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Hermanie:
What's wrong in being a feminist though? A feminist is someone who supports equal rights for women. I don't see anything wrong there. Even as a man you should support women having equal rights, or do you want your daughters to be less in life? Don't you want your daughters to have equal opportunities in life?

By the way, feminist is not a career. She's obviously a child and doesn't know what she really wants to do with life yet. Feminism or being a full time advocate is not a career. What you should do is guide her on how to become a women's advocate while in whatever field she chooses.

BigYash:
Suppose cut one of her ear before letting her go, as mark to alwYs remember how wicked she is to herself..ThiS video don tay na

The way you people casually advocate for violence against women in public too.

Hand will touch you one day. Keep thinking you’re anonymous

Such a 🙄 line of thinking.

But let’s indulge you. If providing financially gives you the right to break your marital vow, that means women are now also entitled to the same rights seeing as more women are providing for their families along with the men.

Benjamin4388:
am not fault finding any gender..but if it's generally accepted that men should foot all the responsibilities of a woman or wife for the exchange of what(maybe sex,taking care of the home)...doesn't make sense but it is what it is...so the woman shouldn't cheat(that's equality)..I bet no man gonna complain if women takes care of our bills and gives us sex when we need it and then go out to cheat and work...we all be fine...

NairaMaster1:
That's why all of you are now prostitutes. Have you ever seen where a woman marries more than one husband in your culture? But men can marry as much even in the Bible. You're a candidate

. Well as long as you keep exercising your rights to more than one woman, you’ll unfortunately have no choice but to share each other’s women. There aren’t enough women available to ensure that you all get more than one without any overlap.

I know peniss mathematicians doesn’t let you guys process this basic concept. But the numbers don’t lie.
Sleep around get slept around on. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Bloomfrancs03:
The emphasis is on married women and single guys.

There would be no fuss if it were a single boy and a single girl doing their thing.

What if it were a single girl and a married man?

Before I opened the thread I already knew the only thing that the OP would find scary about marriage is if he finds out women can play the same game as men.

Pretty sure this thread wouldn’t exist if all you saw were married men cheating on their wives. Only when you guys see a fraction of what you dish out, do you begin to think the world is about to end.

Get over yourselves

Odebayo4010:
My Experience working in a Hotel as a receptionist Open my eye to unimaginable things. So Many things that will make you scared. Working in a hotel will turn you to something else. Avoid it if you can.

Things dey happen there, Especially married women what they're doing they maval, I done hear different sound track I swear, both from married woman and singles. You will see how dey slàughter people's serious girlfriends.

Working at a lodge will make you fear marriage self.

Chai omo I done day fear women like this, many things day happen ooh, imagine both married women ooh, omo if no be to get children I for no near woman say I won marry
Especially married women with small small boys. One of them like me and wanted me to be her boyfriend and I refuse, she was angry and stop coming to the hotel.. To marry go hard o.

I have once catch my neighbor wife but I forgot to snap her for evidence. Without an evidence, I decided to keep quiet . This man loves this lady dīe. Come see gift he will pack come back while coming for holiday from work

That's is why I always say cheating is not gender based to confirm, just go to any hotel or guest house to relax or watch ball, u will see many married women coming for short time, many even stay over night, have seen a Soo called men and women of God come to hotel to do short time.

Some times is good to go out especially to some places to see dat dere is nothing in this life and u will appreciate the fact that you need to love your self more than any other person.

For men dat carry dere wives for head, I love my wife I love my wife, you wife dey hotel to do short time with another man, make everyone get sense and trust nobody.
Continue later, I wanted to rest for now.

laplace19:
So, if you've experienced some married women sleeping with some bachelors and you share the story. Does that make(say you're also married) you one of such women!
Whatever problem you've with men to warrant such generalization, please, heal yourself.

No I wouldn’t generalize on women because we’re not online everyday body and slut shaming men. Or placing ridiculous double standards on men that we ourselves don’t hold up. So there’s no basis for comparison.

It’s takes a special lack of depth and insight to think that I personally have to have a problem with all of you to point out the folly in your ways.

My question remains. Since most of you know a man or some men who have gone to such extreme lengths just to have sex and then dump the woman after, why do you still hold women to impossible purity standards?

Knowing fully well that most of you simply exist to find a way to break down those barriers, win their trust and run away. Only to talk trash about them afterwards. I wanna know why it’s such a casual conversation amongst you guys but you don’t see the direct correlation between this behavior and some negative sexual behaviors in women?

Is this too complicated for you to understand?

Okay I’m illiterate. Now that we agree on that and it’s out of the way, maybe you can focus on the topic?

