From Oliver twist to Ewa na beans o

Nna see nkapi don rebrand himself.

Who get link to download the book abeg. 25k can buy many cartons of orijin.

Mutaino7:
diz thread just refuse to die..[b] Na cockroach [/b]im b

I hate those bloody insects!

Tayo leaving next guys brace up

Sipe looks pained.

Good topic , disagree with the write up.

Not only abstinence that is how Africa got where it is today mscheeewwww.

If I say here in France we don't think like this now una go say I don start.

Dear Poster,
Be a man.


Take charge of your house and your wife. Go visit medical practitioners who can help, go the whole nine yards and leave no stone unturned in getting her pregnant. Until that void is filled she will keep looking for it. So stop her and make sure you proffer the direction the family should go. So in summary,


Be a man.

Kai
Land owners assosiation

BuddhaPalm:


Hey bro, most certainly the voice. That's why I tend to be tepid about audio books.

I am assuming your interest is motivation & human behaviour. So anytime you do get the opportunity - even if its 10 years on - read it. It is a class act.

In the mean time, check out: Sperm Wars by Robin Baker, and Sex At Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality by Christopher Ryan.

Best Regards.

Hmmm alright will give it another go thanks.

BuddhaPalm:


Hmmm...Influence ranks up there as one of my very best reads.

What page are you currently on?

Audible app says 10 hrs to go. Maybe it's the voice of the guy reading it. I was so hooked to predictably irrational I finished in record time. This one is kinda slow for me.


PS: audible is the only way I can justify not reading for my exams or even reading the mountain load of manuals I should know like the holy bible. .........

BuddhaPalm:


Hey Chris. If you enjoyed Predictably Irrational, you will love Influence by Robert Cialdini.

Unfortunately I am not enjoying influence as much. Anything more interesting ?

Puff puff model though roflmao
I have been trying not to think of it .........puff puff model and Sheila shows up on the screen.......tayo has bad mouth.

bukatyne:


What is worse in a marriage than cheating and abuse?

CHai Aswear this one na serious jamb kweshun, and na night school I go. Oya make I try the kweshun make I no fail am.


First off, I think all marriages are different. We can draw broad circles around areas which majority of couples would agree are no go areas however we must also try to add some "common sense" into it. There are a myriad of reasons why people decide to get hitched, not everyone get married because romeo met juliet and they fell in love. Take bisi for instance, a young girl who marries otedola's friend because of his billions her worst thing in marriage might not be the number of naked girls dancing in his yacht during weekends. For her wahala go burst when she catch any woman trying to actually "snatch" him. She grew up soaking garri on the streets of Sagbama and swore that she would be carried inside the jeep that she rushes to sell edible worm to inside traffic. How about patricia, she grew up with so many relatives from her fathers side around. They constantly caused issues between her father and her mother until the man died while they were in a rocky patch of the marriage. Family members stripped everything from the mum, they had to struggle to survive for her nightmare is when you see your husbands people in the house - THEY MUST STAY THE HELL OUT.


Lady B, there are so many of us with different stories and different value systems in marriage. What is certain is that when you dig slightly deeper, you will see that we have the real demons which we would rather live without. So while your yardsticks for cheating might be a bit stringent, some other people are on different levels of the spectrum (even among spouses). This spectrum also shifts with circumstances, you swear before the wedding day you will leave him if he tries it. 10 years after he is a loving father to his kids, never let you guys fear or worry about the future, breaks his back for the family and while on a 6 months business trip in brazil he slips. It is easier said than done to say I will pack my bags, because when you put the things he is good at side by side his "mistake" or "weakness" - also in comparison to what is out there or loneliness should you decide to go that way you would agree that it is truly a complex matter.




I am rambling now, na this agama lizard tok make me get C5.9 for GCE after 3 trials and TB joshua intervenshion

MadCow1:

Apostle Chris.. I see you!!

Nairaland girls, Verily Verily I say unto you..
Chris is my Guyses in whom I am well pleased... MAKE UNA HOLD UNA EAR HAND TAKE HEAR WETIN E DEY TALK O!!
Ehn Marriage CV big pass Ugo C. Ugo textbook ..

LWKMD
Ugo C Ugo
My brother sometimes ehn we dey give ourselves "unneccesary" BP. Hayam watching you with three eyes

chaircover:


Hmmmmmm rightly said
The truth is that no one really knows how one will react when one is faced with these things.
All these my advise gan, if I was faced with the reality, I will probably behave different and it will be like ha sisi siacofa how come naw?

The reality is that every situation is different and even such things as timing, other issues, finances, existing health of the relationship, children and a heap of other things will determine what happens next.

I just wish that people knew how damaging and hurtful it is to cheat on someone and then weigh it out first. They will see that the 3 minutes excitment in a dirty hotel room is just not worth it at all.

