Eketem:
Petition the Netherlands embassy, present the documents and evidence to show they were married. He is committing bigamy by marrying another woman without divorcing her


Divorce in Nigeria is not done in absentia or via signing of documents. If he wants a Divorce he should do it the right way

@OP, please heed this advice. There's nothing more to be said.

AntiMen:
I'm married with two beautiful children..
I love my husband no doubt....
But I noticed that I'm beginning to like my reverend, I don't know how to explain this...
He is married with children too but we are kinda fond of each other...
How do I stop this unusual feeling , I can't stop going to church cos my husband would be mad at me.

@OP, I understand your situation perfectly. You also posted this story on my thread. I understand these intense feelings, you can't easily wish them away.
I'll advise you to always pray to God for help and read your Bible every day (the word of God is the food of the spirit, it will give you the strength you need to overcome temptation). Then as much as possible, limit physical contact with him. Go to church, but avoid stealing glances at him, worship your God and go home. No phone calls or chats with him, create an excuse why you can't.

Never tell your spouse, he'll never understand and even if he does, he would be hurt. If you're sincere, the feelings will go and you'll come to realise that he's just like every other man with time. Also train your mind to recognize when your thoughts wander to him and quickly replace the thoughts with clean ones. For instance, if you imagine making love to him, quickly put your husband in place of him in your thoughts. And know that he won't be the only man you'll crush on in your lifetime. So develop the habit of nipping these feelings in the bud.

But be sure the Reverend knows what he's doing. You're not imagining it. He's manipulating you, trying to seduce you without saying a word, and then allowing the feelings he has stirred up in you to bring you to his doorstep and possibly his bed. Be wise, my sister.

NB: Just curious, your church setting sounds like any of the Orthodox churches eg Anglican, Presbyterian, Methodist or Baptist. Am I wrong?

My God! What happened? If it's true, I believe she made heaven. May her beautiful soul rest in the bosom of Christ. Amen

I wish to say a big thank you to all nairalanders for your input on this thread. To be honest, I typed the first post as a response to the earlier thread I talked about yesterday, but decided to turn it to a thread because I felt it would have a wider reach and more people would benefit from it. I was honestly surprised to see it made front page.

To all those who saw my point and encouraged me in their posts and likes, I am very grateful. You made me not regret posting this thread. You're the very face of humanity.

To those who condemned me, I say thank you too. Because of your words, I'll never walk that path again by God's grace. However, some of you need to be kinder with your words. Someone else would have become depressed, but I'm used to Nairaland and the toxicity some spue.

To the moderators, thank you for making me make frontpage. I'm sure more people would have learnt one or two things.

I myself have also learnt a lot. I picked some good advice which I believe will benefit my marriage. My marriage was and is still good, but one thing I have taken away from here is to cultivate a closer relationship with my spouse to avoid stories that touch.

Shalom

oldienavie:

This was exactly the same thing going through my head, the type of people calling themselves Born again these days is shocking.
This is what Christianity has become, it has been very diluted.
Someone that should bury her head in shame and cry out for forgiveness, someone still keeping in contact with the same person she committed emotional adultery with is still proud to seat on the throne of advise.

I bet she is a "women leader" in church teaching young women.
Such a terrible and sad thing to read, that a wife and a mother can become so loose as to make themselves vulnerable to this point highlights how weak this person is spiritually.

As a born again person, your spiritual antenna ought to be able to spot these kind of things from a yard away.

Reminds me of a particular white girl in my church, I knew she loved me and I always avoided her, we were put in a group together and she eventually got my phone number, that was when the stalking began. But having a pre-knowledge of her intentions I already knew how to handle it.

By the way I am single, so I wonder when married people who claim to be christians and have loving families behave like goats on heat without self control.

It is a shame... spits

Sighs... it is well. It's clear you're still young. When you become mature due to life experiences, come back, read this post of yours again and advise yourself.

postmann:
In pure undiluted scriptural standard, you've committed adultery with him already. Just so you know that.

