₦airaland Forum

Be a pillar of support to him.encourage him,stand by him.try to help him forget his troubles.this is just a mood swing.he would get over it in no time.pls,whatever u do,never ever report him to anybody,his Ego would take a hit and he would hate u for that.Don't bring any third party into ur marital issues...he wasn't always like this;thank God u know d source of d problem.moreover,stop telling us u can't talk to ur husband or that he doesn't want to listen to u.we don't know him as much as u do.u should know d best time to talk to him and get a favourable response.

Onyegecha: That is a lie. The pressure is built into them by the menfolk through the socialization techniques they carefully created to keep women's psyche tied to men. I am glad some women are waking up to reality. Yes, if it's not working, quit. If you don't find someone you are very very very comfortable with, don't get into marriage. Do not marry for better or for worse. The moment love leaves the marriage, the woman should be wise enough to follow suit.

This is pathetic,especially coming from a woman.I wonder how many people would still remain married if they all took ur advice;why not take a cue from ur own mother.A woman is the home builder.if everyone gave up at the slightest sign of difficulty,just imagine what d world would be like.If Thomas Edison had taken d cowardly approach of throwing in the towel,we would not have d incandescent bulb today;same with all d great inventors and innovators.am even more surprised that some girls were liking ur post.Pls,marriage is not Bf/Gf...do away with ur ego and pride!!!

honeric01: A COUNTRY WITH 50% MUSLIMS, 40% CHTISTIANS ARE LAUGHING THAT SOME SET OF DIABOLICAL PEOPLE ARE AGAINST A PARTICULAR CANDIDATE?

I have always known it that Nigeria is a demonic country where evil rules and the people stylishly support evil doers.

CALAMITY WON"T STOP BEFALLING THIS COUNTRY AS LONG AS PEOPLE KEEP SUPPORTING ANYTHING THE KINGDPM OF DARKNESS IS SUPPORTING!

The witches and wizards are supporting Jonathan, yet foolish people expect a better life under him? When has witches/wizards ever supported of good things?

abeg,tell us where u got ur stats from

This is not their domain;the journalist should've asked him questions pertaining to their nefarious activities...what are they doing about corpses found with missing body parts?what are they doing about kidnapping?he claimed they've looked into Naija's future,why can't they look into the future of d kidnappers inorder to ascertain their hideouts?the same goes for armed-robbers...The bottomline of all this is that the oyinbo witches and wizards are helping them advance in science and technology and in other spheres of human development while our witches and wizards are only interested in sucking peoples blood,killing them before their time,hindering an individuals progress,ritual killing,fortifying thieves(robbers and politicians)with charms etc..infact,they're now masters in carrying out all sorts of abominable acts and general wickedness..they should all be arrested!mtcsheeeewww

pro01: Smh. How can they be blessed with so much and yet fail to enjoy the abundance God endowed them with? They should take lessons on how to "live in the richness and fullness of Christ's blessings" from Nigerian billionaires pastors such as Ole-depo and Adeb-ole.

waoh!!!insulting people who have impacted their generation positivelyI hope u feel better now.may God help u.

On the contrary,I think ur expectations are quite low get thineself to Deeperlife and all thine expectation shall be met Ãήϑ much more ..u can thank me later!

Una see am!!!this is one of the reasons why our ancestors married more than one wife..when one starts misbehaving u switch attention to the next one...when d boredom and hormones have gone dia full cycle she starts showering u with attention then u revert back to her...

Chief Mrs: I don't believe she' cheating. She' just probably no more into u. Work on urself and spice it up. U men like ritualistic sex, same old position, time etc and u men could be very greedy with your sexual demands. It happens in so many marriages I know.

why must d man be d one to do everthing?will d heavens fall if d wife takes charge Ãήϑ initiate things to spice up dia love life?how about communicating better with her husband?honey,I like it dis way;I get turned on when u touch me here and here;hold me like dis etc why are most naija women like dis?they wait for u to initiate d conversation,ask them out,initiate kissin,cuddlin and the rest...always receiving and neva giving!even for things that they enjoy,they would still wait for d man to initiate it...mtchheeeww

I don't think any guy would be mad when his girl does nos 2.d problem is dat our naija girls are wired from birth to be receivers and not givers,although there are exceptions to dis..

Ok...we don hear!!!

ROTFLMAO...dis is so true!

I don't understand why most female bankers in naija are unnecessarily disrespectful and saucy!

