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@Op please quickly get a DNA test of your kids because they might not be yours. A woman that just travelled to her place and started having an affair must be a sex freak and would have been doing it each time your are away for long.


Women and cheating. Its very hard to see a woman that won't cheat at some point in her marriage.

Ok you are tired of dating and wants to take some one serious? So you never took all your boyfriends serious? You must have caused some of them pains, and after double dating and cheating like every other nigerian girls, you are looking for a real man when you are not a real woman.
You even found one that obeys his mom yet you hate him for that. So you will like it if your own son disrespect you because of an ordinary woman? Which type of human being are you?

Honestly, karma is always waiting for nigerian women for all they did before looking for one mumu to tie down. That mumu will start seeing other women and they taste how it feels to jump from one partner to another.

The reason is not far fetched.

Women of today marries for money and for the sake of the title "mrs", nothing else.

They go into marriage and mess it up. How do you expect a woman to marry a man she barely know and never loved to make marriage bearable for the man? She will turn his world upside down. Some of them will still be hooking up with their ex bfs who they truly loved and dumped for a rich man. Women of today are just too selfish. They about themselves and hapiness alone. You'll be killing yourself to make money and give her all she wants only for her to say thank you with lines like " you are never there for me, you are more interested in your job". Before you know it, they are messing around with another guy with your hard earned money sef.

Then next is equality this, equality that.. They go into marriage to have power tussle with their husbands. They moment she makes more money than you or you becomes jobless, count your yourself a dead man walking.

Ever worked under a female boss? You'll get what I'm saying. They abuse every opportunity they get.

The same way women cheats and find faults in their hubbies might have been at work here.

You may search within you and find out where you've gone wrong.

Personally, I call it boredorm. It is the same reason why women cheat but they will rather blame their husbands for lack of attention etc. Your hubby is bored and wanted excitement just like every men and women that foolishly think cheating is always the best way out.

If you were a man, I will advice you to DIVORCE the bitch because cheating wives are deadly. But since you are a woman, the ball is in your court. You can forgive him or divorce him only if you haven't cheated before or if you never dated a married man when you were single because, nigerian girls will date a married man but won't want another girl to ffuck their's. It may be karma working.

But why run out on your pregnant GF in the first place? Its very bad and can make a woman hate you for ever. This is when she needed you the most.

I wish you luck but I do not blame her!

SAMBARRY:
Hmmnn

you don come again. When women cheat now,you'll totally forget to post this same stuff for them to read and correct themselves.

Moana:
may your wife taste eba, garri, amala, pounded yam, fried plaintain, fried eggplant once in a while IJN

funny. But these days, a lot women are also tasting eba, garri, amala and different soups in their marriages as well. Even if his wife does it, she won't be the first nor the last to do it.

Wedon:
So who says thwere has to be a second husband

You men think the world revolves around you, that a woman cannot suvive without a husband! Well that's where you are wrong.

I will rather stay a single mother for the rest of my life than stay with a cheater.

And if you think men don't desire married women, you must be living in delusion.

and you mistakenly exposed yourself as a woman with (m) gender sign. You women of this section are just ready to go any length to attack men.

Your last line...only foolish men desires married women. Especially the ones that have upto 3kids and no longer attractive. Deal with it.

Women sef!

I thought she caught the man with another woman. What is the big deal about smoking? This a man that does not abuse you, he treats you very well(according to you), so what else do you want? You think their's a perfect human in this world? What if he is a cheat who doesn't smoke, will you prefer that? Or an abusive husband who doesn't smoke. Which one is better?

Its better that he smokes and still be a very good husband IMO.
He might have been addicted to it but doesn't want you to know. He just doesn't want you to get hurt because he loves you. You should be greatful to GOD.

If a man is faithful, his wife will find another fault. if he doesn't stay out late, caring and loving, the wife must find another fault. if he's very wealthy, there must be one fault detected. This is the reason why women are hardly happy in their marriages. They seek for something non-existent.

