize it as either - I just refuse to accept it.  We will discuss things like adults or you will find yourself following me around "just to get me to talk to you"[/quote]That's your opinion and you are entitled to it.   If you couldn't put up with his childish ways, you would have left him and not scooped down to his level. 

I know for a fact a real man wouldn't follow a woman around just because she is having a temper tantrum.  If she isn't woman enough to come to the man like a grown woman and lay everything on the table then she doesn't deserve his attention nor time.  I know men for sure will attest to this. 

In my opinion, it is childish both ways.

promire2004:
dont take it too personal CalienteMi. I aint perfect, afterall i'm only human. Yeah u spoke your mind, and i somewhat got the point u were trying to make.

None offense taken. I don't get caught up with online emotions. But its all good.

Everyone is not to be trusted even family members.

promire2004:
well, so many people go about saying false things to support whatever actions they are taking. Mind u, i aint talking about liars and cheap blackmailers. I'm talking about true practising christians who seek the face of God in choosing a life partner. Nobody holy pass. It's a free world and everyone is entitled to his/her opinion.

It doesn't matter whom you are speaking of no one is perfect even God fearing Christians and you are exactly right everyone is entitled to their opinion.  I spoke my opinions and what I have witnessed with my own eyes and ears.

Girls need to learn that each men are different. There is no two men alike for whatever reasons and even each man has his on unique fingerprint.

Learn about the guy you are dating or interested in and judge him individually. The biggest mistake a girl can make in her life is comparing a man with another man or judging a man from the group he hailed from.

Jack Doe and John Doe are two different people and should be judge individually. Coming into any relationship with expectations and assumptions will only hurt you.

prettyjulie:
Silent treatment is a two face thing,sumtimes it pays sumtimes it fails btdebutsor me i will prefer punishing my offenders with silent treatment than laying my hands on d person   Silent treatment is a two face thing,sumtimes it pays sumtimes it fails bt aBTUfor me i will prefer punishing my offenders with silent treatment than laying my hands on d person

Silent treatment and silent treatment revenge are both childish in my opinion. Only children engage into childish behavior. Its like having a temper tantrum when someone doesn't give you what you want and I wouldn't lower myself to that level to prove a point.

I was told by a few people that they thought God was directing them only later to tell me they have misinterpreted the "directions". 

Holy One is not an author of confusion and the directions given will be concrete and clear however people tend to use God as a clutch for their foolishness and often times blame God for their careless ways.  I have seen and heard it too many times. 

Even in the bible it said do not be a fool.  I am only using the bible because it was mentioned on this thread. 

Satan/Devil knows the bible too and will use it against you.  Be careful.

Hmm.

kokoye:
OH oH oh

you don messed around again and got yourself banned!

wat u do this time boo . . .again??

who did you curse out??

Why does it have to be me?!!! You make me sick. I am innocent! (looking at the moderators)

OP

Cheating is bad.

kokoye:
who's this? _{is it who I think it is?}

Who else calls you suga on NL?

Why do some people write books before getting to the point and still haven't gotten to the point?

kokoye:
This poster don cheat o.

Guess what, it is your gender that will first call you ashawo.

Hey suga.