₦airaland Forum

You omitted the most important:
A Christian should NEVER engage in PRE-MARITAL SEX

FreeSpirited:
Make sure she's a virgin....its worth it for a virgin

tanx bro, she said she's a Virgin thought I met her @her SS2 & now she's in 100L. but virginity isn't my problem but character

illuminated93:
Meaning you were 28 and she was 18 when you met her. Are you timid with ladies,Or are you a Muslim?
What happened to all the 24,23 ,25 yr olds that made u go for an 18 yr old. With respect sir,I think youve been emotionally starved through rejections from this older ladies,reason you had to go for an 18yr old

my dear I'm an Igbo man, I'm very handsome, tall, fair, a graduate with 2.1, I'm a corper, I was a class rep from 100L till our graduation. I'm a catholic and a charismatic member & also a church warder. sorry I don't mean to bore you with all these stories but the point u raised that I'm timid to girls prompt to this. 99.9% of my friends are girls but I needed someone we can take time to build & understand ourselves. by God's grace, tinx are moving well but it wasn't easy from the beginning.

note; I'm very popular but dating older ladies who will b hurry me for marriage is my problem. I need to plan & marry & take good care of my family.

FreeSpirited:
do you mean for days or 4 weeks?

I mean 4years, I'm 32 & she's 22. my babe & I understand each other so well. hormone must exhibit its talent but we kept on praying and reminding ourselves of our vow. with God, one can abstain from sex before marriage but it's not an easy task. we always pray to God to help us.

illuminated93:
Overtime,i've Learnt to trust my instincts,and recently,it has been telling me that my relationship is about to hit a bumpy road. There has been this unusual disconnect in my relationship with my half,i thought about an effective communication with her so she could possibly let me in on stuffs going on in her mind.

I felt 2 major things could be the cause of this disconnect:

1) maybe she has found a better happiness somewhere,and if that's the case I need not distract her from her new found feeling,i just need to find happiness myself.

2) Maybe she's dealing with stuffs that are just too complicated for her to air out.

It turned out number 2 was the reason for her bumpy behaviour. She said ever since she met me,I made her stray away from God,she has no relationship with God whatsoever. She also said,she want things to be like they were before sex came up. Finally,she says she doesn't want sex anymore.

So she says no sex,and I wonder how things got to this point. I used to think we were the best things that happened to ourselves ,but it turned out a strange feeling was hidden in the matrix of our relationship. I'd like to hear from folks who have been though this phase,how did you deal with the situation?

Btw, I understand that no one is indispensable, not me either.
Cc:
Freespirited
Paulkillerman
Nina4u
Luminouz
Stallione

guy sex is not everything, I & my babe has been dating for good four years now & no sex involved. so pls help her spiritual life if you truely love her.
sex is overrated abeg

MysteriousAnn:
More reason why we need to sample our opposite sex in the other room before marriage.

Remember that you are a woman

PrettyHausaGirl:
Tragic


I will be a ruthless female president

Check my signature

u are just a Damsel & your back side is also ruthless

congrats to them. I didn't create any religion so I have no right to judge any religion..

dude, your problem is high level of sugar consumption. reduce the level of your sugar intake and watch your chairman stand like an angry anaconda

anyone that survives in Nigeria will make heaven.

Austinoiz:
Abalikiliki still remains Abakiliki in my mind and eyes. In Imo here, we rate them below average.

you are so silly!! what makes you feel that you are better than them? do you feed nor train them? what is your problem sef? pls stop embarrassing the Igbos here..

Buhari dialogue with this guys, innocent soldiers are dying because of your stubbornness!!! must you use force in everything? pls learn from late Musa Ya'adua

rebirthforgoody:
Don't mind them you said it all dear.

my pleasure

moonloved:
Thanks . I appreciate

sorry if I upset you with my comments, pls upset not. I was only trying to make u see it in other view. I pray that you follow your heart and take the right decision which will be of your interest. shalom dear.

