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Very disrespectful. And some women are even supporting it. I wonder how they will feel if their husbands named his daughter after an ex. It shows that he's still inlove with the ex and I'm sure every women will like to be the only ones in their husbands heart.
How can you immortalize your ex in your husband's home? Some on this thread even admitted to it. I hope their husbands do something that shows they still have their exes in their hearts, you'll see these foolish women coming here to complain about their husband and their obsession with their exes.
If I was the man, I'll use my ex's picture as my screen saver, I'll use it as my bbm dp. If she ever complains eh!!! Nonsense!!

Hmmm...the heart of women is a wicked one. What you will find there is grudge, malice, vengeance etc. No wonder GOD placed them under men. If not, this world would have been over.

flyca:
Life can be dynamic. Its not always black or white.

The only countryman I have in this school is a married man. He's been married for a year plus now. He is doing his PhD here. His wife and son in Nigeria. He is making serious efforts to bring them as soon as possible and even though we've become good neighbours over these months, he is a very disciplined man and that I respect.

So it's not always about hugging and curdling. He needs the degree and sacrifices has to be made.

honestly, this type of situation where couples gets seperated for months/yrs always encourage infidelity. Some people are sex maniacs. Some can's go for two weeks without sex and I believe any man married to this type of women should know. I know a woman that started sleeping with her best frien'd husband because her own husband travelled for masters. This started after three months since he travelled. She wasn't caught, but the story slipped off the man's tongue while gisting with friends. Another problem is that some will know the nature of their partners job yet, they will marry and then look for alternative when he's out for long.
If my job takes me around, then I'll look a woman with a very low libido to marry. I think that's better.

aderonila18:
Those are usually "open" marriages

The man will be getting his groove on when away, even tidally the wife will realizes she's been getting the shorter end of the stick and she'll step up her game too.

so this is what you will do if you find your self in a marriage where distance keeps you both apart for long? Hmm.

lolababe331e:
Abeg why not ask for the whole story before you rush to conclusions. He asked my mother to take us with her, that was his wish.my siblings met with him when we were teenagers ( I was in school) and he never denied telling her to take us and he also admitted that he knew where we lived all along and never tried to see us.we lived in a small town so he knew our house and our schools. He was drunk and womanizer who felt that he had better things to use his money for , he got fed up of the responsibility. Basically he told them straight up that he realized he wasn't cut out to be a father. After that day they left contact details for him and he still never bothered to call or look for us. So I should go and bring someone who's said he doesn't want to be a father to my wedding Or I should go kneel I front of his house and beg for him to care Look for ko, look for ni

By the way I have never hated him,he simply doesn't exist since he made his choice. It's not a grudge but simply realizing some people should never have been fathers or mothers and you move on with your life. You guys here always want to same it must have been the woman who hid the kids well in this case he was the one who was too selfish to care.

He actually said he didn't have a problem with my Mum,just wanted to enjoy his life and felt a wife and kids were cramping his style.

Funny enough he had 2 kids outside and did the same to those ones to,abandoned them and never paid a dime towards their care. Just irresponsible and as a good role model to my kids I refuse to have a negative influence around my family

apologies for the way i went about it. I was misguided by what I witness everyday. Your dad is really something else. Smh.. I wish you goodluck and GOD's blessings in your marriage!!

lolababe331e:
Reminds me of my biologically father and that crap about the children looking for their father no matter if he deserted them is a lie. I certainly never looked for him and when I got married I simply let my I laws no the man was never a part of my life and didn't deserve to be a part of my successes and celebrations . I don't hate or resent him, I just feel nothing for him

with this type of hatred for your father after more than two decades, your man must be dam.n scared of you. What story will you tell your children? That your father seperated from your mom and your mom took you people away from him, and he never bothered to come see you? Do you even know if your mom lied to you guys? Have you heard his own story? No matter what the sins of my parents are, I can't have much hatred/grudge against any of them for this long. I need to be a rolemodel to my kids and not teach them how to pay their parents back for their sins.

Onegai:
When I was saying last week that children abandoned by their parents don't forgive them and people were arguing with me (and advising a young man to leave his newborn son, that the child will "look for him" in the future). See 2 examples here.

Where's the emoji for "I told ya so"?

95% of them do look for their fathers(especially the men). Only a 5% willl still be steeped in hatred which was planted in them by their mothers. Women tend to tell their kids a lot of lies after seperation to make them hate the man. Unsuprisingly, daughters are mostly the ones that buy into those lies.

