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The man is crazy. How about all other things that are open??
OPEN THE SCHOOLS!!!

My question is, what if your soulmate is some person in a Chinese village??

(I know this is very long. Feel free to read only the bolded)
So, do u believe there is such a thing as soulmate?
If so, how confident are you you’ll find yours or have found yours?
Me? Honestly, I don’t know.
How accurate is this list?
Can “soulmate” be different from “destined life partner”?

by Lachlan Brown

According to Greek mythology, Zeus split the human body into two because he feared it was too powerful. Out of the one being came man and woman, separated by Zeus in order to prevent it from rising against the gods...

Finding your long lost soulmate isn’t easy, especially when there are 7 billion people on the Earth who could potentially be your other half...

Signs of soulmate connection: 37 signs you’ve found yours:

1) You Feel Safe Around Them
At the end of a busy day, there’s no other place you would rather be than with this person.
For some reason, a part of you just relaxes when you are around him or her.
All the anxieties, worries, and fear that you feel wash away when you are in their presence. When you feel like you’re having a bad day, you always know that going to them is going to pick up your mood.
You don’t even have to think twice: just thinking about being with them already gives you relief.
2) They Make You Feel Complete
There are parts of you that you never understood. Maybe it’s your hot temper or your awkward jokes or your horrible cooking.
Somehow, this person is able to do the things that you can’t, can feel things that you don’t precisely because you are made to complete each other.
You might be an extrovert and the other person might be an introvert. The point is, you have individual differences that, when combined, creates a complete person.
These differences don’t tear you apart. Instead, it brings you closer to each other. You make each other a better person by balancing each other’s strengths and weaknesses.
3) You Forgive Each Other
Being soulmates doesn’t save you from fights. In fact, you might be more susceptible to fights because of your opposite nature.
Despite this, you are able to fight calmly and talk through every problem that you have. And when it comes down to forgiveness, you would rather come to terms with a problem rather than hold each other guilty.
4) Their Happiness Is More Important
This is one of the important signs of a soulmate connection. Their happiness is your own. It doesn’t matter how many things you give up for the other person.
You feel incredibly compelled to make sure that their comforts come before yours. After all, loving someone is the most selfless act of all.
5) You Respect Each Other’s Differences
You might be soulmates but it doesn’t mean you’re going to agree on everything. The important thing is that your disputes on religion, culture, and ethics don’t affect the way you see each other.
You create an open environment for discussion. You allow each other to voice out their opinions without judgment.
6) You Respect Each Other’s Alone Time
Having time for yourselves is one of the most underrated elements in a relationship. Once in a while, the soul needs to be alone again without any stimulation.
When you tell your significant other that you would like to be alone, he or she respects it without any complaints.
It’s the same for you. Whenever your soulmate asks for alone time, you don’t feel the need to constantly check up on them. You trust this person with your whole heart and respect them enough to give them space.
7) You Share The Same Goals
Although having differences is healthy for any relationship, your fundamental attributes should still be the same.
You may not have the same belief about every single thing, but the tangible aspects of your lives should be quite similar.
Having similar goals connects the two of you together on a deeper level. You feel profound respect for the other person because you empathize with their goals in life.
Through this, you create a strong web of connection and support for each other.
[8] You Complement Each Other’s Flaws
Honoring your differences is one thing, complementing them is another. You can honor the views of your friends and family, but you can’t really change who they are.
Both of you recognize individual flaws, and work together to make each other better.
Your attitude is inclusive rather than accusing. When you fight, you identify weak points in their character and find ways to help them become a better person.
9) You Know What They’re Thinking
Do you ever get those moments when you’re almost telepathic? Like when someone says something odd and you already know that they’re looking at you.
Aside from inside jokes, telepathy refers to your ability to understand what they’re thinking. They don’t have to tell you what they think because you already know.
More often than not, you complete each other’s sentences because you just know how their brain thinks.
10) You Deeply Empathize With Each Other
You feel everything that they feel on a personal level. If they tell you about a job promotion, you feel equally excited as them. This is the beauty of a soulmate connection.
When they say they’re afraid, you find yourself watching out after them, wanting to protect them from the world.
More importantly, your empathy is limitless. Let’s face it, we get tired of people. We get tired of being understanding and friendly.
Compassion just runs out from time to time. With your special someone, you never have to force out empathy. It comes naturally to you, and vice-versa.
11) You Feel it in Your Gut
Without question, you know that this is the person for you. You don’t look at anyone else, and you don’t want to. They are enough. You know it’s meant to be, like a red string of fate.
No matter where you are or what you are doing, you both agree that things are just better when the two of you are together. You don’t exactly know why. It’s just a feeling.
So if you find that things suddenly seem intuivetely “right” when they are around, you might be in the presence of your soulmate.
12) You Keep Bumping into This Person
If you aren’t already together, you keep finding yourself at the same parties, events, and even coffee shops.
Conversation is electric and you feel amazing when you walk away from one another.
13) The Timing Feels Right
Whether you are already together or not, you feel it in your bones that this is the time in your life when you are going to find your soulmate.
The stars feel like they are aligning in your favour and you are ready to receive your gift!
14) Everything Feels Right With the World
You don’t question the good or the bad and you are content with how things are.
