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Daresh:
I have to say thank God for my husband o! For all the foolish things he has done in our married lives he has never pushed the financial burden to me. I know he will even wash plates and clean toilets sef to make sure we are catered for.

hehehe..na your husband dey your profile?

But if the woman is making a considerable amount of money,why won't she help?..what is her money for? Make ups and clothes? Spending money on her kids should be a problem? But it is right for the man to spend all his money even when he is making a pea nut amount.women loves to anounce to the whole world whenever they spend a penny on their familly. If a man starts a busines for his wife and she eventually starts making good money from it,why won't she help out financially? Or maybe the husband sent her to school and took care of her till she graduated and get job,still she will expect to go to her grave with all the money she makes.I thought women wants equality but when it comes to responsibilities,they'll remind you that its a man's job. Only a house wife should complain if the man is not taking 100% care of his financial responsibilities.but as for working class or business women..shut the ffuck up you selfish beings!!!

veave:
Nice one op...
God bless you for taking your family out yesterday.

Unlike some brothers of yours that went MIA all day. Told their wife they were broke but took one smallie for massive shopping. Came back tired and started forming strong face.












God is watching you from high above...

and this rubbish is what you came here to spew.always forming saints when y'all are the worst.

Nicklaus:
so the best thing is to consider the child a legacy and move on with her life by marrying someone else coz the man can never be completely faithful to her for 8 years. the money can never be enough..

and you think the woman will be completely faithful as well?

emusmith:
There's one I know of. She is wealthy.
Guys selling indecency CDs know her.
.She buys them and watch...

is it not the same woman you said a colleague of yours was sleeping with? That her husband was an oil rig worker.

buygala:
When the desirable isn't available, then the available becomes desirable...

I know some married peeps will come here and gush self-righteously about faithfulness, perseverance and shiit, but the truth is that most distanced couples satisfy their Konji externally on a coded level .... After all, marital vows don't cure konji fever.. Penisses and vaginas do..


Even when spouses are around, peeps still find a way to cheat. .. talk less of when spouse has been away for long... The men might even start raising another family in their location, while the women might become professional peniss samplers, or the ones with a bit of God's fear in them might acquire just one peniss to be managing in the meantime

bros you spoke the truth!

I don't believe in distant relationships. There are alsways cases of infidelity.forget all the pretences. The man will have girlfriends where ever he is and the woman will be secretely dating another man.this is when women sleeps with their househelps,gatemen and drivers because the sex urge is unquenchable.but they will pretend and keep face like say all is well and they are coping well.pfft! All na wash.

kika23:
From the stories I've heard, this situation has led to so many breakups as a result of unfaithfulness ( mostly on the part of some wives, because the men may cheat too while away) ... It's rather a difficult one, in my opinion. I would prefer the two weeks in two weeks out kind of work (at most), anything outside this, naaaaaaaah! It's not just the money that's important, I need my man around too..

do you know that some women can't even stay without sex for a few week? A friend of mine was once sleeping with a married woman whose husband spends like 3wks to sometimes a month on a business trip.the woman was demanding for sex everyday and even paying him.
The problem is that most women knows the nature of their husbands job before marriage but they will still go ahead to marry and start keeping boyfriends because the man isn't always around.I have an uncle who's transfered to lagos while the wife is still in uyo schooling.I thought he was a saint untill I came to stay with him a few months.I'll see 5 different pretty girls sleep wth him every wk.I thought about it and said "well,the wife will be running things with other male students over there too" .they visited and I asked the maid what's up and she told me about the wife's sneaky moves too and how a male student will visit and she'll drive out with the guy and tell the maid that if her hubby calls her,she should tell him that she(the wife) went to vigil because her phone will be off..hehehe

cococandy:
So what if she wants to get back to school for a post grad program? You will worry she might fall for her fellow post grad students or a handsome lecturer?

hehehe this is another one.honestly,its better she enrolls into a school in the same city where hubby lives so she can go from home.apart from that,anything is possible.
My experience in uni days thaught me about the risk in marrying and leaving your wife in a school in another city.in my own lodge sef,a married lady rented a 70k per year self con for her boyfriend.all na hubby money who was in another state.married women in my department,stories too much jare.maybe because they missed sex etc.whatever though,its risky.

cococandy:
You mean swayed into the bedroom?
Yes. I can be strong enough not to let him manipulate me into bed.

