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Romance / Re: Talking To A Lady You Just Met;naija Vs Others. by citous(m): 9:37pm On Sep 29, 2011
BABE!:

Seen. I guess it's a culture thing.

Yes it sure is. There is nothing wrong with it tho. smiley. But makes me wonder if it got anything to do with the worth/cheapness issues. I know a whole lot of us men see a woman who didn't give us a sleepless night as cheap. Contrary to that, my stay here had an opposite effect on me. I have met and dated some really awesome ladies of different races, and to be frank, one of the best amongst them in terms of how cultured and how much i regarded her was the 'easiest' woo amongs them.
Romance / Re: Talking To A Lady You Just Met;naija Vs Others. by citous(m): 9:22pm On Sep 29, 2011
BABE!:

What exactly cracked you up? Expatiate pls.

From the post, if you read the line to the end you will understand what did crack me up. On a second though; what cracked me up was the amount of effort required to woo a lady in Naija as aginst here. Got it now?
Romance / Talking To A Lady You Just Met;naija Vs Others. by citous(m): 4:58pm On Sep 29, 2011
[size=14pt]Having grown up in Nigeria, I observed we have a kind of swag with which we go after girls as against most other countries I have been to. It took me almost 6mnths to use naija style(which worked fine for me back home) to get a lady when I first came here(Nevada). Its true I live in a predominantly white city which may be responsible for the failings, I realized it is a little overkill after a while. They prefer it simpler here. I went back home for the first time after 5 yrs and watched my buddies talking to ladies and it cracked me up cos it was way more than we need here.
So my question is, do we have the best style in Naija or is it the women in Naija require a certain flow as against other parts of the world.
Just a fun discussion and in no way a slight on anybody.[/size]
Romance / Re: I Am Only Attract To Older Women Why? by citous(m): 4:11pm On Sep 29, 2011
It's a Phase! And it would surely pass! I'll like to know how old you actually are? So asked because, you may not have gotten to the age where you see things about life from a different perspective! I may be wrong, but i should think that you have programmed your brain to think that older women are better to Be Intimate with! Therefore, whatever a young lady does to please you, is deemed irrelevant! When this phase passes, you'll better understand why you should choose a younger lady as a future partner! I stand to be corrected by you, since it's your life! What i analyzed up there were just preambles!



I beg to disagree with you here. The saying age is nothing but numbers holds true now much more than back in the days. Back then , men marry younger women so they may age proportionally after the rigors of childbirth which takes away a lot from the ladies.
Nowadays, women take better care of them selves and medicine and technology has changed the effects to the rate that the woman looks as good as she is willing to work hard for. I prefer mature women, and incidentally most I have met are either towards their late 20s or early 30s. I guess, I will end up marrying someone my age or a bit older.
Romance / Re: You Reject A Girl's Advance & She Says You Are G.a.ay! by citous(m): 6:04pm On Sep 27, 2011
@OP, I had a similar experience when I first came here. I told her I do not mind being friends but she started with the gay thing, when that didn't work she resorted to accusing me of all kinds of things and even got me written up once cos my accent then na die(them no understand me well in my defence). I had to quit the job cos it was too much hassles for man pikin. To make story short, just be the bigger man and be friendly to her and put a boundary that she will definitely understand. You will be ok.
Romance / Re: So What Is Wrong With Spending Money On A Woman? by citous(m): 7:39pm On Sep 22, 2011
A guy noticed that his buddy was troubled and asked what was wrong.

"Ohhh, it's my girlfriend." "Oh yeah? What's the problem?"

"When I asked her if she could learn to love me," he said, "she asked me how much I was willing to spend on her education."


Is she the type of girl we are talking about here? cool
Romance / Re: Sorry ,but I Have To Admit There Are Alot Of Ugly Nigerians. by citous(m): 7:11pm On Sep 22, 2011
sexsinners:

THIS IS NOT INSULT SEXSINNERS THREAD , THIS IS A THREAD ABOUT HOW WEE CAN FIX NIGERIA TO BECOME BEAUTIFUL.

