₦airaland Forum

torkaka:
. . . . . . . . please clarify, what's backward about the statement?

SkyBlue1:
I don't expect him to spend his whole energy fighting corruption but expect a pro development agenda as well, that is why you have ministers. Besides, it would shock you what setting the right tone can achieve. He has not even gotten into power yet but he is already fighting corruption. People are fleeing the country and NNPC and others are refunding money. Why? Because he has set the tone. When you think there would be no consequences for your action, things carry on the way they have for the past 5 years - Jonathan was very much pro corruption, that was the tone HE set.

IsraeliAirPilot:
It is clear you have never been to the UK before. You are really embarrassing yourself- not nice.

Lala247:
Nice outfit

centjamie:
Case studies are not even far,they are not hard to find, as our day to day activities are testament enough to prove the validity of points raised here in support of this thread.

There must be divergent views to issues,especially one of this nature.but in my humble opinion,i think the only people who will be against this thread are the ladies and guys who have always had enough money to throw around.

Of course,there are few exceptional cases where a lady sincerely sticks to a guy out of love irrespective of his poor financial condition.but the fact that people see such LADY as a rare being from a different PLANET is testament enough that the Op(this thread) and everybody who writes in support of this thread are actually correct?

ronald4lif:
Thanks man. For us it's about addressing issues and we're open to constructive counter points to fault ours. Simple.

ronald4lif:
Yes. But the question is how sensible it is for a guy who doesn't have much money to be footing the bills of his girlfriend monthly hair, outings, gifts etc. Is it wise for a student guy who for instance receives less than 30k monthly from his sponsors to fund most of his girlfriend's responsibilities?. When there's a great possibility she might dump his ass if someone who's better off comes her way?. It's not like guys shouldn't have a relationship when they are still struggling, no it's a necessary evil but still an unwise decision.

While it is advisable one should have a girlfriend while they are not financially buoyant so they can be sure her intentions are genuine when money sets in, but in a case where a guy was the one footing a lot of her essential needs when he was still managing his student allowance her intentions can't be said to be genuine and it's questionable. She was still there for the money during those period when her (financial) benefits were meagre. Only difference is that his situation changes for the better with more money and of course she will still stick around.

I think a real wealthy man, who knows how to treat a woman right, romantic and all is capable of making his wife grow to love him even if she's there for the money. Once one have the money and know how to treat a woman their least of concerns will be to make her love you. Splash the money and be romantic bro love will grow by force.

Abagworo:
Only one American warship will chase them out of the water.

precisionindepth:
wen u talk abt D's side of life, also tk d pain to talk abt d other side. let's take all form bias out and tackle and real issue.
men too marry for very wrong reasons. until we all.... BT sexes...look deep and marry our partner cos we respect and understand, then can things b a little normal...let all take D's issue of love out and choose to marry one we can respect and treat like a queen and king respectively

Toks2008:
I can tell you categorically that it is an endemic issue peculiar with many Nigerian ladies and it boils down to the economy factor.

Trust me, no matter how cute you are or how caring you can be,a typical Nigerian lady will prefer a wealthy jerk to a broke decent guy and i am talking from years of experience.


It is in Nigeria that you wil see a lady juxtaposing her being with a man with the type of job or business he does.
Tell a Nigerian lady you are a bar tender and you would like to date her and see her response but outside Nigeria, these ladies will hardly ask you "what you do for a living"

In Benin rep or Togo, a marriage can be organized with as little as 50k and these ladies are young,decent,humble and as hot as you can think with zero affinity for money and honestly i can continue to enumerate the decadence with most Nigerian ladies who can not weather a storm with their men but would love to experience bliss all through and those who ever agrees to date you when you have nothing does so only with hope that you make it big soonest and many will not hesitate to leave you if they do not see improvements as at when they expect.

Yes there are some Nigerian ladies who give no damn about guys money but i hope i find those.

precisionindepth:
hummmm, I really disagree. men tend to feel wat some women want most is money but men believe women shd b deir slaves as if marriage is a master- slave relationship

Toks2008:
Yes i agree, that is why im considering taking a new wife from Benin rep,Togo or Ghana or any country outside Nigeria where their ladies will love you for you and unconditionally not because of what you can offer. Countries where being wealthy as a man is only a plus and never a criterion for loving a man.

I am so scared of Nigerian ladies.

Toks2008:
Honestly if you are in my shoes, you will be tired of this creatures called women after spending 12 years of your life wasting it with one. I will remarry when i find another one to risk my lifetime with.

Toks2008:
Honestly if you are in my shoes, you will be tired of this creatures called women after spending 12 years of your life wasting it with one. I will remarry when i find another one to risk my lifetime with.

