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Double0h7:
That’s got to be so terrifying for her. Imagine, to never have had sex and on your first attempt you get pregnant. For a woman that’s 2 fears in 1. The anxiety of having to give birth before you even set your mind on being a wife. Why wouldn’t sex be the last thing on her mind.

What’s even sadder is ops selfish attitude. He doesn’t even care about her wellbeing because a wife is an incubator and a sex tool for him and his like. I honestly believe a lot of men hate women and refuse to see them as human beings. Reading the comments from men on this thread is shocking. No mercy.

I really hope young ladies are paying attention and are not looking to these men as some knights coming to save them. My sister prioritise your education and be ready to rescue yourself before one beast uses you as a sex tool before he throws you and your seed out of HIS house.

. Aunty your paragraph no make any sense, you courted that was a enough time to process and prepare your mind & body for whats to come

when you say " I do" it means you have reached the final stage of processing and you are ready for whats to come, i can you be having unprotected sex n still be shocked getting pregnant ... doesnt make sense

There is an issue inside her she is not just spilling out, she is only using the pregnancy as a cover

Every other you wrote, honestly i wont want to insult you But whats that a man that had 2yrs patience no sex is still the villian inside marriage cos he asked for sex

Helpout12345:
Then you might not have a big problem if it was obvious you love each other. It might be hormonal changes due to early stage of pregnancy.

Just be patient. I know by second and even third trimester, same pregnancy hormone cause women to want it more and even be more soaking down there.

Another question I have is this. Do you learn how to pleasure a woman very well or did you also marry as a Virgin with no experience? You will need that experience when she is ready for you. A no-experience man in that business is also a turn off for them.

hormonal changes at what time .... they had sex for just 10days before pregnancy ... instant hormonal change na waa o !

lovemaths:
You guys should book a session with a qualified marriage counsellor

mama deola would be great

kiddaz:
There was never a time they had regular sex, going by the op

which time, naa wedding night conjugation you dey consider sex ..... i am not surprise the pregancy came so fast .. OP don full reach throat if you press pimples on him naa while fluid go gush out 🤣 baba suffer enter marriage still dey suffer i feel for him

Mariangeles:
Na so una dey take go outside go pack evil spirit wey full outside, carry enter una home.
When things begin fall apart, una no go open mouth talk wetin una do.
God dey watch all of una!

So you are just gonna play the victim here after using your own hands to push the innocence man out

will women ever take responsibilities ... you starve a man n expect him not to anything .. should that be a " trust"

VOsimhen144:
na why I support polygamous marriage to an extent… as this op wife dey give am unnecessary attitude you go Jst switch enter the second wife kpekus.

OP, sit her down and talk to her, know what the issue is, if she no give u concrete reason and she no adjust, no jst dey stress urself, kpekus full everywhere, as low as 10k you go knack better kpekus.
U go run am codedly, no let ur wife know.
Life no hard abeg..

Naa for this tinubu economic you dey opine 2nd wife, do you know how much it cost to take care of one wife talk of more two .. you don marry ??

Sex is the not the only problem with humans, you can marry a 2nd wife that wil be giving you sex But she is showing you another kind of shege disrupting your peace of mind you go run marry 3rd wife abi ,,, thats solution abi

Not every man are like us community preek, some just want to be with there woman that Op had 2yrs courtship of no sex depict he is not the infidelity type

Ozzyk:
A legally married man should put his cap on hold for 9 months? And who told you you can start knacking you wife again immediately after 9 months? U must at least give her 8 weeks to heal after delivery
And it differs from women to women
Some could take more time

Bro it might surprise you to know so many married men are as sex starved as you ... the kind of holy holy courtship you had. with your woman makes a bit difficult to scan into what the issue might be with your wife cos pregnancy is not a solid excuse
In most cases, there are two reasons Men find themselves in situation as you

1. No be you she love gan gan but naa you ready
2. She was a virgin, so we cant tell if she doesnt like sex or not

But i do tell guyz, From my own experience i can say there is no woman that doesnt like sex, the man is not just enough turn On for her people might challenge this buh i am confidently saying it,
that same wife turning you down, might be with another man tomorrow n the man go dey run from her cos of over sex that gender you think you know them

My advice is, you need someone that can get inside her head, a therapist, mummy G.o or best friend that she can confide in that's how you have a real scan of what the issue is .. only then you know what's best to do

zero8zero:
Which mistake?. They have been pardoned already, if e pain yu reach, go and unpardon them.


