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ChybuzzDD:
Has the man ever complained to you that his wife was as bad as most of you

It's no doubt that majority of you are bad-mannered, but the woman was most probably different

Everyone’s woman is different obviously

He needs to go sat down

doggedfighter:
Maybe it's mental illness.
I say this because what I read here daily ranging from encouraging pedophillia, female subjugation and creating 100 monikers to spew rubbish can only come from a sick mind.


I wonder how they relate with their friends, neighbours and fellow workers.😢

I seriously don’t know what to make of it.

chidekings:
i so much believe,he does not have the appropriate words to describe what he is passing thru,cus many will see it as petty.

I thought so until I read his responses

For someone who doesn’t do anything at home because he provides but wants to be informed every time his wife goes out with the baby , you can tell he’s an unreasonable task master.

So she’ll call him every time she goes to the store, the market, the pharmacy, etc including every errand? And he is totally unwilling to be reasonable about it

That tells me he’s nit picky. The towel issue on its own is enough to tell me all I need to know

He should go and sit down somewhere

See you see frustration

What’s happening now is just a tip of the iceberg

I hope your wife knows who she married

Paramount01:
The providing is a small work.i set rules for my house not your house that it must follow.

Pls if you are single just keep quite becaue you won't understand

Paramount01:
Yiu can't take my child to anywhere without informing me not even your matters house. you must inform me before letting my child goes anywhere,you can go anywhere you like but for my child ,I just be aware


I don't do anything at home and I won't do it except I feel like doing it,I also don't share any bills and I will never get you involve in my bills,infact I don't even expect you to say thank you for paying any bills, I wnt even ifoemwd you that I have paid, so why getting me involve in your work,if you think you are big for it then tell me to get you a partner and that will be second wife.

Roles are define and if you think the roles are to big for you then tell me,I will know what to do,you can't force me to do house chores in a house where you and I is living,I take care of you and secure you like your dad,can you adyiur dad be at home and you expect your dad to be washing plate or you share work to your dad

chidekings:
i beleive this are just the issues op can remember......a man would easily understand the op.......the woman is frustrating him in little little things he can't possibly lay hands on.

He needs to stop being so naggy and picky

Little things shouldn’t frustrate a grown adult that much unless he’s basing all his comfort on the actions of his wife. Marks of someone who can’t regulate his internal self

LordIsaac:
If you were his wife, we would be getting ready for funeral. We are trying to help him with self control and you are flaming the fire. If they leave you with him, he will just murder you.

You’re assuming she can’t murder him first
You guys overestimate yourselves sometimes

doggedfighter:
Indeed.

It’s like a fever dream. I never know what’s what

Jman06:
But honestly, what's the need of educating and empowering women when they'll eventually seek men who can provide for them? Educating and empowering women significantly lowers the chances of men being able to provide for these women, thus the whole thing creates a distortion in the traditional family system.

I don’t want to insult you by telling you that you have a small mind but your post reeks of small mindedness. Education isn’t about earning income alone. Okay?

That aside, which universe are you living in that men alone are providers? If the traditional marriage system was so good, half of the population AKA women wouldn’t be unhappy in it. So maybe the traditional marriage system isn’t for everyone.

Find someone who wants to be uneducated and dependent on you so that you can be happy. Maybe she’ll be happy too? That’s If you even think her happiness matters.

After all having someone who can’t say no to sex because they’re afraid they’ll go without food and shelter if they refuse is what your idea of an ideal marriage is.

What a twisted ideology

Sorry I was mean
Let’s agree to disagree

DeepSight:
I have not been rude to you madam.



Oh that wait is for you, not for those of us who have already seen quite enough to know what a destructive manipulatrix we are talking about.



I don't think you have taken the time to study the series of pathological lies this woman has spewed.

oh fvck off

Why are we waiting a decade or two?

Why are we not looking at the people who are currently doing the evil stuff? Like the pedophiles and those who are covering for them in the royal family?

