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habsydiamond:
having the required resources such as money, wisdom, leadership qualities and Tolerance

Good. I thought you were going to state only money.

Samantha123:
It's a scam.. the wife must have some source of income too because things are very expressive nowadays.

Many ladies are not thinking this way. I think that's the problem.

Yusufisraelj:
It's subjective

1. Does the guy have plans to grow thier finances?

2. Is the lady industrious to earn for herself as well.

3. Can the two synergize to make sure abundance is in the home?

On this three anything is really possible, I'll support the man's notion.

It's not a trap in my opinion, the thing is finding two selfless people in a love relationship.

1. The guy must definitely have a definite plan to increase their finances.

2. Depends on the lady.

3. This is where compatibility comes in.

Seems like a trap, if the individual (lady) is the opposite of the three points you stated above.

habsydiamond:
it is good to marry early cos u will reap early too.. but if u are not capable don't try I cos u will suffer early and u may reap late.

Define being capable.

Olasyke:
Understanding is basic in everything we want to do. If I see a girl and we love each other and we are young, before we proceed to agree to marriage, there would be arrangements. Maybe only one kid for now till we both hit a certain level of income and also, what are our plans before we even give birth to the first one? Because a child shouldn't come to this life to to suffer because we couldn't use family planning.

I agree with you. But you don't have to be all wealthy before going into marriage aye?

Olasyke:
Put body first.
Also, why would I want to be with someone who can't feed herself without my help.

The man is talking from experience.

DispatcherLagos:

Don't take advice from simps.
Nigerian girls are liabilities, except you want to remain at the level of "from hand to mouth" avoid any serious relationship talk more of marriage until food, clothing and shelter are not issues that worry you.

All of them?

habsydiamond:
This economy states otherwise ooo.. marry early suffer plenty. That's not nice mehn!!! In this current Nigeria, if u can feed ur self, ur wife u must have extra cos anything can happen.

Whatever the case may be. Don't you think it is wise to marry early?

yrhuhfy113:
It is true for some, trap for others.

NO TWO MARRIAGES ARE THE SAME OR FUNCTION BY THE SAME RULES..... everyone is different.

So it's both ways.

Is this a trap or it's true?

9. Consistency is key.

Look, there will be days that don’t workout as planned but don’t let this ruin your overall plan.

Get back in the game and bring the victory home.

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Hope this helps someone out there.

1. Define a clear goal.

Without a clear goal it is hard to define exactly what you want. Your mind doesn’t need an invitation to procrastinate.

Begin to visualise what it is you really want. Writing down your goal will help to bring it into reality.

2. Establish a clear plan.

You may know what it is you want but if you don’t know how to achieve it, the chances are, you will fail.

Outline a plan that breaks down each individual step you will need to attain your goal. Small steps lead to big changes.

3. Strengthen your self confidence.

One thing the successful in society all have in common is self confidence.

You need to develop the mindset that you are good enough to achieve what you set out to, otherwise why even try ?

You can do this.

4. Build habits.

Habits make life 10x easier. The more you have to think about what you’re doing the greater chance that your mind will start to wonder.

Systems and habits remove the guessing and give you a clear step by step process to follow.
PS: A habit takes three months of consistency to develop.


5. Evaluate your time.

You often hear people say “I don’t have time” when in reality they go to work then spend the rest of their night mindlessly scrolling.

Plan out your day, there is enough time to enjoy yourself while also getting the important tasks done.


6. Start small.

Often when you lack discipline, it is down to thinking that you have to do it all at once.

Learn to break down tasks into manageable pieces. You’ll find that you get more done and be pleasantly surprised at how much more enjoyable it is.


7. Look after yourself

Strong mental and physical health will aid in your battle to destroy a lack of self discipline.

Develop a positive self talk process as well as making sure you eat well and exercise on a regular basis.

Movement will help clear your mind.


