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obiorathesubtle:
Our father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy........ Deliver us from all homosexuals....! Amen!

joliyp:
up man united!!!!!! my dad supports united so do i

Airforce1:
Light skinned girls rock... wow

Monalisa185:
thought so too....


thanks for the compliment...: D....you got one too...

Monalisa185:
thought so too....


thanks for the compliment...: D....you got one too...

Monalisa185:
never said I had one..

360ng:
Deep down, we all know what we want and deserve (honest, kind, caring, considerate, stable), but the truth is that lust is blind and sometimes we ignore certain (read: important) signs before agreeing to move into something more serious. Read below for 25 non-negotiables that every woman (and man) should offer and require.

​1. He has a steady job that he actually likes.

He doesn't need to be skipping into the office, but getting into a relationship with someone who hates his job is a whole other story. Do you really want to live with someone who's miserable 40 to 80 hours of his week, or worse, stressing that he's unemployed all of the time? No, you don't. Not only will his attention be (rightfully) focused elsewhere, you'll likely feel helpless and frustrated with his endless complaining, bad moods or when he just completely shuts down.

2. He can afford to live like an adult.

There's food in the fridge, money in his savings, and he's able to carry his own weight financially while making good financial decisions. What does this mean? The hot 35-year-old trainer/model who takes you to diners for dinner but blows through money in Vegas while living with a roommate (or his mom) isn't going to be house hunting with you anytime soon.

3. He has a solid set of good friendships.

How does your guy treat his friends? Does he make an effort to actively engage the people in his life? Does he support them, appreciate them and stay connected, or does he take them for granted under the guise "they know how I feel"? You'll learn a lot about his ability to value others by paying attention. You'll also get a good sense of how independent he is.

4. He takes care of himself.

How someone feels about themselves is evident in their self-care routine. If a person isn't concerned with their own physical, mental and emotional health, they aren't valuing themselves.

Pay attention to how he lives. Does he have balance? Does he know how to relax in ways that are healthy? Or does he live in a cycle of extremes where he's burning the candle at both ends during the week, and then collapsing on the couch in front of the TV all weekend/finding his only source of "zen" playing X-box or at the bar?

5. He's able to communicate like a grown up.

He may not want to talk about every little thing all the time, but a grown woman needs a grown man who can have conversations about important topics without running away, shutting down, blame-shifting or name-calling. Can he discuss issues that are important to you? Can he bring up tricky topics without going from 0-60? Does he share how he feels in a respectful way and can he listen and actually hear what you are saying?

6. He's self-motivated.

It's tempting to want to help and coach someone you like/love, especially when you see their potential. But it's essential that a partner be able to pick themselves up when they're down and crawl out of a rut when they fall into one. Is he able to push himself to make efforts to achieve his goals? Does he have goals that he does more than just talk about? Does he have goals at all?

7. His words and actions are in-sync.

Sure, he can say he thinks, feels and values certain things, but does he live it? Paying close attention to what he does is more important than listening to what he says. Words are pretty, but the truth lies in what he actually does.

8. He knows how to nurture.

Newsflash: A plant isn't a great way to gage this (those things are hard to keep alive). You can, however, get a sense of how nurturing he is by paying attention to how he treats others.

Is he always on the receiving end of gifts, help and gestures, or does he do things to make the people around him feel cared for? Is he offering to help his mother clean the garage, bringing you soup when you're sick (without prompting), or instinctively grabbing a blanket for his sister's toddler when he notices the room is chilly? There has to be a balance in give-and-take and thoughtfulness needs to go both ways.

9. He can handle life.

Stress, bad news, setbacks and downturns happen to all of us. How does he handle it when they happen to him? Does he break down, shut down, or play the victim or martyr? It's normal to get upset and discouraged, but healthy adults take these things in as a part of life and do their best to move forward without letting it knock them out. They also learn from their mistakes and find ways to make things better next time.

10. He makes room for you in the relationship.

Read this as often as you need to: You absolutely don't want to be in a relationship with a selfish person. Being with a partner who only thinks about how he feels, what he wants and what he needs will cause you a world of hurt. Worthy partners see relationships as a partnership and are willing to approach situations with a "we" mentality.

11. He's good in bed.

Sex may not be everything, but do you really want to spend the rest of your nights having terrible sex with a selfish/mechanical/confused lover? He doesn't have to be great, but if you're cringing at the idea of sex with him, he's not the one.

12. He's able to walk away from the porn.

Looking at porn doesn't make someone a porn addict (otherwise nearly every man and many women would be getting a diagnosis). But there's a difference between looking here and there and spending hours each day on RedTube.com. Dating someone who can only be turned on by porn-style sex or who chooses porn over sex with you is not only a sign of a much deeper issue, it's going to devastate you. Just don't.

13. He's emotionally mature and available.

Don't get into a relationship with a man you have to explain basic adult emotions to. Also, if he's "not sure" what he wants relating to any subject that's important to you (commitment, children, marriage...being with you), it's not a good idea to move forward.