But rather more important is your very last paragraph of advice to other women who might be going through similar temptation as you. Here, let me quote you:

"Just cut off the relationship. Stop conversation, chatting, or physical contact. Then pray for God to help you overcome those lusty feelings"

Now, here's the irony buried in the paragraph before last:

"Right now, he chats once in a while, just general "how are you". I say "fine"

While you still keep the door ajar for prospective adultery with this same idiot, (most likely when you and hubby have a fight) you are advising other women going through similar challenge to cut off chats totally. You know the intention of this iniquitous pig and your own abominable longings and vulnerability towards him yet you still entertain his obviously probing "how are you's." You're still an unrepentant adulterer and you need counseling and deliverance before entertaining the idea of climbing that virtual pulpit you just did by preaching this sermon. And may GOD help your husband who's ignorant enough to permit that stupid work of yours that has no respect for matrimony to post you outside his location.

Well, I suppose you're a Christian too. You should be conversant with Jesus' words when he told the crowd that came to stone the adulterous woman that "he that is without sin should cast the first stone." I'm no angel, I admit my faults. However, those lustful feelings I talked about are much more common than you think. You cannot prevent a bird from perching, but you can prevent it from building a nest on your head. Even you are not exempted if you are honest enough to admit it, except you're a eunuch.

Also, I have received forgiveness and there is now no condemnation for me in Christ Jesus. Therefore, I refuse to allow your "stone" to hit me. And I hope you have removed the log in your own eyes before coming to remove the speck in mine.

All the same, I kept his contact because we still work for the same organisation, and communication lines should be kept open.

Shalom

This post was triggered by an earlier post I saw where the poster was having long talks with his friend's wife. I've been in a similar situation. I changed location and had to be separate from my family due to work. I was lonely and needed a friend. I talk with my husband regularly, but his interests are not my interests, so I find that besides household and family matters, we have little else to talk about. I found myself talking to this guy I met when I went for an official assignment. We started as friends, but we became attracted to each other. So when I travelled back to base, we started these long conversations. We're both born-again Christians and both married, so we kept to certain boundaries. I enjoyed conversing with him more than with my spouse. I became consumed with thoughts of him. He also expressed his desire and attraction towards me, but we laughed over it as jokes.

My husband noticed the conversations when I travelled home and became suspicious. He forbade me from speaking with him. He had never seen me have long talks with any friend, talkless of a male one. I informed my friend and he said no problem, he would wait till I travelled back to work base before he would continue. He later travelled to meet his family and conversation became scanty. I realized how much I was addicted to him when I couldn't talk to him as much as I wanted. He returned to base and we continued like before.

I started praying for God to help me overcome these desires. Maybe he also felt the same, because for some reasons I don't know, he reduced the frequency of calls and chats drastically. I didn't try to find out why, just thought the time-off would help me clear out immoral thoughts. But I got hurt when he acted indifferent on one occasion when I felt he should have shown more care. I asked him about it and he pretended not to understand what I was talking about. I read the writing on the wall, and decided to play along. So I said "bye. It was nice meeting you." Part of me was grateful it ended, another part was wishing I could still be with him. I love my husband and children, I cannot come and scatter my home.

He thought I was joking. I was no longer responding to his chats, and when I did, only with monosyllables. He became hurt and accused me of going silent on him. I told him he started it. He wanted me to become defensive, but the Holy Spirit whispered "keep quiet ". So I allowed him rant without saying anything. I thank God I didn't, because I would have exposed how deep my true feelings for him were.

Right now, he chats once in a while, just general "how are you". I say "fine". My feelings have healed and I thank God we didn't continue because I wouldn't have been able to stop myself from an affair if we had eventually had any physical contact. I can categorically say I'm no longer in love with him.

I penned these down for those struggling with similar situations. Just cut off the relationship. Stop conversation, chatting, or physical contact. Then pray for God to help you overcome those lusty feelings.

@Op cut off permanently from her. You don't want stories that touch.

koning:





The wife has the control botton. She had the remote control on her hands.

Drop the f.ucking land documents with him and go back to Scotland to be with your kids. He will be the one calling you after 3 months with questions like "Honey, what should we do with that land".

I know what i'm talking about. I just hope all these Feminists running their mouths here will not make the same mistake Chinyere made.

YOU CAN CONTROL YOUR SIDE. YOU HAVE NO CONTROL OVER WHAT THE OTHER MIGHT DO OR HOW THEY WILL RESPOND.

