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I am still going to stand for what I said because I have seen it done. I have seen men that do houseworks and I think that it is very sweet of them. And I do admire them for that. Ok, what is difficult for a man to walk like a few feet to the washing machine and dump the clothes into it?

Or what is so difficult for him to pick up the vacuum and clean up? Those are the things that men should help out doing. Yeah, one more thing that gets on my nerve is that when women give birth the husband does not even give a hand in cleaning up the baby. The woman is left to do all the work and yet the husband is demanding! Oh that really pisses me off! I mean there are even lots of drama when men are concerned! You men are just very complicated!

Ok, I am frustrated right now from what that has been going on. I will not get into details, so if you found this offensive oh well I am just speaking my mind. Do not get me wrong, I do not eispise men. Seun, oh well if there was a way I could just avoid all the drama involving men well being a nun is not a bad alternative. But I want to have my own kids. Well at the moment I do.

Oh, this is interesting, because my friend's boyfriend was skinny and she got him to gain some weight and pump up some muscle. Well sad to say there is no other way than to go to the gym and lift some weights. Going on a protein diet also helps a lot!!!!

My favourite all-time movie is 'Sound of Music'. As a kid, I loved watching it and even now I still watch it and still have that same feeling of awe about the movie.

I loved 'Tripple Bleep' with Vin Diesel. Man oh man, is that guy hot? I also like 'Lord of the Rings' (all three of them)! Men that movie deserved all the Oscars it collected! I mean, I am still amazed at the whole production, scene, suspense, romance, combat, pictography etc. And I love New Zealand! I hope to settle there one day or at least stay there a couple of years! And men is Aragon hot or what?

Gosh, I have a lot of movies that I love. 'Finding Nemo', that was pretty neat and cute! The Incredibles!, Constantine! You guys have got to see that movie! 'Resident Evil', men I loved when the laser thing that was going on in the room when they were trapped and then when the guy was sliced up like in cubes because the laser beam changed to that formation (ok, I mean that is kind of gross but it was a good visual effect!)

'Hitch' was not all that bad but men Will Smith has come a long way! That man is hot hot hot! I mean, look at him now and him then (as Fresh Prince of Bel Air) I mean I give him props for that body! Jada is such a lucky woman!

Gosh, I can go on and on. I also like Anastasia (the Disney production cartoon). I mean I can also watch it many times and still enjoy it like I first did also 'Mulan'.

Ok another question. Do you all think that it ok to date many people before you find the right one? Or just find one and hope that one is the one.

Well, diakim, you do not know me so you would not know. Well I am like for equality - well you can call me a feminist - but the guy had better learn how to do house work. I have my ways not to worry about that. I mean, I am very diplomatic about things. You can have your way and say about things but at the end of the day we both have to come to an agreement.

And I do not need to depend on the guy to get me a house help: I can get one myself! Ain't gonna depend on the guy. And we are both going to run the house like the partner we are supposed to be. I will hola at you when that happens to let you now that it is possible.

How do you know that the person you met is the right person for you? Is it the things they do or say? Or the way they present themselves? Or do we just take their beauty and then pray that they are the right people?

Ok, imagine this situation. You are in love with this person, but you know that there are lots of sexually transmitted or other diseases around, and you know it is the right thing to make sure that you are not going to have any complications later on, that if you planned to end up with the person. Ok, the best thing to do is to go for testing.

So you both go for that and then you find out that you are both not compatible, because if you get married maybe there would be some stuff wrong with the child or other complication. Should you break off and call off the relationship? Do you think that you should even go for the testing? And when do you think is the right time to do that?

Ok, maybe not sexually transmitted dieases but hereditary ones (because I know that making a decision concerning a sexually transmitted disease would not be all that difficult). Your opinions?

hey guys sup?
I am glad to see that this is a hot topic. Anyway, I just think that men are lazy. Ok, in the past they were the providers but now things are changing. Now women also are providers, but men still ain't doing much at home. You might say that they are adapting to it because they are not used to it yet. Well, we can stick to that argument to make ourselves happy, but I think that it is just plain laziness. Or ok if you all think that it is too feminine for a man to do house chores, well that is all bull. Because women can easily tackle a man's job and they do pretty good at it. So there ain't no arguing in my point. When I get married hell the guy better know how to do housework, even if it is vacuuming, doing the laundry etc., because it is all gonna be shared out!
peace out!

Ok fellows, here goes:
I am female, 19. I do not really have a routine. It all depends on my mood.

1) I shower at night so I do not have to shower in the morning cos I have got to play tennis pretty soon so I shower after that.
2) Wake up, excercise first if I have the time, brush, shower with antiseptic soap (those other stuff in the market dry your skin).
3) Apply body lotion, body splash, and deodorant.
4) Comb out my hair. Two things I am proud of in myself is my hair and my body. I have got pretty long hair and my hair grows fast. I do not like braiding it; I hardly do that. (I am athlethically built)
5) If am am like really lazy I just run my hand through my hair and tie it up or just let it down (all these depend on my mood).
6) No make up for me. I can not stand that stuff: I feel it is a waste of time and I do not seem to need it anyhow. I like myself the way I am. I guess that, when I start working, then I would just put on a light one. Oh well, will see how that goes.
7) I take hours deciding on what to wear, but mostly I prefare tops and jeans or shorts; just anything that will keep me comfy!
8.) At night, I shower but that depends. I wash my face with facial clensers, I brush my teeth and gargle with mouth wash, and I am ready to sleep.