8. Hold yourself accountable.

You can always ask friends or family to hold you accountable but what happens when they are not there ?

Developing self accountability puts you in control. You can identify your triggers and deal with them accordingly.

Master your own destiny.

Good luck.

SETHARTHUR:
Thanks for this. What is the best skill you can advise I learn this year.

Learn one of the most needed skill.
1. Vidoe editing/ motion graphics
2. Software engineering/data analyst
3. Graphics design/ UI UX design
4. Digital marketing

DON'T F*CK IT UP IN THE NEW YEAR!!!

7 things you NEED to get right in 2023 to achieve your goals and live your dream life:

1. Don't exercise, train

Most people "work out" or "exercise" and think this will get them the fitness level and looks they desire.

While it's better than nothing, what you need to do is TRAIN.

This means following a structured program designed to get you to your goals.

2. Don't consume, create

Whether we like it or not, we are all addicted to our phones and social media to a degree.

Such addiction can ruin your life. How do we turn a negative into a positive?

Switch from consumer to CREATOR and start building a revenue stream online.


3. Don't focus on saving, focus on making more

You start budgeting and saving every penny you can, so you can do what? Enjoy life at 70?

Live on less than you make, absolutely. Don't waste money.

But your BIG FOCUS should be on working hard to increase your revenue.

4. Don't invest in crypto, invest in yourself

I have nothing against crypto, however...

Your best performing asset is YOURSELF.

Invest in learning high-income skills. Invest in mentors. The returns will be far higher than any financial market can ever give you.

5. Don't rest on weekends, work on weekends

If you have big dreams and a busy life, weekends are going to be your only moment to get ahead of the competition.

Don't neglect social life / family time.

But definitely MAKE TIME to achieve your goals. Your family will benefit too.

6. Don't listen to losers, listen to winners

Receiving good advice is a very POWERFUL contributor to your success.

How do we know which advice to follow? Here's a simple rule of thumb:

"If he is not where you want to be, don't listen to what he says". Simple and effective.

7. Don't simply acquire knowledge, use it

Reading books is beneficial and can teach us a lot about many different topics.

However, knowledge for the sake of knowledge is USELESS.

Take massive action and implement the newfound knowledge to improve your life.

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If you can control your MIND, You can control your LIFE.

By applying the right mental models, you will learn to think better and become a MASTER of your mind.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Is Twitter working on your phone? Just noticed it's not

Princess80:
The sexual harassment by NLders is really annoying.
I do recieved mails from many people here(most especially from the guys). what most of them want is to get laid, as usual i do politely decline.
While some gentlemen backs off after knowing who i am, few becomes feral and throw insults at me for no reason whatsoever.

Maybe you lots are just always horney or most of the women back home are subjected to feel inferior in the society , or you probably meet sluts everyday of your life and you have no experience of being rejected but i dont think its nice to sexually harass a lady.
I think its immature, short and brutish.

With the level of red pill on here? Show some proves, let's see the culprits.

gfon:
thanks,please what is are the needed requirements?

Send a Dm

pansophist:
1. If I magically become a twenty-year-old again, I will never go to a traditional university, I will instead, go to NOUN (national open university of Nigeria) or study online in a free online university (''uopeople'' is a good one) so I will have a lot of free time, then start a business along the way, make all the mistakes necessary and succeed in it. This way, I kill two birds with one stone. A degree and a career that sets me up for life and makes me attractive and respected in my 30s. And it's cheaper too, without the distraction of strikes, cultism, too expensive, the temptation of prostitution, etc. 

2. If you want to understand human nature, politics, women, society, and how power structures work, study the animal jungle. Animals will reveal to you the true nature of humans without the mask of laws, civility, and democracy (lol). 

3. By default, trust no one. And if they give you reasons not to trust them, believe them. If you come to trust them through proven track records that span a reasonable amount of time, still make sure you have a safe landing if things go bad. 