I FOR A FACT KNOW I AM A FINE FINE BOY

I am glad you said 'boy' cos for a minute I was thinking our men are really becoming kids in their mental capacity.
Romance / Re: So What Is Wrong With Spending Money On A Woman? by citous(m): 2:15am On Sep 22, 2011
pendo89:

Reality lol @ 10 star hotel . Even Burj al-Arab is only 7 star!
If we can't afford 2 star resto,we go to the park. you buy drink,I buy icecream.life made easy.

Sexkillz.

Problem with you guys is that at the mention of spending you bring in BB,Weaves,Chicken and all the other petty stuff.
Now I though Roki referred to a single lady and man on this thread. In marriage you share responsibilities.I can buy food while he pays bills but if he insists on doing everything? well Halleluhya.I will smile cz we are married and everything benefits us.No fear here. rem u talking about Assets.

Listen I once offered to pay lunch for a dude and he declined saying he won't allow a lady to pay his bill.
When it was coffee time,I insisted till he accepted.That was fair and I felt good.
That is the 50/50 am talking abt when dating. But if u insist I wont force.I will simply let you know that I wasn't really depending on you but was ready to take care of our spending.







Pendo89, that is exactly what am talking about, let the man knw you are not helpless or dependent but you can step up to the plate when called to. It score you more brownie point in my estimation.
Romance / Re: So What Is Wrong With Spending Money On A Woman? by citous(m): 2:09am On Sep 22, 2011
sexkillz:

Oh Really? So what did he mean when he said "it's the norm"? Or is he actually contradicting himself? And what are you doing about eradicating the culture like you said? Does it stop guys from spending on their ladies? It smacks of Hypocrisy for a guy to spend his money willingly on a lady and then turn back and say she ate the money! Does that make a tad of sense? Was he jazzed or coerced into spending the money? Be on a more trajectory plane here pls!

Finish the line that started with 'it is the norm ' and the meaning will be clear to you. Half paragraph leads to misinterpretation. It is the norm of the day for some Nigerian ladies, I think that is self explanatory enough. There is nothing wrong with a guy spending his money on a lady like the guy said to which I agree, but what is wrong is for our ladies(some of em) making it seem it is a right for a guy to shoulder their burden. And the implied-cultural aspect of it is that guys now see it as an obligation they have to meet. And for your info, last I came to naija I met a girl who took me out and paid for it. There is nothing wrong in asking your man to go with you to a date, your treat.
As to your question of what am doing to eradicate it; I treat my lady right and attracted to independent self sufficient ladies. I buy gifts and take em out, but if I mistakenly find myself with a lady who happens to have a mind set that am gonna be spending money just cos its the way it should be, I tell her that it doesn't work with me. And if I realize its her way, I will excuse my self from that relationship. There is nothing wrong in helping a friend in need but the friend need to strive for independence whenever possible. My ladies know am generous but Its on a need basis and not the way it is practiced in naija. Gifts like flowers and chocolate are cool and jewelries and things like lingeries are more than welcome. Surprise your lady with thoughtful gifts and not buy her with money. I guess being away since I was a teen has made me see things in a different light than whats obtainable in Nigeria. Sorry ladies, I want you to be independent and make a man earn the right to you and not buy it.
Romance / Re: So What Is Wrong With Spending Money On A Woman? by citous(m): 9:32pm On Sep 21, 2011
sexkillz:

In your dimwitted mind maybe! You talk as if you are the only one in Nigeria and you have traveled far and wide to conclude your hypothesis as the truth! What do u understand by working class ladies? ladies that earn less than 50k monthly? If you earn less than 50k and a lady earns less than 50k, what the hell were you expecting? A miracle to boost your finances? or every lady jumps into a relationship on the premises of all you have stated above? Huh?
Date according to what you earn! And stop giving ladies the premises to believe that you worth more than you actually do, because of your showy display! Nuff said!

