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Zeemoor:
My dear, I love everything (yes everything) about myself
Every bit of me is beautiful, inside out
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I'm not conceited or something, I just love saying it as it is

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The weirdest thing I've done on a date?
I'm still thinking.....

That's really amazing.

Thinking about that is natural and okay.

efiyefaa:
Thank you all for your encouraging words! @msnas and amefrica the lady is insisting she gave it to me so its now a case oh her word against mine. I'm looking at another one bug would need to have a job so I can make endsmeet for my personal items before April when the Nigeria embassy will visit LA
That's just my worry . and no ssn means no job.
Jehovah will see me thru!but I'm soo scared!

Don't be so scared. While in America, you have to pray continuously. Seems like some unscrupulous elements wanted to pinch you but they didn't get you. Pray always okay?

Now, the lady claimed that she gave you back the passport. You could have requested for camera view.

Your documents are so important. So do not play with them. I met a Nigerian man who wore a special pant for his passport and puts in there while sleeping in a hotel room. I asked Sir, what are you doing? He said my good son, if I put down my passport here while asleep, someone may just act funny and take it. I started laughing, the man was like you don't know that this passport is part of my life. Stay there and be asking me Jamb questions

bayocanny:
thanks for the above comment, God will continue to bless you abundantly
some people here dey talk as if na thier grandpa dey work for POE, telling someone that he can be sent back just because he has a return ticket, smsh

Hahahaha. You felt so frightened initially, right? You just thought how could they send you back to Nigeria after getting your visa? I think what the first person meant was that if you mess up with the questions at POE and all that, while the other was much more professional in her response. But don't worry, it's okay.

Zeemoor:
I can relate to that
When people have high expectations of you, whether you like it or not, you will be profoundly influenced by the expectations
You'd want to live up to their expectations

A good guy needs a good woman

Absolutely

So tell me, what do you love most about yourself? What's the weirdest thing you've ever done on a date?

@Ejinne, do not panic. Just fast and pray. There's nothing God cannot do. The embassy only wants to verify your information.

damselabi:
Well said

Arigato.

Zeemoor:
Do you mind shedding some light on the bolded part?

I live a quiet lifestyle.

[quote author=Zeemoor post=29025159][/quote]Well, it depends. Hope you're out of relationship.

Obviously, some folks find it difficult being in another relationship because of their previous experience while others think it's fun so they would always fall in love.

Meanwhile, we shouldn't be in a hurry to be in love. What really matters here is dedication. Being friends first is very important as to understanding each other.

It takes me couple of months to get a new girl because i love see to certain qualities in a woman and for the fact that people always focus on me to know the kind of woman that i go out with, i just have to go for the best. Someone who is good and kind-hearted but not infantile because it turns me off.

coolsix:
I am sorry but she is not so beautiful.. Where is she from?

You sounded a little bit partial. She's from Nigeria and looked okay.

herald9:
Hmmm It's okay if you find approaching a lady in the market intriguing for you.


@bold niqqa you gay?

Lol. Gay? Nope. I detest homosexualities. Am so sorry.

herald9:
whichever way...you covered up for him...

Of course you can't approach a lady with a polythene bag full of ice fish and pumpkin leaves sticking out...

Can you?

Man, there's something you don't know about approaching a lady.

Lol. Who told you that? Who told i can't? Talking to a woman is not a big deal. If you want to win a girl's heart, let the approach be intriguing unless you just wanna be friends with her only. Then you might not really funny with her.

Have you ever had a cute chick hugs you and says she likes you but you really have to chase her so that she can be your girlfriend? Lol.

And you say OMG! Ur eyes r so cute and ur lips what r u up to?

herald9:
He probably gave you the goodies to hold for him...then he acted as if he was just passing by...

And the girl might just be one of these ordinary street girls Na.

There are two things involved.

A girl whose mother is a Lawyer and father a Politican is a street girl? Think twice brother.

She looks sweet. I heard her saying we speak good English.

herald9:
When I said market, I'm talking about the Naija type.

What will a dude be doing in the market?
A girl would probably think that you have no levels and they would treat you as such.

So why not quietly buy your things,Keep it somewhere,tidy your wear and wait for her on the way.

It would save you a lot of embarrassment Bro.

That's not true. Market is even the simplest place. My friend saw this pretty girl and he was like, guy, should i talk to her? I said yeah go ahead

To cut the story short, my nigga told the girl that she looks like his mom and blah blah. Now they're lovers.

Clinton594:
1. MARKET PLACE :
Trust me on this and you can try it then share your adventure. A woman is so insecure at the market place, she's vigilant at any movements around her taking notice of the people who touch body and snatch handbags/purses. The last thing she's going to do is give you the attention.

2. UNDER THE SUN:
9ja no be yankee where you can just move up to a lady walking or standing under the sun and start yabbing nonsense. She'll just look at you like a conductor shouting Oshodi , no be person go tell you say sun dey puncture woman skin wella.


3. AT THE BANK :
Lols, Abeg no go paint your dignity black joor. Imagine Nigerian bank where almost all conversions are sounding like whispers and every one dey form English teacher. You wan begin dey chyke woman. who tell you say na only she dey hear wetin you dey talk . just pray she doesn't make a scene. if she does, your own don be oh .

