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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 12:42pm On Mar 19, 2017
For those wondering why I didn't go to a hospital, I didn't go to a hospital because I was ashamed and didn't have the boldness to narrate all these issues and story to someone in person. I agree, I was foolish. I will see a doctor first thing tomorrow. Thanks guys

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Slurity: 12:44pm On Mar 19, 2017
Bible says. Work and Pray. have you wonder why the work before Pray? its simply means Action towards Solution before prayer. My friend, Your problems is mainly Psychological and perhaps also Spiritual. and to the best of my experience in medical practices, solution to your problem is very much available but gradual to accomplish. Go and see your doctor for the rest details and pray along. Don't forget to stop masturbation immediately because its the root of your problem and not any 40 years old woman.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 12:44pm On Mar 19, 2017
Endtimesmith:
OP...Points of correction,Boys are called Lads,while girls na Virgin,Understood?
Understood
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by GoldEnyong(m): 12:45pm On Mar 19, 2017
I really feel your pains brother. You have missed so much fun and women are becoming much more beautiful and attractive like my wife. You need to join us soon to celebrate them... Your problem has no affinity with spiritual forces since your problem is not peculiar to Africa. It's medical brother. There's a little disconnect . Masturbation- I equally tested it at age 17. By then I was even a strong youth of Apostolic Faith. That's far from being a problem. But you need to walk away from it.
Doctors these days won't take long to solve your problem. Follow their instructions and don't resort to self-help. Do it now so that they can rescue you before the little erection go off completely.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Mentcee(m): 12:45pm On Mar 19, 2017
Go to a good pharmacy shop and buy Horneyhill tablet.

About 1k.

Use it as prescribed and thank me later.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 12:45pm On Mar 19, 2017
Tuham:
First time am commenting in colour cos this story touch me sad
To have the chance of doing/ be willing to do something and realizing that you cannot do it

helpforever how about going to the hospital for a medical checkup?
I will go tomorrow boss. Thanks

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Slurity: 12:45pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
For those wondering why I didn't go to a hospital, I didn't go to a hospital because I was ashamed and didn't have the boldness to narrate all these issues and story to someone in person. I agree, I was foolish. I will see a doctor first thing tomorrow. Thanks guys
. Try to Overcome your shame by shaming the shame. Take a step before its too late. God bless you
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Mryoung(m): 12:47pm On Mar 19, 2017
unstableaswater:
U can always join these ur brothers and become a batty man .


YOU ARE SUCH A slowpoke. IF YOU HAVE NOTHING BETTER OF AN ADVISE TO OFFER THESE YOUNG MAN Bleep OUT WITH YOUR USELESS COMMENT. EWU MMEEE
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Mentcee(m): 12:47pm On Mar 19, 2017
Go to a good pharmacy shop and buy Horneyhill tablet.

About 1k.


I bet my life you'll be a happy man.

100% guarantee.

Use it as prescribed and thank me later.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Slurity: 12:48pm On Mar 19, 2017
Mentcee:
Go to a good pharmacy shop and buy Horneyhill tablet.

About 1k.

Use it as prescribed and thank me later.
. Taaaar..... Let a Dr prescribe for him

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Mentcee(m): 12:48pm On Mar 19, 2017
Go to a good pharmacy shop and buy Horneyhil tadalafil tablet.

About 1k.


I bet my life you'll be a happy man.

100% guarantee.

Use it as prescribed and thank me later.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 12:48pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I will go tomorrow boss. Thanks

You welcome sir..
Please i would like to know the feedback. Since you're using an anonymous account, can you tag me the feedback in reply to this post tommorrow?
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by awakeuche(m): 12:48pm On Mar 19, 2017
shinebabe:


It is agbo that is nafdac and American FDA (American version of nafdac) approved. It has dosage, is I also in capsules and actually has been proven to work. This differentiates it from your normal agbo. There were and are toxicologists pharmacists and doctors working with this products. Its not just agbo my bro.

@helpforever look for the product and buy. I can help find you one if you're in lagos
I am glad we are on the same page

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 12:49pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I can remember early 2015 or late 2014 when I went to a popular brothel in Bariga to try out my luck again. About 4 prostitutes came to meet me so I will pick them, they were all flaunting their body around me. Then immediately noticed the way I looked helpless and confused and started feeling my joystick. Speaking edo language to themselves. I'm not sure, but I think they noticed something was not right or so and they all left to look for another customer
See a doctor, they'll help you. You need therapy. You can pm me if you're serious
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by taiwog700: 12:50pm On Mar 19, 2017
well i don't know how far it's true but from all indication u are very a potent man is just that's allow anxiety to override you your problem is more of psychological than medical ,get yourself a good and reliable girlfriend a close confidant ,let her understand that u are novice and a virgin when it comes to sex ,allow her to be in control during pre-intimacy and as soon as u gain erection ,allow her to swing into action ,expect to have a premature ejaculation but with time u are going to overcome it ,.This is from my personal experience ,cheers
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by GindoX(m): 12:50pm On Mar 19, 2017
O lágbára ooo... grin
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 12:50pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.
what is the foreign site u posted on? Please share. Thank you.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by 3kay945(m): 12:51pm On Mar 19, 2017
I dey pity your condition. cry
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by CHARLOE(m): 12:52pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I will take your advise sir. Thanks for the help
Better do. When I was in ur shoes no 1 offered help, felt like I was d only 1 in d world going thru such. in my search for solution i lost alot of money; Met a guy who told me my prob is spiritual, gave me some item to do some spiritual exercises 12 midnight, decided against it when I got home.
Another so called herbal doctor was scamming me, collecting 4k per bottle of his fake capsules, had to finish 4/month.
My broda if I start my story Nairaland no go contain am.
Abi na olosho, 1 told me I offended a girl in d past n she jazzed me n I need to beg her.
Not asking u for money just want to help. Too many things to say no strenth /time to type.
Actually working on an NGO to help men wit similar issues.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by uboma(m): 12:56pm On Mar 19, 2017
EgunMogaji:
There's no such thing as spiritual attack.