Lolz...his baby? yet he doesn't want to gant them amnesty?...puhleeeeeze,some people need to stop reasoning from their anus!!!!

Gifted_hands: Trust me, i ve started for long and dis writeups has made me knw more.

Good for u.pls,also endeavour to enlighten ur fellow girls cos it will do them a lot of good.

This is one brilliant piece...I wonder when girls between the ages of 18-22 would start reasoning like this.

Inasmuch as we try to disprove this or ridicule it,the fact still remains that IT IS TRUE!some people are a fragrance while some are an odour.

Na wao!!!na exam be dis?abeg summarize dis ur biography... by the way,stop listening to too many people.All dis advice being peddled ur way is wrecking havoc on ur sense of discernement.

Kosigift: Lmao! Perfect answer to a perfect deranged he-goat.

so he's now a "perfect deranged he-goat" for asking a girl he loves to marry himnothing wey person no go see for dis nairaland...mmttcchheeeeww

Kosigift: Lmao! Perfect answer to a perfect deranged he-goat.

so he's now a "perfect deranged he-goat" for asking a girl he loves to marry himnothing wey person no go see for dis nairaland...mmttcchheeeeww

Bootylicious: hehehe its only because ure guys, we ladies know it works

hope it would be ok if he does the same thing to u?moreover,its usually girls who still want to play around that act that way...

Why not!am not selfish,it's just sharing...I will still have her back.but,if na my wife,no just try am with me cos na cutlass I go use pursue u

Bootylicious: Thanks Uche, I am not saying ladies should cheat, but need to give men some space , let the guy know you have other male friends you can always turn to ,this will make guys jealous and also know there is another man ready to take his position if he doesn't buckle .Thanks and i am glad you like my threads

lolz...this one is recipe for disaster.This approach would always backfire;ask those who tried it...it neva works,especially when the guy is trying to get serious with you.

@op...there's no correlation whatsoever between your number two point and the subsequent explanation that followed

If you are not already a banker or working in either of the two banks please reserve your comment to avoid misleading the young man...

Pataki: Can you blame the Igbos? They have no rational independent mind of their own. They are far worse off than the Hausas.

Shine the 'ego' in their eyes....and they become imbec-iles for destruction.

Another prejudiced Bigot on the loose...Get thee behind me;Anumanu

The prevalence of all these lists is the reason why relationships are breaking up at the slightest challenge that couples encounter.u can never know an individual completely.this thing is not rocket science,please,let's do away with all this formulars and preconceived notions that are only half-truths at best.

*brings out pen Ãήϑ paper**.honestly,I couldn't see any reasonable phrase or sentence to jot down.maybe u need to jot down this invaluable words from my father:"Never let any girl/lady make u bitter towards the womenfolk.do u know who loses at the end of it?your guess is as good as mine;you of course...and while u're at it,also note that they're all different,and no two relationships are the same.u committed fallacy of hasty generalization by using the term "women"instead of "my girlfriend(s)...as if that was not enough,u still went ahead to commit fallacy of irrelevant conclusion,cos there is no similarity whatsoever between women and bookies!!!abeg,make I log out before I go late for work...

This is the reason why I don't advocate marriage for kids and boys ...they hardly know their left from their right!!!

fonssy: Continue to assist her untill she finds another man to marry. Please don't marry her.

can't u people be realistic?to find another man she has to re-package herself Ãήϑ start going out frequently rather than staying with her kids indoors.with all d competition from younger single ladies,where exactly is she going to find d man?by the way,which one of u ladies would advice her brother to marry dis woman with her five kids Ãήϑ shoulder d responsibities dat comes with it?if d entire world practiced monogamy what do u think would happen to d surplus unmarried girls?its high time we started reviewing dis monogamy thing...

Reading some of the posts here I couldn't help but feel pity for women...for GAWDs sake dis woman needs a man.christianity needs to come up with solution to issues like dis...our society is making life too tough for widows.Just because she has five kids doesn't negate d fact dat she needs intimacy.I agree with maclatunji Ãήϑ mus2sa...

Very good responses from nairalanders...but u all are shying away from d major issue at hand;she is human,HOW IS SHE GOING TO SATISFY HER INTIMACY URGE...dat desire to cuddle up to man,d warm feelings of his arms around her.she is not yet 70,Ãήϑ I hear d urge increases in women between dia late thirties Ãήϑ early fourties,usually during menopause...what if she has very high libido??