You are the scum of the earth.
Satan is your father.
No sensitivity, no empathy for the dead woman and her family.
Rather you are justifying murder.
Even if she or anyone else stole his property, does that justify murder?
Wait for it to happen to your sisters, or you can murder your wife even. Then I'm sure you'll be satisfied, since that's the type of thing you like.

integrity16:
Why is she in Nigeria?? She should've remained there naw after all the death threats??

I'm sure she chest-beated herself into entering Nigeria like the man cannot do shit to her after send her death threats. What a foolish way to die.

Yeye Nigerian man.
You'll never get tired of blaming the victim.
So she's no longer a Nigerian, she shouldn't visit home again.
But not one word condemning the person who committed the crime.
Hypocrisy will kill you.
Go and kill your wife and her brother and see whether your life will remain the same, since you're justifying rubbish.

Dimanene:





Hello, your comment stinks! It's cool when a man have a property in his name or son's name, without the wife's names. But an atrocity when a woman does same.
Bunch of hypocrites! Ain't gonna reply any response from you though *spits*

I wonder o.
It's very normal for a man to buy a property in his name alone, because it's his money.
When a woman does same, it's an unforgivable crime.

Women should rise up together and break this yoke off our necks.
I'm so pissed���

MrMoney55:
people just talk here because the haven't heard from the man now if i may ask after thou shall not have any other God before me which other sin does God hate its thou shall not covet pastors will not explain this to you now let me explain it so that you can understand maybe why the man acted that way.remember psalm is the longest book in the bible and if you read ur bible very well what sin did he commit?contentiousness and did God forgave him?no God was angry that he stopped David from building his temple right? now do you know how it feels if someone cheats you out of ur hard earned sweat? lets not pretend here we all can kill for that reason alone except God help us that man isn't a mad man he couldn't handle being betrayed by his own wife or former wife simple so be fair in ur dealings to avoid things like this because covetousness is an unforgivable sin even in the bible so lets wait for the man version of the story simple

You're justifying murder.
You're of your father, the devil.
Imagine the nerve, coming here to quote Bible passages you don't even understand.
I stand boldly to declare this, "IN THE SIGHT OF GOD AND MAN, NOTHING JUSTIFIES THESE MURDERS."
Oga, tomorrow go and burn your wife and her brother, since you don't have sense.

finson:
Good day all,

I was working in Lagos as expatriate. I am married and she was fully aware at the beginning of the relationship.

I had sex with my gf on the 6th day and I pulled out.

I told her that month that my contract has been terminated by my company and I have to go back to my country.

On 27th day I met her (5 days before leaving the country) and she asked me if I am sure that I pulled out on time when we had sex last time and I told her yes and she told me that she is asking the question because she has not seen her period.

When I left the country 2 weeks later I chatted her and I asked if she is doing well. She told me that she is not fine. I asked "why ?" And she told me that she is pregnant. I was very surprised and I called her. That day she told me that she was just joking with me she is not pregrant and we talked about everything.

Last week she told me that she is pregnant. She shared with me a test results on a paper where the date of the pregnancy perfectly matches with the date we had sex.

She told me that if her family is aware of the situation they will disowned her and she immediately shared with me some requirements to apply for a job in UK where 2 million NGN are required and she asked me for support. She also deleted the image of the tests results.

When I asked her to share with me she told me that she does not want me to be in trouble if my wife see that document in my phone. I insisted to get a copy and I told her that she can be assured I will not keep it in my phone. She shared back the document after cropped the letterhead. I insisted to get the full copy and she sent another one after striketrhoughed on her name.

I told her that I don't think in Nigeria the only option available for a woman who gets pregnant is to travel to UK even if her family will disown her. I understand that the situation is not comfortable but there could be other options. Even this process to go to UK can be unsuccessful, and if it is the case, this amount of money would have been lost.

I am not from Nigeria and this story seems suspicious to me. I am currently abroad, there is no way I can verify what she is telling me. I don't also want to open it some of my friends there.

To be honest, I never planned after I left the country to cut communication with her or to support her. But I prefer to support her whenever I have the opportunity to do. I don't know now if this story about the pregnancy is true or not.