That’s how you know that you have found your soulmate: when you don’t want them to be anyone else other than who they were meant to be.
15) You Feel Like They Get You.
Regardless of your mental state, you feel like this person really understands what you are about and what you value the most. They support you through thick and thin and know that what you are doing is important to you.
16) You Get the Feeling They Have Been Around a lot Longer Than They Have.
An interesting thing that happens to soulmates is that they always get the feeling that they have been around each other before.
One or both of you will comment that you feel like you’ve known each other forever.
You’ll laugh at how you didn’t know what to do without them and you might even have some flashbacks of lives you entered into together previously.
17) You Are There to Help Each Other
You can not only see yourself in one another’s shoes, but you feel like you’ve been there yourself.
You get one another and understand that there are going to be hard times, but you are there to help each other through it.
18) You Accept Their Flaws Without Question
Everyone has flaws, but not everyone accepts or acknowledges those flaws. You are very aware of your own flaws, as well as your soulmate’s, and you love them just the same. Maybe you love them even more because it is the flaws that make us unique and truly human.
19) You Support Their Goals
Whether they want to be an Olympic runner or carpenter, you are there cheering them on and they do the same for you.
Not every person grows up dreaming of marrying a doctor or a lawyer – there are plenty of gifts people have to share with the world and you want your soulmate to do just that.
20) They Understand Where You’re at in Life 
Whether you are flying high or riding low, your soulmate gets where you are in life.
They never try to get you out of a funk because they know how important it is to just support you at whatever point you are in life.
They never try to steal your thunder when you are riding high because they know that you deserve to feel like that and they share in that joy with you.
Whether you are near or far, your soulmate gets what you are about and doesn’t try to change that about you.
21) You Love Them as a Whole Person.
You’ll know you’ve found your soulmate when you accept a person as who they really are and don’t try to change anything about them.
Loving someone, or even liking them a lot is about giving them the space to be themselves.
If you are perfectly happy with their flaws and their awesomeness, you have found your soulmate.
22) You Don’t Feel Threatened by Tough Conversations
Even when the going gets tough, you don’t worry that it signifies a breakdown in the relationship.
Because you are comfortable with one another, you trust that everything being said is important and necessary.
23) You Can Be Intense With Each Other 
Whether you are agreeing on a hot topic or are fighting to the bitter end about something that you believe in, you’ll find that conversations and even interactions with your soulmate are intense all of the time.
This can be intimidating and exhausting for a lot of people who are not used to that kind of interaction.
If you find yourself becoming flabbergasted with someone, it might not be because you dislike them, but because you are intensely connected to them and they could be your soulmate.
24) You Respect One Another’s Need for Alone Time
It can be hard to tell someone you love that you want time away, but if you are soulmates, they’ll get it. They’ll even be glad to have some alone time for themselves, as well.
25) You Don’t Care if Others Want Them
You don’t get jealous because you know that soulmates are meant to be together. While others may come around, your guy or gal is true to you no matter what.
26) You Can Voice Your Opinion
You can tell them that shirt is ugly and they won’t get offended. And they can tell you the same. That’s pretty powerful.
Perhaps you can spend the afternoon buying not-ugly shirts together!
27) It Always Feels Like You Against the World
No matter what the two of you are up to, you feel comfortable going forward because you know that you have each other’s backs. Whether you are applying for a job or you are paying down debt, your soulmate will get all of it and be there to support you.
You’ll never feel alone again when you have your soulmate by your side.
28) You Don’t Threaten One Another
You never make them feel small or insignificant in your life. You never talk about breaking up or divorce.
There’s no need to belittle the relationship that way when you are soulmates.
29) Making Each Other Happy is Enough
You don’t need anything from them except to let them love you. You are happy to love them up close or far away.
30) You Never Question Your Security.
You know that no matter where you are and what you are doing your soulmate will be with you.
A phone call from afar or standing by your side, your soulmate will go to great lengths to remind you that you are worth whatever it is you desire and will help you find your way to it and protect you all along the way.
31) You Don’t Remember What Things Were Like Before
It’s hard for soulmates to tell stories from “before” they found each other. In your mind, you’ve always been together.
It’s like parents who have children remembering events before children were born: “who had the kids that night we drank so much and passed out on the floor?”
Oh, nobody. The kids weren’t born. It’s like that with soulmates, too. There is no before.
32) You Listen and So Do They.
You’ll know you found your soulmate when the person in front of you listens with all their heart and all their head and knows just the right thing to say and do.
A kind word, or no words at all, your soulmate will know when and how to fill the void to make you feel safe and loved.
33) You Think About Each Other A Lot 
Soulmates often recount that they knew this relationship was special because they constantly thought about one another and wanted to be together even when they were angry or upset.
34) You Know When it’s Time to Pull Out the Apology
You don’t let pride get in the way of moving the relationship forward. You know when it’s time to say you are sorry and they do too.
35) You’d Do it All Over Again
If you had to do it all over again the same way, you would make the journey together.
36) You Feel Like You Were Meant to Share Your Life With One Another
You don’t doubt that this is the person for you.
37) Your Partner Takes All Your Stress Away
At the end of the day, no matter how bad it was, you can always come home to a safe and loving partner who is going to support you in whatever you need.
That’s how you know you’ve found your soulmate: when they are home to you.