If we have to wait decades to see her so called bad character then it means she’s not bad. You’re just waiting for one human failure or mistake on her part to say I told you so. So she’s supposed to live a perfect life for the rest of her existence so you don’t get to have your “I told you so” moment.

People like you irk me to my gore.

Because you’re like vultures cycling around those you hate, waiting for a gotcha moment

DeepSight:
You dont understand. Its not about misogyny or any such thing. The Meghan creature is a pathological liar from the pit of hell. A pathological liar, manipulator and destructive social climber with no conscience and no sense of family or community.

Just wait around for the next decade or two to see the full impact of her handiwork on Harry's life, you will understand.

Nairaland is such a strange place 😳

GloriousGbola:
You need to pay careful attention to some monikers. There is a crew of useless good for nothings who run around making copy ids of Nairalanders they stalk.

If you dont pay attention you can be fooled. The way one maga Lawyer like that was briefly bamboozled by the moniker prospepinna. Chicanery.

The Aminabello is a riffraff gender confused poster who took jewess picture.

TheWinterBird:
She's definitely the same person. Seeing the similar rude and unwarranted comments she made to you in the Food thread after that thread, she's definitely the same person. Also, see the correspondences between her and two people below.

Kemadealadire:
Lol, you took it personal, easy oh. Some comments is to read and pass, when he births female children, he should do what he suggested, it's his opinion and he is entitled to it.

It should be taken personally

All the reading passing without challenging harmful ideas is the reason why things are the way they are

He doesn’t have to have daughters before he recognizes that women are people too

So women should remain uneducated, unemployed and financially dependent so they won’t have any option but to give in to Sex even when they don’t feel like it?

Why didn’t you just say you want a sex slave and save us the long epistle?

You lil weirdo

I hope these younger girls are reading and seeing how some of this guys think, so they can plan their life accordingly.

After seeing the amount of hate and vitriol and utter lack of humanity they have towards women, any woman who let’s herself become a victim of this has no one but herself to blame.

If someone tells you in clear terms that they hate you and think you’re subhuman, better believe them and move accordingly. Don’t get caught unawares

Jman06:
In this generation, despite that ladies are now free to marry who they claim to 'love', divorce rate is on astronomical level. All the "marry your friend" and "marry who you love" talks have only ended up destroying the marriage institution!

Things were much better when parents arranged marriages for their children but this woke wannabe generation has destroyed the marriage institution. Women's education and empowerment is not in the best interest of traditional family system. It is better women stay back home and nurture their offsprings while the man works and cater for the family's financial needs.

A woman who depends on a man would not deprive him sex . The west really deceived us by making us accept that education of our women is good for us. But no! It has really destroyed our family values and society as a whole.

Islam really understand women's nature and that is why Muslims restrict women to their primal roles of birthing and nurturing.

With our poor healthcare system, if we continue in the direction we are headed as regards marriage and family, we are definitely setting ourselves up for extinction. Even the west with their organized healthcare system are having existential problem let alone people with a very poor healthcare system like Nigeria. A big problem is brewing for us!

dominique:
The hypocrisy of British media is nauseating! The day king Charles or Prince William visit Nigeria, the same hypocritical British press will sing praises of Nigeria to the high heavens.

They’re the most biased set of people to ever exist

All you Meghan and Harry haters will soon see the British media for what they truly are.

Oladegbu if memory serves me right, you were one of those who helped them spread their hatred for Meghan from their website to nairaland.

And all those women haters who can’t imagine why a divorced single mom like Meghan could dare marry a prince brought all their venom down on her for just existing. Y’all keep watching

By the time they are done making a messy mountain out of this their visit to Nigeria. All of you will have eggs on your faces

shortgun:
I don't hate women

Tell your heart not me.

TheWinterBird:
I remember that thread. I believe her intention in creating it was for people to insult the guy who sent the money because to her, it was too little.

She has also called me a "stingy entity" in the Food thread using one of her alternate accounts (MrsAminaBello) saying I don't do giveaway on Nairaland. I had no idea who the person was because I had never seen the moniker before only for me to check the profile and see her photo on it but it has been removed since.

Yes her intention was for people to insult the person that gave the 20k.