If you have any experience in this kind of situation please share with me. Any advice is also welcome.
Please don't judge me.

@OP, was it a laboratory pregnancy test or an ultrasound scan result she sent to you?

Because a lab test cannot tell the date, and ultrasound scan date that is likely yours will date the pregnancy 2 weeks before you had sex. Meaning that it cannot be exactly on the day you slept with her, but approximately 2 weeks before.

This means she probably forged that result. Or she's trying to give you another man's baby.

That story about parents persecuting her is a lie. She can safely deliver in Nigeria.

My suggestion is that you allow her deliver, then do a DNA test on the child.

Sheleads:


We were just speaking on phone as normal friends, the first day we met I was physically attracted to him. After the kinda lustful act I regretted it.. but we remained as close friends, we do everything a boyfriend and girlfriend do together, but we don't go out in public neither do any of his friends know me, this guy knows even my deepest secret, what linked us is that I needed a solution to a particular issue, which he intervened. Right now the bond, and closeness has changed my feelings for him. I feel like leaving that relationship because I will end up getting hurt... It's just annoying...

You will be hurt badly. Take it from me. Cut off entirely from him before it gets messier. Unless he loves you back, you can't avoid getting hurt. I'm talking from experience

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

@OP, I understand what you're going through, which is a strong emotional and sexual attraction to another person probably due to long distance marriage. I've been in that position myself, although there was no physical involvement. However, the pull of attraction was so strong I was considering leaving my marriage.

I got out of it by sincere prayers to God and studying the Bible. Also, listening to messages helped. Progress was gradual, but what finally did it for me was completely cutting off all communication. I used the opportunity of a small misunderstanding to do that and in about a week's time, I was completely weaned of those thoughts.

So do these 3 things
1. CUT OFF ALL MEDIA OF COMMUNICATION
2. PRAY SINCERELY FOR GOD'S HELP
3. STUDY THE WORD OF GOD DAILY

lecturer50:
A 27 year old divorced woman with 3 kids came to me to borrow N20,000 to add and pay house rent.

I told her I would give her money in a few weeks time when I get the money.

Last week, she came back from her nursery school teaching job and right from the door of my room, she started shouting " I cannot sell my body for money"

I asked her what happened and she claimed men wanted to sleep with her to give her the N20,000.

I consoled her and told her that some men like giving women such condition before they can help the women.

She answered that if I am among such men who sleep with women before helping them, I should tell her so she could forget about coming to me.

I said that I am not among such men and that I would give her the money when I get it.

She thanked me and left.

I have a male neighbor whom the woman has been having sex with. It was the male neighbor who advised her to come to me because he is not working.

That my male neighbor started giving me attitude. He answered my greetings grudgingly.

I wanted to stop greeting him.

But then I observed that my next yard female neighbors also did the same. They stopped answering my greetings. That divorced woman is living with/near those female neighbors. Other males around were still friendly with me, except my next door male neighbor whom the woman has been having sex with.

So i asked my male neighbor what the problem was because he and the females around were giving me attitude.

He said nothing at first.

Later, he said in a friendly manner that I should have respected myself and not asked the woman for sex, because when he started having sex with the woman, it was she who initiated the move, and not him.

He opened up to me that the woman has been telling people that I wanted to sleep with her for the money.

I was so shocked and ran to go and meet the woman, but he held me and said that the woman strongly warned him not to confront me if he wanted her to continue visiting him.

I told him the true situation of things and he said I should forget everything because she is "just a woman".

I wasn't having any of this, so I confronted her in the front of her female friends in her room.

She answered that she believed we misunderstood ourselves. She said am I not a man? Why must what I heard bother me.

Some males around said I should forget it because the society has given women weapon against men which is rape/sexual assault allegations, because even if women are lying against men, people would still believe the women.

They said that the best a man should do is to hope he is not falsely accused by a woman because there is nothing he can say that anyone would believe him.

Because the society believes a man always wants to have sex with every woman, therefore every accusation from women would be immediately believed.

I answered them that even if a person is a chronic thief who is well known as a thief, he would not keep quiet and just accept it when he is accused of stealing what he did not steal. He would shout and defend himself.

At least let them accused him of what he stole and not what he didn't steal.

