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Sapasenator:
Me, gender dichotomy? Mbanu!

I see. You must not be among those ones then.

ChybuzzDD:
So, which other major care should a man provide other than these??

If a man manages to provide everything he kids need, he's definitely caring for them.

If he fails to do these, you guys will still crucify him

How are the moms managing to provide financially and are still able to do everything else in addition to bringing the money? Maybe you guys need to humble yourselves and learn from women who are doing it.

Because the FACT (no matter how delusional many of you are) is that women are also providing financially. Especially in each and every home of everyone commenting on this thread even if y’all prefer to lie about it.

Women are providing and are still not limiting their identity as parents/partners to that role only.

BlackRainDrops:
I'm not saying he shouldn't provide. Understand me; giving your children money is not your only responsibility. You should be there for them physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Money is good, great even, but it is not everything.

Thank you

virginboy1:
Obalende axis of lagos Island is a replica of how life can be hard for men. Women at their low offers pussy for money to survive... while the men at their low sleeps on top the bridge using the pavement as bed. When it rains it falls on them. When you see their faces it is feel with so much despair and melancholy. They are like walking dead , no one to save them. ....Young men....Please dont play with your future oooo

Imagine if men used that money they’re paying to sleep with prostitutes to help other men. What a wonderful world it would be

Sapasenator:
That is life bro. I have come to the realization that you are only loved as a man to the extent of your ability to provide assistance.

Life is transactional for me now, before I give anything, we clearly define what I get in return with zero emotions in-between.

LiveWire85:
Watching my father daily has made me realize that the hardest thing about being a man is the fact that nobody really cares about you, because they think you ought to be man enough to handle every jab life throws at you.
You are allowed to show zero emotions and no weakness .you are only relevant and seen as man enough when you shoulder everything even if it kills you in silence.

I really pray God strengthens and comforts every good man out there. That's why we have to support them the best way we can.

This is the gender dichotomy you guys wanted. No?

Men:

Created a hard and fast rule of what being male vs female means. Anything otherwise means you’re weak and not an alpha. men use the term “Emotional” to mock women in an attempt to discredit anything women have to say to them.


Also men:

Waa woe is me. I’m expected to be strong and show no emotions

Enough said!!!

💯

JeffreyJunior:
Thank you for that question, nne.

Only an irresponsible father will be forgotten at old age by his kids and if he was a terrible husband in his prime days too, his wife will leave him in the village to be drinking kai-kai and join her kids abroad.

They will always tell an incomplete story to suit their selfish narratives. Ndi ara.

If they don't benefit from their marriages, they should leave those that benefit from theirs alone.

Na like this some of them dey drink their useless redpill like Pepsi until they destroy their peaceful homes with their own hands and then resort to killing their wives.

I've added redpill to the checklist for my daughter's marriage. If you chop redpill, you will not marry my daughter. I'll rather she be a single mum than be married to an idiot that believes he is an alpha male when he can't even sit on the floor where real men sit on the table to discuss.

descarado:
. The nuturing no concern them.

Yes. And that’s exactly the problem.

They make themselves out to be these unfeeling species and they wonder why their kids don’t feel close to or loved by them. ( or Some of them I should say).

The ones that behave the opposite of what toxic males tell them is appropriate masculine behavior are called simps. Meanwhile all they are doing is cultivating a loving close knit relationship with their wives and kids which benefits them in the long run.

Then these dude bros turn around and blame women for their kids not being particularly affectionate to them in old age.

As the popular saying goes “You don’t learn to use your left hand in your old age”!

Mindlog:
If you visit psychiatric facilities across Africa, there are more female visitors visiting male wards, more female visitors visiting female wards.

We have an oncology saying that as soon as the wife gets cancer, the husband does a bouncer.

It’s backed by credible studies. Men leave their sick wives more than women leave sick husbands.

If you live in the same house as your father and he raised you, no one can tell you he’s evil when you never encountered any evil behaviors from him.

Let’s even say as a kid for some reason your mind was manipulated to believe that someone who never did anything terrible to you is an evil man, when you grow up and you have your brain intact, you can see through the bullshiet

Pls take this epistle to the Ephesians. You’re not convincing anyone

Jim99:
The kind brainwashed by their mother.

There are millions of such cases.

98% of people here mothers did the same. Women use it as revenge, to get back at their husbands. It's nothing new.