I will only go there if i'm sexually attracted to him.
But then I'll be honest enough not to blame the fact that he's my boss for the decision I made.

At my age,the only way a man can get me unwillingly into his bed is rape

In The other scenarios,I always have a choice.

you know women will always make strong claims that they'll never behave in a particular way or do something which they'll still eventually succumb to when they face the temptation.
If you don't want a woman to stray,just don't expose her to situations/environments where she'll be tempted/influenced to.Their emotions makes it difficult for them not to yield in this kind of situation.

You even said "unless you are sexually attracted to him"..don't you think its possible you can have a boss you feel sexually attracted to? And OP's wife may also be sexually attracted to her boss.who knows?

Truth is-women normally develope a strong emotional connection with a man they spends a lot time together with.that's why you have office romance everywhere.I know that ALL women loves to have a male boss.now imagine spending most of her hours with the same man,travelling and taking trips together and visiting places with him.hehehe..the man may not be thinking that way but the woman surely will have some feelings for him.the only hitch is how to express it cos they are not good at that.unless the boss is the type who doesn't respect peoples marriage.he'll make a move and the woman will fall immediately.and it will even be easier if the boss is a very good and caring man.
Forget o! I'm very close to some married women and I care about them a lot and some of them are already misunderstanding the whole thing.some will call to ask me why I haven't called them since morning..imagine? I'm even starting to slow down before I'll divert a woman's heart away from her husband.

@0P
One thing I know is that 80% men will NEVER touch another man's wife.but if her boss is that type,you are in trouble already because their closeness will make it easier for him.just pray he's not that type and your wife will be safe.

alutacontinua:
If more women will stand their ground like this and know their worth, men will learn to keep their diccks in place before thinking of marriage.

Abi, how hard can it be? Stay single if you know na olosho you wan do till you die

Anyways, Charles, you have laid your bed, lie on it!

pfft! You think that's how it works?
95% men will divorce their wives if they cheat but it still doesn't stop women from cheating on their husbands.
The question is how many women will be bold enough to stand up like the OP's wife and divorce a cheating husband.truth is that majority of them have also cheated secretly but will cry and make a lot of noise about it when their husbands do same and they'll finally remain with the same man pretending to be enduring but within them,the scores just became even..only faithful people deserves to divorce the cheating patner and I think that's why OPs wife is leaving.good for her!

Honestly mehn,with the way majority male bosses have gone randy,most men will be scared if their wives have a male boss.especially when both goes on a trip that will keep them away,together for a long time.the man,without his wife may start try his luck and only a woman with self control will resist.some women also has a thing for their bosses too.in real life,I've witnessed it a lot-bosses sleeping with peoples fiancess/wives.
@0P
I don't think their's anything you can do here.you just need to support her.what will be will be.

shaizegotswag:
Its not easy ooo especially not having friends around I hardly sleep or eat still going through it, sometimes I blame myself a lot for not being a cheat but the stress is too much jare I know God will heal me soon sha..she still wanna be FWB with me but its not cool at all

faithful guys are the ones their girlfriends/wives cheats the most.women will advice you to remain faithful if you want your gf/wife to be faithful but that's a fat lie.once they know they have no woman to compete with over you,they will start sleeping around but they tend to be more cool headed and serious when they have other women to compete with.but I always advice other men that they should NEVER trust any woman.be it your wife or gf because if you do,your heart will shatter by the time you find out she's messing around but if you don't trust her,you ll only be dissapointed,just dump her and move on with your life.or keep her and make life miserable for her before dumping her.if you ever wish to trust a woman,let it be your mom.she can die for you but your gf/wife can kill you,leave you and start ffucking another man the next day.you can replace your wife but not your mom.