They say I am a man and it is nothing to a man if a woman accused him of wanting to sleep with her. One girl there was telling me that there was nothing wrong in a man wanting to sleep with any woman. That there is nothing to be ashamed of as a man, if you have a desire to sleep with any woman.

Can you imagine that?

I believe the society should form a group to cater for men also.

So many black men were falsely accused by white women and were killed because no one cares for the male gender. You cannot just accept false accusations because you believe it is nothing since you are a man. What if you end up losing your life, freedom or happiness because of it?

Men are so ashamed to rise up and defend the male gender. But women always group together to defend a woman who is abused by a man.

Men would rather defend the female gender.

But know that if you are ashamed to defend a follow man against a woman who wants to destroy him, when your time comes, no one would defend you.

What goes around comes around.

Don't think that you are safe when other men are not safe.

Don't think that if a woman accused a man falsely and the man is being imprisoned or killed, that you cannot be a victim tommorow.

If you like abuse me.

@OP, your story reminds me of another story I know of. A certain widow frequently visited a divorced male relative of mine. When she comes, she packs food items from his house. Her children attended schools where school fees were like 150k per term. She wasn't working. It was suspicious, but we didn't talk. Then one day, she came to complain to a relative that she can't sell her body for money. She had asked him for school fees for one of her kids and apparently, he asked for sex in return.

I didn't buy her story one bit. My response was, Madam, why are you always coming here? Did he force you to come? Is he responsible for your children now? You know he is in a relationship, so why do you come when his girlfriend is not around? If he asked for sex, you can say no, afterall, he didn't force you. And why leave your kids in schools you can't afford, only to turn around to blame others for your inability to pay school fees?

Seriously, I was pissed. Some men dey suffer, sha

Elidrisy20:
What's the name of the house boy?

Abdul is the name of the house boy.

Blogs and false stories + half truths. SMH

I knew him personally. He was the finest doctor ever who wrote the final exam of his residency training last month. That was his 1st attempt. He had not been failing exams repeatedly. I believe he was depressed, coupled with no salary for 2 months owing to the strike. Who knows what else he was dealing with behind closed doors. However, cause of death is unknown although suicide cannot be ruled out.

Mental health is very important. Please let's take care of our mental health.

Adieu, my friend. This is the saddest news ever

This story is probably a lie. Nobody can carry that scissors inside and last 7 years. She would have been dead b4 the 1st year was over. And that X-ray could have been an artifact. It's too big to have been missed. Negligence happens, but scissors in the abdomen for 7 years? I don't believe it.

I think there's a 2nd or 3rd wave going on now. Treated malaria yet still having severe symptoms. Developed sorethroat and cough subsequently. Went for day 7 post-travel covid screening yesterday and tested positive. Meanwhile I did covid test 8 days before now which was negative. My children had sorethroat with loss of taste and smell before all these which I just attributed to catarrh and treated as such. And I'm fully vaccinated. We need to be careful out there, guys.

coolsan:



Your brother may be suffering from a Manic episode of a bipolar disorder.......you may need to take him to a specialist Dr(psychiatrists

Louder pls. That was exactly what crossed my mind when I read it.
@OP, take him to a Psychiatrist. Thus is probably a manic episode.

Adakintroy:
If men judge women with the same intensity in same way they judge men they will be far more inferior even as they are already.


It was in part family kept secret. they acknowledged. you were here because of that sin. Give praise to it.

all families have one. I slept with my sister growing up. My elder sister kept it a secret for me. till this day, The secret is kept a triangle between.

I am a good person this days .judge me wrong earlier and I would not have metarmorphose into the family helping young man I am now. Even bonding proper with my siter I slept with.( She was younger than myself then).

Am sure the prostitute Christ met then use part the proceed to help her sick mother. So Christ in spirit first procaimed "woman i do not judge you.".

Your father am sure did his best to make up for his short falls. Arresting him was uncalled for.

The ring on your nose gave you away. Chances are you would have made more mistakes in your life than him am thinking.

You mean you raped your sister? And you're justifying it? What sort of generation is this?�

sweetmelanin:
I understand the sentiment and I know how terrifying it is to almost lose a loved one. I'm glad your wife could survive this terrible illness called cancer but I need Christians to be careful when telling "testimonies" such as this..