Lyrics to "Sweet Mother"
Hey guys, I was just wondering if anyone knows the lyrics to 'Sweet Mother'. It is a pretty old song; I guess it was around in the fifties. If you do, please hook me up! I loved the song!

hey guys since we r all given tips well tis what i do to release stress. after a days work from college i mean, i just grap my favourite food, either i sit in front of the tele and pop in my favourite movie. or i just relax to the soothing sound of music!!!! i just can not live without it!! but the best way and day for me to relax is during rainny days, i just cuddle with a really good absorbing book, on my bed or somewhere cosy, remember it is a cooling weather and u just have like a hot chocolate milk wif u. or u just relax to the sound of a light music..
now tht is d way to relax well for me at least!!

it's all bout book n MUSIC!!

Ok, so he is an old man an he is thinking of what legacy he ought to leave behind! Screw that! If he has decided to take up a responsibility, he ought to live up to the expectations. I think it is all bull when people try to make excuses for someone. Whether he is old or not, he knew what challenges he would face and he knew what would be expected of him when he decided to run for president. I mean, even if he is old, he could delegate the work to younger officers.

Anyhow, I still do not feel that he did what was worth the term he was put in power. I mean it is not so difficult to run a country. I mean of course there are financial and racial issues, but please do not tell me that Nigeria is poor!. Hell no, she is swiming in wealth! It is just that there is too much corruption and greed for people to let the country grow. They all want successs for themselves; they do not know that it is in the country growing together that you even benefit more. Just once you have got the right formular to go bout it.

I mean, yeah, there are lots of obstacles but if he really wanted to do some thing, he could have made progress. but that all depends on what his main agenda for running for president was for in the first place. If you take up a responsibility, live up to it else.

okies i think we have dis all wrong. there is a difference between and i think tht is where we all got it wrong! dating is with the intention tht it would lead to somfin else. if they r just friends then they do not date. when friends go out they r HANGING OUT not DATING. i was justhaving dis conversation wif a friend and i figured tht ppl have got the meaning all wrong. so from dis topic of conversation, the indication is that the man or the woman has got other intention i n mind not just mere hanging out. if i am wrong pls correct me. i am taking a stand on my opinion. unless the person tht started the topic meant dating as otherwise.

Why is it that men shy away from doing house work? I mean, even if it is helping out but not doing the entire housework themselves? Has it got to do with masculinity? Other than the fact that it had been like that for generations, I would like to hear your opinion on that.

well i would not say tht the pres has done a good job. he did promise a lot of things but i hardly saw anything being done!!. it is not only saying but it is d doing tht counts. so no i will say tht he did and has not done a good job for someone tht has been in power for tht long.

Yeah, well, I do agree that the issue of religion is not a key role in the discussion. I mean, different religions have various ways they do their own thing. But but when people say 'dating', it is no longer like a friend to friend association. If friends are going out, well they are hanging out, and not going out on a date. Dating already puts the whole relationship at a different level.

So I still think that it is wrong no matter what context it is viewed from. One of the person is still married and has a family.

Ok, first of all, you are entitled to your own opinion.

But I mean naturally men are the head of the family, but lately that structure is changing. A woman does not necessary have to depend on a man in order to live and neither [color=#777777]does a man have to depend on a woman[/color]. Both of them are the provider of their home.

I mean people think that house keeping is not a job, but it is a full time job! I mean it will really be cool if we could get a man to exchange with a woman just for a day or two, and then they would let us know what they thought about it. Women that stay at home have a full time job and they even tend to work longer hours than the men do. So they are equally entittled to raise the kids together and hold the family together with the husband.

There is absolute no excuse for a woman to date a married man or for a man to date a married woman or whatt ever! The guy is married for crying out loud! Ok, what if your woman was going out with another guy while you guys are still on? I mean that is absolutely and totally wrong! And one would not find it funny then.

Dating a married man or woman will finally bring chaos to the family, and it is going to break up the family, and the kids are usually the once that have to bear the consequencies. What happened to "till death do us part?" I mean, if you ain't going to keep to that you might as well save everyone from all the drama!!

What's up, guys? This is Chigo here. I just joined this forum today, and so far I like the idea of bringing us Nigerians together to discuss issues that are of interest to us. I am looking forwards to getting to chat with the bunch of you guys that hang out here!

Peace out

Oh well, I agree that the family relationship is absolutely important. But I think that both husband and wife should manage the family, not only the man.

Oh well, traditionally, the husband ought to be the head of the family because the women did not work. But now, that belief is changing: women work too and they contribute equally in the running of the family. So I think the right thing is for both of them to manage the family. There ought to be understanding, and that is achieved if they both work together.