moonloved:
well based on my findings they had sex b4 i got there. Thanks but 1, am not a weak woman but this is someone i trusted so much by trying to pleased him wit everything 2, am not weak that any girl can collect my husband, he is d over jealous type if i was d one that did that i knw what he can do 3, proud u say? I wish u know me then u can take d word "proud" away 4, Oh! Am not serious? U made me laugh wit this

my Sis, take your pride back and make peace with your relationship, you felt that they had sex which is just a hypothesis! did you catch them? at times we destroy our relationship by generating some baseless hypothesis (assumption) which no one is sure of even you. My principle: I don't believe in what I have not seen!!! my dear, is he a prisoner that no girl can visit? see, often my babe will visit me on announced & she do meet a girl in my room but she never doubted me because she knows whom I am & we are 4years in our relationship.
Note; Trust is d key in a relationship but if you wish to walk away just because of hypothesis, safe journey o but promise me that you won't regret it.
That is y I always say that LOVE IS A SCAM. if you value your PARTNER, you won't just walk away just because of your HYPOTHESIS (ASSUMPTION) & even if he cheated on u because you can't just leave what you so much valued except if you fight for it & it's beyond you. stay & fight for your relationship.
I called you a weak woman because u cannot fight for your relationship & from my understanding, u believes in rumors & hypothesis which will destroy your marriage if you don't change NOW.
NOTE: my babe once cheated on me two years ago and she shamelessly walked away but I stood on my ground
to bring her back because I valued her and she RESPECT me for that singular act till now. many rich men are coming but she can't leave nor double that again because she has known how much I value her. let me stop here jare......

Jman06:
If you know your worth, don't go back to him, atleast not now. Make him realize you have zero tolerance to infidelity. If he's worth spending the rest of your life with, he would not quickly go for another girl but would continue to beg you. Don't listen to those saying you should go back to him lest he replaces you, that's bullsh1t. Just like there are ladies out there looking for eligible men, there are also many eligible men too looking for good ladies to settle with. Infact, i can hook you up with a richer, more educated and responsible guy who's currently searching.

My point is, stick to your gun and make your stand on infidelity sink into his big head before you marry him and he makes cheating on you a habit.!

sorry to say but u are not a good adviser one bit. where the guy cheat on her?? can't you think logically? let her go na, & that's is how she will be jumping from one man to another. HOW MANY MEN are serious with girls? all they want is pvssy & nothing more & here she has a fiancee, OK na, sis save journey

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lovelygurl:
Exactly at 4! All this fake stories. Can the thing even stand at 4 mtcheeeeeew

I tire o. mtchewwww

moonloved:
Hi Nairalanders,
It happened today, was supposed to visit my fiance today but i decided not to go. I was surprised he only called me once today which is very unusual of him. I felt something is wrong so i decided to visit him without calling to know if he is around or not.
Getting to his house i met him with another girl drinking wine together. Guess what i did? I greeted the lady, opened d fridge took a bottle of wine served myself, changed d Tv channel to a music station. D girl was not comfortable again and she decided to leave.
My fiance has been begging that d lady is just a friend to him and i asked him this question "if she is just a friend why didn't u introduce her to me?
Told him am no longer comfortable with him, he is pleading i shouldn't leave him now he is calling my friends to beg me but have already made up my mind to keep to myself.

so u wanna leave your man because u met another girl in his house which they were not even having sex? anyway u can end d relationship because
1. u never loved him.
2. u are a weak woman that any girl can collect ur guy/husband.
3. u are so proud
4. u are not serious with the relationship.
note: a woman who is serious in a relationship never give any woman chance to collect her guy. beside he didn't even cheat on u. maybe you kept one holy Rev to Marry you. abeg good night

moonloved:
Hi Nairalanders,
It happened today, was supposed to visit my fiance today but i decided not to go. I was surprised he only called me once today which is very unusual of him. I felt something is wrong so i decided to visit him without calling to know if he is around or not.
Getting to his house i met him with another girl drinking wine together. Guess what i did? I greeted the lady, opened d fridge took a bottle of wine served myself, changed d Tv channel to a music station. D girl was not comfortable again and she decided to leave.
My fiance has been begging that d lady is just a friend to him and i asked him this question "if she is just a friend why didn't u introduce her to me?
Told him am no longer comfortable with him, he is pleading i shouldn't leave him now he is calling my friends to beg me but have already made up my mind to keep to myself.

so u wanna leave your man because u met another girl in his house which they were not even having sex? anyway u can end d relationship because
1. u never loved him.
2. u are a weak woman that any girl can collect ur guy/husband.
3. u are so proud
4. u are not serious with the relationship.
note: a woman who is serious in a relationship never give any woman chance to collect her guy. beside he didn't even cheat on u. maybe you kept one holy Rev to Marry you. abeg good night

Has he given EFE the 50 million?

Nigeria is a failed state with silly leaders. I regret being a Nigerian

which kind English is this? walk against autism or for? I'm just confused

malton:
That's true bro. I told my brother severally, that I'd stop news broadcasts in Hausa and find a way to get the churches to stop too, if I assumed the mantle of leadership in the state.


Because obviously, it is the language commonality that gives them inroads into the state. Because it makes them feel accepted even before they settled.

