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God is really working oooooo.

no setup works better than a deliberate one, let her play along if she wants to get him hooked.

helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

can we discuss in private ?

martineverest:
i dont support violence...but this man got what he deserve...y name ur dog muhammad when u know the implications?

Some people are just professional troublemakers

learn to read before commenting.

lol, you think say 6packs dey easy to come by ,bros forget the pain, it is normal for a newbie , after a few wks your body will adapt.

lumzybo:
The deed is done already. There is no way kemen will sue BB and win his case, #noWay the odds are against him.

What he need now is damage control. He shld get a good PR and put up a statement. Sinx the video dint really showed up when went down. He shld say "it was just cuddling and if Tboss feels offended he is deeply sorry" I'm sure after doing this, he shld get his Mojo on. Cos without this, the guy is completely finished.

korrect, all he needs now is damage control.

Dickson080:
thats cool man. I have a similar problem but that was my ex threatning to commit suicide if i dont accept her back.

whose fault was it that you guys broke up, if it is hers, then let her commit the suicide before you take her serious !!!!!!

HarunaWest:
dont leave ur place of worship.
Explicitly tell him that you are not comfortable with him around you that if he keeps that up, you might ave to report him to the pastor and your folks.. trust me he will pick race. chao

read the passage again.

him no try at all, him for collect at least bucket of water make him wash the face join, cos the way things be with our make up artist this days for naija na only God fit judge,

Tmacks:
Hi my friend... I'm not so much thinking with my joystick I just want to be better interacting with women.

follow this link
https://www.nairaland.com/2893475/dating-drills-guys-only/9

my friend read better books like the bible or Quran and drop that poo, this is the reason you are still thinking with your joystick.

TEMINIKANSOSO:
Pls, how can i last more than a minute! After series of pre-intimacy once i try to penetrates, the sperm just comes within one minutes. I am fedup! I am not even enjoying it, not to talk of my girlfriend!

no need to take drugs as some guys are advising you already, learn to control your breathe during sex, don't get over excited, in other words, relax. try some kegel exercise such as holding the passage of urine during urination and releasing it after a few seconds,, more importantly, don't rush sex, once you release before going in, don't let it bored you, instead clean up and refresh your self before starting pre-intimacy again, it would go a long way to boost your confidence, most importantly check your diet, if you must last long in bed, your diet matters a lot, avoid sugar and much of fried foods,

mykelmeezy:
please be objective

bros if you cant manage 10k you definately wont be able to manage 1m

you are trying to come out of depression its now you see to be creating more job loses



nta has been existing since the 80s have there been any useful upgrade even NTAi on digital tv still has horrible soundtracks,audio quality and terrible program delivery n you are here talking WILL.....the moment you stop living for the future you succedd in the present

if stations arent willing to improve when there is competition do you think its when there is none they will actually want to improve??

nigeria WILL get better..since 1960 ..we are still crawling



maybe if you actually thought n proccessed my comment you wouldnt be this silly or naive

like i said we will get over it definately

but now isnt the time to recieve that punch..we are in recession

you dont kill the only man avaiable who knows how to use the oxygen machine coz you hate him when you are in dire need of oxygen

we will definitely start from some where, recession or not,

ritababe:
ur thought.

I intended typing m5 not 3

ritababe:
which Aba version? I know the difference between real and fake phones.
not today I start using Android.

except you want your ba3 to last forever, m3 has one of the best ba3 on android plat form

mykelmeezy:
the fact remains Nigeria has a bigger stake to lose here generally compared to SA


if dstv go you bbn fans will have to go back to pornhub ya know


we can't afford to lose mtn or multichoice


thats a huge blow on our economy

its good riddance but bad timing

that is a big blow on there economic not ours, if there companies should leave Nigeria, we know that a lot o lf people would become jobless but many local broadcasting stations would rise and take there place in a few yrs, while on there part, they loose the biggest market they have which indirectly affects there economy.

pamcode:
Omo see babes. Damn am sure they are all Older than my mum. Goodness knows how they would look like.

older than ur grand mum oooo

jieta:
mumu were you dey when your mate dey learn how to spell degree.

ode your phone no get auto- correct ?

at no point op, it a relationship, not a business summit.

last last all na parol, ma hear, where she dey when her mates dey follow decree waka

op na advice abi na question be this.?

no be to propose be the issue an, even him like make him go see your ancestors, all na wash, until see wedding pishures, I no believe, all this indomie boys of this generation.

Yuneehk:
Now I know I'm not alone in the slim and slender world

I really really can not wait to post mine. I've imagined it like kilode

I wish you both a happy and fruitful marital life

you are alone oooooo

Passy089:
Brother ...in this recession,... I personally told him not to miss this opportunity o,even thou it may look like he betrayed her old gf but this country is hard

if that advice is good to you then i pray it happens to someone close to you, bro hard times don't last but hard people do, life is not always abt money and what you stand to gain always, I came from the streets, I never cared abt peoples feelings and emotions, things where really hard, I was just after the money and made sure I got, along the line I realized several things, I learnt one principle that has kept me, never toil with peoples emotion, if you must brk a relationship let it be on solid grounds. you are only sure of today, no matter how you secure today,it still a gamble against tomorrow.

rollybest:
Choi, i just wanted to give some of you sense

lol and it turns out you need it more.

GEExclusive:
The guy no look ordinary to me

my neighbors daughter of abt 10yrs has 4 set of teeth arranged side by side, two set up and two set down, imagine looking at a girl like that with twice the normal number of teeth. it natural.

all yansh na yansh, weda kaki or not

my brother for having time to complain about all this things, I officially put it to you that you are jobless.

savagefinder:
we have awarded you a bronze star in savagery..
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tag us when you kill someone again... tag us when you see a dead body

link to our thread
https://www.nairaland.com/3636121/celebrating-best-nairaland-savagery#53861876

I no fit laugh ooooooo, lol

zico530:
Eyah! I hope the lady wasn't playing hide and seek game with the guy. Her cry is suspicious. Rip Nonso.

I don't think everyone is like you😂

Akpevwe9:
Did I say am sleeping with her? Not everyone is like you bro.

you didn't say so but that seems to be your motive, if not why saying she. is already giving you green light.