..don't get me wrong, I'm a Christian myself but the truth is, I just find testimonies like this kinda selfish and self-serving. Millions of Christians die everyday... many are even more righteous than you and me..would you say they aren't true believers? Would you say God doesn't love them as much as he loves you and your wife?
What about the millions of unbelievers who have survived cancer and other deadly diseases? Did God choose to save them over His own children who succumbed to the illness and died?

All I'm saying is, people (believer or non believer) will die at their appointed time. Perhaps it's simply not your wife's time return to the earth..
Nonetheless, I'm happy for you guys all the same.


Modified:


Comments like this prove my point exactly.

Sister in Christ, I was once where you are now. But I continued in faith, and I can categorically state that I've grown beyond this level. I pray that the Holy Spirit will enlighten the eyes of your understanding to appreciate what just happened in the life of this brother's wife.

Jesus Christ is Lord!

Ericsdm55:
Testimony To The Glory Of God

I am sharing this testimony with you to encourage someone believing and waiting for the Lord to remain steadfast.

For sometime now my spouse has been battling with cancerous growth around her breast. To cut long story, she was on chemotherapy last two years and after then it was one drug to another.

Last year 2020, she started developing serious pain around her left armpit and it got worse as the runs down. The pain around her armpit was so much that we just didn't know what to do again. That evening we were having our devotion and I was led in my spirit to tell the kids to pray specifically for her. We continued like this for the next two days, laying hands on her specifically and declaring God's healing on her.

I noticed the fourth day she slept well with no complain of pain. So I didn't ask her, because at a point I just asked less, because of the emotional stress I often try to suppress. After a week she called me and showed me her chest, but the scary lumps was gone. Also, the excruciating pain around her armpit was gone as well. I am returning all praise and glory to God Almighty.

God indeed does answer prayers. I never visited any prayer house or miracle centre. I am not much of a church goer or a prayer warrior. I am not saying observing those things are bad. What I'm saying is; if you believe in Jesus Christ in your heart and confess Him as Lord and savior, then you are a child of God and have every access to God Almighty as well.

God also saves me from a serious financial burden in one of the worst time of the year 2020. I truly do not deserve this divine intervention and truly no body does, but the Lion of the tribe of Judah has prevail and overcame for me and you . Be encouraged, shalom!

Praise the Lord! Alleluia!!!
Jesus Christ is Lord!
Believe in Him and you'll be saved, you and your household. �������

Truth. Heard soldiers couldn't control the crowd. Looting ongoing as I type. #Gwagwalada palliatives

ENG0701:


Technically it's not. Abuja is Central area, Garki, Maitama, Wuse and Asokork. Others are FCT. Anything outside AMAC is FCT, not Abuja.
Abuja is in FCT.

Hope you know Lugbe is under AMAC(Abuja Municipal Area Council).
You're welcome.

bluefilm:


Can't you see why it is so?

We have proven evidence that there's really something like covid19 but we have no proof whatsoever that the so called Jesus actually even existed

Bottom line: Coronavirus is real; Jesus is not.

Give your life to Christ.

Christ is more real than you are.

I pray that the darkness in you be lighted by Christ and the prison chains holding you bound be broken.

Jesus Christ loves you.

Be free in Jesus' name. Amen

Kathleens:
I have to create another account for this reason, please i need all the advice I can get to save my marriage and sanity.

Recently I have been feeling so Hot after I stopped my baby from breastfeeding. My hubby tries his own possible way to satisfy me but after the sex I will still masturbate to pleasure myself cause I will be fantasizing about someone going down on me with their tongue (I have never experienced that in my entire life) my hubby doesn't do that.

This has made to fantasize about other guys giving me the pleasure I need, i went as far as searching the internet for gigolos and having this fantasy with them on my mind. This is crazy, I even contacted one and we fixed a date (he promised to go down on me really hot with his tongue) but I bluffed it cause I really don't have the courage to cheat on my hubby though I have cheated on him a million times on my head. I can't even imagine doing it physically but the thought is always on my head. I need to stop this and the frequent masturbation before it ruins me.