In my house for instance, we speak pidgin 80 percent of the time, while most of my cousins speak English strictly. My little cousin sister impressed me just this morning when she refused to hand me something I asked her to because I did in Hausa. She insisted I asked her in English, otherwise she wouldn't. I did speak Hausa to gauge her reaction because I know she doesn't speak it even though she understands. I was impressed by her reaction.

wow, that's impressive. I believe the youths are getting their ass up against this. I over heard some plateau boys complaining about not having a indigenous centralized language in unijos.

malton:
I know that you mean well and your observation is correct, but you're obviously missing the point.

Benue and Kogi States share boundaries with the South East and SS, where broken is vastly spoken. This has influenced them to a great extent. Plateau State on the other hand, shares boundary with the Hausa North. The need to communicate in markets necessitate the learning of a general language. And fortunately or unfortunately, Plateau people have long had contact with the Hausa man before the whites came.

If Plateau State had a general language of its own, say everyone is berom, there wouldn't have been the need to learn and transact in Hausa. But there are over 52 tribes on the Plateau, who barely understand each other, hence the adoption of Hausa. I am not particularly happy about it, but it is what it is. I have always asked why our forefathers chose Hausa instead of pidgin. And that was the response I always got. However, I'm glad that the mentality is changing. Maybe not in the rural areas, but here in Jos, more and more people have taken it upon themselves to teach their children English only.

There are lots of Hausa/Fulani settlers in Anambra, for instance. They also have a sarkin Hausawa there who also doubles as Senior Assistant to the Governor on Islamic Affairs. Going by your logic, should we also declare Hausa/Fulani as indigenes of Anambra?

The Hausa/Fulani man does not reason like the Igbo or Yoruba person. Such that wherever he finds himself, he considers it home. In the wake of the crisis in Ile Ice for instance, they cried out loud saying they have nowhere to go to. What do you think that statement means?
And for the record, the Muslim population in Plateau State is not even up to 20 percent.

You can read the Wikipedia page of Jos for more on this. I don't have the strength to type too much.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jos

we are saying the same thing but we misunderstood ourselves. though I respect plateau people & don't have any grudges against them. but the issue of general language must be looked into because...........

malton:
The same way speaking English makes you an Englishman?

Nawao!

I didn't call all plateau people Hausa/Fulani but we have Hausa Fulani people as indigene here. they colonized you people that the general language in plateau state is Hausa language. even in the church, they have Hausa mass/service. when two non Hausa plateau meets, they discuss with Hausa language not English regardless that we have divergence of languages here, like Birom, Angas, Mupun, Jarawa, etc. in Benue & Kogi sate which is also part of North, do they speak Hausa at all? then talk more of their general language? young man, I'm not against y guys speaking Hausa but don't tell us that Hausa people in plateau state are not indigenes. the way ur ancestors settled in plateau that is how they settled as well. yes the population is Christians 70% while Muslim 30%. accept the obvious truth.

malton:
Please find somewhere and sit down. What makes them pure indigenes?

So those reasons you mentioned qualifies a settler as an indigene abi? Now I know for sure that I shouldn't have engaged you in the first place.

d earlier u accept the truth, d better for u. in the whole plateau state, is Hausa language not the general language that everybody speaks in the whole 17 LGA of plateau state? yet u call them settlers!! you even prefer to discuss in Hausa language than English language & yet u are blabbing.

malton:
Are you sure you are okay?

You that are there, are you of Plateau origin?

The Fulani people you see are settlers, just like you.

When the chips are down, we'll chase them all out.

chase who out? they are pure indigenes. they marry ur people, convert them to Islam, build their houses, collect traditional titles/rights etc & yet u call them settlers? can you call all these Hausas in Jos North (agwan roko ) etc settlers? they even occupy better land than u.

malton:
FFK is dumb, just like his followers.

Arab Yadam is a Plateau man from Pankshin. He should be either Ngas or Mupun.

can u just keep quiet? we have so many Fulani people in plateau state & pankshin precisely. I have spent 10 good years in plateau state & still counting.

rheether:
Nsukka banyi

she is as pretty as U. proudly Nsukka Man. I Rep Udenu LGA

Nsukka babes are always pretty & well behaved. Marry an Nsukka woman & long life is assured.

Safiaa:
Can you just email me please. Thanks.

upset not dear, d email on this account has been blocked by yahoo which makes it impossible for me to email and receive yours. please can you email me with this one chi4ik42@gmail.com. sorry for the inconvenience. I really need ur inputs on this challenging issue of mine