Again, this is true. The evidence however that abounds in the world (wars, conflicts, etc) does not show that "many" people are adept at managing these emotions. For me after being on the receiving end more than once in past relationships, I learned to take life a lot less seriously, in fact I think the priming that it is the worst thing that could happen in a relationship/marriage tends to increase the blow.

Personally I advocate that each case be judged on its own merit, factors such as the personality of the individuals involved....are they both ruled by their heads alone or by their hearts. Then comes the root cause analysis.....if it can be handled by both parties. Was it a moment of pure physical pleasure ( men tend to be the culprits here - 3 minutes excitment in a dirty clean ( the guy has to have class na ) hotel room, was it emotional ( women and men are culprits here o - bbm chats, whatsapp chats, sms) this one can pain sha. Then there is the omega of them all - physical and emotional cheating! Phew! This one requires professional remedy and all the help that is needed should be given to those involved.


Here is the catch though, regardless of what we choose.......we have to deal with reality. That is where our emotions manifest or would I say take form. That is where the children cry and wonder why daddy and mummy dont see eye to eye, where families swear at each other and collect bride price back. So whatever decision is taken, one has to be ready to live with the reality of that decision.

Sagamite come when you go marry self? We need all this ya theory for practical o.

This cheating matter is a very complex one, there's emotions , reality, and then the reality that most people get ruled by emotions anyways.

shdemidemi:


This is where the issue of self versus God comes in. Christianity is not about self but about God. Jesus hated self so He died, the apostles hated self, they suffered and most were martyred.

GOD IS NOT A MEANS TO AN END, HE IS AN END IN HIMSELF.

God expects us to present ourselves as LIVING SACRIFICE. A sacrifice is something you give to someone with no intention of getting it back. The paradox here is, christians claim to give their life to God yet they hold on to it.

The God you claim you gave your life to says WORRY NOT ABOUT THE FOOD YOU WILL EAT EVEN THE CLOTHES YOU WILL WEAR (SELF) because He knows all you need for the journey He had prepared even before you were born. All those things you think you need are secondary, the primary assignment is to look for God and carry out His work. When you know God, your thinking about those things you would have gone to jo for, will most likely change.


I have a child that never ask me for the necessary things he needs. All he ask are stupid things like sweetie, games et al which I try to provide sometimes. But he would never ask me for the university he is going to go to, the course he will take, how we have a house to live in, where the next meal will come from. I don't blame him for this because he is only a child. Like my child, you are only being a (spiritual babe) child when you go to God asking for frivolities (you might not see them as that).

Look for God through His Word alone and stop being vain. Christianity is not a SELFIE call, rather it is a call to SERVICE.

To think that some people liked this **Pukes***
Next we would wonder why Isis beheads people.

kai e get where dem dey show am online?

Una don start abi

Sirjohn,
I am calling you out, you did a good job until you decided to not finish that which you started. Maybe you want to collect 500k but is that enough for you to "sell your soul" .
We need to know for sure if this guy runs a miracle factory, today it is Jeff tomorrow innocent people will go to him to cure HIV. The clock is ticking, at the very least bare it all and let it be known that this man cannot perform any miracles.

Tick tok.......

Sile12:

Guyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!
Oya name all the fighters wey dey here starting from your Noob Saibot....

Easy na

Mam bea .............

Shalaaaat to trey baba!

BuddhaPalm:


Hey Chris. If you enjoyed Predictably Irrational, you will love Influence by Robert Cialdini.

Right on it then, get the next one ready. Thanks in advance

BuddhaPalm:


Glad you liked it. Cheers.

Sire,
Any more interesting books like predictably irrational that I can read?

Merci in advance.

BuddhaPalm:



@ Bolded, great!

Usual progression: Religious => Atheist => Agnostic => Pantheist => Who knows...

Once you become an atheist, the first thing that happens is that you kinda become angry.


Why the fvck did they sell me this bullshít. Why is everyone so irrational - unlike the smart, superior me? But remember, we humans are all superfluously irrational.

Lol, there's even a book titled Predictably Irrational - makes an interesting read.


If you look closely, you'll see that our irrationality as a specie even borders on idiocy. Take something as you being from Nigeria as an example. In the name of this imaginary entity, you will 'justifiably' discriminate, fight wars and kill people. Well, because they are from a different imaginary entity.

Nationalism is the infantile disease of mankind, said Einstein. He was so right.


Almost every one of our actions is governed by irrationality. Emotions. And emotions take logic to the cleaners all the time, everyday. Logic just doesn't stand a fvcking chance.

When you 'attack' a religious person with your logic, even if you possess the persuasiveness of a serpent, he FEELS affronted. An affront to his God, an affront to his intelligence and an affront to his person.

And under this beautiful atmosphere, there's no way your message could possibly get through. And to make things worse, you are going against thousands of years of momentum...and years and years of conditioning. Your logic is not that strong - though it has it virtues.


Besides, everyone is right, depending on where their understanding is, and where circumstance has placed them.

For example, if you asked a student in Primary 2, "What is 2 - 3?", her answer would be "it cannot go!" Is she wrong?