Bruhs, what has what you just outlined above got to do with his 'truth'? His statement has nothing to do with his travels neither does it have anythn to do with working class ladies making 50k. He said 'some' ladies and not all. Can you re-read his statement before names calling.
What he outlined in his post is prevalent within our society but that doesn't mean all our ladies are involved , but to turn a blind eye to it is just plain wrong. I have experienced both sides of our ladies demands and non demands. So if i have 6 ladies and 5 demands for that, wount you say that is a prevalent issue? This issue is gonna be there for a long time , because it is almost a culture now. A bad culture that need eradicating.
Romance / Re: Re: Are All The Good Men Taken? by citous(m): 8:49pm On Sep 21, 2011
How can I get ahold of you on a private site LaShawn?
Romance / Re: Can Girls Date A Whole Year Without Making Demands? by citous(m): 8:30pm On Sep 21, 2011
Here, all my exes (different races, I am an equal opportunity dater grin) ,except the Akata one, never made any material demands. I hope its not an indication of how dependent on material for love our ladies back home are.
Romance / Re: Re: Are All The Good Men Taken? by citous(m): 8:22pm On Sep 21, 2011
Yes we will, LaShawn.
Romance / Re: Re: Are All The Good Men Taken? by citous(m): 8:16pm On Sep 21, 2011
Yes I do, but there is only one way to be sure aint it. I don't toot my own horn .
Romance / Re: Re: Are All The Good Men Taken? by citous(m): 8:06pm On Sep 21, 2011
@LaShawn Then hit me up and see what you get smiley
Romance / Re: Ladies Do You Like D Six Pack In A Guy? by citous(m): 7:57pm On Sep 21, 2011
Bruhs , try get rid of all that gut. Keep it to a minimum. Its just not healthy to be logging a beer belly around. cool
Romance / Re: Re: Are All The Good Men Taken? by citous(m): 7:54pm On Sep 21, 2011
@ LaShawn, one is out of curiosity and the other is out of want/need , see the difference now? smiley
Romance / Re: So What Is Wrong With Spending Money On A Woman? by citous(m): 7:49pm On Sep 21, 2011
Sister; stop it is kinda appalling that i still get some of our ladies being so dependent on what a guy can do for them. It is not all but the rate is still too high for my liking. A case in point, talkn to a girl i met through a friend and the first thing she told me when she found out I was coming home this year was ' What are you gonna buy for me?' I decided to play along and askd what she wanted' her answer, shoes, watch, cellphone, digital camera and designer purse. And then she added ' I hope its not a lot to ask for'. It was funny as hell man.
Ladies , you guys are strong and most men get intimidated with a succesful lady, so try independence and believe you me it will make our men come out of the cave and push for perfection and their own betterment. Our ego will make us work harder and where there is a healthy competition , only great things will come out of it. A gift is just that, a gift and comes only for reasons other than to buy love. You give gifts cos you feel like its the right thing to do and not because she will feel you are cheap or not meeting up.
Romance / Re: So What Is Wrong With Spending Money On A Woman? by citous(m): 7:41pm On Sep 21, 2011
rokiatu:

Only a dumb man with be in a relationship with a woman who he don't know for 2 3 years.

That is really a dumb thing to say. Relationships has a day one before the timeline (2-3yrs) you are talking about. You can be friends on day one and that is a relationship albeit a casual one at that moment. It can then evolve over time to romantic and there is no timeline for this evolution. It could happen on the first day or it could happen in 50years.
What am saying in essence is ; if adults meet, there is no rules or timeline to when they move their affection for each other to the next step. I hope we are all adults on this site and quit all these neanderthal mentalities where men see a lady as cheap if relationship moves to the next step quick or where women make a timeline so as not to appear cheap.
Romance / Re: Re: Are All The Good Men Taken? by citous(m): 7:32pm On Sep 21, 2011
LaShawn:

@Pendo89
Maybe I am  wink cheesy


No, I don't mean that kinda guy. I mean a man who loves God, is smart, intelligent, well spoken, clean, has values, is confident, isn't playing me around, and is humble (it takes a strong man to remain humble). A man who won't take advantage of my calmness like my ex did.

Also, I have dreams and please, such a man shouldn't stop me from achieving them if those dreams won't be detrimental to our family.

