Inked_Nerd:

Hmmm, idk. Eh ya, you just graduated?

Bad time to do that huh

Inked_Nerd:

Most of the Nigerians and non-Nigerian Africans that I know live in the Bronx. Some live in Queens, and certain parts of Brooklyn. The area where I live has more Caribbean people than Nigerians.

How is d job market over there for new grad Electrical Engineers?

Not a whole lot, compared to places like houston and other big cities we have little here. How abt ur area, u gat a whole lot there?

Nope I live in Reno,

Inked_Nerd:

Hey there . I'm in Brooklyn [woop woop] lol

Cool, am stuck in the deserts of Nevada Havent been here on NL too long, so need help navigating the treacherous waters, lol

Ink, seems u are one of the darlings on here. Where u at?

None of these replies treated the question I asked.

I have dated a cpl of AA ladies and both ended in disasters. I have dated a few Nigeria ladies and ended in tha same situation in some of them. But the Asians I have dated are just what a man want, Loyal,respectful and supportive, stick with you in your down time and less naggy. That said, If I gat a choice on whom to date today, I will stick to respectful woman, who know what she want and go for it without attitude, who will take me despite my shortcommings, allow me my rest of mind, I dont give a damn whether she is green or pink. Ghettorified people are just a big turn off and unfortunately u find more of that in AAs than other races but there are still good and well mannered ones.

Rhino.3dm:

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Clap for ur sel bro, u made a joke

I have observed the alarming rate most of my friends in Nigeria say the words "I love you baby " with reckless abandon. Just curious if this just prevalent in my area or if its a general thing. One of my friends came to USA a few years ago and said same thing to a girl a few days after I introduced her to him and this incident embarrassed me to no ends, mainly because he barely knew her coupled with the girl's reaction. I had to do damage control and inform her that its a slang of guys arnd my street when telling a girl that they are feeling her.
Is this isolated or prevalent?

This is one of the few things that really confuse me alot. There are some chapters in the Bible that support this and some seemingly contradict it. I need some clarification.

Tosinville:

Fuk lyrics dats old skool man ppl called toastin, if it happens u put dat in your memory as a song nd u eventually hook urself up wit girl at yo end nd u begin to drop your lines nd d girl hold u up nd ask u another question thatz when u'll start to stutterin like a stammerer. Approachin a lady needs confident soul who's not shy, someone who's ready to reply any question immediately, if it happens u didn't do better in d first place, nevermind afterall she can't slap or kill u highest she'll only walk away jus 4u to gain some confident about ladies u know. About crack lyrics ppl rarely use dat these days cos its like wastin hel of a time even 1min wit good conversation is ok cos she has already know where u r headin to. . . . . . I can help wit few lyrics 4 beginnerz *sippin kunu lol*

Lyrics as in conversation and not from a song. That d reason i put "lyrics/lines". Obviously for u to talk to a girl and have her take u serious, u gat to throw phony outa d window and keep ur confident self in place. She will understand even when u slip up especially if she is mature enuff. Practice and u will get there. You will definitely have some really bad encounters but it will only get better. There is no blue print that works for all, only u will make urs nd perfect it to work for u. The only common denominator to all is confidence in urself.

Olami099:

@N/l there is no suitable advice to dis post.Didnt u have a good piece of advice,u are all behavng as if u are kid?(hisses)

Dude u gat one from me unless u gat put off by my finding u out

stevetboy9:

Which lines or lyrics are you talking about? Do i have to cram some lines like a stage actor before i can toast ? Pls help me  

u will make up d lyrics right there son,

Olami099:

@Nairalanders,my elder brother needs your intelligent piece of advice on dis thread.He will clock 30 dis year still he doesn't have any girl friend takless of fiancee.Any time he sights a girl dat he admires he is afraid to tell her his feelng.He will beg me to help him get informatn about d lady,He knws dat am a clown everybody lkes me.Am d 1 dat willl go to d girls house,deliver hs message&collect her phone no,4rm there he will start calling her day and night.The funniest tin his dat he cant express his feelings 4 her.He is physically alright;possesses all d qualities needed by a grl,very handsome but shy.Please wat can he do?

U guys didn't get the gist. This dude is indirectly asking for help for himself but posing it like its for some fictitious brother. Bros an advice for you, toasting is so 90s, now people chat up girls. Talk to her like another individual eg if u run into a dude and wanna talk to him about something, u dont have issues doing that do u? Now extrapolate that mentality to talking to a girl. Raise an intelligent topic or make a remark that will prompt her to respond and once she does do not let the opening go to naught. Be ur self and talk to her like a buddy and dont try too hard to be likeable or too smart arse. This believe me will alway give u an opening and u will then work ur self in. Then tweak ur lines/lyrics to reflect what u want of her.

