Seun please try and find out if this man has alternate monikers so he can be traced and caught. His known moniker is uduakabasiakpan.

This is why there are so many rape apologists on nairaland, these criminals are rapists and! Killers in real life.

Gender of rapists and armed robbers and kidnappers have gathered again on top women matter.

Why can't you people be gay in peace instead of whining about females constantly?

Cetacean419:

My father his Grandfather supported this idea that he could start up his practice, doing hustle with NGO's and also make money for Optometry and continue it as a family business.

I am curious, how is he going to hustle with NGOs in optometry? Please shed more light on this



My advice for your bro is to do optometry, if he can go abroad he will be paid better than in Nigeria just like physiotherapy.
And he can set up his own eye clinic, register with nhis or other private health insurance companies, get more patients and make more money.
Or he can work in government hospitals and get paid very well.
Optometrists don't dispense glasses alone. They give drugs and eyedrop and post surgical care of eyes and vision therapy and treat conditions like amblopia or cross eyes and treat basically every eye condition that doesn't need surgery.


Of course you need to do more research and your brother should only study the course he likes out of the two, he should do the one he has more passion for.
I wish him success in whatever path he finally chooses.

Hi all, please who knows how much radiologists or Optometrists or pharmacists in National hospital Abuja are paid? I need the info urgently thank you and God bless.

Good day, pls do you still sell ophthalmic equipment? If so do you have tonometer? What type do you have?

How much is your opthalmoscope and trial lens set?

See this is the unnecessary arrogance and superiority complex people complain that doctors have. SO MANY intelligent people from different professions have left Nigeria or are planning to leave but somehow doctors feel the world must stop when it comes to their case.

Biko look at those hundreds of people passing illegal route from Libya to Italy everyday they are trying to escape the hellhole called Nigeria. Many engineers and IT experts and nurses whose contributions would have been very valuable in this country are leaving for greener pastures and they don't make noise or are Nigerian Doctors in their usual fashion assuming that these people's skills and professional know how is less valuable than that of Doctors?

Abeg make we hear word, I have been reading from beginning of the thread to see how hard they are trying to make everyone panic over their exodus.

It's just hilarious.

Osahon7:
PLEASE WHAT IS THE CURRENT RATE FOR FIRSTBANK365 Days tenure

9% or 10%

Pentagon1993:

Thanks alot
Are you in UAE if so please, I will need to communicate more

Sorry am in Nigeria

My brother I only know of salary scale in UAE countries which is average of 3000 dollars a month. You can search for their posting vacancies in different sites online and apply for job there.

I don't know of African countries sorry.

linearity:


Am surprised that, you have your answers and are still here asking.

As to her saying ‘it is not for money’, the truth is the protection come as a package....and it is usually ‘not for money’ until it becomes ‘for money’ down the road.

If she did not do court marriage, she is still protected by customary marriage laws, but not as strong as the statutory protection that comes with court marriage or if she is given a FGN certificate during the church wedding.

Since her husband insists on not doing it, she should drop the issue, the longer she dwell on that issue, the more the husband would start thinking that, she have an ulterior motive behind the marriage all along....The purest of men will think so!

I will even advice her to not pressure him into court marriage because I found out from this thread that the husband can take his wife's money if they divorce after court marriage.

I see men here angrily saying her husband should not do court wedding so she won't get his property after divorce, well the tables can be turned.

Since she has enough moola to retire permanently I will even beg her to stop asking for court marriage

In case of divorce (God forbid) she gets to keep everything she has, all the money and houses and cars to herself. No sharing properties.

openmine:

If that's her reasoning then its either she is a house wife or unemployed.... that's why its very important for a lady to get a job rather than restricting herself to her Hubby's belongings...

A wise woman once told me that "what is yours is your and no one can take it away from u"!

It's very funny how African men always reiterate that women should have jobs and not take money from their husbands but they will flare up if you suggest that husbands should cook and cleanup after themselves instead of depending on their wives for it.

Thanks for suggestions, to those who wrote without insults or false accusations. I have picked my solution from your posts.

The others who came with insults can go to hell with their unwanted senseless posts.

MrBrownJay1:


fear of losing her children is more important to her than the fear of losing her husband?!?!?! this woman has misplaced priorities.

Ok oga. You have won the argument.
This part took me out. You win.

OSUigbo:

So it's that ugly, rude, arrogant girl we should vote for abi?

Did I mention anything like that in my post?

That's how they supported Efe last year. Because of band wagon mentality.
The guy is fvcking boring jor.

His face is boring, his talk is boring, his everything is boring.