Etetejake:
It is wen deprived of sex that u will know that girls av more sexual urge than guys. the law of sexual urge of female states that Bkx the easy access to their boyfriend is closed their urge becomes unbearable and they become loose,easy and cheap to any random being that possess a rod bellow to get an easy and cheap sex. This is also call female spiritual Congi. isolate a girl for just one week in a locked room she will av 2 months sex in a day wen she is freed. yet thy pretend the men ar the ones with the greatest urge. my friend have this landlord whose daughter always claim big girl bkx she is very beautiful. she never for once talk to my friend. Not until one day wen she came back home and nobody was at home. the compaound was so quite. furtunately for her my friend came outside and was surprise wen the so big beautiful girl greeted him. greeting led to another thing and to kissing then the game ended up in bed. surprise and unbelievable? I was also wen I first heard it. was it not that I saw how the two become so close after, I will still not blv. well, she later told my friend the reason. The reason that she was having a problem with her boyfriend for like a week and couldn't bear the urge any longer, hence the need to let off her guard and pride to get herself satisfied. they ar now great partners of friends with benefit. Thanks to Congi. my friend is now smilling everyday for dream well achieved.

my guy na so dem dey pretend all the time.dem go even dey do guy with sex as na only men need am but when their boyfriends/husbands are not around for a few weeks,that's when you'll know that they can't do without sex.wonder why a woman with class and richies will sleep with her driver or gateman? That's because the husband is not around.and leaving your woman for weeks/months due to the nature of your job means leaving her to sleep with other men.you can't trust them when there is distance between the both of you.I remember when a very close friend of mine was travelling to warri always trying to seetle some dispute.his babe was always in my place.the looks in her eyes were something else.I mean she'll literally be on the same couch with me and when the guy calls,she'll lie that she's in her room because the guy told her to stop visiting me at night always.the guy already knew she do come to my place cos of loneliness but if not for self control and the fact that that she's my friend's girl,I for enter o! I only thought about the effect it will have on my 5yrs friendship with the guy and I controlled myself.we were already talking dirty and sex..her body,boobs etc and she was enjoying it to the extent she asked me to tell her how I feel about her.her boyfriend is 10times richer than me and he last upto an hour(with enhancement sha) during sex.yet the babe wan cheat on him because he wasn't around momentarilly.
My brother's wife to be is serving now and I'm sure another guy will be screwing her over there.

delishpot..abeg take am easy.I understand everything you are trying to say but this world sha..weting man go do?..women are even worse in that cheating game and we men dey fear marriage now.so hank anuku get HIV?..you know what? Any man/woman that gets HIV from randy attitude is a fool to me.in this world where your girlfriend will probably have other men she has unprotected sex with.I have never had an unprotected sex.unprotected sex will be until I marry.it shall be well.

delishpot:
Perfect wife for naija men!
This is not to insult you o. But you are too cheap. You prolly are staying for money. I cant work with a pastor that lives in sexual sin and here is a woman comfortably furcking him.
How do you forgive yourself? Going to chursh, smilling, encouraging people to say amen when he prays, act and lie your church that all is well? God will judge you too.
See you see STD and HIV
Be wise ko, be smart ni! You are not wise, if you still got pregnant by him after the 1st baby, You were not wise. You opened your gate to be flooded by potential STD carrying Semen. You are just lucky to have escaped.

and you forgot to read where she said she's enduring because her own father went through hell in the hands of her mom but he still endured because of his children.you think the man didn't divorce her mom because the mom was rich?..una just dey open mouth anyhow as if say una no dey cheat,btw nigerian women are even the most promiscous.you can never see a nigerian girl that has less than two boyfriends.all in the name of test driving and also due to money.leave that woman alone! Or are you going to provide her a husband when she divorces? All the availlable single women are not even taken,na married and divorced women you think say men dey find? Pfft! Try divorcing and meet more heart breaks because,guys will deem you a cheap target.all it takes is to promise you marriage and you'll be giving out free sex anyhow.used and dumped.and mind you,another woman must have gladly taken over the house you left. don't decieve another woman cos I'm sure you people do none of the things you reel out here.

