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Funjosh:
Make una break down all these terminologies na

I tell you...

Having headache already. I don't know why my mind is finding it difficult to process the whole stuff.

Now the whole world is going to be dialing that number...frustrating the owner to get another line or decide not to help the guy again...blocking ways for others as well.

But again, isn't that a private message or was it culled from the wall?

People sha. Always doing right things wrongly.

As dry as Gibeonites' bread

Funjosh:

Thank you for your kind words.

@delightful1, I think it has come to a point where we have to consider chemo. Too late to fly him out.

emmysexxy:
Good evening room.I was banned reasons for telling what I know.I wonder why I was unbanned again.I have been receiving texts from ppl on my mail insulting me and my family well its all good.God knows and see all things.dj I believe your miracle is on d way.ho ever suggested they unbann me thanks.cause d whole of today I felt like a lepper.I guess I won't be a problem anymore

Awww. Sorry dear. Amen to that prayer.

@chidyhels, I think it's on the first page of this thread. Hamed Adelodun.

Oh no...


Really sad. Damn!

Idowuogbo:
Caracta,the cancer don spread na...moving dj to india is out of it IMO.

I think it's U.S. So we just leave him? Chemotherapy?

This doesn't sound good at all. Chai!

Lagunna:
here it is..

http://www.oasisofhope.com/stage4_cancer.php

Thanks. We need to act fast. God bless. This is more serious than I thought but there is still hope.

@jaybee3, you can check out the link as well. Oasis of Hope.

cococandy:
ha pls don't go that angle. Spiri Kini?

Lol. Don't mind me jor. Just confused.

Hmmm.

Aisha2 has explained well. Errrm...but we still need to know. Why are they not comfortable with laparotomy? Is it the cost or is it deadly seeing he is in stage 4?

Aisha2 or doctors in the house, what can you say about chemotherapy? That seems to be another option we have.

Una sure say no be spiritual + medical matter be this?

Alutacontinua raised valid questions.

aisha2:
Even if it's one percent chance of survival I am ready to put my money in it. I will sleep better at night knowing I did my best for this brother instead of putting my hand on my head and saying its over for him

I'm with you on this. I don't think it's impossible.

I know chances are slim but I believe when there is life, there is hope.

shinejackie:
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l guess that seems to be the best treatment to place him on now to stabilize him...but l don't know if there are other alternative treatment medically speaking apart from the chemo treatment...Medics in the house will know better..

True that. I've heard some stories about chemo. It's like it's just to keep a patient in good condition for a short time. Don't know much though.

Some serious ish mehn...

shinejackie:
l thought the India hospital required about $42,000 dollars which is about 8million naira @200 naira exchange rate, that should be a guide to what we should be expecting, from the look of things we might spend around that range of 8million or more.....

That was for kidney transplant...i guess.

Now we are working with cancer (stage 4).

So we need to sure it won't be more than that.

Also, we need to know hospitals we can take him to and contact them.

We need an estimate. Roughly how much do we need? How much do we have left? How much have we spent?

At least let's get the ball rolling. We know it's stage 4 cancer except NY says otherwise. Better safe than sorry. Let's assume the worst and go for alternatives. I'm not too comfortable with chemotherapy.

Tehn please, how long will it take to get all the results together? Just an estimate maybe.

taryour:
SWEETHEART please come give me a hug. You are filled with intelligence and I don't regret knowing you or doing business with you. God bless you REAL BIG.

God bless TEHN, God bless Nairaland. God bless Djdola.

Thank you ma. God bless you too.

@jaybee3, let's look at the flying him abroad option while we wait for other results. Is funding the only problem with that? Do we have an estimate of how much we need to have? With the reports sent to India, is chemotherapy the only available option? Can we contact more than one hospital with the new result we have since we have been working with wrong diagnosis(?) all along? Babyosisi and the other doctors can help with this or even some of us.

I just don't want us to wait. Let's have a back up plan.

Is funding the only problem here?

@kimoni, apology accepted?



Yes let's move forward.


@jaybee, what's the plan for DJ while we wait for NY? I also second nnamdibig's question.

@emmysexxy, I got your mail and I've done the needful.

I appreciate. Thanks a lot. God bless.

Lol...ok I accept my fault, mistakes, etc.

I shall watch carefully my choice of words in order not to affect the real cause.

Apologies if it went personal or a bit off cause. I need not explain further but I wasn't devaluing anybody's effort. Without the input of everyone, we won't be here today. I get misunderstood a lot but I also accept mistakes.

I didn't consider the scenario opening closed wound but I used it to hammer a point. Now that you mention it, I see where the fault is.

Kimoni, thank you for mentioning that. I am really sorry. That wasn't my intention. I respect every effort. And like I said, it's not about the team. I hope you accept my apology.