Good.

"You cannot teach a man anything, you can only help him find it within himself." ---- Galileo


So instead of going all kung fu-evangelical on their áss. Why not plant seeds instead. "What if...?" Or generally express your opinion, when asked, without being condescending, disrespectful or combative.

And most patiently hope that someday, they might, in a moment of quiet contemplation have some bulbs go off. "What if I was born a Muslim, a Christian, a Buddhist or a Traditionalist". "If God loves us so much, why would he burn some of us for - wait! - ETERNITY!", "That's incongruent with being all LOVE"

A hole here and a hole there, you have yourself a leaky ship. And once there's a leaky ship, the entire complex is going down, down, down.

Its only a matter of time.

And finally, arguments are blunt instruments which bloody more than they cut (paraphrasing Chief Dr Robert Greene). Believe me, you will lose quite a few friends - if you are the argument guy.


"If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent's good will." -------- Benjamin Franklin

Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you the post of the year 2014!

aisha2:


Hahahahahaaa. Our men can be so selfless sha, they will be managing tuketuke and they will buy madam tear leather. God bless una.

Anyway another question :

1. How do you deal with her insecurities? Eg: am getting fat, I feel ugly. Are you the rip the bandage off " yes you are, lets go to the gym and register " or are you the " no you are not getting fat, the dry cleaner is shrinking your clothes or the scale is old and broken, you are perfect "

2. How does she respond to your own insecurities eg, problems at work? Financial challenges, when things dont seem to be adding up?

Kai this madam, are you sure your surname is not Sesay. Na CNN grade kweshuns be these ones.

1. This one has me laughing because it will always happen. Women sha, no matter how gorgeous and beautiful she is she will find one thing to hold on to. Generally I make her understand that we would not both remain like this forever, I am more concerned about what she would look like on the inside. I already accept that life would happen, child birth would happen etc etc. Where I draw the line is when it comes to health, so eating and living healthy is a must do. So first I would tease and tease her, I know the line where I have to stop. Leading by example is a must, so if I feel like we are going down the wrong path....shaun T comes on at 5 am everyday till she feels jealous enough to join me. For me it is important to remind her how gorgeous she looks even now with her buldge, I told her last night I needed to crank my camera and document the process. So in summary a mixture of both, assure that my perceptions of life are not way over board and her knowing that our collective health is important. The politics of achieving both is a sleight of hand that would get all men that are successful at it medals in a world magicians contest.


2. HA, this one starts with me accusing her in the morning of throwing my clothes in the dryer to trick me that I am getting fat. Then she bursts into laughter calling me roby roby (her abbreviation of orobo). I take my own health seriously sha, I rank the fear of having a pot belly higher than falling off a 1004 estate building. When I whine she listens intently, sometimes work takes its toll and I spend evenings on my work stations till late at night. Sometimes I get frustrated about the quality of my own work, she always reminds me that I am too hard on myself and what I have done is excellent. Fortunately we are both engineers so she relates a lot with what I do and her inputs are invaluable to me.

OK Here goes

1. Who does discipline for the kids? Is it a joint effort or is there the good cop bad cop arrangement?
None yet, baby on the way though. Hmmmmmm maybe I would learn more from people as time goes on but I like to think of myself as a one man army, I would not be needing any cops.

2. Describe the most romantic thing you have ever done for madam and what you consider the most romantic thing she has ever done for you
Fortunately I have got good hands, I deliver a really mean massage. Throw a bottle of wine in the mix and I can manage to do stuff that fantasies are made of. I never reach to add flowers and candles sha.

3. What is it that makes you want to come home everyday despite distraction and temptation out there.
Rest of mind, peace of mind.....I like to say she is cool peoples. Whenever theres a shitstorm going on at work, house is the last refuge.

4. What role does faith play in your marriage? Are tou religious? Non religious? Religious but practical? Is your spouse on the same wavelength? If not how do you balance?
I am Non religious, she is. She totally understands me and me her. I don't have issues with balance, even though she tries to guilt me into dropping her off at church sometimes

5. In the early years what was one area that caused friction!? As head of the home how did you work to manage the situation?
She has to take her drugs when she is not fine! Arrrrrghhhhhh

aisha2:


Just seeing this lol @ application for petrol money.
We run similar financial models. I am the one who breaks every crazy idea into naira and kobo and na there the matter dey die most times lol. Before I would argue and argue but now when idea comes I say lovely then i do a budget and na him go scream say leave that matter abeg lol.

Finances are very important once a couple finds a way to balance their different experiences and financial ideologies and backgrounds they have solved possibly half of the marital squabbles.

Let me go think of some more questions and return

HAHAHHAHA ok I can identify with the leave that matter abeg LOL.
I agree with the financial ideologies part. I am very much a poco a poco man. I take things slow and steady and I do not need too much to be pleased, contentment is the name of the game for me. She very much identifies with that and it helps that I do not first to explain to her that I am not fussed about driving my tuketuke to work .