FolarinLondon:
You can imagine a lady slapping guys cos she beautiful and guys ll tell her "babez, don't do that again pls, I don't like it". Chaiii!!!! Real story bro but she met her Waterloo d day she tried that stunt with me cos she found out that I was cheating, I allowed her to cook and relax on the bed before giving her a well deserved slapsss and blows and she consequently fainted for about 15mins but wasn't bothered. She woke up to see her well packed bag on the table for her unceremonious departure. She went on her kneels and started telling me how she had been spoilt by her useless exs who wouldn't say anything abt this repulsive attitude......

hahahaha this is very funny.but don't be surprised that she may also have another boybriend that you doesn't know.they always want to eat their cake and have it.

punta:
Which temptation are you talking about? That's no excuse please!
I do not support cheating/marital infidelity on any level which is why intending couples should not be misled with this pre-marital sex ish. Sex is an integral part of a marital relationship. Ladies (virgins not included), test drive your motor before you acquire, to avoid disappointments.
A healthy sexual life for a couple makes up for some other short comings (not alll o). I cannot compromise on that one o abeg!

I get your point but reason I don't buy this test drive ish is because it looks more like a ssluty move to me.if I was a woman,I don't know what I'll do here honestly.but as a man,it doesn't speak well of a lady who have tested every kind of diicks all in the name of test driving.and this also the reason why nigerian women cheat a lot(due to test driving).
Let me ask you..do you actually think to be happy in a union,you must be getting a good sex? What if the man has many intolerable bad attitudes but very good in bed? What if he is a very good man with a good job but not so good in bed? What if he's that overall good man but not always around due to the nature of his job?.remember,you can not have it all.
Like I said,if I was a woman,I don't know what I'll do because I blame women who courted a man,noticed that the man is not good in bed or maybe the nature of his job keeps him away and still went ahead to marry him only to start sleeping around.women's situation is difficult I must say.

yebo:
honestly i so Much love your comment, You have Saïd it all, i told m'y husband That ces cheating on me but He denied but Just to prove it i went through hes phone n i saw his chat with a lady, asking m'y husband to take hip out That she Is bored at home

and this woman doesn't have any boyfriend/fiance/husband?
why are women always targeting other women's husbands? Even married women are also targeting other women's husbands? Na wa o.

FolarinLondon:
Women are hypocrites. If the husband happens to be the one who looked through his wife's phone, women ll start calling him names; they ll say that the husband is possessive and insecure

my guy you nailed it!
I remember a thread where a guy went through his wife's phone and noticed her flirtations with another man.the man was calling her "my love" and she was calling him sweet heart.the husband found out and threatened to end the union.you need to see the comments from useless nairaland women.they called him all sorts of name..some said he's not ready for marriage,some said it was just an endearment,infact,they threw the whole blame on the husband even asking him to work on himself.honestly,nairaland have made me to have a more negative opinion of women because what they write here is exactly from the depth of their hearts.the thing even made me to know that I shouldn't even kill myself over woman.just let her go and move unto the next one.

G12:
Back then, I had this female friend from another dept. who was on the verge of graduating with a 3rd class. I started studying with her so she could be motivated. She finally graduated with a low 2.2 and now she is working. Her uncle is a minister, but now "she dey hardly pick my call again sef".

I know of another mate who graduated with a 3rd class, but now working with a big oil company(I dunno know her position sha).

and why are they all women?

The 1st story you told.....if you and a woman are marketers who were given the same target,do you think you'll possibly do better than her? Especially in todays world where bottom power is turning the heads of people who are in the position of employing graduates?

Let me tell you...where a friend of mine works (an outfit that developes estate)..s.a new girl was brought there and the girl knows nothing.the babes behaves any how she likes and she collects more money than the old workers.she's almost on the verge of mounting a position where she'll be in control of some of her male colleagues.why? Because she dey ynash oga's brother.
There are very intelligent women out there who are fit to compete with their male counterparts but MAJORITY of them are helped out by bottom power.I compete with males and not women who may get some undeserved favors atimes.

When a man is excessively good to a woman,she will take him for granted.faithful men are the ones that are being cheated on by their wives.once a woman knows that she can trust you not to cheat,she'll start sleeping around since she doesn't have to worry over hubby.
@pentag0nal
The wife of your friend is definitely sleeping around!! She maybe dating a colleague or somebody else hence,the tiredness whenever she comes back.and once women starts sleeping around,they normaly lose interest in their husbands and this is why it is always dangerous to live with a cheating wife.tell your friend to start investigating his wife secretly,he'll be shocked at what he'lll find out.