Many people only support him because he is fulfilling their romance fantasies with that girl that doesn't even like him.

baby124:

Did your sister have the discussion of polygamy with him before marriage? Is she ok with polygamy? If she’s not then this is her chance to run away. Divorce after court wedding is more expensive, time consuming and tedious than divorce if traditional marriage or religious rites. If she cannot deal with or agree to a second wife then she should walk away from the sham.

Hmm. OK.

I don't know if they discussed it. I will ask

Halfpenny:
She doesn't trust him not to kick her out, not to take her kids, not to take a second wife.... what is the point of this union?

I wouldn't marry someone that I need to protect myself from so I have no advise other than LEAVE.

People change. The monogamous man of today could be polygamous tomorrow.

baby124:
Why is he against court wedding? I don’t think it’s clear why he’s so against it.

Personally I think he wants to keep his option of getting a second wife open. Am just guessing though since the guy is from a polygamy family.

Orchid45:
Since she is flush with cash, she could splurge on a family abroad vacation all expenses paid by her. A legal proof of marriage will be required for the visa processing. This might be her best bet.

She should only do that after she is convinced her husband has forgotten about the issue, and she is still desperate for it.

This is a crafty but smart idea.

sisisioge:
She's his wife by the customary law already. The only thing lacking now is that he's permitted to marry another wife if he pleases. The court marriage forbids that, it even prescribed jail term for him if he tries it.

Let's look on the bright side, God forbid o, if you sis decides to leave him tomorrow, all she needs is to file at a customary court. Within reasonable amount of time and minimal spending, they become history.

No, he cannot throw her out of the house or take her kids from her. She's still covered by law.

@bold, phew, are you for real? That would be such a relief for her if I tell her. Fear of losing her children is the only reason she is pushing for court marriage.

MrBrownJay1:


you see, this above is the reason why so many women are MISERABLE in marriage, and also why so many marriages are failing. they communicate and this guy tells her exactly what he wants, while she says her mind, this man is vehemently (as you wrote) against marrying her in court, yet this woman thinks she can persuade him otherwise. lol! ok good luck, and make sure she doesnt end up dead like the many who played with fire and got burned by some demon they forced into court marriage.

Na wa oo

Oga marriage is all about unity and love. there should be compromise in marriage. If she tries to persuade him it's not bad. They are partners, not master and slave.
See you talking of death for this kain thing, it's not that serious biko.
The man isn't a demon, he is very easy going he just needs to convinced in a logical way.

MrBrownJay1:


but of course, its not about money (it never is. right?). sadly any man with any bit of money should protect his WEALTH before even thinking of protecting his children, because you know what? a man without money CANNOT protect and/or cater for the wellbeing of his damn children.

btw if that is her state of mind, then she has NO BUSINESS being married.... and should be single for the rest of her damn life. the man already said he aint gonna marry her so she has only 2 options.... divorce or accept his wishes. the choice is all hers.

Divorce or accept his wishes only?
No other option?

What about persuasion and discussion?
Nigerian in laws have a way of intruding into other family members marriages and they can persuade the man to chase her out and seize her children.
I don't get why many Nairaland men have a strong anti women mentality.
And by the way it truly isn't about money. Not to brag but our dad worked in SPDC for over 30years and amassed millions of naira and cats and properties for his children. We can all sit down comfortably for the rest of our lives without working, we have enough. And my parents sponsored their wedding because he was still a struggling up coming young man. I can assure you she does not want his money.
He doesn't have a quarter of what she has.

MrBrownJay1:
the important question IS: why is that so important to your sister?! what more is she hoping to get (thats she isnt getting) from the next marriage?

you could have better helped your sister by telling her to enjoy her marriage instead of poisoning it.

grafixdon:
This's how people put asunder to marriage. They'll begin to put pressure on this man and he'll start thinking there's another motive for the court marriage. Let him be. Court marriage does not guarantee your happiness in the marriage. Your marriage is still very young, don't cause problem in your marriage. Think woman, think.

She said she can be forcibly thrown out and her children taken from her if she is not protected by the law. She isn't doing it for money.

Taiwo20:
they both have trust issues.....and people should stop think they can hold people done with court marriage or any type of marriage for that matter..


Concentrate on better thing biko

I should concentrate on better things? My sisters welfare no be better thing?

Her husband is vehemently against having a court marriage with her, They did church marriage and reception but no court,

He keeps refusing and saying he doesn't see the need because he isn't travelling abroad soon and so does not see the importance.

Please what is the usefulness of court marriage for her as a wife and him as the husband? I want to know how to advise her in convincing the husband.