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HardMirror:
Lol. Broke girl. I am 100% sure the guy is preparing her for ritual. The instruction is to feed her with yam for 3 days then his yam would start flowing in. Hope she knows ISU (yam) is a slang for money in yoruba. She thinks it is ordinary that it is only yam he has been feeding her with and it accidentally finished in exactly 3 days?
Rip to the mumu girl in advance

Lol. Very funny.

Allow her to go with her baggage. There are many good girls around. Anything to the contrary you will regret it.

Thanks.

Please how can one download Movies with English subtitles. Which downloading site is the favorite for it.

D'banji So Sorry. May his Soul rest in peace. Please be more careful.

Terrible. School authorities needs to act fast to avoid epidemic.

Agadi.

Why not allow the girl to talk her predicament. The story behind the so called missing chibok girls is getting frustrated every day. Is this girl not one of those from IDP camps? we refused to be deceived.

This topic is suit for front page. If you lost a document including a custom papers you can swear an Affidavit to back it up. They can only disagree with you if they have a Counter Affidavit against your Affidavit otherwise they have no option than to release your car.

Only 7days? you are not serious. Etisalat give you 1gb @ #500 for 1 Month and still give you 500 free credit to call networks.

Gracito:
Very confused set of people. The roads are death traps, things are not just moving well in the state. God help us all.

They will say that they are in Court.

uwagimboo:
Seriously Sir, am not saying u re a fo0l but u are...
If u know how I feel sir, I will so beat the hell out of you if u were related to me..
I hate men who re wives..
Oga point of correction, u re being married by that man u call a wife..
U re so useless to manhood, how can ur wife be threatening you nd u run down here asking for opinion

If u know how upset I am with this rubbish u call problem, I will so slap you till u start Becoming a man..

Take it easy bro.... getting the opinion of your partner in domestic issue like this is not a sign of weakness. Transparency and dialogue matters a lot in Marriage. Is not that a woman will stop you from doing what you intend to do as the head of the family but at times its proper to hear her and evaluate the reasoning of a partner you are living for life.....

toksbisola:
@Op; take this mate; you have a kind heart and I hope you never stop giving especially if you are in a position to do so. No need for too much talk; GIVE WHAT YOU HAVE INITIALLY DECIDED TO GIVE AS YOUR GIFT TO YOUR NEIGHBOR AS LONG AS THE GIFT IS WHAT YOU CAN AFFORD.

When I was reading your write-up, I was even expecting your wife to add more gift to what you already intended to give and you were the one jokingly saying its too much lol; instead, what I read shows that your wife wants the gift changed to something else. Well, I hope your wife will see the kindness in your heart and see that she was probably wrong to have suggested changing the gift simply because she feels that the gifts were of high quality.

That said, it is not as if you were giving the gift without her knowledge and just because she feels that some of the gift you are giving is high quality doesn’t mean you should downgrade the gift to a lower quality because your wife says so. If that happens, it’s no longer a gift you give willingly but rather it becomes a gift you give grudgingly; then there would be no reason to give the gift again (IMHO). Let your wife remember that giving should not be done grudgingly but rather it should be willingly with happiness and not with a complaining attitude of “THAT GIFT IS TOO EXPENSIVE, LET US CHANGE IT TO A CHEAPER ONE BECAUSE I USE THAT KIND OF EXPENSIVE GIFT MYSELF”. THAT'S NOT A VALID ENOUGH REASON TO CHANGE YOUR INTENDED GIFT.

You also mentioned your wife is beginning to think that something fishy is going on between you and your neighbor. Well, as long as you know that there is nothing going on between you and your neighbor; LET YOUR WIFE KNOW THAT SHE HAS NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT so that this jealousy building up would be seen as irrelevant and pathetic. PUT YOUR WIFE’S MIND AT EASE TO HELP HER REMOVE THAT PARANOIA THAT IS CURRENTLY BUILDING UP IN HER.

Lastly, we never know what challenges life would throw at us; hence, avoid looking down on anyone (not saying you do) as no one knows what tomorrow holds.


I rest my case.