Dafemo:

na wa o some parents think we still live in the 19th century

na wa o some forumites don't have anything meaningful to contribute

What did u say again? English or Pidgin please, not gibberish

MOBO444:

@Poster what do you mean she can cook your delicacies and understand you local language, well i still think it is a bad idea, trust me, have fun with her and move on.
@Inker_nerd i dont understand you,why do you give the fellow wrong advice, he is about to bring home a filipino and this is all you got to say., filipino are know as international maids and servants the world over.

Yes she learnt to do some of things I listed. But I gat to say bro ur replies are rather unintelligent/dumb thanks to the highlighted line above.

I don't see any thing wrong with it. Its kinda unorthodox from where I am sitting but if thats what will make her agree to go out with you, just do it. I can tell from your post that u think there may be something good about this girl. I have never had any girl ask me of that before dating. Its a little price to pay for the hands of someone you love.

tosyne007:

u are a little bit too harsh there!!! not everyone can write constructive english and all we need to do is encourage them and not intimidate or shoot them down. though the write-up is so bad, we can still deduce wat the poster is trying to say.

@poster,

"i love u but i'm not in love with u", that's reallly new to me and it's quite confusing. It's either u are in love or not. i want to believe your guy loves u but he's been cautious cos he had a failed marriage. I will advise u dont get urself all worked up, just give him time and he will surely come around as long as he doesnt tell u off.

take care.

What is wrong with the write up if I may ask? Am kinda confused, I tot it was well articulated or at least it was fluent and conveyed its message.
"i love u but i'm not in love with u"
Seriously, whats so hard to understand there, I love you;platonic as in what you have for your family and friends. I am in love with you; romantic relationship.I think the best way to describe being in love is when you look at that one certain person and you realize how perfect their imperfections are, how you love every little detail about them, how you imagine yourself growing old with them, and the reverberating effect of that lasting first kiss, all at one time.
Sorry am I being all sappy on you guys 

Inked_Nerd:

I hope I didn't offend you with the xenophobic comment and don't mind MOBO, he's Nairaland's certified goat.

No u did not offend me, not at all.

omega25red:

poster
i say dont fall for all the hook ups. A person who loves you and understands you and cares about you no matter what color or race they are is who you should be with. when you go to naija just be the educator and help these people see that life is bigger than marrying the same girl from your village.
by the way is your lady travelling with you?

No she is not going, but may be later. Don't want her in the mids of the brouhaha.

cito us:

I am really getting my arsenal all set up for the impending war Seriously wats wrong with marrying from out of your race?

I would say some of them are just looking out for me, I would not go to the xtent of calling it being xenophobic. I would say some of the resistances are born out of ignorance cos they believe only a Nigerian will afford me a better wife.

MOBO444:

My brother our black sister may be bad, but for the sake of your sister, mother and Nigeria do not bring home a filipino, we cant be that bad in Nigeria,please not a filipino, have fun with the filipino lady and drop her, in 5 years time you will look back and realise you made the right decision.

Can u educate me please on wat seem to be wrong with a filipino in 5years time. This is not a case of bad or good, rather an issue of who u are compatible with. She is down to earth and even have learnt a few of my language and delicacies.

Inked_Nerd:

Do what feels right. If you love her then go for it. Like deniyor said, be prepared for war.

I am really getting my arsenal all set up for the impending war Seriously wats wrong with marrying from out of ur race?

I have been dating this girl for the last 2 years now and she is just the right girl for me. The only problem I have is that my family/friends are doing their damdest to hook me up with a Nigerian. Whenever the topic of my getting hooked up to her is brought up, they always have a Nigerian alternative for me to consider. This is grinding on my nerves full time.
Before u ask ,I grew up in Nigeria and most of those pressuring me live in Nigeria. I am going home to visit this year and am sure its gonna be a heck of a fight against them and their choice of women they will surely be presenting to me. What am I gonna do?

Girl,
I am a dude and I feel ur pain. The guy want u for reason I don't know but doesn't want ur physical attributes. I don't know if that makes any sense to you. I am not in any way vain, I have dated woman that are on the big side and slim ones, but if u ask me what I prefer at this point in my life and the foreseeable future, I will tell u I want a trim girl. I am sure this may be the opposite for the next Joe. If a guy starts feeling this way now abt ur look(Did u say its been a life long thing with u?), then its not gonna get any better. So think abt it hon and make ur heartfelt choice. There are other guys out there who are willing to scoop u off ur feet, fat or not.

I dont think Imo state ranks as high as portrayed. This list is a tad bit fishy.