Mr Noah, what are the clauses, can you share with us?. You want the authorities to parade them before their various communities and make them before they could be accepted and granted pardon?
Abeg, enter inside rain make rain beat your head.

if the people you are trying so hard, think as you think they won't be running from pillar to post

Tinubu can do whatever he likes it not as if we run a democracy anymore ..... buh is deeds will go down on record.

Seems you dont read to comprehend or how did you miss the clause ?? when you find it tell me its not true

Unfortunately the Man is right ??

But can he tell what is APC doing to Nigerians that is " sane" .. ??
decamp to Apc n all sins are forgiven is that sane

wike a known pdp member handover is state structure to APC is that sane

Abeggi

2fine2fast:
At least they are listening.

they are listening abi what they did just feedback to them as being unreasonable, insensitive and it questions there character

subsidy removal, taxes, change of national anthem why dem no listen, election is coming around 🤣

zero8zero:
The President has the right under the constitution to pardon anybody. Not only the politicians jailed for corruption deserve pardon.

Who says the president does not have the power to pardon so far, is English a challenge ?

the whole idea of clemency started from the people in greece, it was the people that were supposed to sign off an inmate pardon ...but the requisite vote 60, 000 to secure a pardon was infeasible then they delegated the power to the king

Clemency must resonate forgiveness from not just the presidency but the society cos the inmate need acceptance back into the society not Aso rock.

FiY, there are clauses to clemency when it concerns "capital crime" i think the inmate must have served @least 10/15yrs .. the ones Tinubu release did they meet the clause

where is folake4u when i need her the most

Goodlady:
Pls respect ya president. You v no other one for possibly next 6 yrs.

is like our president is struggling to conceal a bulge in his trouser , thank the camera didnt zoom in

is that not as certain as actor cant die in an action movie

even ones wey no get porto folio passed weytin musa neva see for gate

why do o feel like this one is just forcing herself on us naa makeover we go chop

slivertongue:
I repeat dangote ain't doing Nigeria a favor, with or without him we will find our level with time. The union ain't also doing us a favor. By the way dangote's products are always cheaper outside Nigeria.

You are entitled to your Opinion But Facts negate your existence or whatever you think..

Dangote revolutionalized the cement industry when lafarage was unserious and we were importing grossly ... today Nigeria is net exporter of cement + SR to communities

For decades Nigerians yearned for refineries, Dangote singlehanded making that provision today is much more than a favor he could have built it in Malta export to Nigeria nd make much gains .. yeah think it through do the maths building in malta would have paid Dangote more

Dangote product appear cheaper outside because his country currency is valuelezz, useless and worthless .... it is the worth of naira to that country currency that makes it cheap
Damgote is highly in need of Fx, selling at discount to foreign demands is a good stable source of FX to meet his operational needs

what more do you want to hear

slivertongue:
Unions are largely agents of govt to destabilize the people from confronting govt roguish policies. The union simply told Osho baba that he is a hypocrite who traveled the same path. Dangote isn't doing Nigerians a favor. No capitalist does charity. I took side his coy when govt through NNPC fought but he can't wake up and throw out 800 persons from jobs using petty excuses. He can't try that in other climes and g scot free. He has been pampered enough.

Dangote dont owe Nigerians Favor, he is simply doing his business and he as being Patriotic more than even those we elected as leaders

IF not for Dangote, upon subsidy removal fuel will sell above 1k per litre , with scarcity from time to time and we would still be at the mercy of cartels called marketers

If thats not Favor to Nigerians You can't discredit it as wickedness or evil

Dangote as every right to act in the best Interest of his investment " without dependent on people to understand" dangote refinery is an " infact" what pengassan should be doing for now is allow "Dangote grow n stabilize"

if you birth a child will you throw her into school at one year old becos you want her to be Ngozi soyinka .... their is time for everything and pengassan lured Dangote workers at the wrongiest time


Every sane country in the world as " protective measures" for "infant" companies ... seun please where are the educated members how as fg pampered dangote c'mon crude for naira naa back n forth ..