Gboliwe, no, far from it. But now that you mentioned it, I have to adjust and not use self-righteous words. What did I even do in all of these compared to what everyone did and is doing? Can I quantify the prayers, love, support, materials, time, etc. spent by people here? I'm sorry it appeared the way it is. Forgive me, it wasn't intentional.

olu4life:
Well done Caracta for the discouraging words. Sorry to draw u back.What do u mean by some prefer to be typing than to be on ground? And what do u mean by a particular team that moved DJ? Pls clarify that part cos to me,u just rubbished all d efforts we did. As if we are here to play

Sorry if you find it offensive. That wasn't my intention.

Just trying to hammer on the fact that it's easier said than done. And like I said, we have all made mistakes at one point or the other. We just need to learn and do things better henceforth.

It's nothing personal. We worked based on the info we had. Just like any other person would have done. It's not about the team.

You feel discouraged? Trust me, you are not the only one. We just have to forge ahead because we haven't achieved our goal.

Clarified?

Oh...i see. A misunderstanding of the ME part. Simple explanation would have done the trick.

I apologize for misunderstanding the post.

@gboliwe

Gboliwe:
Caracta, it will do you great good if you don't mention my handle again or take a swipe, howbeit, innocently at me. You have been poking me for a while now and I thought ignoring you will make you respect yourself but obviously, you want trouble.

Please, I beg you, do NOT mention Gboliwe again in good or in bad as regards this thread.

Thank you and happy sunday.

No ma'am, I'll always mention you whenever there is a need to. The choice to respond or make trouble is yours.

Thank you and happy Sunday

@colossus2, thanks a lot. I'll make corrections where necessary. I also quite agree. There was no update for a long time. Quite annoying.

TEHN please, even if there is no definite result or while you are waiting for a hospital or doctor, please update the thread. Let us know where you are at every point in time. At least every week or every 5 days, let there be an update if possible. Just something from you about DJ. Please let us always know what we are waiting for.

Thanks guys.

Busybody2:
We are talking "life", people are talking "feelings" and "hormones"...it is well...this world is a temporary phase and rite of passage for ALL anyway...it is indeed well with our mortal souls as the Lord has taught us to say...

Amen sister

Busybody2:
After posting "MOVING ON", you came back to post "this"

Over to you God

Yes I had to. Quite necessary. It won't stop me from moving on.

Thanks for pointing that out.

Again...moving on...

Finally, a house divided against itself cannot stand. We have two factions already (if I'm right).

Both factions should learn constructive criticism. If your suggestion was ignored, find out the reason behind that and don't just sit back and attack. You are only drawing us back.

If one plan isn't working, find out why and suggest other alternatives or better methods.

Your e-fights, attacks and subtle insults won't help this cause.

We have all made mistakes. We could have done some things better. We could have made some decisions. We could have been too hard or too soft. We could have made more calls or less calls. We could have used this hospital or that hospital. Quite normal. Because we are humans.


Next time you want to fight, just imagine that guy on the bed...helpless, staring at you and wondering why you had to fight rather than help him fight the cancer.

@emmysexxy, I don't know if you saw DJ last year especially with the bloated stomach. I don't know if you physically saw the initial shape he was in. Nobody would see him and not feel for him. Maybe you saw him for the first time and thus the surprise. I don't know what you saw or what prompted whatever you said.

I've sent 4 mails with no reply from you.

I don't know the info you are holding back.

If you are right, you don't need to be intimidated by anyone here. But every word on sensitive issues should be laced with wisdom. And no, it wasn't what you said that prompted the update...contrary to what many believe in.

You probably don't know the damage you have done already. Whatever rocks your boat. We can go on and on about what you said and how you could have said it...but it doesn't matter now.

You are a medical student yet you made such statement. Tomorrow is monday. You promised to visit and give us updates. Please don't forget to visit your neighbour, talk to his doctors, and if it's not against the ethics of your profession, give us updates. You seem to be the messiah many would prefer to hear from. So please do the needful. Thanks sweetheart.

@mynd44, don't be discouraged. It happens. It's expected. I felt that way too at a point. It takes one that faces the REAL situation to understand.

Gboliwe even mentioned that everyone has failed except her. Still waiting for her success story. Perhaps she can come over here to be at his bed side everyday and attend to his needs and demands. Since we have failed, why not just let the successful ones take over?

The only reason I'm still here is because TEHN is involved and I was one of those that called for them. I'm more comfortable with my offline role. And like I told DJ himself, I'll always stand by him. I remember when we wanted to move him from Eruwa, a team was set up and everyone was posting and mentioning a particular hospital. Even the team members were all clamouring for this hospital suggested by a Nairalander who claimed he had gone there and made arrangements. We set up an ambulance and just before the trip, I had this urge to call the hospital and be double sure. I called and they told me no space.

And I asked myself, what if I didn't call?We would have moved a patient in ambulance to a hospital and get turned back. So we had to start looking for hospital all over Lagos again. Funny. See, it's easy for people to type away and pass blames.

I am not even discouraged...just wish some people could be on ground and see things for themselves.

All in all...moving on.