I need all the advices including insults, maybe the insults will reset my head. I am 32 years with four kids. Thank you

I was in similar circumstances some years back. The following tips helped me greatly
1. Give your life to Christ truly. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you. Cast out the spirit of lust and spirit spouses
2. Get rid of porn and romance novels, movies with sexually explicit scenes
3. The hard part -- Force out every sexual thought. Fight it, don't allow it nest in your head. Rebuke the thoughts and deliberately think about God, Christ and His holiness, whenever these thoughts come.With time you'll get used to resisting these thoughts.
4. Tell your husband what you need. If he's understanding like mine, he'll go out of his way to satisfy you. Afterall, he's the only option you have.
God's grace

costandi:
Identity crisis of the church. We don't know who we are and what we represent. Now we should come for a church program because Davido supports it?

It's so sad. The church of God is surely matching on and the gates of hell shall not prevail.

CsRockefeller:
Where is the Femi I used to know back then?

The Femi of the Sun Newspapers who would speak the truth not minding whose ox is gored.

The Femi whose column I looked forward to every weekend, giving me hope that Nigeria could still be rescued.

The Femi who stood like a shining star fighting through the pen for the betterment of Nigerian's.

The Femi who was brave, fearless, intelligent, of a sound mind and sound judgement.

Where is that Femi?
Where is Femi Adesina of old?

Everyone has a price, even you

Interesting15:
By Sunday Akanni Moshood

The other day, I stumbled on a thread where someone was asking why people have chosen to abstain from premarital sex and all of that. Then, it came to my mind to even write something about my own experience. Don't worry, I will make this one brief (perhaps the long version will come years from now when I will probably write a book about my life).

When I was a little boy, despite that my immediate environment wasn't one that encouraged full blown spirituality (in God), I usually feel the hand of God on me, and I'm usually conscious of His presence. As I approached the adolescence period of my life, as expected, sexual urges started coming, and I was also with the desire to express these emotions. Despite that the devil stationed other young teenage females around, I found myself being hindered continually from defiling myself.

While I was still contemplating, as a very young teenager, if I should taste sex once, or wait until marriage, everything changed after God visited me with His offer.....

The Host of Heaven paid me a visit as a young boy, and the offer was: Walk before Me and be perfect, and in return, I will give you...... In return, I will make you....

After reflecting deeply on which way to go, I decided to go for God's offer, since I discovered it is more beneficial to me. So, it means I have to fight to ensure I won't fall into temptation and displease God.

Interestingly, God made it so easy for me.. When I see young people lamenting that their sexual urges are "driving them insane", I will be like, is this not the same sexual urges that I have? The same sexual urges I have, that I'm fully in control of?

The best decision I made in my life was deciding to embrace God's offer from a very young age and walk with Him. I keep enjoying pleasantness in all regards. I keep enjoying His Grace in awesome ways. I keep getting great things others struggle for, easily.

In fact, one of the rewards was writing to encourage others to embrace purity and chastity. I have been writing since I was a young teenager, and my books and articles are being bought and read in different parts of the world - even in faraway places like India! I became the person that people Google Search his name to know what he offers. And of course, I'm sure God is still taking me to higher grounds.

Because of that decision, I can boldly say it anywhere that I haven't indulged in premarital sex and I'm undefiled. And guess what? I'm very fine! Very healthy. I won't defile myself, and so, my messages will keep touching the world with fire, and bring people to the will of God through Jesus Christ.

Beloved, just as God gave me the offer, He is also giving you the offer to walk before Him and be perfect. If you align yourself with God by accepting Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, and you decided to devote your life to Him, He will give you dominion over sin, the devil, creation (financially, health wise, family wise, etc).

Jesus said: "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30)

Like me, you can live an undefiled life. Don't believe the lies of the devil that you can't control these urges. Stop allowing sexual immorality wreck your life. Flee from all appearances of sin.

Jesus wants an eternal communion with you. It is your destiny to serve God in Spirit and in Truth through Jesus Christ His Son, and have dominion over creation. Open yourself to the Lord. Call upon His Name, and He will help you. God bless you.

A thousand likes. Continue in the way of the Lord and He shall never leave you

Greatest of the greatest Malabites and Malabresses!!!
Proud of you guys!!!