Ofunaofu:
The APC is clearly jittery about a potential Goodluck Jonathan comeback.

Instead of telling Nigerians what they’ve done to improve lives or presenting facts to show that life today is better than it was under the Jonathan administration they’ve become emergency advisers, urging him not to contest.

They say he has a reputation to protect, calling him an elder statesman

, as if Tinubu an ancestor old enough to be playing with his grandchildren shouldn’t apply the same standard to himself.

When that tactic didn’t work, they shifted to claiming Jonathan would fail. In their warped imagination, they argue that the South-South Jonathan’s own region won’t support him in 2027. Instead, they claim the region will back Tinubu simply because he gave a few appointments to people from there.

But ask them; What has Tinubu done for the South-South? What has he done to improve the lives of Nigerians or raise the standard of living across the country? They can’t name even one thing.

Now, after failing woefully and spectacularly, they’ve resorted to the courts, trying to bar Goodluck Jonathan from contesting.

Yet Jonathan himself has never even declared his intention to run. But the APC is already panicking because they know that if Goodluck Jonathan is on the ballot, there will be no real contest.

The election will be over before it begins.

Naa that part they make me laugh pass, this guyz are clowns, what reputation ... that he conceded defeat
So they want Jonathan to carry Concede defeat like a Nobel prize,.
so when you fall you dont stand up for the fear not to fall again, when you fail jamb you dont write jamb again to keep clean sheet like onana 🤣🤣

this country don taya me, people talk n you just wonder where did common $ense go

aribisala0:
I am not interested in your rambling you said 800 workers against 250 million
Imagine ignorance


Shell, Chevron are Miners in the downstream 1sector, did you say that?

How is Dangote on the side of 250million?

i dont think i am above correction ... If not Mining, what do you classify Shell, chevron, operation as show me that intelligence

Dangote is on the side of 250 million at this times becos he as being able not only to provide the Refinery the govt n your almighty shells can not do

Also dangote not only did his refinery cut down unemployment rate he also provide essential product vital to Nigerians businesses nd household at affordable rate than the existing rogues
The people are behind Dangote and cheers is damn loud, check all the curses pengassan got online it came from Us Nigerian and we assure you there is more to come ... you are tew low for me where are the 1st class in Union make we talk proper

aribisala0:
You obviously just want to talk
Talk ignorantly

The point is simple PENGASSAN has MOST of its members in Mobil, Shell, CHEVRON AGIP ETC

They have existed for over 50 years in harmony with companies that are way bigger ,older and more important to Nigeria than Dangote

The point is thar Dangote is a new and smaller entrant into the industry and he decided that he wants to scrap unions

You are not coherent and are just rambling

What is your point?

So !!!, what if Pengassan have members across power oil and kings oil tew its irrelevant unionism is not a Must

Shell, Chevron are Miners in the downstream sector, from all indication there are no forces up against the operation of Mining in Nigeria, so you can't use downstream sector to waved off dangote in the upstream sector pro action ... learn

For over 30yrs "Refinery" as being Nigeria main challenge, the IOC, Shell, chevron n co. avoided that sector like plague even when OBJ offered to sell it off as scrap to them, but Dangote ventured into a forest your Super shell, chevron wont dare ... does it not bother you why likes of shell, chevron never dared to own Refinery in Nigeria, is it financial lack or what

If dangote had ventured into Mining as well like shell, he wont have any worries or battle ... he will follow laid down path cos it as being proven "safe" But we are talking about a Refinery route where the laid down path seems abmushed and can not be trusted

If the existing path have rendered four refineries uselezz its only logical for a sane mind to find a new path to achieve the organisational goal, 60% of bank workers are contract staff n not well renumerated Union no see that one,

the 3 days strike have created artificial scarcity of Gas, over 800 households have been put into distress What is Union doing to ameliorate the situation, how do you care about some workers and dont a fvck about Nigerians 🤣 awon were

princeade86:
I dont think federal government should be supporting anybody in this matter.

Yeah ! federal govt should be on anyside buh when a case involves a baby and an adult wont you subconsciously fall to a side.