Who on this earth will not like to grow up or know his/her both parents?

Joy1706:
Well, I don't support what she did. But I equally understand being hurt to such an extent that u do what u never believed you were capable of doing. The man certainly deserved it. I would rather walk away cos I aim to please God otherwise eh.....

if the husband was foolish for what he did, the woman is more foolish for what she did. She just made a bad name for her self.A genuine christain/born again does not do that. She maybe one of those that walk around claiming good christain/born again but deep inside, they are something else.

fem29:
It is true, pls don't marry. A man of your sensibilities and mindset should not marry

truth is bitter. Men marry becuase they want to have kids. Not because they need a companion.

adonismuller:
In Nigeria everything a man does is cheating....everything a woman does doesn't matter!

The dis-trust ladies have these days is even good enough reason for a man to cheat!

don't mind the bittches. Some dudes have complained here about their wives chatting regularly( even at night) with a particular dude and these biitches will call it an ordinary chat. Now it is very wrong because a man is doing it. All of them here condemming the man are also chatting with strange guys on facebook, whatsapp, BBM etc etc.

titipeters:
. But serious, u sound stupid with dis comment, it's either u aren't married or u are just a very young boy... comment jakujaku

you are very stoopid to quote me in a very dumb way. It is now bad to chat because it is a man? How about married women that do it every day on social media? Won't you call it an ordinary chat if it was a woman? Ediot!!

Arsenate:
not any guy's fault that you can get IT up, loser. op, a WOMAN, comes up with a thread about WOMEN and all you, a loser for life hiding behind fake Nairaland Smileys, can do is drag men into it. what a monumental loser this girl is. all your Smileys ridden posts won't change the fact that your daddy did a terrible job raising a sissy. he must be utterly disappointed.
pussiyyy

don't mind that foolish girl. She hates men yet, she registered online as a man.

And the female hiding under a male monicker noticed that I was talking about her. Guilty conscience at its peak!

Fake online life, really pitiful.

I though this thread is about women being there worst enemies? Why is it gradually turning to a male bashing thread. And the major culprit is that girl hiding under a male's moniker.

MymothersKeeper:
I NEED HELP PLEASE AS MUCH OPINION AS POSSIBLE.
My partner dated a girl back in Nigeria, it was a one sided relationship cos he loves her too much but she is a fine girl, She is quarter cast and always wanting to leave him due to admirers all over but he would bribe her to stay.
They eventually separated.
He came to the US and all of a sudden this other girl from Nigeria calls him and wants him back. She said she made a mistake, she was young and wants him because he treats her well etc etc.
On their chats, he told her that he's coming next month to see her and cannot wait till they try again , she then asks how his new woman in US is? his reply was that ''I am not worth asking of and he cant wait to get back with her''
I still feel she is only deceiving him cos of the money/US status but he is obsessed with her.
As a strong girl, mentally, I don't care I will just move on But im pained cos I lent him nearly $5000 last year I have asked for they money back and he has no intention to pay me back.
Do you believe if i dint read his chat I will not suspect he really despised me that much?
When I discovered I saved the chat and kept quiet, I am waiting for him to go so I can seize some brand new things worth my money till i get my money back .
Hes a mago mago person and has iphones, apple mac full under bed I plan to sieze the worth.

Morally, I am not that type but this man is like a thief of the night stole everything from me my youthfulness, my chance of marrying someone else, abuse both physical and psychological . I helped him get a stay I am sure he would bring her over very soon. please share your thoughts with me

the man is a foolish man and deserves no good woman in his life. He is dumping the woman that took care of him for the girl that toyed with his heart. Is he under a spell? The girl suddenly remembered him as the right one because her numerous boyfriends have used and dumped her yet, the mumu guy can't even notice? Lawd have mercy!

cococandy:
If accepting a man's kid that he had out of wedlock does not kill a woman, why should accepting such from a woman kill the man?

Mtchew.

there is a difference btw accepting and marrying a woman with kids and accepting a kid which your wife had with another because she cheated on you while still married to you. How many women will accept a kid there husband has with his mistress? By the way, a man cannot have kids with another woman and force his wife to believe that she is the biological mother but, this is a woman that cheated and got pregnant for another man, then decieved her husband to believe that he is the father. That's the height of evil!! Such women should be jailed!!

thorpido:
I do know about trust but i also know that there are couples who have had similar occurrence and have forgiven each other and moved forward together.I know a family where the third born is not the man's child.He found out,there was a period of hurt but they overcame it and kept the family together.
I'm not saying what she did is right,I'm saying if it was that incidence then and she has long cut off from every relationship,the man should forgive and keep the family.

and the man accepted the child? This is one thing that can kill a man faster. Women sha..smh

digitsolution:
Learnt a lot from this topic, guesss tolerance of each other and genuine love is the key to a happy and fulfilling Marriage.