The woman is an ediot sha.she's even cheating with a married and not a single and young guy,but another woman's husband who'll be probably older than her young and cute husband.well,that's a good news to other desperate single girls out there.one of them will be lucky to marry this rich young man.husbands are scarce these days,yet ssome hoes are joking with the ones they luckily get.
Bwt,the man should burn every pictures that has him and the wh.ore together including the wedding pics to erase every memory of the b1tch.

punta:
I am friends with the guy's cousin and his whole family and friends where against the union. They said that he likes flashy women and it was obvious this girl had no plans of being a real wife to him...............e don happen na.

This is what happens when a man is more into a woman's look than her personality. I do not feel sorry for him because he knew what he was getting into. He will surely find another asampete. Ndo nna

you think faithfulness is by looks? A lot ugly girls and those that dresses like church goers are worst if you don't know.a cheat is a cheat despite her looks.and many women who never planned to cheat may find themselves doing it when they face the temptation.

Women are always quick to jump into conclusion..she say a chat between you and another woman and so what?..why can't she say what she saw and why she had to smash the phone.she was just too jealous to notice you are chatting with another woman.it really surprises me because women are the ones that sleeps on social media chatting,flirting and sending nak.ed pics to online boyfriends.but when their husbands just chat with another woman,all hell will be let loose.if OP is the one that smashed her phone for chatting with another guy,women on this thread will still blame him and call him immature.abeg OP no give yourself hypertention because this life is too short.no mind what women says here.they are birds of the same feathers and hypocrites.

ferdimako:
Confused creatures! They tease u and scold u why u don't go to church..but will be happy to cut short their church service to come and ffuck u. Just be hard with ur reasoning and believe the antitheses.

this one pains me too..anytime I don't go to church,many of them will ask why..and they will be the first to dress up in their best clothes,fake weaves and heavy make ups just to go and worship GOD.and after church,they'll come seeking for your d1ck.that's hypocrism.

Euckybaby:
sure.. one amongst the faithful ones

that doesn't mean you can't chane in future.most of the promiscous wives we have today were once faithful you know.

raymondinc:
I was fvcking a lady and her husband to be whom I never knew called right out that moment and guess what she said "honey I'm not at home now o, shey I told you I was going to finish up the assignment given to me in my catery school, please baby as soon as I got home I'm going to call you" I was so shocked that I couldn't continue with her but asked her to leave immediately. So please guys don't trust them, they are so deceitful.

now,this is what I'm talking about.now tell me how any man will want to trust a woman?..and don't be surprised that the husband to be loves and trust her a lot.and tomorrow they'll say men should be good to get a good woman.only a foolish man will do that.at this point,every man should live their lives for themselves and not switch to mr nice guy because of a woman that will dissapoint you tomorrow.
My friend toasted a babe in her final year.this babe had a fiance who already paid money on her head..but she started going crazy over my guy because of ordinary compliment.she wrote her final exam on the day that made it two weeks from the first day they met..this babe took my guy to her cousin's place to ffuck the guy and celebrate her graduation with him while her husband to be is at home lonely.she planned it out with her cousin who left the house for them but my guy didn't know.this babe wey I dey talk so is somebody I respected so much because she behaved like a good girl all the time..naaa,I can't be decieved in any way by a woman.

Sunymoore:
Take twelve bottles of Origin for for my head

my guy its good to speak out the truth.I have always being a good guy to women but things don change.if I feel like cheating,I no dey look back sef..if she finds out and want to go..bye bye!!..I am the predator and I do the chasing.as far as my money's intact..no time to die over a woman because of cheating when they plenty evrywhere.