louiziana:
Sorry who proved it? I used to bleep my ex like 4 times in a day. And I know that millions of sperm-cells are being produced in the testes within a couple of hours.

Now u know why u haven’t achieved shishi

akaahs:
Hmmmmmm, I'm currently what U went through. In my case, my fiancee is a virgin while I'm not.
Is a no sex relationship, we discssing earlier about sex and asked her what if she can't satisfy me sexually. D answer she gave me shocked me; that I can always go get outside. Me that has vow not to indulge in extra marital affairs oo.
Honestly, I'm reconsidering her.

One, she doesn’t love u. Two, this is the type of mindset most men would love

Dididrumz:
But we are told as christians not to indulge in sex before marriage.

What do we do about that??
Talking to your intended spouse alone does not guarantee sexual compatibility.

U manage it. Your life should not be about sex

4ckz:
Yes, you will loose so much energy, and your days would be full of laxity.

I have experienced this after having some marathon sessions through the night, it was rapidly followed by few days of unproductivity.

Cumming depletes a man - scientifically proven, no doubt about it. A woman who insists u constantly cum in her is not doing u any favors

4ckz:
Now that's something. Could still be a great deal of problem though.

Of course it is. Do u realize how much constant cumming depletes a man??

4ckz:
Some people had this mindset, got married yet faced the same problem.
Don't you know that most women do not deprive their guys of sex during courtship, yet the same women change after marriage.

Some people actually experience the opposite - once married she wants sex all the time!

Their totalitarian govt will soon sponsor an article full of lies to whitewash this

DuwaRepublic:
Wazobia if you’re a minority, you understand one if not all 3.

I am in minority and I don’t understand any of them. But as all Nigerians understand broken, maybe we have a broken name - like ”Wedeykamkwe”. Just suggestion.
Mr. Lalasticlala may I respectfully suggest this is good front page material. Let’s brainstorm together and come up with better name for our dear country

faithfull18:
Nobody wants to hear or be told the truth anymore.

Meaning?