14. He has interests (and is interested in knowing yours).

If he has a passion for living his own life and has spent some time figuring out what brings him joy and enhances it, that's a very good sign. It's an even better sign when he wants to share that with you and get to know what makes you tick. Relationships are about two people having the same values and some shared interests, but if you're exactly the same, how will you ever grow?

15. He's accountable.

Make no mistake: accountability is a key character trait that will make or break a relationship. When someone is accountable, they're willing to own their decisions, are forced to be self-aware, and hold themselves responsible for their words and actions. There's no blame-shifting, victim mentality or twisted mind games.

16. He's respectful.

Of you, your boundaries, of the waiter, of himself, those around him and of life itself. Translation: Everything the guys growling at the cab drivers or sending you unsolicited d*ck picks on Tinder are not.

17. You feel good around him.

This one is a biggie. Too many women sit across the table from men who give them anxiety or a gut burn and try to convince themselves that it isn't what they think it is. But it is. You should feel emotionally and physically safe around the man you're out with.

18. He's consistent.

If your guy feels one thing on Monday and another on Tuesday, and flips back to Monday's thought process that Thursday, you're in for a hell of a lot of chaos.

19. You can truly see yourself with him long-term.

Not because he's good enough or fits some kind of idea of who you think you should be with, but because he shares your vision, values and makes you feel like there's a real potential for an equal, supportive, mutually-respectful (and yes, sexy) partnership.

20. He likes himself.

It's essential that someone has appreciation and love for themselves in order to fully appreciate the love you offer them.

21. He doesn't put you on a pedestal.

It sounds great in the beginning, but you aren't perfect and cannot live up to those kinds of standards. People who build you up take it really hard when they learn that — gasp! — you're human.

22. Your friends like him.

Not everyone in your life will get along, but if 40 percent of your friends have met him and are telling you he's no good for you, perhaps it's time to re-evaluate.

23. He's not selfish.

Selfish people are in a relationship with themselves. They're focused solely on their feelings, their needs, their time, their wants and what they're getting out of every situation. They're utterly impossible to reason with (nothing is ever their fault), and they will always let you down and find some way of twisting it to make it your fault. A "Me" person will drive a "we" person up-the-wall and break their heart, guaranteed.

24. You can count on him.

It shouldn't be too much to ask that you be able to count on the guy to step up and do what he says he will do, be where he says he will be, and have your back.

25. He's an overall good guy.

Not just a nice guy, but a genuinely good and decent person.

Monalisa185:
what's my wah?

amedos:
Getting Her Phone Number And A Date…

Getting a girl’s phone number is easy, once you’ve already built up enough attraction within her. Getting a woman’s phone number all comes down to knowing how to lead women and make statements instead of asking questions.

It ends up looking like this:

(After the girl and the guy is both laughing, enjoying each other’s company, and hitting a high point.)

Guy: Let’s grab a cup of coffee or a bite to eat sometime this week. Here, let me get your phone number.

Girl: Okay, it’s Bleep-Bleep-xxxx

Because the guy showed leadership, confidence, and didn’t ask for permission, the girl simply followed his lead and exchanged phone numbers with him. As opposed to…

Guy: So, um yeah, can I get your phone number?

Girl: Um, I don’t know, here how about I take yours instead?

The guy in this example and dialogue only proves that he doesn’t really understand women at all.

He hesitates and asks the woman for permission if he can have her phone number, and women being the way they are, mirrored his response right back to him by essentially declining his offer and refusing to give him her phone number.

(Sidenote: Whenever a girl refuses to give you her phone number and instead asks to have yours, that is a rejection (albeit a much nicer, more sociable way to let a guy down.)

Getting a woman’s phone number then, simply comes down to making a statement and telling a woman to give you her number, asking for her phone number on a high point of the conversation when you are both laughing and clearly enjoying each other’s company, and of course leading well.

Once you’ve gotten her phone number, you simply text her to set up a date or you make the first phone call to her.

Sexually Escalating On A Date and Getting Women Into Bed…

Once you’ve gotten on a woman out and on a date with you, you can begin physically escalating and providing good, stimulating conversation to them.

When you first meet a woman for a date, never shake her hand. Instead hug her or simply don’t make no contact at all. I’ve found that shaking a woman’s hand when you first meet them for a date makes the interaction seem more like a friendship or a business meeting.

Hug her, but never shake a girls hand.

When on a date with a woman, sit beside her and NOT across from her. Sitting across from her on a date makes the interaction seem awkward, weird, and it prevents you from touching her (which is important if you want to get women aroused and get them wet).

After 1 or 2 hours of good conversation and touching, invite her home with you, and once you’ve got her at your place, move fast and quickly escalate to sex.

Transitioning Her From Your Lover To Your Girlfriend…

After you’ve had sexual intercourse with a woman, she is officially yours and from that point on, transitioning her to your girlfriend is simple. Simply increase the frequency and number of times that you see her and have sex with her. After a while it will begin to become obvious that you and her is “exclusive” and from that point on, you can begin doing things for her that a regular boyfriend would do.