And someone followed me to the food thread too after that interaction on the 20k thread with this same account you mentioned and called me stingy broke person. (And other choice words as well).

I thought it might have been her because they both use the same exact phrases but I wasn’t sure so I ignored it.

Now she deleted those threads and then a few days later she’s posting her hospital experiences. Seems premeditated but I can’t be sure. So let me just observe

You can be with another man if you choose. It’s not unheard of

shortgun:
Your writeup is full of contradictory statements and ambiguities.
Women do not help men in fulfilling any destiny, a man was already a complete package before the arrival of the woman...
It's men that help women.
God created women simply to be companions and not partners as most of you ignorantly assert these days....

There's no single account in the Bible where the presence of a woman in a man's life made his life better.
Sarah,eve, Rachel,Esther, Hanna, Ruth e.t.c..what most of them brought to the man was barreness,enmity with God and suffering

They’re just fingering the brains of their church members

Color me confused too

Because she severely insulted me on that thread as well because I said ppl should value whatever they are given

She even took it to another’s thread to continue insulting me there. Calling me stingy and broke. Asking why I’m not doing giveaway for nairalanders.

Now this? Okay maybe she’s reflected on it

ChybuzzDD:
Was it not you they sent 20,000 a few weeks ago from abroad and you quickly converted it to dollars to judge the sender??

Or are you telling us you have reflected on that and eventually repented?

This one na pastor so?

Kiddos wanted pizza.

Used leftover frozen dough, classic pizza sauce, pepperoni and pepper jack cheese

MrIcredible:
Personally,
I don't know honestly, because I have never met such an unreasonable "whoré" before.
Most times, it's me who doesn't want sex because I'm either scared of STIs -STDs or Pregnancy...
Even virgins will say they don't want, but they open up along the line... I won't do a virgin I can't marry though...

Well I’m telling you if that happens? You won’t any options except to accept it.

So all your internet rant is really just that. A frustrated rant.

MrIcredible:
You're extremely very daft I swaer
Then nonsense you're saying is a fact, but what I'm saying is just my opinion
I can't even comprehend the level if your foolishness.
There's no point trying to prove anything to you, because I'm sure that your current situation and ife experience have proven everything
Wasted!

If a woman doesn’t want to have sex with you, what options do you have except to move on?

Answer me quickly without all these beating about the bush. You can call me any names you like but answer the question.

What are you options?

MrIcredible:
Lol
And what you're ranting about is not your personal opinion, right? It's a general fact?
Or dehhhhh

Yes what I’m saying is a fact.

If a woman doesn’t want to have sex with you, there’s nothing you can do about it except to move along

Tell me what other alternatives there are. I’m listening

You want them to adjust the age of consent so that adults can legally engage in sexual activity with children?

That’s the argument you’re trying to make and expect me to engage with you in?

Pls get the fvkc out of my face

Jman06:
How will it affect him in the future? I am curious to know because many of us started struggling with sexual urges right from primary schools and actually tasted it at about same age with these boys. Yet we are cool today in all aspects of life.

I'm not saying the woman should not be punished. She should be punished because if the tables were turned, your gender would call for the man's head. So let her be severely punished!

The punishment should hold for both gender until the world realize that men and women nowadays mature earlier than before and crave sex early in life, and that no one has control over whom a guy or girl wants to have sex with. Maybe then they'll see the need to adjust the sexual consent ages for both gender.

GloriousGbola:
Coco coco coco

https://www.nairaland.com/kyng1

On reddit they call them.Karma. farmers.or.karma whores.

This is just some troll looking for engagement. Always check.the topic history.

I just checked his profile 😭

I shouldn’t have wasted my time

Jeon:
Goin by your thread made me "Yuck".
https://www.nairaland.com/8069227/what-kind-brutal-std-sti. You want me to believe this recent post of yours? Lol, I don't and I won't because of your previous posts

And if it's true, you both are perfectly fit for each other, you deserve it.

This OP is something I swear. He obviously hates protection that’s a fact

This is not salvageable

Get a divorce, repair both your lives and move on.