Woged2005:
5. Don’t demand honesty rather demand respect. Honesty ends a relationship, it’s respect that keeps it going. There is no honest man in a relationship.

this is a very dumb assertion!

You should have just said " no human is honest in a relationship" because women are the most trickish and dishonest, sneaky and never wants their men to know their moves whilst they'll be monitoring their men's every move. Use yourself as an example...where you honest in your marriage when you were busy flirting with other men in social media until your hubby busted you?

Tallesty1:
Leo, I don't see this our relationship going anywhere because I can't date a guy that knows my every move. Someone that i can't deceive or lie to.

It is pathetic how some of them reason.

this is what I'm talking about. They will want to freely jump from one man to another. Flirting is like a food to their souls. But they wouldn't want you to do the same. They'll accuse you first to cover their tracks, they'll monitor you all the time but they'll want you to be their mumu who doesn't know about their dirts. They always want to eat their cake and have it.

5minsmadness:

@chibic, now watch as all the ladies rush to her defence!

na normal thing na.. Women supports themselves.

freecocoa:
Mehn women don suffer o, imagine "if you do bad all the time and your man doesn't punish you for that, how will you feel about him, will you believe that he loves you" like for real?

Hmm, you people need serious re-orientation o and a psychiatrist too.

please do not wish me that, @psychiatrist, freecoacoa.

I said that because women tend to believe that a man doesn't love them if he doesn't get hurt whenever they misbehaves. Its really sad.

SAMBARRY:
How about women who didn't know their left from their right and women who know now


you still dey look for mumu wife. You will go to the village to marry an 80 year old woman then .

if you remove all that make ups, what you will have is a masquerade.

FrancisTony:
I'm a female?

Buhahahahahaha!

I know how it hurts, you all grew up with abusive mother and ended up as family-section women hater.

Any man that counters you is a female: I have a wonderful mother and females around me unlike you frustrated souls.

I'm not like you woman. You sounded childish and that's why I qouted you. Mind you, only a frustrated soul will come on nairaland to hide under a man's name just to bash men every now and then.

Abusive mothers? So women do abuse their children?

SAMBARRY:
Chibok girl abi kilo pe oruko e. There's a big difference between mentally challenged girls and normal women. Don't mix the 2

if you do bad all the time and your man doesn't punish you for that, how will you feel about him? Will you believe that he loves you? As far as I do not like beating a woman, I also hate the fact that women loves to abuse people verbally. I know for a fact that women hates to be at the receiving end of a verbal abuse. Infact, a verbal abuse can leave an everlasting scar on a woman's soul. Now, imagine your husband calling you a wh.ore, telling you that you look ugly or reminding you of your dirty past. Isn't it as painful as physical abuse? Or your husband giving you the silent treatment for weaks just because of what you said to him. Won't you still call him childish. Any form of abuse is bad and women should stop thinking that they can throw verbal abuses and go free. As for me, any abuse from my women will meet a response more painful than physical abuse.

FrancisTony:
Does he have to insult my mother to appear intelligent?.

Reference: Modern Nigerian women.

in other words, everything he said about today's women reminds you of your mother? I see..

I know you are a modern Nigerian WOMAN, you don't need to tell us.

Jamean:
Gone are the days of fighting the other woman deal with the culprit more related to you.

so if your man see you with another man, he should pour acid on you? Btw, what do you have to say about the man that recently forced his wife to drink an acid and die just cause she cheated? We should praise him abi? Hypocrite!

FrancisTony:
An Advice To The Writer Of That Article
That you came from a broken home, with a pathetic mother or women around you, shouldn't mean everyone is like you.
Tone down your hate or drink an acid.

you really sound bitter. do you have to insult his parent to appear intelligent?

Today's wives are the worst thing that happened to marriage.