Mate, you need a serious girlfriend that will be patient with you.



Hmmmm!

the Oracle has spoken.

Helpforever, it will be in your best interest to heed this advise from the Oracle.

grin

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Chidonc(m): 12:57pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

can we discuss in private ?
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 12:57pm On Mar 19, 2017
CHARLOE:

Better do. When I was in ur shoes no 1 offered help, felt like I was d only 1 in d world going thru such. in my search for solution i lost alot of money; Met a guy who told me my prob is spiritual, gave me some item to do some spiritual exercises 12 midnight, decided against it when I got home.
Another so called herbal doctor was scamming me, collecting 4k per bottle of his fake capsules, had to finish 4/month.
My broda if I start my story Nairaland no go contain am.
Abi na olosho, 1 told me I offended a girl in d past n she jazzed me n I need to beg her.
Not asking u for money just want to help. Too many things to say no strenth /time to type.
Actually working on an NGO to help men wit similar issues.

Errrm Okay, so how did you solve the issue. I'm kinda having similar problems. Only that mine stays atleast upto 5 mins
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by uboma(m): 12:57pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
Thank you sir


You are welcome Sir
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 12:58pm On Mar 19, 2017
Tuham:


You welcome sir..
Please i would like to know the feedback. Since you're using an anonymous account, can you tag me the feedback in reply to this post tommorrow?
I will do so. Thanks man

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by richie9093(m): 12:59pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
I can remember early 2015 or late 2014 when I went to a popular brothel in Bariga to try out my luck again. About 4 prostitutes came to meet me so I will pick them, they were all flaunting their body around me. Then immediately noticed the way I looked helpless and confused and started feeling my joystick. Speaking edo language to themselves. I'm not sure, but I think they noticed something was not right or so and they all left to look for another customer

So na Kampala you go? wink wink

It is well.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by shinebabe(f): 1:01pm On Mar 19, 2017
awakeuche:
I am glad we are on the same page

Ohh, I'm proud its a Nigerian product! If its well known around the world and we don't run it down ourselves, maybe it will be the gift this country will give to the world. At least we'll be known for something positive.

Our agbo had been working for generations. But ppl said it doesn' t have dosage and its not fda approved. Now Ruzu is and its being exported to several countries as we speak.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by iiiyyyk(m): 1:06pm On Mar 19, 2017
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U ar not impotent, ur problem is not spiritual, neither is it caused by masturbation.

though u must have to do away completely with masturbation and porns so u can accumulate enough inner sexual drive and hunger which regular masturbation has not let ur body do....

UR PROBLEM IS PSYCHOLOGICAL IMPOTENCY OR SEXUAL ANXIETY.

HERE IS HOW TO SOLVE IT.

GET a woman u ar very hot and sexually attracted to.
Make her ur close friend, but remove sex from ur mind first.
U people should become very close and deeply emotionally attached to each other.
Then go romantic, romance her several times without sex...
Within this period, explain to her that u ar having sexual anxiety, and that she is the only one that can help u over come it.
With both of u having this understanding, the sex anxiety in u would have reduced by 70%.
U people shld continue playing together in sexually arousing mode, spend so much time together be at eas and familiar with her...
Now u people should try having sex several times, any time u fail,don't worry...she already know...
Once u succed once with her help, u ll continue to have regular sex especially with her...because u wont have anxiety with her again.

Pls never masturbate with the said girl in mind...

I have some trainings that can help u in mental reconditioning but...

But start the above first.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by mastermaestro(m): 1:07pm On Mar 19, 2017
Spiritual wife at work. She is killing you. Get help fast! Nobody should quote me unless you have a discernment spirit.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by apollo13(m): 1:07pm On Mar 19, 2017
My brother, sex is a thing that comes from the heart and your state of mind contributes to the level at which you gain erection, you don't have any spiritual problem at all! Let me ask you a question, how do you masturbate? according to you, you have erection to some extent.

So bros work on your fears and worries, let your mind be free (zero worries) be bold, choose from one of your girls and try again, come back and thank me later.
Nothing do you.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by fr3do(m): 1:07pm On Mar 19, 2017
OmaniPadmeHum:
....

Baba, you are good!

@ helpForever
listen to this gentleman
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by chimchim1(m): 1:11pm On Mar 19, 2017
Check my signature and contact me. I can guide u.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by BABATEE251(m): 1:13pm On Mar 19, 2017
I have a pierce of advise for you...........this problem is spiritual ,more so excess of masturbation leads to your problem. try to forget masturbation completely and eat better food,take alcoholic drinks and sex enhancing drinks as well....just follows this rules for a month.lastly find confirm Oloso girl that can suck your dick and Bleep you well ,pay a good money for her service and take her to hotel for good relaxation .

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