Something happened to my colleague at work, just decided to share with you guys. He is really angry with his wife lately, and I was surprised because this is a guy who looks for any slight opportunity to talk about his wife and paint her as the most beautiful woman on earth why the sudden change in script. Then he opened up to me that when he met his wife she was a virgin and till of recent he felt he was the only guy she has ever slept with and she (the wife) confirms it too and even refers to him as the only man that has ever seen her nude and he is the best blah blah.. Now he just discovered she was sleeping with some other man shortly before they got married(after their introduction) and he confronted her and she reluctantly confessed.

Now the issue is they have been married for about 5years now. My colleague feels cheated that he might never trust her or believe anything she says again, because ever since they met he has being faithful because he loves and trusts her and she claims same. Now, is he justified to be angry with her? Or do you think the wife should have denied it to keep the flow in the marriage? Or did the wife do wrong confessing?

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this things happen everyday in nigeria. Cheating during courtship by women. Its everywhere here. Too much lies and deciet.

Meeeeehhhhn!!!! This is humiliation!!!! I can never say that kind of thing to my woman. But if she is the type that's always on social media chatting, then I'll say it hundred times to her face if she disturbs me.

But 10 months and no sex with your husband? Hmmm something is going on somewhere.

You are the man's first love and babyosisi is already claiming he must be sleeping with other small girls. So much for an advice.

Nnemuka:
if this story is true then kill the basta/rd, send your sister home and then pray to God for forgiveness...
Na u be the actor, so actor must survive in this movie.

Or

shut the ffuck up!! So cheating wives should be executed too?

Joel3:
our destiny are reshaped due to our past. wrong doing and karma. things we did causes us obstacle. I will not be surprise of this. speaking from spiritual chakra this event was molded by your past. I wouldn't be surprise what things you do in your past.

our path of life is a road line and there are challenge on this road. most times what we did create this obstacle whether we are Christian or belong to any religion.

sure she will also experience something like this on her life. and mojerly a lot of people for into temptation for no reason only helping destiny or karma fulfil it course. in the case of your husband he might not have the power to resist destiny. why you are not getting pregnant is another issue.


take it as one of the things in life and move on.

there is truth in this as well. Though I pity the OP but, I've always been of the opinion that the reason why majority nigerian women are not happy in their marriages is karma. A lot of the dated married men and broke other peoples homes, so when they marry, the same problem will haunt them.

Nonsense!! What is wrong in a married man chatting or even playfully flirting with another woman? Isn't that the same thing that many married women do here? Flirting and sending pms. Mtcheew!!

O boy!!! This is one of the worst stories I've read in this section.

Your husband should be ashamed of himself!

You sent your sister home for sleeping with evry tom, diick and harry, then brought her back and your hubby decided to take advantage of the fact that she is the cheerful giver type. As far as I'm concerned, he lured her with money. She's still young and naïve. Please, calm yourself, do not kill nobody cos you may spend the rest of your life in prison.

Since there is no kid in this marriage, divorce may be an easy choice. But you may have to wait for bukatyne. She always know how to advice women without making them take rash decisions.

Is she sleeping with his friend? If so, then people will believe that the said friend might be the reason why she left. Maybe they were dating before she left. But then, if I was the friend and the woman is visiting me, I'll make sure I tell her ex-hubby about it and the reason for her visit so it won't seem like I'm stabbing him on the back. It may destroy their friendship. She has the right to visit or ffuck anybody she likes but his friend should know that he's supposed to avoid the woman. There are too many women out there to choose from.

Enahi:
you are actually very wrong,I am a good girl because of the way I was brought up. I have only dated very few guys in my life,I wrote abt this particular guy because he is a nice person,just that I don't understand the attachment he has with his mum. Am not the type who date easily,I prefer to be single than date and be heart broken at the end of the day. I have been single for sometime now,just felt I need to date now and take someone serious. I usually don't take relationships serious because of what I have been through,so I learnt to block my heart.

then goodluck to you. But I'm not sick. I'm just saying what I observe in this country.