I know the length women will go to get revenge, they don't have the physical strength to do it, so they carry out their revenge through the kids. This is why women should never be trusted.

The moment you leave your kids alone with their spiteful mother, she starts filling their heads with all types of evil things.

Many grew up hearing how evil their father is. Until they hear from their father himself or even those that lived close to him. But sometimes he ends up dead without them knowing the truth.

Your father probably changed the lives of many around him because men are generous in nature, but it's you his own blood that he hates??

Does that not tell you there's something your mom isn't telling you?

I would bet my whole savings that you're doing the same thing to your daughter right now. Quietly setting her up against her father.

18-25 my foot

Ishilove:
Don't mind them. A good father will never be forgotten by his children. There's always an aspect of the story that they will never tell you

Especially daughters

What type of kids forget a good father?

Fineman2:
1. He is 72 years old.

2. He has retired from active service.

3. He worked all his life to raise his children.

4. He deprived himself of life's pleasures to pay for expensive school fees and living expenses for his children abroad.

5. They are now well-off in Europe, Australia, and America.

6. His wife, aged 62, has relocated to live with their children.

7. He remains alone back in Nigeria.

8. His children barely call him.

9. He has to start life all over again as a bachelor.

10. He struggles with high blood pressure and other ailments associated with old age.

11. How much longer will he survive alone?

12. This is the reality for most working-class monogamous men: their old age is often lonely and, in many cases, sad.

13. No matter how good the man is, women tend to love their children more than their husbands. The older he gets, the less use they seem to have for him.

14. So, what do men truly benefit from marriage?

15. They sacrifice so much but receive little recognition for their hard work, while the woman seems to reap all the benefits.

It’s a man’s world they say but for the women and children in reality.

Dear men, this could be your situation in the next few decades. What are you doing about it?

What is your retirement plan?

Care for your self as much as you fend for your family. Love yourself.

God bless you.

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I like Harry and Meghan.

Anyone who dislikes them is a hater . Argue with yourself

Hold the police culpable

With all his history they still thought it was sensible to wait before intervening?

luminouz:
Lol...you assume I am not in your neighborhood or even remotely close to where you are.

You see how illogical you are?

Anyways, dog will still bite your yansh

You sound rabid hence most likely being influenced by a wild dog near you. Your neighborhood or lack thereof has little to do with it.

Mad dogs roam together

Keep your projections to yourself

luminouz:
Quote me again and dog will bite you this week!!!

That’s actually more likely to happen to you than to me.

Statistically and logically speaking 🤷🏽‍♀️

I mean you claim to be logical no?

luminouz:
Lmaoooo...exactly what I wanted...to trigger you!!!

Tut tut tut...what a bunch of emotions you are!!!

Now buzz off, fishlips!!!

The insult wasn’t emotional when you used it but when I turned it back to you it became emotional?

Same old same old

luminouz:
Damn...your pain is always delicious to read. 🤣🤣🤣

Am I that pained she got money in her divorce settlement or that they got divorced?

? ? ?

luminouz:
You are always shouting misogyny upandan!!! At least check Google like he said and stop arguing! How can you keep a home if you argue like this with your husband?

Ozuor!!!

Your hopeless father is the ozuor

Check with Google the same Google where he’s clearly giving her props for being a co-founder of the foundation?

Since you and Mr Writer know Bill Gates’ life more than he himself knows it, why don’t you set up a a public panel so that you publicly correct him on his statement about the role his ex wife played in his organization?

kay29000:
You're the same person that was talking about his excessive cheating...How did he respect her yet cheated on her so much?

Context pls. I’m not talking about respect in their marriage.

But in the speech he gave after they were already divorced. He paid her the respect she was due by clearly stating her learned from her and that she was critical to the foundation of the organization. At least he wasn’t a disrespectful business partner.

I’m glad you agree that cheating is disrespectful. Hopefully you weren’t just picking at that to score points but genuinely believe that.

Smells like fish

WritterNg:
😁 😁

I don't argue with friends of the motherland 🇷🇺 🇷🇺

We're one family ✌🏻 🫶🏻

I’ve never once in my life nor will I ever be pro Russia.
I don’t know how you got to that conclusion but I think that underscores my point

You’re just on this interweb saying whatever comes to your mind. No verification. Nothing rooted in fact

franchasofficia:
I am not trying to convince you but trying to prepare you mind ahead of the day you will wake up to your own reality lol.