You don’t marry someone because they threatened suicide. What she needed was mental health support not marriage.

And why would you have sex with someone you’re it sexually attracted to? And without protection for that matter? Why do you guys like to complicate your lives unnecessarily? Something a simple condom would have solved. Now you are in bindage because you couldn’t be bothered to wear protection.

Also why on earth would you use the only Four million you have to get married?

I don’t even know where to start but the way her whole family is towards you tells me the issue is bigger than just the both of you.

Kyng1:
Good evening nairalanders, I'm sorry but this is going to be quite an episode.

I got married barely two months ago, February precisely. I'm In my late thirties, 28 years precisely and my wife Is 24 years old, during the buildup and period of my marriage there was lot's of problems and confusion.

It started when my wife. (then girlfriend) got pregnant (September precisely) immediately after we found out things seems to be going smoothly until November last year when she popped the question "when are we getting married" I told her that I'm not yet ready for marriage but I'm willing to do introduction, that night was hell for me.

Note, it wasn't hell and shocking to me because of what happened that night, it was shocking to me because it was the very first time she asked me such a question, and her reaction was shocking to me. If she has previously asked me this particular question severally and I'm not telling her what she wanted to hear I'd have understood why she reacted In such a way and manner, but it was the very first time she was throwing that question on me.

Back to what happened that night. Immediately I told her that I wasn't ready for marriage she started crying and laying curses on me, that I'm wicked, after suffering with me etc, then I responded that she never suffered with me that this should be the very last time that she should utter such word, I said so because she has been uttering it frequently on any slight quarrel, but on that faithful night, I couldn't take it any longer I told her that you suffered with me and I have two A.C on both parlor and room before I met you, that you suffered with me and I have a 75 inch TV, freezer, inverter, luxury center table, dstv etc. You suffered with me because of what, that I'm living in a self contain, or don't have my own house or car. This is someone that I'm feeding on a daily basis back then that I'm still a tenant and yet to have my own house, we went to eatery to eat almost on a weekly basis, to the extend that she refused to go to her parents house for months.

Back to the topic, she fought me that night from 10pm to 3am, after that night she kept popping up the question almost on a daily basis and it always leads to quarrel, arguments and fights, it came to a point that she began threatening me with suicide, holding knife that she's going to stab herself, using rope to tie her neck with all her strength which normally ends with her having reddish eye's, coughing, etc until I intervene, there was a day she drank tiles wash liquid, and hypo, that night I gave her oil, and nothing happened to her, that was the deal breaker, I finally agreed to proceed with the marriage, because I was scared that If anything should happen to her then I'd go to prison for the rest of my life and my life Is over.

Note I have 4.3 million naira on my account as at then, and I intend using the money to start up a business, as I wasn't doing anything. It is also worthy to note that after lots of pressure it came to a point that I no longer tells her that I'm not ready for marriage but started telling her that I don't have money, but her response was always, "na lie, na lie, na lie" you get money. She has seen my debit alert and saw my balance. So after she drank the hypo and chemical used for tiles wash, I agreed to proceed with the marriage.

By December, I began making marriage preparations, the adrenaline rush was something else. I went to the village to inform my father people, so they can come to perform the traditional rights, as my father was no more.

On the day of the traditional marriage, her mother called me early in the morning that I need to carry some drinks to my "girlfriend, now wife" father house that she'll support me with one wine, that she's doing it because I'm complaining that I don't have money, I took two carton of Heineken, two carton of maltina one wine + the wine she supported me with and two Gordon gin. "I have no idea that I was being brain washed, they're the one's that's supposed to present those and I'd have to double it during the traditional rights, she deceived me.

Before the traditional marriage began, my father's people that's supposed to perform the traditional rights didn't arrive on time due to the distance they're coming from, her mom was already angry, few minutes later my father's people eventually arrived, immediately after their arrival "my girlfriend, now wife" elder brother made a statement which provoked me, he said "if una nor one marry make una dey go, I go pay una all the money when una dun spend, rubbish"

Immediately I heard that, I took off my agbada remaining my inner senator shirt and trouser that I'm not doing again, her mom starter ranting and raining all sorts of insults on me, she made a statement that I should never near or come close to her ever again. After some few minutes my mom calmed me down and I put on my agbada again.