The topic of how deplorable you guys are? Desperate to do anything for a little bit of Sex. Shameless people

superCleanworks:
Your multiple chaotic spelling and grammar errors show that you have never finished reading a book in your life not to talk of writing one. This has NOTHING to do with typos.
You wrote those words and clicked SUBMIT and you want to give excuses? It is a great sign of your irreparable illiteracy.
Every penny your parents spent on your education is a waste and I will not give you the honour of another reply.

laplace19:
Are you directing your post to us for sharing a story we experienced?

Yes absolutely I am.

I’m reading all the posts by men here and many of you know some guy who has done this. You don’t hold each other accountable for anything. It’s just seen as normal male behavior .

But in the same vein you wouldn’t hesitate to lambast a woman for daring to have had sex with some dude before she met “her husband”.

Where’s the disconnect happening? How are you not seeing the direct connection between the male desperation to do anything for sex and the fact that you can no longer have the low body count women you so dream of?

superCleanworks:
channel your frustrations properly. I have nothing to do with you.
Try working on your spellings, punctuation and grammar to give yourself some little value.

Yes because my typo is the topic of conversation

Your little mind couldn’t think of an appropriate response but to pick at typing errors.

Proves my point

MrLibrarian:
30 years is still a kid. As far as you were born in the 90's.
That's why you made mention of watching him play football when you were growing up.
I was over 30 as at the time Tijani was an active footballer.
So you can connect the dots now and realize that there are elderly people on this forum you should show respect to and adhere to their counsel cos what they see while sitting you kids can never see even if you climb and scale a palm tree.
Drop feminism cos right from the beginning women were created as smaller creatures made to serve and worship their superiors (Men)

🙄🙄🙄

I’m not exactly 30. I’m well over 30

And yea age isn’t wisdom. Your last paragraph proves it. You’re not wise or informed. If you were you wouldn’t hold such opinions.

Now go away

MrLibrarian:
that means you're a kid.
Indomie generation.
But you're claiming to be a matured woman on this faceless forum

So many kids on this forum claiming what they're not

I’m over 30 years old

mysticwarrior:
Easy coco you sure say you no dey mistake am for former military president (major gen Ibrahim babangida) because naija women hardly watch football and the guy never played for super eagles so how you take remember the name?

Am I? Probably. Or maybe it’s his brother I’m thinking of

All the same such a sad loss

This is so sad.

I remember his name growing up. What a terrible loss

bemeruca:
If she marry your brother you for understand why no one likes her.

Because Harry is your brother and you know him so well. That’s why you understand. Right?


And who says no one likes her? Just because the low self esteem people like you who worship an outdated monarchy want to swallow everything they say hook line and sinker doesn’t mean there’s aren’t people who see the truth for what it is.

So you may not like her, but anyone who has an ounce of brain and doesn’t think the monarchy is right because they’ve always been right, can think for themselves and I assure you, they don’t hate her like you’ve been brainwashed to.

I’ll never forget all those who had the vilest things to say about this woman for no reason other than she’s an “evening newspaper” who dared to aim for a prince.
Wishing them all sorts of ill luck.


Now they left the royal palace and those ones are in shambles looking for the next victim to run into the ground. We see their true colors.

Hope you people have egg on your faces

Y’all do stuff like this and more, yet still have the mouth to count body count for women and blame them having sex with men.

It’s been a long time since I last considered the average naija dude as ppl with common sense and everyday on this forum you guys keep proving it. Because everything you do is contradictory to what you say

superCleanworks:
Keep playing.

I have seen this happen like twice in my life.

the first one was not marriage. The guy took drinks and people to the babes father's house for introduction and wedding plans. na so the babe begin sleep, wash, cook, clean house for my guy till the guy went back to the UK and she had no idea till weeks later.

The second one was full marriage and a brand new house. He sold the house while they were away on honeymoon. Told her to get back to naija while he finish a business deal. She came back to NOTHING.

pweeryambre:
I know a banker friend of mine that did it, he even went as far as printing wedding cards and pre wedding photos. I still have their pre wedding photos. he called it off right before they started sharing the cards after insisting he wants her to get pregnant before they wed.

laplace19:
I've seen it happen in Onitsha. Though the guy only took some fake elders to go pay the girl's bride price. They came back together and after sleeping with the girl, he told her straight up that he is not marrying her. He own did it because she was forming hard to get for him(the guy na rich business guy)

bestman09:
The story may not be fake.
I witnessed something like this many years ago. Someone hired his neighbors in his face me i slap you resident and a few friends to pose as relations and took them to the lady's parents with drinks saying that he wants to marry their daughter and when everything was fixed, even the date, the young man disappeared after sleeping with the lady, which is what he actually wanted. He told his friends that the lady proved too much stubborn to him hence such expensive act.