4. IN THE PRESENCE OF HER FRIENDS:
An average 9ja babe go like play hard to get in front if her other babes, She go feel like KingKong blowing you off and you know what follows suit for the other ladies.
Ehe, sorry for you if you gbagaun ... no be person go tell you wear face cap dey find your way if you no wan receive the biggest laff of your life.

5. IN THE LADIES SALOON :
Hehehe , if you've been trying to catch up on a lady and she purposely walks into a saloon..... my dear brother its not the same as she walking into a supermarket/store.
Sir, just turn around , live to fight another day

OP, the word "toast" is totally wrong here. It should be "approach" and not "toast."

Believe me, you can talk to a chick anywhere even in the salon so long as she gets your vibes. Not withstanding though, you need to apply sense of humor in order to make the girls there laugh.

Abbycrown:
She doesn't even have a job - bad decision - and that is the suicidal part!

Yeah it succks really. That man is wicked. I wonder why he wants to marry another woman? Men should always remember there's tomorrow. Though i am not married yet, but if my wife hurts me and i will ask her to ring my mom and apologizes to me. Then i would hug her after that and that's it. It ends there.

Marrying another woman is not a solution. If the second wife hurts him, will he go for third wife?

OP, I really feel terrible for you at the moment. A broken home always hurt.

Please wipe away your tears and focus on God and pray deeply for your husband because it seems that he does not know what he is doing.

The so-called girl-friend might have been disappointed by someone else and so, she is taking her revenge on another man. She feels so happy destroying a family. This is egregious.

Take your kids and train them. Give them good education. I see this man returning to you in couple of years, maybe, before then, it's already too late.

Do not act nasty!

Sleekyshuga:
This argument is becoming lame n base less... You have answered the question yourself...

Anything near perfection can never be perfection.. It's either you are perfect or you not, and @ such, we HUMANS ARE NOT PERFECT..

Yeah but we shouldn't profligate

Sleekyshuga:
No dear.. Mr Perfect doesn't exist.. Any man who claims to be PERFECT, RUN as fast as possible...

You can rather build your man to your taste..

Girl, it does exist but you have to look inwards to find him. Though he may not be 100% in characteristics. I think 90% is okay because it represents A which is distinction

thrizzle:
Most guys freak out but if he feels the same way he won't, I think you should keep it to your self sha cause when us guys know a girl is really into us we either lose interest or take her for granted

That's not true. Real men love women express their emtions very clearly. For loving someone could be really nice. The world is also full of beauty when the heart is full of love.

pweedyuz:
it's better to be rejected than to be magad.

all dese guys saying a girl can never reject him Co's he is rich nd soo fly....*Dude,,d girl is dating ur money nt u.
*try listening to what they tell their friends about u at ur back*

N/B ...during ur stay on earth as a boy/man,,,,,a girl MUST reject u.....if u like be handsome like lynx,,have swag like ice price,,get a voice like iyanya,,be industrious like Don jazzy,,nd have plenty money to throway like psquare.

Jesus!
You're firing on all cylinders today.

Hey, all what you said is totally correct. 100% correct. Maybe 101% correct if possible

Guys have ego and sometimes we don't admit it. You're from Anambra, right?

netizenbuzz:
Oh please! cooking and washing does not equal love. Don't sell me that bullshit. One of the best couple I've met (a family friend), the woman never did shi shi. She had maids all her life. You should see the way the husband took care of her even though he was a military man (now retired). Been jealous of them since forever. It's just now that all the kids are grown up and she's less busy that she tries entering the kitchen. And even till now, it's just the cooking. Yet, she they travel out pass her husband sef. You know the funny thing? they never even had an actual wedding but still the love mehn.
That said, put in mind that different things work for different relationships. You just have to decide what kind you want to find yourself in 30 years later before you leap. Don't make cooking and washing a criterion for every woman. And stop making women sound so desperate to get married. Aswear, if not for this judgmental society, I'd rather stay unmarried.

Are you married?

AZeD1:
Washing and cooking signifies love? Really?
Any guy who expects his girl to wash his clothes for him just because they are dating is an a**

an assholee?Hahahahaha. Why did you say that?

Ogoanita:
In a serious, commited relationship where the guy is expecting the girl to help out with his house work * not that am saying it improper* i as a person can do all but when it come to washing cloths hmmmm:/ that where the real big deal comes in. Am really in a very tight corner right now cause all is not well with my relationship, i need sound and matured advice on this, your opinions and comments are highly welcomed tnx.

Basically, I don't have much advice to give. From your profile, I think you're somewhat stubborn and a bit straight-forward. However, you should be happy washing his clothes and cooking for him because it signifies love. You just need to be romantic so that he will keep loving you. If not, he might drop you for another woman.

Let me give you an insight. I cannot allow a woman whom I do not trust to cook for me and also wash my clothes because some women are really messed up and later they claim that they're capable of making us happy.

Please be caring today so that he will propose to you tomorrow.

