HeavenlyCherub:


Chidonc I like the fact that you don’t let toxic masculinity rule over your relationships. You will have a happy marriage. We don’t have many men who are leaders. Your response to that question shows maturity, leadership and provision. You are not a simp as the other commentator stated. Not many good men are left

Thank you. I actually don't take their comments to heart. Do I blame them, NO. When you are raised by healthy parents you turn out great. When you are raised in a toxic family you most times turn out toxic. If your father always beats up your mum, it won't be a surprise if you do same to your wife and vice versa. From most of the comments, you can deduce the kind of family they are coming out from.

fuwaski:

On the other note bro, am not broke. A guy who is planning on settling down and owns his car and even lives in a two bedroom apartment in Amuwo Odofin Festac Lagos State isn't broke. No hard feelings

If you think planning to settle down and own a car makes you rich. You are still upcoming. Besides been broke is bijective. If the only asset you can boast of is a car probably less than a million naira, living in a rented apartment paying probably #200k and planning to settle down. You are still broke, no hard feeling.

fuwaski:

I noticed that the way u begin a relationship tells how it may be. She works and has been working for years. That's y am worried.

Ask her how much she's owing and clear it. Atmost is 1k. Add #200 card then observe if she calls you or not. From there, draw your conclusion, remember different people and different experiences. The current lady am dating, when we started, she was working. But she do flash and most times her phone is on minus. I cleared her debt, and started sending her airtime occasionally, I realize, if for instance I sent MTN #200, she do call me over 30mins, which u know that she used all the card on me. Gradually her confidence came back and she started recharging just to talk to me. The day I lie I don't have card, she recharges me. Don't be in a haste to call her broke. Let her fall for you also.

mmars:

You are a very big idiot.
Relationship should be a thing of mutual benefits to both man and woman, not send card to me today recharge for me tomorrow. it is girls like this that have nothing but sex to offer in a relationship
but what do i expect from A female asslicking simp

It's obvious you are more stupid. Do I blame you, no, since the only thing your mother contributed to your Dad's life is sex and the reason why your sisters are still at home is because the only thing they can offer to a man is sex. Why should I be surprised at your frustrations.

mmars:

simp

Stupidity is when you ask a jobless young girl out yet you expect her to behave like a working class lady. Fool.

Is she a student, is she working or totally dependent on her parents? You can't be expecting a girl totally dependent on her parents and not really milking men to always have call card to call you. If she is owing, why not clear the bill first then add her more card to see how long she calls you with it. The fact you are bothered shows that you yourself is broke. Enough of all those stories of if she truly love you ,she will find a way to call you. The only woman that will do that just weeks into a relationship is your mother.

BeLookingIDIOT:

When you are the biɠgest oil producing state and at least 13% of the oil sales automatically is yours... genius isn't needed to get some work done.

Give him credit pls. Others before him receiving same allocation when naira was good, what did they do with it.

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

After reading this part. I will tell you without mincing words, you are weak.
I don't support cheating in marriage but if my wife suspect am dating a lady and goes ahead to fight her, I will throw you out. Secondly, my boss do say, think wisely before marrying the daughter of a divorced woman. If she was once married and her husband died no problem but divorced, think wisely.
I understand how you feel. But you need to set boundaries from now on. If you can't get sex at home, tell her to go. Her mother shouldn't be welcome in your house. She threaten to sue you, for what exactly, don't give in to fear. If your wife can't contribute to family expenses once the issue is resolved, then cut down the expenses to suit you.
Undue respect to certain family members that makes them to control you should be cut off. Never be scared to air your mind no matter whose ox get gored.
You want to take charge of this situation, don't establish communication with her, don't call to beg, let her be, once expenses starts pilling up or school resumes, she will come back herself. No body should cajole you to initiate peace. Stand your ground.

Just make you chop that cat even if it's once and bounce back

If you don't really care much about having babies, why not. The age difference is not much to me but if you were around 27 and she 36, it would have been better considering the fact that menopause is already setting in.

UdyOgwoUde:
Na like this bride price suppose be, but most father-inlaws wan use suitors buy land

Make two kolanut, one empty tumbler and #120 no decieve you. Most family charges peanut for bride price then use list to kill you. Incase you demand for your money back, dey jejely give you back your #120 and two kolanut

It's funny how supposed educated peeps relate intelligence with good English. English is just a language, so what's the fuse for ?

Horlanre63:
@24 I made my first 1.071M through a contract from a school to network Jambite system... The first thing i did was to roof my dad house which has been struggling with because he doesn't want to our education stop.

God bless you for it brother. I know you spent good money roofing that house. May our children be responsible too.

NewDelhi:

Schooling in Nigeria is expensive? Lol you're very wrong. Nigeria has one of the cheapest education anywhere in the world. School fees generally ranges between 15k and 50k for federal unis. Let's use 50k, that's about $130.

State unis usually range between 50k-200k. That's about $500 using the 200k scale.

$130- $500 for school fees? Where else in the world do you want to see such?

It's funny when you also don't compare the standard of living in Nigeria to that of USA if you are using the dollar benchmark. How much is pay per hour in US, daily pay here is between #1500-4000. Infact getting #4000 as daily pay here is the 8th wonder if the world. Working for $10-15 per hour, how much is realized at the end of 8hrs, compare it to naira.

Let me sit down and read comment,

What's the morale of the story?