There’s someone for everyone

Very necessary. I hope they don’t restore his account. What a foolish undertaking

radautoworks:
you did the turkey neck!!

Yes

Thank you!

Biglittlelois:
Believe me, the reason why this thread has not reached 20 pages is because the percentage of people supporting the Op is far greater than those supporting the husband.

you know it!

Flip it any other way and they would have come together here to call women everything but children of God

Barteze:
Husband and wife ought to unit in marriage as one.

That’s my belief too. I don’t know if you’re familiar with my posts on this forum but I’m a strong advocate for joint ownership.

It’s the way that men have shown they are more than comfortable leaving their women vulnerable to the grifters and outside world that’s hurts my heart.

How can you be comfortable leaving the person you claim to love exposed to hostile circumstances when you can easily do the right thing from the start

Mid spring harvest last couple weeks

I just eat the sugar snap peas straight off the vine with some peanut butter. So good

Cornbread and smoked turkey neck collard green

What Israel is doing is creating more militant youth who having lost everything in this ethnic cleanse will not only be willing to die for the cause but take whoever is the way with them

iLegendd:
I hate how innocent Palestinians are paying for what Hamas did. Honestly, when this war is over and another group with Hamas' ideology forms, it will take them 100 or 200 years to think of attacking Isreal again because they know the repercussion from history.

safariman:
Since the properties and bank accounts used in building the property are in Nigeria, subpoenas can only be served or effective with a bank that has a representative in UK/US and not on a Nigerian bank. Your suggestion will be the wife going to court in case of divorce for asset disclosures.

But he didn’t earn it in naira. That money was probably in a hidden account there in uk before he transferred it into a Nigerian bank account for the project.

It can depend on where you live.

I’ve never been a part of any toxic abroad community. In fact it’s been hard to even come across Nigerians in some of the places I’ve lived. At least not enough to create a big community with.

Now I’m in northern California and there are tons of Nigerians here. But get this, everyone is a professional and has a lot to lose if they were to engage in detrimental behaviors. So the community here is above board and everyone respects themselves

Thanks for being open minded at least

Hopefully they won’t label you a SIMP for it

Tallesty1:
Why are you people intentionally ignoring the man's chaotic family? What if he dies and they accuse her of killing him? Strip her of all his wealth and send her packing or are we going to pretend it doesn't happen? How about they divorce, he will now walk away with her investments? I thought we all stan Hakimi because we are good people, didn't know it was because he is a male.

30 minutes of me seeing things from the woman's angle and I feel totally drained. Nawa ooo

Are we on the same topic? Were talking about their property in Nigeria.

Since when did marriage grant women 50/50 ownership of the family property?

I’m really interested to know. Because if true and it’s actually enforced, then kudos.

Idaytesj29:
The marriage alone validates her as a 50% shareholder on all properties in her Husband's name, whether she contributed or not. Why the sudden need to make it black and white, is someone preparing for divorce?

This abroad sef......always bringing the real you in our women.
In Nigeria where she may not be able to add any penny to family properties, will she still feel unsafe and ask that her name be there cos the man's chaotic families will still be alive and well though.

maasoap:
Na so una go use your sentiments and mindset tear this beautiful family apart? Una well done o

Well Let him just transfer the all properties to her name alone and leave things that way.

If he can’t do that, then we’re not the ones tearing any family apart. You guys love lies and manipulation and hate when you get called out for it. Then someone is breaking up the family. The family can only be held together when the woman is being treated like a lesser human. That’s the only condition that makes some of you men happy

maasoap:

You are trying too hard BTW, marriage is not for everyone, stay out of it and its discuss

This we can agree on

Marriage isn’t for everyone.
And especially the type of marriage where the man thinks it’s okay to sideline his woman and make dubious moves on his own to keep the woman at his mercy. It’s definitely not for me or anyone I love who listens to me.

Not for us! Y’all can keep it

shaybebaby:
From where? He's structured the whole thing that she would have to get past legal hurdles in that country plus go through his chaotic family.

You have strength ooo. Me I no Do, I'll consider it a small price to pay to learn I'm sharing a life with a thief.

I’m thinking from whatever assets they have there in the uk. But honestly I don’t know how the system works; I’m thinking more from a USA angle. Your spouse can legally owe you whatever money they hid away to spend in another country. They don’t even need his permission to find it; the bank will provide the information when court ordered.

It’s obviously a legal battle but unless it’s a small amount of money, I won’t just let him have it.