I don't touch women but I put all the blame on women who are beaten. A typical nigerian girl likes bad boys and men who beats them up. If you do not beat a girl, she will take you as a very weak man and some may think you don't love them sef. It really surprises me to see them complaining about being beaten when they will choose an abusive man.
If a man is the all good and quiet type, his girl will take him as weak and boring. Before you know it, she will start messing around with a bad boy that maltreats her and she will even love the bad boy more. Its a pity that our women are insane and confused. Ask a nigerian girl to choose between her numerous lovers, and watch her take the criminal/drunkard/smoker/badboy.

Many of these women are always beaten up by their fiances even before marriage and they see it as a sign of love. Any woman abused should carry her cross because she made that choice by her self.

lavatoz:
They are angry because these women are playing their game. Ah ah! It's not fair na

cheating is not a man's game as far as women are also doing it. The problem is that when a woman sleeps around, you guys will start looking for the husband's fault to put the blame on him. You can't agree that many women are promiscous, especially Nigerian women. When a girl is used to dating multiple men at the same time, it won't be a surprise if she does same in her marriage. All those women who sleeps around for money, for jobs, for promotion are also playing men's game abi?
But, even as I see a lot of you bragging about being promiscou to make men feel bad, it can only mean more cheap women availlable for randy men. If open marriage should become a must, it would have been better. And I wonder which gender will cry at last.

SAMBARRY:
so I cannot laugh again ni?




Awon e bad belle are at it again o

you can laugh but you need to cut down your hypocritical nature. What on earth will make one enjoy this type of shameful story about our women? I hope you laughed when they labelled you nigerian women as the most unfaithful?

SAMBARRY:

on your case again.

You didn't advice anybody today. Why na? I remember you posting up something advicing men not to cheat for whatever reason in their marriage. But I can see that you are enjoying yourself because women are the ones cheating now. Hehe

freecocoa:
Atleast their reasons are easier to understand then those of the men.

it is easier to understand because they are women? So men who cheat have no reason for doing it?

Will you call it a good reason to cheat if your hubby is still seeinh his ex? Won't you call it childish if a man sleeps around because his wife cheated? Even the girl that is ceating for excitement is also reasonable too? Women sef.

Personally, I know its hard to stay with one partner for the rest of one's life, and that's the only reason I'll relate to. Any other thing is gabage.
I just wish open marriage will be endorsed so that everybody can date anybody while married. If I ask my girl what she think about open marriage she will kick against it. And I'm sure many women will also kick against it yet, they'll still cheat secretly. Talk about wanting to eat your cake and have it.

manny4life:
Remember that 6 months is a long time to be away from your wife and vice versa... As much as cheating is wrong, 6 months is a long time abeg.

use your brain well bro.

Do you blame the man that the job through which he earns millions is keeping him away from home for long? Same job through which he will give his wife and kids a better life. A man working his asss off to provide for a wh.ore will be so devastated to find out that the ingrate, instead of supporting him and wait for him, she will be sleeping around and most of them will be spending the money on other men.

I blame the wife because, she knew the nature of the man's job before marrying him. Remember that women wants to marry a hardworking man. Now tell me, does being a hardworking man translate to being the type of man who will always be at home? A hardworking man will always be steeped in his job. Some of their jobs will keep them away from home for a long time. Its not their fault. They can't quit their job and remain at home with their wives because same women will cheat when there is no money again. Men in oil companies who work offshore are experiencing this regularly. Mind you, its a thing of two- three weeks offshore, then you get back home still, these hoes will still cheat within that few weeks. Forget the 6months excuse. If it was weeks, she'll still do it. I know one that her hubby caught unsuspectinly. He stays away for two weeks, then back home again but the hoe needed another man to fill in that two weeks.