VictoriaBee:
Keep narrating the stories of your female family members and girls that broke your heart.
I still maintain my stand that it shall be well with your soul when you've finally found peace after so many years of bittered relationships.

I narrated the story of nigerian girls in general. If you are exactly the person I narrated, then I think you should change because karma will definitely catch up with you.

VictoriaBee:
You sound bittered.

I must really commend Nigerian girl that did this to you.

truth is bitter. It seems I narrated your life story up there. If not, I don't see why you'll be hurt by my post.

That's exactly nigerian women for you. After multiple dating, they'll start searching faithful man. It doesn't work that way. You need to be faithful before you seek for one. The OP for eg never took any of her dates serious, now she wants a real man who will take her serious?

Btw, naija girls can't do shhit to me. I know them very well and I know what to expect from them- nothing good. So when they display that evil side of them, I'm never caught unprepared or surprised.

adorable29:
Nigerian women are really suffering in the hands of their men.

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they are suffering and yet they are the only women in the world too desperate to get married. Nigerian men are always scared of getting married because our women makes life unbearable once you bring them into ur home.

activefibre1:
u married her becos of her father's wealth...they spoilt their daughter....now you cant control your home....pity.

this is exactly my thought. He called the FIL to hear his opinion and accepted the sl.ut back because he asked him to do so. This shows that the FIL made him who he is now. Maybe he works in their company. If not, I don't see why the MIL will be feeling fly even when her daughter have been adulterous. Plus it seems OP does not have his own familly. He's supposed to discuss it with his mom and dad and hear from them too. He needs support from his familly because he come across as a weak man. As for the ssluty wife, I'm sure this may not be the first guy she's cheating with. And the fact that they have been doing this for five years (one year into her marriage) smh shows how much of a wwhore she is, and might have been sleeping with the guy even before she met her hubby. You know these typical nigerian girls that will leave their BF to marry a ready man. They'll continue sleeping with him even after traditional wedding. They may sleep with him a day to their wedding or a week to their wedding as a way of saying goodbye. But after a few yrs into their marriage, they'll start having the hunger to ffuck their ex again. This is the reason why naija women are mostly guilty of cheating on their husbands with their exes.

Recently my friends ex visited him and initiated a sex between them. After the sex, she surprised him with an invitation card of her wedding which will take place in two weeks time. If you are the husband to be and you find out, how will you feel? She's already cheating on him, and it won't stop after marriage. This is nigerian women for you.

stonecoldcafe:
Strictly speaking she is right. Call history merely tells I have been communicating with a certain person. It may mean we are talking often but that does not mean I'm screwing the person.

Again if I apologize and say I can explain that remains a blank cheque. A lady can apologize and say I was in constant communication cos of xyz, sorry I should have told you. Still does not mean she is shagging anyone.

PS: I like to give people the benefit of doubt.

why are you people intentionally twisting the story? He didn't say call history, he said CHAT HISTORY!!!!...you can see call history but won't know what they discussed but in chat history, you'll see everything they texted to each other. Mind you, people who have been seeing eachother for 5yrs without suspicion will feel free in exchanging explicit texts. And the woman never deleted them cause she wasn't expecting the husband to come there at that time.

jude33084:
I even have a cousin that thought he had a 12yrs old boy only to be told that the boy is not his son (DNA result)

They girl you quoted is not clean.

he had the son through his wife or girlfriend?

Leave all those dirty women who come here to defend their kind. Once they see a who.rish wife, they'll want to twist it and push the blame to the husband.

aflyingbird:
u didn't give ur wife d chance to explain , she said she could explain but u shunned her. u saw her phone n immediately jumped to d conclusion dat she was having an affair, u left her mother's house n told her not to come back into urs .

ur MIL didn't do anything wrong . pple's native language is always going to be their default language , esp when with family members , meaning dat is wat came natural to her . u cud hv nicely asked her to speak english , i'm sure she wud've done dat but again u got up angrily .

ur problem is dat u jump to conclusions too soon without giving pple d chance to explain their side of d story . d same thing u did to ur wife is what u did to ur MIL. u need to learn to be more patient n hear what pple hv to say

what do you expect a cheating woman to explain? Her reasons for cheating or what? Can't you see where he said they've been having affairs atleast for five years. Isn't that enought? Like I said, Op need DNA test immediately. A woman that cheats for FIVE years? That's deadly!

By the way, the foolish MIL should be happy that you welcomed her slutty daughter back because most men would have left her daughter with her.

You owe her nothing and you should be the one seeking for apology from all of them. Do not turn yourself to a pant.