Dangote is infant, the refinery marked one year of operation few month ago, if your baby urinnate on yoy and you are spanking the baby as her father your neighbours on whose side will they appear to be

aribisala0:
The issue of who is bigger is a side discussion clearly you want to change topic
SHELL PAID TEN TIMES MORE TAX in 2024

The Dangote Group paid over N402.3 billion in taxes in 2024,

About a quarter of a billion $US

In 2024, Shell paid a total of $5.34 billion to Nigerian authorities, marking the highest such payment globally for the company that year.[/i]

Shell employs indirectly by using contractors and

One example . Shell does not directly employ drivers
They are not unreasonably greedy seeking to covet the entire value chain
Shell does not own a single vehicle in Nigeria
It leases from MANDILAS AND SCOA
You never hear of SHELL DRIVERS KILLING ANYONE
THEY STICK TO WHAT THEY ARE GOOD AT
THEY OUTSOURCE LOGISTICS
MANY OF THE LOGISTIC COMPANIES SERVING SHELL=SHELL
HAVE ONLY ONE CUSTOMER.

So leave unverifiable claims about largest employer
Thousands of workers work inside SHELL on contract but they are not employees

How many people does Dangote employ
Can you provide evidence
Not parrot what you heard somewhere

At any rate we are talking oil industry

@least i started with dangote and ended with Dangote, what should we say about you bringing in Shell, Total and taxation into the topic what does it have to with anything here .. shell paid 10x ... what as that got to do with pengassan vs Dangote i meet alot of people that see good english but zero $en$e

why are we even talking about SHELL here,
1. shell is an IOC while dangote is indigenous they are handled same way,
2. shell & others are into mining operations while only Dangote is the only standing Refiner

with just these two difference alone why should be using shell as a standard for dangote, i said dangote is largest employer of labour after govt counter it with fact shebi you have google

Dangote bought 4000 CNG truck, with 5 drivers to one truck ..do the maths plus dangote employed over 3000 workers in that refinery.... i wont derail with you check the topic again

Guestmale:
NUPENG should please tread softly, yes right to association is fully guaranteed in our constitution but we must not exercise that freedom in such a way that it will not be like or perceived as being used to punish innocent populace. What Senator Oshiomole said is for the interest and benefits of both the union members and the general populace if you don't allow the refinery to take it root properly before demanding outrageous incentives or right you will kill it,it will affect the staff of the refinery first and then the populace.

Dont mind this rogues called Union, even at some point in the interview Oshiomole said he is in a difficult position to talk buh however he managed to hint out the conventions, approach matters alot

Now see how they have reacted, they want to correct dangote buh they believe they are above correction even from Nigerians, shebi they know Nigerians didnt support pengassan let them fire us non grinder

folake4u help me with the law term

aribisala0:
You are obviously paid

That is a false Formulation
A false choice
There is no reason why those 800 workers were sacked
Why can't there be a win win
That union coexist which much bigger companies
E,g last year SHELL paid 10 times more tax than Dangote
When was the last time we heard noise about union with SHELL ,MOBIL CHEVRON.
Why must Dangote insist that his workers cannot join a union

Let us look at cement

Nigerian gas is among the cheapest in the world
Dangote has free access to limestone and very cheap labor

China imports most of its energy

Cement is over $7 in Nigeria compared to $2.70 China

DANGOTE IS NOT ON THE SIDE OF 250million people
That NUPENG WAS THE ONE THAT FOUGHT ABACHA
ALWAYS FOUGHT FOR NIGERIANS

NOT. DANGOTE

DANGOTE IS KILLING NIGERIANS DAILY WITH HIS TRUCKS


Dangote cement is the most profitable cement company in the world with over 50 % profitable

Fact check this

Other cement businesses around the world are averaging 20%

Oga Dangote is the biggest employer of Labour asides FG, and let be objective here
Workers have right, so also do Employers have right to act in the best interest of there investment its not a must people must understand
Incase you forgotten, Dangote began production just 1year which means the refinery is an " Infant " in the upstream sector.. not just govt it only Logical union exercise caution nd protective measures with Dangote

the union made a desperate error rushing to lure dangote workers into union, atleast give him like 5yrs to be grounded n stable, dangote in the last one year as battled too much pressure ... he is in trigger mode now is not the best time for union to show there face

The Union acted unreasonable because they were desperate from dues/fund they will collect they couldnt resist and they use there insensitivity to land 800 workers jobless

who does a power tussle with an "infant" ... the way people will rise to defend a baby is what pengassan just witnessed we are waiting for them

Orlandoo:
At the end of this gibberish you said nothing.