I wonder why some men are still getting worked up over women's promiscuity.mr searching4love,the ealier you realize that any woman you meet on the road is a potential cheat,the better for you!!
The best thing you can do is to treat your woman with respect but do NOT trust her.because in today's world,any man that foolishly trust a woman is digging his own grave.these days,women cheat like there's no tomorrow and they find a way to blame the husband by citing lack of attention etc.I've seen a thread where a little boy said he discovered his mom is cheating on his dad and some women told him to free the woman and close his mouth because it might be what makes her happy.to women,promiscuity is enjoyment and happiness.
When I was 21yrs,a friend of mine was sleeping with a married woman and we didn't know,he opened up to us when the woman asked him to bring his friends because her female friends needs boyfriends too.they are all married o! We rejected.

Is there any guarantee that the good woman will not cheat tomorrow?CHANGE is constant bro.even pastor's wives dey cheat steady sef.and they are all good women.there are women who waited till 10yrs,15yrs,20yrs into their marraige before the cheated.so that good woman you met today may cheat on you and give you another man's child in future.so,you don't need to be scared of cheating anymore,just have it in mind that it can possibly happen because it happens all the time already.I think the only thing you should be praying for is for GOD to give you a woman that will not give you another man's child.but as for a cheating woman,I no fit shout.every woman has that tendency to stray.because,attention and compliments from a new guy drives them crazy.plus women are easily influenced and they changes with environment.awoman may be good because she's in an environment filled with people that don't misbehave.but once she gets herself in a place where people flirt a lot,she will change.she may get a job and get close to a male colleague and start developing feelings for him.its crazy man!
Some men will run after virgins but me,I won't cos I've witnessed first hand a babe cheating on her fiance who disvirgined her.I've seen a lot and concluded that cheating is a part of women's life.
My guy,you can marry because of kids.to me,I don't see what I need marraige for if not for kids.living together with a woman for years,trust me it is always like hell.
Just do not trust any woman!!! No matter how good she is because she may surprise you tomorrow and when you find out,you may develope heart attack.but if you never trusted a woman and she cheats,you can only be dissapointed and stilll move on with your life.

Go and ask the husband of the head nurse who was sleeping with a cleaner why he collapsed on finding out his wife's sexcapades.that's because he trusted the woman with all his heart.

One more thing....stop being over good to women...women's attitude towards goodmen is nothing to write home about! You may exhaust your time and money on a woman and she'll dump you for one bad guy..they love bad guys.
And also,if you feel like playing games/cheating,please do!!..time no dey for any man to dey suffer himself because of one woman that will dissapoint you after all your faithfullness.btw,I believe you are bitter because,you've been faithful and good only for your gesture to be reciprocated with cheating etc.any woman that tells you "be good and faithfull so that you'll gett a good and faithfull wife" is only decieving you.no mind them and live your life.enjoy my guy!

Naam22:
you are not wise for making this stupid comment so because she have grown up children she can't enjoy herself again,after all their father is dead. Foolish children with their African mentality

this is a dumb post! Now I know why women are so promiscous and cheap these days.look at the way you reason.enjoy her self by shamelessly opening her legs for a boy same age with her son.what happened to her agemates? So promiscuity is now called enjoyment?

carefreewannabe:
Her husband's position is now horizontal 6 feet under and her kids are grown up, the should mind their own business.

they should mind their own business and leave their mom to become a free sex giver who's being ffucked and discussed by small small boys? women,una no get shame at all.
Why won't she look for a matured man and date or even marry?(Though its impossible)

sauceny:
Women loves sex like no tomorrow

I dey tell you! And everyday dem go dey pretend like say na men like sex pass.but when dem no see any man wey go dey ffuck them,na that time you go see them dey ffuck gateman,drivers etc.

As for this woman,she's useless to me! She insulted her sons by opening her legs for a boy the same age as her son and also bringing him home.at her age which may be 50 and above,she still no fit leave without sex.

slimyem:
I don't get why you are complaining since he obviously has always been this way and you've been okay with it all the while.

What exactly are you looking for now? Someone to chitchat with or a connection with him?if it's the former your husband certainly doesn't sound like he'll be it.You have acknowledged him for who he is then be comfortable with that.


Do you derive sustenance and strength from your relationship with him,do you feel seen ,heard and valued as a wife?That's what important..I believe. Communication is not just talking away . You can say a lot to each other without saying anything.
If you can identify you have this with your husband or something similar to what mutter has described,please be content and be happy.

nice!!