These women marry for money and act like they don't know about the threats of living for weeks/months without their husbands who will always be away due to his job. They will be pretending like they are coping with it but meanwhile, they are sleeping around secretly. The woman in this topic must be telling every one close to her that GOD have been her strength. That she's coping very well and she'll always assure the hubby that she's fine. But she will also wantant to monitor her hubby's activities as well to be sure he's not seeing another woman. That's women for you.

egobetatoday:
will the children be traumatised and dissapointed if their dad is caught pants down with another lady?
will they be able to walk or talk before the neighbours?
i woman also have very good chances of getting a man incase u dont know.
beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. are u saying u will get a younger and beautiful girl who will also cheat on u like the first? incase u dnt know, women with cheating husbands also learn to cheat. u may not have caught them.

no matter how you may try to paint it, cheating does not favour women. The consequences are too much when compared to men.
Mind you, women are not that fortunate to remain a hot cake in the relationship market just like men. As women get older, they get uglier and unnatractive but a man just needs to have money to get any woman he likes. If you are a man, can you marry an old woman? But a lot younger girls will marry an old man. If you are a lady, will you support your brother to marry a woman over 40yrs? But I'm sure you wouldn't mind your brother of 40yrs marrying a girl in her twenties. You may try as much as you can to make it seem like men and women has equal chances but within you, its not so.

I maintain that a man can get a beautiful woman anytime any day, no matter how old he is, but a woman above 30 is already running out of beauty and time. Who wants to marry an old woman who is divorced anyway? When there are lot single girls ready to be a second wife, going from one church to another to get a man at all at all. Abegi.

fellis:
The payback reason sounds very reasonable to me.

You can't traumatize your kids with divorce because your husband is a skirt chaser. Cheat on him instead.

and when you get caught, the trauma and shame you'll put your kids in will be double. Imagine a grown up girl like you finding out that your mom was caught pants down with another man. How shameful and dissapointed will you be? You can't even walk or talk infront of your neighbours.
These proud cheaters better pray they are not caught.

columbus007:
I once had a friend that got married to his wife with 2kids age 5 and 3,there was this unforgotable day in his life that his wife woke him up so early in the morning to tell him she was no longer interested in d marriage simply because she feels her level have passed her husband's own,she started telling how she's been unfaithful..my peeps things are happening don't take anythg for a joke

I hope the guy let her go? Cos I'm sure one richer dude fukcing her must have promised her everything. He should let her go. Time will come when she'll be dumped and then we shall see. Infact, that your friend shouldn't even bother. A man has more chances of getting a woman any time any day, no matter your age.
I also have a friend that same thing happened to, now the woman is begging to come back.

I can't even bother myself much over a wh.ore. I'll quickly get me a younger girl who is more pretty than her.

adedeji65:
seriously fell inlove with ur post, but the. most popular excuse of my female Corp member frnds is that the 19k is too small to meet their demand, so they need external forces, such as sugar daddy, aristo and couple's liife to survive..... I was determined never to date any of dem.. thank God I have two months left

let me tell you another truth...that girlfriend of your friends kola and dayo already has a boyfriend/fiance at home before coming for service. She will still be keeping in contact with him, promising him that everything is okay and the dude will be feeling lucky without knowing that several men are climbing her. Our women are too deceptive and compulsive liers. This is the reason she found it easier to sleep with dayo's friend behind him. Infact, within her, dayo is a gonner!
By the time she goes back home, she will reunite with her real BF/fiance and pretend like she was celibate all through her service year.

They are stuupiid for complaining over 19k. When I served, it was 9.5k and we survived with it. Ok, how about you males that collects 19k as well? Won't you survive? Do you need sugar mummy to survive? These girls are just wh.ores and they are used to it and will find every means possible to justify it and even blame men.
Have you ever wondered why Nigerian married women are the most promiscous in the world? It is because none of them ever dated a single guy in their singles years. They cheated so much that it became a part of them. Majority will sleep with another guy a day to their wedding hoping that they will stop after wedding hahaha..funny! This is the reason why they will get married and still continue sleeping around.

Trust a Nigerian girl at your own peril!!