Hahaha, this guy has downgraded us. I'm so ashamed right now. I can't kneel down for a chick instead i will say i'm sorry baby and kiss her Why? Because when I was a child, my parents will always ask me to kneel down as a punishment, even my uncle.

Now, if my parents see me kneeling down for a girl. They would probably ask, " son, what has nature done to you? "

coded336:
I have a girlfriend whom I unexpectedly fell inlove with her. Unlike my previous relationship I was 100% faithful to her and I mean it. I supported her with all her financial demands and I felt she was really in love with me because of the way she acted. I work on the rig and she is a student of Uniport in her final year, Whenever I was leaving for the rig for 3weeks, I left my car with her. several stories from people who claimed to be her friend told me how she kept gallivanting with my car and sleeping around, but I was not deterred. I even told my parents that I have found someone I was gonna get married to.
To be honest, she started acting funny towards me, not giving me time during the short period when I am around, and always coming up with excuses. Following from a tip off from an anonymous caller, she was in a hotel with her friend and a man she claimed to be her uncle. I got to the hotel (Le' Meridian) in GRA ph, went to the pool side and after having some drinks, I called her to find out her whereabouts, she lied that she was in school, but in less than 30 minutes she was downstairs with her friend (I supposed they just had a party). I confronted her and she lied. I got hold of her bag, and saw K-Y gel and condoms.
I have since walked out of the relationship, but it still hurts me. My phone still has her nude pics she sent to me. I am being tempted to do something nasty cos I am heartbroken.
Please advise

Your post is just a perfect coincidence of what most Nigerian girls really are and how they operate.

Quite unfortunate that you have a girlfriend whom others enjoy in bed. She's simply a bitchh hopping about and sleeping around like a pig.

Please do not act nasty to her and try to be a man.

Real men are obviously cool-headed. Just let her go and even if she begs you for forgiveness, ask her to sleep with more men because it's all over.

These girls don't deserve good guys.

jenns:
Thanks to all the big boss & sexy ladies on this forum. It really helped me a lot cos all I said @ to the VO was basically what I copied & crammed.

No document asked , it was just a 1min interview!! Here's the transcript!!!
VO:Good Morning
VO: She just dey drink coffee like say na oxygen oooo.
She answered with a smile, She don deny like 25 people before me.

Me: Gud Marwin.. She answered with a smile,
VO: Marwin,How was your 9t , sipping a cup of coffee.
VO: what is your purpose for travelling to USA
Me:To study Comp Sci @ the Uni of XYZ.
VO:Why the Uni of XYZ
Me: It;s a top ranked public university & its Comp Sci dept is ranked among the top 20 university with a large based software facility for undergraduate studies in science research field.
Furthermore, there's an intensive research group which is supervised by Prof Erick Winfree which I intend to be part of the team & learn from his wide field of knowledge(ALL NA LIE OO, noo prof dey bear that name)
VO:How many Uni did you apply to?
Me: 5, and I mentioned them
VO: how many gave you admission ?
Me: 2 ( Na LIE OO)
VO: Y did you choose A over B?
Me: the tuition of A is lower than B, & also most uni in USA offers quality education & better research opportunities.
VO:Who is you sponsor?
Me: Ma Dad
VO: What does he do?
Me: He owns an oil servicing company that provides technical service to major petroleum industry.( Anoda Lie ooo)
VO: Example of companies?
Me: Oando, AOS well & she jes dey help me mention different companies, me sef jes dey use hand dey "democrase" for her.
VO: I have approved you!! She told me 3 times smiling.

Come pick up it up @ blaaa blaa blaa.

First of all.. PRAY & FAST, did 10 dayz fasting & read Ish 41 vs10.
Be confident
Talk to the VO's as if u are chatting with a friend.
Finally..I observed there's a camera attached to the earpiece& she kept readjusting it to know my level of composure
Oh boi...those people just dey deny people visa ooo..I counted like 19 before she called me.

Hahahahahaha, sweet interview. It's like the more you look, the less you see situation. You're very clever. Justwise, come see someone who is clever here. Not like those journeymen on the other thread.

farano:
Same here

Shut up!! Your hands are dirty. You're not a virgin. Don't try to act holly here. You've slept with so many guys.

Ibadannimowa:
Tell us how miserable you are

Miserable? Hahaha. You crack me up here. Please do not mind my American English.

Actually, I don't think i'm miserable. I only don't take bullshitt from anybody. But all in all, I am an easy-going person.

OP, hahaha. Girls love being intrigued with something. So it turns on their curiosity. It's just amazing.

You sounded a little bit romantic.

You've talked about the benefits of having a tall guy. What are the drawbacks of dating someone who is tall?

Of course, I am tall and so, would like to hear you more

Juliaann:
well I vowed never to date again until further notice


Guys eh they really dealt with me

I guess you dated wrong guys. I mean those who keep on scoring. Could you please tell what happened?

MissMeiya:
What do you want?

Are you out of your mind? Why asking such an unintelligent question? Please upload your qualifications and stop acting like Miss Obama.

MissMeiya:
What do you want?

Are you out of your mind? Why asking such an unintelligent question?