No surprise, if the union could say Oshiomole said nothing, even when it was glaring he was speaking the heart of Nigerians

Dog wey go lost no go hear the whistle, Let the union disturb Dangote again .... Nigerians are waiting for them

Dfavouredone:
It about Nigerians, the 800 engineers are Nigerians.

Remember this quote.

First they came for the Communists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Communist
Then they came for the Socialists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Socialist
Then they came for the trade unionists
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a trade unionist
Then they came for the Jews
And I did not speak out
Because I was not a Jew
Then they came for me
And there was no one left
To speak out for me

Dont patronize us with poem here, the affected 800 workers are Nigerians nobody as disputed that, but what we are saying in trying to save the jobs of 800 workers risking the livelihood of millions of Nigerians is an effort in "Futility"
even the bible said the Sin of the father sha be visited on the son, not father brother, sister, or neighbour

its good they are trying to save 800 jobs, But the approach was setup for doom, Nobody will want to suffer for Sins they know nothing about Pengassan should have improvised and find a better approach to bend Dangote to retake the laid off workers.. @least Oshiomole said they fought First Bank without shutting down the banking sector, so their is a way

Moreover pengassan escalated the francas to secondary approach tew early which calls for suspicion

slivertongue:
We advise Senator Adams Oshiomhole to retire from commenting on labour matters, as he has irretrievably lost the moral right and legitimacy before Nigerian workers.

In the hemisphere of Union maybe oshiomole as lost right or whatever But dont you dare speak for Nigerians when it pretty obvious Nigerians are not on the side of Union, Nigerians have lost trust in the Union and its becoming so loud by the turn of events

Dangote vs pengassan, you can't tell me Nigerians were behind Pengassan,. if oshiomole stands a re election as union leader nd Nigerians are to vote ... he will win any coconut head in that union.

i listened to osifo interview and i listen to oshiomole ... the later is a born leader

Orlandoo:
Adam Oshiomohle is a self sanctimonious despicable pigmy that is not worth the attention of any sensible fellow.

Mechonu jare,. . its not just about speaking grammar try and make sense tew, i watched the interview Oshiomole didnt attack them he only stated how they Union should have handled it better being an experienced past leader

As a matter of Oshiomole remains the best union leadership we ever had in Nigeria, since his tenure expiration what we have as union are losers who are agitating for there pocket nd interest

Check public views, do Nigerian even believe in this union anymore, under Buhari 8yrs numbers of failed strikes and disappointment from union depict Nigerians are on there own

oshiomole said they crafted a way to fight First bank for their members without shutting other banks it yielded instead of these mty heads union to learn

gideonvalor98:
Your response shows you don't know Jack on policies and economics. What Obasanjo did that time is because democracy is still new. No President can order the Governor anyhow. You said LG chairmen were hand picked, does that mean they shouldn't perform their task? Despite the fact you people criticised lagos local government election, their chairmen are performing like no other, yet there weren't issues with the Governor.

You my friend is living in what is called Fuuls paradise" ... forget whats in the papers try open your eye n see Reality jus b4 you

Fiscal n Monetary problem wont just Fix Nigeria cos our problem is terrestial/human factors , the govt itself are not sincerely progressive minded
Look at the " Refinery" the political class made it look as if its rocket science and will take super natural powers to build a refinery but just one man with " will might" built it in how many years, if naa those cluwns they will say vision 2050 awon olori ko rì

Bro i am just putting out the reality you missed, infact under Tinubu governors have being reduced to puppet they now convene at abuja to wave Daddy bye bye n daddy oyoyo.!

Before you conclude lagos local govt are doing excellent why not weigh the allocation net value and projects they delivered is it commensurate.
local govt will perform there task as he who dictate deems fit, maybe you forgot what happened to Ambode, you see as sanwo olu is one leg here one there tryin not to offend how do you play that nd be efficient

the kind of money lagos is generating is it commensurate to the development we have, in as much as we keep having amala politics, baba sòpe and selections ... local govt autonomy is just words on paper