95% of them lives their lives like who.res. They date multiple men at the same time, including married men. And they are very proud of it. When a man does the same, they will call him a dog, cheat etc but women who dates multiple women sees themselves as smart women.

Their excuse are; they don't want to suffer a heartbreak, they do not want to put their eggs in one basket. Many of them said they dates multiple men until one of them proposes. Nonsense!
I pray GOD opens my eyes so I don't fall into the trap of any of these hoes who will be dating you and still be sleeping with other men. They are just selfish!!

If you ever get seperated due to job transfer or whatever, it will get worst from there. They will sleep with your driver or gateman. They will even target your closest friends. A very rich close friend of mine travelled for few weeks and the babe started coming to my place regularly. It got to the point that she asked me to tell her how I feel about her. I was shocked! But thank GOD I'm not those type of guys so I couldn't help her fulfill her amorous aims. Since then, any trust I had for Nigerian women went below zero.once you are in abuja while your girl is in PH, even if its for a month or two, better know that another nigga is smashing her pussssy. Its that easy in this country. Even married women are also guilty. Such a terrible country!

SirShymexx:
Oh, Nas is the unrepentant womaniser now, when it was actually Kelis who cheated on him with a s3x tape someone was about to release.

Brev, keep making excuses for crazy black biitches - you'll become a victim soon, with ya mouth wide open.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R1f4R3owxkI

I thought kelis is also a musician who is supposed to be making good money as well, so why is nas ordered to be paying such ridiculous amount? And it also seems the kid may belong to another man who cheated with. Well, I somehow doubt, cos nas was supposed to demand for the DNA before accepting court order.
Here's what I saw online.....


Kelis is keeping a secret. The father of her son is former football player Wale Ogunleye not Nasir Jones. After adult freaky tape allegations leaked featuring Kelis and a man other than her husband she decided to become pregnant to save her failing marriage. She though it would take a few months for her to conceive but she was pregnant within a month. She and Ogunleye were having an affair and things happened so quick she was uncertain of the child’s paternity.

That’s why she refused to allow Nas into the delivery room and refuses to allow him to visit her son without her or the nanny. Her son has striking features he inherited from his biological father who is of Nigerian decent. She just recently purchased a foreclosure in Glendale California, and is desperately seeking a sponsor. She fears losing another property she has had two foreclosures and two evictions since her divorce. Ogunleye has since upgraded and is now dating Michelle Williams of Destiny’s Child.

fairlyisabel:
This woman has made the worst mistake of her life. Why didn't she get her own lover at least that will erase the pain she had for her husband cheating on her or better still divorce. She wasn't really thinking well.

truth is that most cheating women do it mostly when their husbands are good and faithful. Or maybe they thought so. Women are more jealous than men. They want to own every men in this world, a cheating wife will get extremely jealous once her hubby gets a girlfriend and at this point, she might retrace her steps to win her hubby back. They always want to eat their cake and have it. That's why a married woman will be extremely jealous if she finds out that her secret lover also has a girfriend. I've witnessed it before. I know a man who got himself a girlfriend when it was almost clear that the wife was cheating, though she constantly denied it. Immediatley the wife noticed that the hubby had a GF, she changed and started fighting to win him back. The man came up with her infidelity habit which she used to deny, she confessed immediately(crying and begging) and promised never to do it again because she feared that another woman may take her place. Now this a woman who was hapilly cheating but stopped because her hubby is playing the game too.

Bottomline is; most women won't cheat back when their hubbies are doing it because cheating back means she is ready for a break up which she can also file for. They will fight to get him back. Women mostly cheat not because they suspect their hubbies too.
.But then, a woman who cheats in that situation will only end with the wrong man who will be fuccking her freely and regarding her as a hoe.

SAMBARRY:
Smh

you should have preached your gospel in this thread where a cheating wife was set on fire.

https://www.nairaland.com/2030782/jealous-expatriate-kills-cheating-wife/3

Atleast, you need to preach to women too so they will stop being promiscous. You know you women are even worst.