Toks2008:
Unfortunately you can never decipher the one who has ulterior motives from the onset so the best bet is to treat her right and expect the unimaginable and if at the end you grow old with her without crazy issues, good for you and if not, you are already psychologically prepared so it will not bother you as such.

precisionindepth:
what about men too? some men r wicked too in fact extremely wicked

Florblu:
Bro,u are getting it wrong,but to avoid unnecessary repetition,I rest my case!

Toks2008:
Thanks bro but the saddest side to it is that no matter how hard you try, when it comes to a woman who i strongly consider as the first wonder of the world, you can never ever be too careful in choosing them because every woman is like a black market that has the tendency to give you unpleasant surprise(s) no matter how careful you are in choosing them or how excellently you treat them.

This has made me draw up this conclusion that in order to be happy with a lady, all you need do is Love your lady with so much passion,lavish her with gifts,treat her like a queen,don't ever raise your hand to beat her or insult her in anyway

Listen to her when she wants to be heard and shower her with lots of accolades,give her undivided attention and be very romantic towards her.
Respect her above others and dont cheat on her in anyway. Provide her needs and don't ever break her heart or make her cry.
Be extremely caring and pamper her in anyway imaginable.

But despite all these,expect the worst from her.

This in my candid opinion is the only way you can be happy with a woman.

Florblu:
I believe rich men are great men. so I wonder y a great man will decided to dine with fools and mediocres
men go for ladies that can secure them in a way.
Can u marry someone u know cannot bring any meaningful contribution to ur home?
Check d rich men we have and see wia dia wives dey help them.

Toks2008:
A billion likes.

You just nailed it.

people marry for the right reasons and a woman will be with who she wants to be with without any affiliation to the man's financial status and when i hear stories of how our mothers drank garri with their husbands before hitting it big, i really respect them but today if you are not made, forget it.

A typical lady will not mind leaving a man she loves deeply and who also loves her because he is not ready for the expenses of A MARRIAGE CEREMONY just to wind up in the hands of a man she has no love for simply because he is a money bag who is willing to close the whole street because of one day marriage ceremony.

In short, misplaced priorities is the sole reason why marriages break up these days.

My marriage broke up the day i saw single as marital status on the cv of my ex even when i taught she was happily legally married to me and please tell me what will make a married lady write single on her CV? I guess because she is looking for a job that will give her MONEY and anytime i imagine that episode,i tend to wonder how much can she possibly make in that job she is looking for that will make her deny her matrimony.

Too bad money has turned most of our precious ladies into slaves and object to be bought,used and dumped in the hands of men.

Florblu:
Oh!what makes someone Rich?Hardwork shey?
If u are rich will u give a lazy woman a second glance?
Iru eye ni eye woto(birds of a feather flocks together)
Oshiomole is hardworking (maybe in embezzlement of money) and he is rich,y didn't he go for one of those AAU girls some mentioned?
You didn't even know if d gal is a beauty with brain
Pls stop judging people by ur mere thought.

Florblu:
Who made u d judge?
Don't wanna d reason she agree to marry him
But marrying a rich man is not a crime

Florblu:
Those accusing d gal for marrying Oshiomole because of money,do u think a poor man can maintain and take care of a pretty lady?
Will u allow ur sis to marry a poor man?

JUNIT1:
This comment concludes any further discussion on this thread. On point!!

Rawani:
How exactly did he instigate their deaths? If Jonathan was not utterly clueless would he not have investigated the killings? Now a capable President is about to probe the needless loss of innocent lives yet all you are bothered about is convincing the thread that two wrongs make a right.

Ochiske:
This Ohanaeze of a group be acting up too much!
With all due respect to my Igbo brothers and Sisters, (I've got lots of Igbo friends so no human should quote me and talk shiiit ).

This Igbo group and their demands are too much
Always making noise everyday
Did they support Buhari in becoming president? NO! Yet they feel they should bw in charge of everything

All they keep on seeking is for their 'son(s) or daughter(s) to be in power forgetting that these same persons wont bring development to them one bit!!!!
A case scenerio is Abia state! They wont compel Orji to develop Abia but they'll seek recognition under a govt they NEVER supported!!!!!!!!

When their so called 'Azikiwe' brother was in charge, didnt he marginalize other tribes

What did he do for the Southwest? Nothing!
For 6years, my state, Cross River didnt receive any benefit from the Jonathan led Fg! All our federal roads are nothing to write home about! Yet we didnt threaten to secede out of Nigeria!

These Igbo's should please and please again SHUT UP!
Where them wan secede go? where will their international border be? Do they want to become a sovereign state inside another sovereign state?

Last I checked, the Igbo states are surrounded by The Ijaws, Ibibio's, Efiks and others! Abi them want follow force us inside them?

Bunch of Red cap money seeking old men