As you see men dey ride highlander, you no like am, as people dey ball for Dubai, you no go like go, them born you born suffering, who tell you say men dey obsessed with achievement, na better life every body dey find.

No reasonable man will allow you to drop out of school for marriage. I totally understand if it's 100l but 300-500l, it's insane.

Who they fuçk can't make me come. I'm my minding business here.

Women and wahala, you date her for sometime and proposed, she satrts crying, shouting, rolling on the floor. Where was she expecting the relationship to lead, NEPA office or police station . As if she's even surprise.

cooooooks:
Because women are to be bought and sold like cattle.

Your version of foolishness is pro. If you don't pick the joke you mustn't comment.

Hope is not binomo investment program, invest 160k and get 320k in 45mins , if na him, better go and see her father and know how it will be deducted from her bride price

OritaIbadan:

Thank you sir, yes I knew it was wrong to check her messages but having sighted some of the I was tempted to dig further. Point noted

The world would have been a better place if men like you mind your own business. Keep your Christian Life to yourself. Apart from been your sales girl, she has her private life to live as long as it doesn't affect your business fine and good. Has she been entertaining male visitors during office hours, I'm sure you will say no, has she been stealing from you, no, has she not been punctual, you will still say no. Why not mind your fuckiing business.

TONYE001:


Well, sir, your submission is not exactly correct. Let me explain further.

Let's say you are seeing a patient for the first time. You know, the first thing to do is to clerk the patient.

Then you arrive at gynaecologic history.

First Method as proposed by you...

Doc: Are you pregnant?/Do you think you are pregnant?

I assure you, sir, that some pregnant patients may still say no. Some may be using a contraceptive...which may have failed. Some may only know missing of their menstrual period as the only confirmation of pregnancy...but in truth, it isn't. A woman may bleed transvaginally and still be pregnant. So, there are many patients that may be pregnant without knowing.

Second Method as proposed by you...

Conducting a pregnancy test?

Firstly, medicine is systemic. You see, strictly speaking, a doctor does not make physical contact with the patient or perform any tests while clerking. You only "interview" a patient while clerking. After clerking, physical examination comes.. By now, the doctor may have had what is called clinical diagnoses (diagnosis and differentials). To rule out the differentials and arrive at a conclusion, a laboratory test may be needed. So, no, you don't just pick a strip and conduct a PT while clerking the patient.

Secondly, how possible is this? In a typical clinic setting, the doctor cannot begin to perform a PT every now and then. He's got lots and lots of patients to see.

Let me add that the question of sex isn't just because of pregnancy. There's also the issue of STDs. You know, condoms don't give 100% protection. So, it's very important to know if a patient is sexually active. We don't just stop there. We ask some other "crazy" questions like if he/she used a condom, like how many sexual partners they have. We may even ask if the patient engages in stuffs like anal sex or MouthAction. All these questions are valid, very, very valid.

May I add that, a patient may present with "mere malaria symptoms" and before you know it, the interview has gotten to the dirty waters (sex-related questions). Why I wrote that in quotes? Well, it's because those same malaria symptoms are shared by many other pathologies, including STDs.

I don't know if you understand our point of view, sir. We must ALWAYS ask about sex....especially in females of reproductive age...no matter the presenting complaint. If we fail to do this and we miss a diagnosis, these same people that are attacking us here would take us to the courts and have our licenses seized.

Good morning and do have a nice day.

It still doesn't make sense brother, I want to administer a drug that shouldn't be taken by a pregnant woman, should I ask her are you pregnant or better still refer her for a PT test or ask her her sexual history. Let be realistic. Sex related questions are okay under certain circumstances but the issue is, some pervert are already abusing it.

thesicilian:

Lol. Which medical school did you pass through that did not tell you that sexual and reproductive history is a must for every female of reproductive age? And one of the reasons for that is so that you don't end up giving certain drugs to someone who might be pregnant?

Or you think doing physics and biology in the university is the same as "passing through medical school"?

Calm down, he's correct, some of those questions have no correlation with the situation on ground, even your reply is senseless. If you intend knowing if someone is pregnant as a medical practioner, why not ask directly or conduct a test on her, what's your business asking her when last did you have sex to know if she's pregnant or not.

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JBoss25:
bro don't say that, check his twitter you'll see his posts in 2012 supporting rape, and I doubt it's photoshop

My problem is how can you allow yourself to be raped in a house full of people without shouting or calling for help, let be realistic, this is not a lonely place. Even her friend was in the same house.

Grandmeister:

Fatoyinbo wey dem talk say e enter person house were en sister dey downstairs come rape person nkọ? People believed that, why can't they believe this one?

From her narration, it was around midnight and the house filled. Her voice would have been loins enough to wake at least half the occupants of the house, I didn't even buy that fatoyin story also, seems it's more of love gone south.

It's obvious the story is a hoax, a house full of people, he raped you and you couldn't shout.

Gossipcelebs:



We should know the truth about his life also not just insulting the white cop. I'm not racist thou

You are very stupid, truth about his life, did he died acting porn?

My brother buy soap, I mean that long bar soap, put in mind that the limit is 61, if you over do na you Sabi, after you finish, even strength to open eyes no go dey talk more of look.

Nggs121:


Tell your Jamaican friend the reason he is not currently living in a cave is because of white people.

He should shut the fvck up

You should shut the Bleep up and realize civilization started in Africa.