Well said thanks.

tearoses:
Mrs Chimco, since you will read this thread this is directed at you and this is sister to sister

I hope by now you have supported your husband in what he wants to do for this family.
See, Some battles may be won on the face of it, but the damage goes a lot deeper and extends longer than you would ever imagine.
So choose your battles wisely.

Many times when you hear a couple/marriage going though strife and they both tell you the reason, you look at them both and wonder how this small thing can cause this big wahala. The truth is that what is causing the wahala is months and years of the frustrations and the implications of battles that should not have been fought in the first instance.

You see in your husbands mind no matter how subtle, with this your action, you now come across as jealous, wicked, proud, unsubmissive and cannot be trusted with his money. All that because of a simple present for a neighbours birth.
Something that should be a thing of joy has now turned your home into a war zone....WHY?

Now talking about the issue gan gan, the hand of the giver is always on top and you cannot do good and reap bad. Forget the "She is friendly with my husband" so I dont like her biz.
And thats another thing. if you dont like something, nip it in the bud. Dont wait until you have an opportunity to rub it in. It makes you look like a schemer.
If you dont like your husbands association with the neighbour then you should have made it clear at the time. Now that you've waited for your pound of flesh makes you look like a bad person.

Back to the gift; there is no point of giving a gift if you are not giving it from the bottom of your heart.
I also know that when you give, you receive Gods blessings
You also please God when you respect your husband. Your husband seems like a decent man (I dont know him o) but when someone insulted you yesterday he was quick to jump to your defence and he genuinely cares about other people.

Personally If I were you, I would do what he wants. You are killing 3 birds with one stone; You have listened to your husband,(something I am sure the he will appreciate) you have given to the needy & you have blessed a little baby with a gift.

If you don't agree with the gift because they wont use it, then that's a different thing, and I agree with you, but the reasons your husband states for you refusing to let go of the gifts are not right.

Thanks

freecocoa:
OP your wife is an 1diot, mschew nonsense.

please dont insult my wife. Make your own contribution if you have any. I merely seek your advice not insult.

veave:
Remember, i said i think. My thoughts could be wrong tho. Because i wonder why you would prefer to give cheap gifts simply because that is the one they use when your husband has willingly agreed to foot the bill for higher quality. Has it not occurred to her that they use the ones they use because of cost? Just like you rightly said. Givers do not necessarily have it all, but just have the heart of giving which is golden. Op's wife need serious orientation about that. Besides, she is the type of friend one should avoid. Imagine bearing a grudge with her neighbour this big and pretending all is well. Only bidding her time for a pay back. God go help us.


BTW, between 1-3 which of them would you choose?

Thank you My Sister. My neighbour gave me their gift out of abundance of their hearts,with the little they have. Must I give exact gifts they gave me if I can afford to give more? No! I was even surprise how she knew the product they are using. My wife even complained bitterly that the diapers (my baby) she gave us was leaking when used. should I buy the same diaper (my baby) to them? No! I'm a father with Children and I know that I give my children the best in life with the help of God. Thanks again.

stitcheD:
Guy just give her the money to buy whatever she feels is right. If you argue or stretch it me self go suspect you. Do not place another man's peace of mind over yours. See as you dey swear over nothing

lol... my brother I'm not swearing, just stating the facts. Thanks

byvan03:
OP but why is your wife suspecting you ? It seems your fidelity is in doubt, you should worry about that more. It's not good for your reputation as the man of the house at all. She don catch before?

I dont have any feelings whatsoever with her. It just that according to my wife she greets and talks to me more than her.

blank:
Don't give yourself headache, do what she wants. Which is more important, your peaceful family or your neighbours approval? Learn to pick your battles. This is not worth a quarrel at all. Nan milk is also very good, cheaper but not necessarily worse off. Give your wife the money to buy the items and then when you visit, give them some money as well if it will make you feel better. But this is not worth a quarrel at all.

Thanks but She strongly opposed any physical cash on them, indeed that was my initial thoughts. And I don't want to give them anything behind her back to avoid her concluding her suspicion....She is even threatening to call my people that I have feelings for my neighbour's wife. l believed that a gift that did not cost you is not a gift.

duduade:
Your wife is an illiterate... No beef Boss....

No, she is a graduate, top of her class. choose your words carefully.