Few minutes later the traditional rites began, I was inside when my younger brother came to inform me that my wife half brother's have opened and drank some of the gins I brought for the traditional rites, I Immediately told him to count and look for somewhere to buy and have them replaced, he did and before he came back they have taken more. He had to go back and have the gins replaced a second time. Immediately after the end of the traditional marriage her mom handed me a nylon with 100 notes not up to 3,000 naira and she handed my wife another that's filled to the brim, that the one she gave to me was what they sprayed me and the one for her was what they sprayed her, I was in rage and I gave the nylon to her that how can she share money spared between husband and wife, she gladly collected the money. Shortly after that, I heard her elder sister, the one my wife is following directly by birth, saying "that her sister (my wife) don't know what she has gotten herself into, I Immediately cut her short that what kind of statement is that and what next she did? She started raining all sorts of insults on me " Daniel you dey craze, Daniel your head nor correct, Daniel na God go punish you, Daniel you be bastard, we go tie you flog we go lock you up" she repeated these words continously, she pulled her slippers and wanted to come and fight me, In which they held her off. This is someone that isn't up to the age of my younger brother, I felt really embarrassed because all my friends, brother's, sisters and my mom was there. Note that I single handedly carried every single expenses of the marriage, the only expense my wife family all agreed and contributed to was making "jotters notes" for the guests that sprayed us money, which they didn't do, until date I didn't saw any jotter, not even one.

Another thing that really got me angry was few weeks before the marriage my wife mom was assuring me that there's no need to cook, that we only have to cook for reception only, which I fully agreed. But at same time I send my mom some money to prepare something just in case things didn't went as planned and because of my father's people that's coming from distance.

Two day's to the traditional marriage I sent her 490,000 naira for chicken and ingredients. Note, I have already bought two bags of rice and 2 gallons of groundnut Oil for cooking at the reception whereas I gave my mom half bag of rice as back up and three cartons of chicken for the reception refreshment. But to my surprise I saw that she, my wife mother cooked jollof rice at the traditional marriage day and while sharing she was talking continously, that I'm supposed to give her money to cook but I didn't gave her any money that she cooked the rice with her own money. I was in rage because firstly I sent her 490,000 to cook for the reception, in which she used my chicken, groundnut Oil, and ingredients to cook the jollof rice she cooked at the traditional marriage day, she only used her two basket of rice which they already have at home. And because of that two basket of rice she was downgrading me in front of my father's people, my mother's people, my brothers, sisters, friends. If she had told me that she wanted to cook rice at the traditional marriage I'd have gladly sent her the money, If I can send 490,000 for just chicken and ingredients, what's 14,000 that I can't send for two baskets of rice, this was someone that told me we aren't cooking anything on the traditional marriage day but only for the reception.

Also, before the marriage my wife mother has already arranged for us doing court weeding, which I wasn't comfortable with but since my wife was pregnant and she insist that she must wear a white weeding gown, our both churches refused to Wed us with her wearing a white wedding gown with pregnancy. So I had no choice than to settle for the court weeding that her mother proposed, but 3 weeks to the weeding my elder sister talked to her pastor and he agreed to wed us with her wearing a white weeding gown and with her pregnancy, I informed my wife and she was angry, It lead to lots of quarrels but I stood on my ground that I'm no longer proceeding with the court weeding. 4 days later I saw a chat with my wife and her elder sister, she was telling my wife that I refused to do court weeding because of the rubbish that I'm thinking that their mother said she isn't going to attend and she her self won't attend. I snapped the chat and pretended like I didn't noticed but waiting to see how everything unfolds, on the day of the weeding, her mom didn't appear in church, neither her 3 sisters. But they all came to the reception ground, at the reception when they were spraying they focused on her only, my wife mom and her sisters, none of them sprayed me, not even 50 naira, but I sprayed my wife mom. I'm not saying this because I'm expecting the money, I'm saying this because as their sister husband they're supposed to spray us both, it felt embarrassing when they were dancing and spraying only her and I was just there like I'm nothing.