GOFRONT:
Na dem sabi....

Friendly reminder. I know it is easy to forget u even have a signature. Check your signature. Use that space for something meaningful

tayewomi:
Guys wish me well it's my birthday,i rep June 28,it speaks all about me and my twin sister

No vex, I don’t give hbd anyhow. First tell me what u and your twin sister have accomplished or produced and I’ll now calculate if u deserve my hbd

WonderManly:
Tah, my own ifa no be fake jor!

Ifa is ALWAYS fake - sleight of hand, magic trick

gartamanta:
You can change the name 50 times if you want, but what is doomed to fail, is doomed to fail

Well, it will take a while b4 the world catch on that it is same old Nigeria with different name . By then we’d launder our image

9jathingsonpoint:
wazobia

Dead on arrival. How about us who don’t belong to any of those tribes

[quote author=WonderManly post=91130019][/quote]Ask Ifa? Even Lalasticlala knows Ifa is fake!

Let’s face it, the name “Nigeria” has not brought us any good luck. Not only that, thanks to our erudite Yahoo boys and BEC artists, the name “Nigeria” scares businessmen worldwide.
So would you suggest we change our name? What name would you suggest?
Personally I think we should immediately change our name to Songhai (in honor of the great Songhai Empire of West Africa).

Judah95:
His turn is near

Not necessarily. Sometimes they get away with it forever. Some people are kings and even “gods” today simply because their forefathers got away with great crimes and atrocities

Behind every unexplained fortune there is a crime.
We all know Dino is a criminal that simply was never caught!

darediamond:
You keep exposing yourself.
Not all women are Golddiggers.
Not at WoMEN sees the Manness in there gender name as Nothing.
Real Women sit tight and work hard and smart to Make there own money to spend on any befitting Man.

Do not be Lazy Girl.

Make your own money all u like, u still would rather marry a rich guy, hypocrite

KingAzubuike:
Grow up from your superstitious beliefs. It's not possible to steal anybody's destiny. It's the same mentality that makes you believe you can conjure money out of thin air by doing ritual. That girl right there might be suffering from a mental disorder . Sometimes I don't blame the white men for calling you monkeys.

Aswear, there are no more mad people in Nigeria like they used to have

nickvanilla:
You're just a troll and I won't bother to dignify your stupidity with an answer to that question. Now get off my mention!

All the man contributes is money, yet u people begrudge contributing even that!

Alore:
True that some turn out well in life, but not "consistently". I'll say Nigeria enjoys communal living. Even if there's a child being raised by a single parent, the extended family usually cover-up the lapses as we believe that children may be born by two people, but that it takes a community to raise him.

If you take time to ask or research, the fact is that most delinquent kids roaming the streets are either from homes of single parents or a polygamous homes.

Actually my comment is from direct observation. I have so many instances where the children from one parent family do better than children with both parents. How come communal living doesn’t help those children??

Eulalia:
That is the main thing before every every .

Badt girl

isthatso:
Since when does tha government have to seek approval from National Assembly to reopen schools?

My EXACT thought too.
This is truly one funny country!

LET’S FRY SEMOVITA!!!
@ poster above, doing well my foot

Alore:
And you don't think of what becomes of those babies with single parenting?

Parenting is designed to be a responsibility of both mother and father living together in a family unit. Anything outside this means a sort of defective family upbringing, unless the single parent work extremely hard to cover up for the other missing roles.

People of this generation do a great disservice to the next generation they bequeath this "Baby Mama" or "Papa Mama" nonsense to.

You’d seem to have a point, except that in Nigeria those raised by single parents somehow consistently turn out more successful. I always wonder why that is.

nickvanilla:
This woman is wicked, selfish and unfit for marriage. Marriage is meant to be a union where people COMPLEMENT & COMPLETE each other IN EVERY WAY. All these self-centerdness is what makes people depressed and feel trapped in marriage. Make God keep us from these kind of partners. Tufiakwa!

The woman is neither wicked nor selfish. She bears the man’s children, mothers them, gives him sex. What exactly does the man contribute??

darediamond:
You have already exposed yourself. You are better change before you become member of "leave me, MAN NA MAN" group!

Hypocrite. As if u don’t want to marry a rich man