4. Everybody is trying to capture your mind. Guard it with your life. Your mind is like an engine or a computer OS, if it is corrupt, the whole system will be. An example of a captured mind is he who cannot think for himself. 

5. You should know that you are paying a very dangerous price if you refuse to man up, get your shit together, and put in the work. The world is very unforgivable to weak people who prefer comfort, and your refusal to work hard will sink you at the bottom of the food chain, of which you would have been older, fatter, maybe smarter due to experiences, but poorer, and irrelevant. 

6.  Your 20's will only be the time you will be free. From your 30s, society will not be soft on you the way you are soft on yourself. If you are broke, girls will ignore you, friends will not respect you, and your esteem will be low. And other successful people will rent your life to advance their interests. And it will only go worse from there. And as a man, by default, you are on your own. 

7. The earlier you start to run, the quicker you reach the finish line, rest, and enjoy. if your parents are still sponsoring you in your 20s, it is not an excuse to be lazy. Face life as a man, because it gets harder as you grow older. 

8. Look for a woman you hate with a passion, then buy a house for her, a car, and maintain the house until you die. This is the pain that awaits you if you marry a woman who lies, manipulates, and is a deceiver because the body is what attracts you instead of the character. 

9. Your biggest enemies will always be those in your inner circle. It is difficult to be envious of someone you don't know, who didn't watch grow from zero to hero. haters are harmless idiots who hate from afar, but envy is within. More people have been killed and backstabbed by those who know them than by strangers. 

10. In anything you do, make sure that you are able to look at yourself in the mirror and have peace within. You might get away with treating people wrongly, but nothing will torment the soul more than your conscience. Conversely, nothing will burn your soul more than allowing injustice to be done to you because you have no teeth. Grow some teeth, and make sure you can use them, and that single act of deterrence will scare the dangers of this world away from you. 

11. You have to be awake to outsmart women. Women by nature are next level' more socially aware than men, so it takes a conscious effort for most men to see themselves through the eyes of women. You will probably spend your life permanently with one, so it worth spending time (and resources) to know them.

12. Have a war mindset, because whether you like it or not, you are in a fight by default. Life is a battle that you win before going to the battleground. A battleground merely confirms your victory. A sheep and a lion don't have to enter the ring before we know that the lion has won.

You and I are going to become really good friends.

gfon:
Good afternoon boss,sorry to digress. Please are you open to tutoring on your craft?

Definitely.

Ladies (sighs)

Go to Twitter now and see the way people are bashing each other on top wizkid mata?
This one caught my attention, so sad

Medianna:
Forgive,No matter the gravity of the offense.

Hope you know the depth and gravity of this statement?

SPAMBOX7:
All on point except number 7.
How the fvck you expect me to calm nerves and forget all the worries I go through a day even if it's just for a few minutes if I don't consume some quality alcohol. Ko possible na

It's very possible bruv. Should I explain?

qtguru:
Facts except No 7. I'm even holding bottle typing this. Lol great list sir.

You gotta stop chief. Trust me it has zero benefits

jeromestarks:
Do not live to impress a girl. Pvssy is not all there's to life.

this can never be overemphasized

Stay tuned and share yours too. More coming soon...

1. Stop buying dumb shit. If you do, make it rare and inexpensive.

2. Life isn't fair. Stop trying to make it fair. Make it unfair to your advantages instead.

3. Your employer does not care about you. If you can make money elsewhere, do it.

4. Introverts aren't anti-social, they just hate drama, stupidity, and fake people.

5. Invest early and often so work becomes optional sooner.

6. Successful people aren't special. 99% of them just never gave up.

7. Alcohol has 0 benefit. It makes you poorer, dumber, and fatter.

8. There is little value in caring about things you cannot control.

9. Accountability and maturity are the same thing.

10. Avoid high interest debt at all costs.

Will your girlfriend sacrifice your relationship for 5m?

It's always the same story when you're broke