Less I forget, on the morning of the reception which was the day after our traditional marriage, I called the MC and explained everything that transpired on the traditional marriage. "her mom, sharing money that was sprayed between us" and gave him names to announce as those that'd pick any money that was sprayed, I didn't included any of her sisters neither mine. My wife was angry and asked me severally to include one of her sister which I plainly disagree, she became cold, and on the reception day refused to dance. When the marriage was over we counted the money and it was 233,100 naira. For a marriage I spent 4 million plus. After everything my wife started mocking me that they've stolen my money that I think I'm wise by not allowing her sister to be among those picking money, she mocked me endlessly and started using her hands on her eye's to tell me "onwonyi" I told her that I'm not doing again that I'm returning her bride price and she called me by my name daring me to return it. I was in rage and started remembering when she was pleading with me to marry her and remove shame from her eye's, in my mind this was someone that was begging me to marry her few weeks ago, threatening to commit suicide, now daring me to return her bride price and now mocking me. I slapped her that night on our hotel room, and she fought with me for hours, and the next day she reported me to my younger brother and her best friend, the one that did chief bridesmaid for her, that I beat her on our weeding night.

Days passed, weeks passed, two months has started passed since the day of our weeding and I'm now living from hand to mouth, this same woman that was telling me back then that we'd live as a couple that even if it's Garri that we've we'll soak it and no one will know or hear about it, is now the one crying for food whenever she's hungry, she doesn't eat rice without eggs or meat, nor does she eats Eba talk more of Garri. Right now I felt deceived, manipulated into a marriage that I wasn't actually ready for, I'd have invested my 4 million into something tangible and reaping the fruit by now, right now there's no money to eat properly or go out on Sundays to have some bottles of achohol.

We're querrelling almost on a daily basis, there's no peace, sometimes I do sleep at my brother's place to have that few hours of peace than to go home to her, but it's been since a month I last did that. Recently I have been informing her that I'll return her bring price and I'm not marrying again, that marriage isn't by force that I wasn't even ready to get married if not for her suicide manipulation, that I'm just waiting for her to give birth and after 6 months I'd return her bride price, but she think I'm joking. I'm sure going to surprise her. After all I'm not sexually attracted to her, she's short, not fat and not slim either, and fair. And I I'm sexually attracted to extremely fat, dark or chocolate skinned ladies. I find myself getting extremely aroused by just staring at the pictures of fat ladies on Instagram or anywhere I come across them, on the internet, bike, etc. But my wife totally naked and close to me doesn't in anyway arouse me, not even slightly. Until date I can't get over the 4 million naira plus that I spent marrying her, it hurts me a lot till this very moment.

And for what her mom did by deceiving me to be the one to bring drinks, wines, and gin and also the one that have them replaced, by lying to me and insulting me in front of my family that I didn't gave her any money to cook because of two basket of rice she cooked, by sharing money for I and my wife etc, since the day of our marriage until date I haven't visited her, and since then also my wife also refused to visit my mom or my family because I refused to visit her mom. My mom has pleaded with me on several occasions to visit her and apologize, but I don't know why I should apologize to someone who tricked and insulted me. Right now I really wished to know if I did the right thing by not going to see her until date or just overreacting. Please I need your honest answers on this.

Melagros:
Coco, I no understand why you still dey argue, the article says, she was even pregnant for child B, what do you have to say about that

Okay it’s still sexual assault? What are you not getting?

A child can’t give consent. Pls stop arguing about this

MrIcredible:
Just as you couldn't tell the first fuckeɍ no and others that came along, you can't start setting standards for others. You don't have the moral rights and you'll never end up with reasonable man of value with such mentality.
Once you're broken, you're forever broken.

That’s your personal opinion.

The woman in question doesn’t have to agree. Cry about it or move on. If she doesn’t want to sleep with you, she won’t. There’s nothing you can do about it