You can begin taking her out to nice dinners, taking her out to see a movie, and going out together to the beach or even the park and simply holding hands.

Getting a girlfriend isn’t hard once you are able to attract women and get them into bed with you. The hardest part is getting them invested into you in the beginning, and then after that, it’s easy sailing.

If you’ve been busy struggling to get a girlfriend, all you need to do now is follow the simple steps laid out in this article, and you’ll soon realize just how easy getting a girlfriend really is.#copied#

rodDICK:
This morning I saw a couple holding hands as they walk across my street. They were really a beautiful couple. As they cuddled up together, I noticed the lady grabbed her man's backside for a moment as they laughed their way across the street.

I kinda had the notion that she found his big backside attractive, so please ladies tell me: is a man's backside a turn on for ladies?

kilode100:
The Man has very bad taste in women. He comot from one old cargo, enter another one.


There's love in sharing.. Abi na spirit go marry the remaining Aunty Gweggs?

Monalisa185:
' Just like a hung guy with a
handsome innocent look, a picture of me'


it's called 'hope'...this one yaff pass 'faith' level o....

Twaci:
treybaby

arena2007:
Tv girl, Adaure Achumba yesterday, December 19 got married to her white boo, Wes Ballance in a privately-held traditional ceremony. The wedding is coming 9 months after the couple got engaged. Wes proposed in March on Adaure’s birthday and the couple has finally settled into marital life.

http://www.9janewsarena.com/2015/12/nigerian-broadcaster-adaure-achumba-weds-white-hubby.html

cc: lalasticlala, ishilove

goldenone:
She's black and beautiful now! I hope she won't magically become light skinned later!

safarigirl:
lol, tis a long story. Thanks for asking though, I appreciate

Speechless3:
Am alergic to ugly men. I will date a broke man if he is "stupendously" handsome.

Adaobi12:
lmao. thats so funny.

anonym0us:
*grab mic from wkkwl* this is a counter thread of >> https://www.nairaland.com/2793093/ladies-what-turn-turn-offs >> so guys over to you ...


as for me
Turn on
1. Smart
2.dark skin
3.5ft (no be only girls dey select hight)
4.must have Bobby
5.flat tummy
Turn off
1. Big stomach (Michelle)
2.fair girls
3.short girls with yam legs
4.girls without eye brows
5.flat ass girls

*drops mic*

anonym0us:
*grab mic from wkkwl* this is a counter thread of >> https://www.nairaland.com/2793093/ladies-what-turn-turn-offs >> so guys over to you ...


as for me
Turn on
1. Smart
2.dark skin
3.5ft (no be only girls dey select hight)
4.must have Bobby
5.flat tummy
Turn off
1. Big stomach (Michelle)
2.fair girls
3.short girls with yam legs
4.girls without eye brows
5.flat ass girls

*drops mic*

safarigirl:
Life happened

safarigirl:
I would love to get a life, my present one is highly unfavorable

Naff24:
See dis on, marriage is straight outta discussion...we are talking money u are talking marriage

Pidggin:
Actually I think it looks more like you

CR77:
Receive Sense

clovislouis:
I like ur beautiful teddy . does it look like u

Pidggin:
E no go see plantain for prison.

RIP angel

adren:
hi nairalanders!!

it's a yuletide season already.. we are grateful for the gift of life, protection and provision from God..

year 2015 has been a remarkable year for me.. i appreciate God almighty for everything wonderful he's done this year and in times past for me and everyone i care about and these nairalanders too.. lols


however, there are still some 'desires' which i am looking up to God to grant unto me.

even before the end of this year, I am hoping and praying earnestly to God to enable me secure my work-study masters programme in a tertiary institution abroad..

i have a big uncle who hopes to own a house before this year ends and he doesnt even have a land yet.. perhaps, his faith is bigger than a mustard seed's..

so dear nairalanders, looking back and feeling grateful, what are your achievements this year and what do you hope to achieve before year end and prolly in 2016

adren:
hi nairalanders!!

it's a yuletide season already.. we are grateful for the gift of life, protection and provision from God..

year 2015 has been a remarkable year for me.. i appreciate God almighty for everything wonderful he's done this year and in times past for me and everyone i care about and these nairalanders too.. lols


however, there are still some 'desires' which i am looking up to God to grant unto me.

even before the end of this year, I am hoping and praying earnestly to God to enable me secure my work-study masters programme in a tertiary institution abroad..

i have a big uncle who hopes to own a house before this year ends and he doesnt even have a land yet.. perhaps, his faith is bigger than a mustard seed's..

so dear nairalanders, looking back and feeling grateful, what are your achievements this year and what do you hope to achieve before year end and prolly in 2016

marry a Brazilian girl

tohpahz:
Wait till am married before u start
Don't wanna be sarcastic.. for me i think u ought to ..in order to gain some kinda experience that u will use in the future (marriage )