Are you looking for one or are you just asking if there are any still available?
Romance / Re: Dress Code When You're Dating Someone? by citous(m): 7:20pm On Sep 21, 2011
The kind of date at hand calls for the dress code. If we are going for a cup of coffee or a drink then am down for casual jeans and tees . A dress if we are going for dinner and movie date, it still depends on where and how I knew the girl. In otherwords, circimstances of the date varies. But i don't begrudge a girl for dressing for comfort(a big plus for me);I hate pretentious girls. A sloppy or drab dresser is a big no no. You can dress simple and comfortably and still retain your sexuality without being shabby . Me, am a jean and tees kinda guy but when it comes for tux, I fit right in.
Romance / Re: Re: Are All The Good Men Taken? by citous(m): 7:14pm On Sep 21, 2011
No I am still here. I will like to believe I am a good man whatever that may mean. smiley
Food / Re: Nigerian Girls And Their Horrible Cooking by citous(m): 12:01am On Aug 23, 2011
A lousy cook doesn't paint a good picture of a good upbringing, at least in the eyes of a typical Nigerian man. This in more cases than one is not really true. Some people cant just seem to get it right for a reason or another. So dont begrudge them, guys; take your time to patiently teach them or find someone who can teach them.
My ex who is is Asian was a lousy cook. I took time to teach her and after 3 yrs of relationship, her soups could pass for a naija cooking. This is where willingness to learn and patience from the two parties involved plays a big role.
The first time I cooked was the worst soup I have ever seen. All the ingredients were in a battle of 'do not touch your neighbor'. It took me a while to learn and am still learning, but am an above average cook at the moment. Now, I derive pleasure in cooking for my dates whenever the opportunity arises. If my date does same, na solid brownie point for her. Cos what matters more to me is the thought more than the result.

Our ladies, please learnt to cook. Its not a deal breaker but it sure goes a long way in making a better wife, mother and companion.
Culture / Re: Dress Like Africans In Western Countries? by citous(m): 7:13pm On Aug 17, 2011
Wore mine to a hangout with coworkers and my boss wanted one (got one for him). I even wore dashiki long sleeve shirt with jeans to a club once and to make story short, I got lucky wink
Jokes Etc / Re: As Nigerians What Do We All Have In Common? by citous(m): 1:34pm On Jun 24, 2011
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PzbvPa5npmo&feature=player_embedded

If Russians want wat you got for free, then be proud. embarassed
Romance / Re: Will You Marry Someone Outside Your Tribe Or Ethnic Group? by citous(m): 1:29pm On Jun 24, 2011
Natasha,,:

yes outside my tribe, country or race cheesy

Will you marry me? wink
Romance / Re: Will You Marry Someone Outside Your Tribe Or Ethnic Group? by citous(m): 1:20pm On Jun 24, 2011
Yes I will marry any Nigeria or human beign if we jell and love each other. Compatibility is the key word for me and not color or tribe/race.  wink
Culture / Re: Why Do Nigerian Guys Like To Gossip? by citous(m): 1:14pm On Jun 24, 2011
Girl, I am the only Black in my place of work (predominantly whites and a sprinkle of other races) and the level of gossip wey de there na die. I swear na universal thing, irrespective of gender, race, tribe or intimate orientation.  tongue
Jokes Etc / Re: As Nigerians What Do We All Have In Common? by citous(m): 12:55pm On Jun 24, 2011
What we have in common is; WE ARE NIGERIANS AND ALL EQUAL.
Romance / Re: Help Am Afraid Of Kissing Nigerian Girls! by citous(m): 4:20pm On May 12, 2011
Natasha,,:

emm flossing is not common here to be frank but at least they are using chewing stick and tooth brush  cheesy
how would it look like if BABE says she if afraid of kissing onyibo boys because he don't use chewing stick  grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin The poster is still very backward and Babe is helping to push him backward the more  grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

Chewing stick is flossing and brushing rolled into one. But there is still truth in what the bobo said, just the delivery sucked.
Romance / Re: Help Am Afraid Of Kissing Nigerian Girls! by citous(m): 4:13pm On May 12, 2011
BABE!:

I don't think we/they floss!  smiley

Thanks, Ok here we go. FLOSS, FLOSS AND FLOSS, IT'S GOOD FOR YOU. Lets begin a 'FLOSS A DAY' campaign. tongue

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