Does it matter if I am not my father's biological son? What matters is I am alive and kicking

Honey go and cheat on your partner in peace. I’m not here to stop you.

You can only threaten women whose existence revolve around being married with “pray your husband doesn’t cheat”.

Pls don’t break your back reaching

There’s not a single statement in this comment that’s true.
exhausting

WritterNg:
My dear i don't wanna argue with you. You're Pro Russia so we're both on the same team.

But the facts are there.

We both know how in the west, just dating and living with a woman for a couple of days automatically earns her a piece of your asset, if she choose to sue. You know how brutal the laws are against men.

We know how men are forced to make some concessions, so as not to lose all. Maybe in his case it was to name her as co-founder. We can never know for sure.

This long winded response trying to convince yourself or me? Like I said earlier , it’s not my problem. You’re not going to convince me that you have no option but to be a lay about. Now if you need to convince yourself, that I understand


But just so you know, The same reason why all these men including you can’t stick to one partner is the same reason why some of you aren’t your dad’s kids.No one had the monopoly of sexual libido.

You don’t have more sexual stamina than a prostitute. Yet she’s supposedly created with the self control that you proudly claim to lack.

The funny thing is men as a norm don’t sleep with other men. They sleep around with multiple women and somehow can’t connect the dots that it means women are also sleeping around?

The absolute lack of thought

franchasofficia:
It has nothing to do with respect my sister, this is Biology, natural instinct at work.


You cannot take away our natural form in the name of civilization, it will fail at some point.


The who and who in the society all over the world have been found wanting in this regard, and you are here talking about respect.


Are you more knowledgeable or respected than the American President or Israeli President or Italian Prime Minister or some Kings or Professors, inventors, etc?

Albert Einstein as wise and super intelligent he was fell in this same aspect and even fell for his own cousin, and you are here talking about respect and self control as if you can match the intelligence and wisdom and achievement of these men.

Only God that created man can judge a man in this very aspect not any man or woman.

Are you wiser than King Solomon? David? Samson? And so many others in the Bible?

You will be here making noise and shouting respect and at the end you still see these men you condemned by your civilize woman standard sitting in heaven with the Saints at the end of the day. Just focus on your spouse, pray for him to be faithful to you forever if that is your worst nightmare and pray you don't get to find out his doings and leave other men to God that created them to judge them okay?


Do you know how many flaws in you ladies that men overlook and ignore but you ladies will be screaming over natural things as if men created themselves when you ladies are very far from being perfect in countless issues.

Benwallt:
Did she not have hers because she wasn't caught

Well I don’t know about that.

Maybe. maybe not. It’s not impossible. I can’t vouch for her. I don’t know her personally

You’re the one living in a sad truth that you have no self control. It’s not my problem or issue to deal with. You were made to have no self control or respect for yourself? Not my problem

franchasofficia:
I don't know when you modern ladies will understand that all men have the same trait of desiring to mate with as many women as he can get to accept his advances?


If you don't want your man to cheat on you, find a way to draw him closer to God. Only a supernatural force or fear of sinking against his God or whatever he believes can make a man try so much to quench that natural desire in him. Any man that tells you that why he doesn't cheat on his wife is because his wife is beautiful, sexy, gives him constant sex, faithful and very loyal to him is nothing but a liar.


If you like give a man the most beautiful and hottest woman on earth as wife, if he lacks that love for God and fear of God or fear of whatever he believes or worships forget it, he will definitely cheat on you whenever he gets the opportunity, just a matter of time.


If you like talk about women cheating on their husbands too, no problem about that, but any woman that says women are as crazy as men when it comes to mating with any opposite sex he or she finds attractive should please come lets practicalize it now. How? Send PM to at least 5 guys u like and tell them u like them and would love to meet with them and be serious about it. Then let a guy do same and let's see the natural responses.


Women should stop chasing shadows, men did not create themselves to be so easily moved by sex than women on a normal, it is a natural trait. The same way you ladies crave for gifts, material things and money from the opposite sex while guys don't care about it is how men and sex is. You either accept the sad truth and pray for God's divine help or keep living in denial until you finally find out that that your wonderful different husband has been sleeping with not just one or two side chicks but a lot of them

Oh Yes of course he’s lying. You were obviously there when they co-founded the company and know better than him.

And the women who got their fair share of the business proceeds when divorced also didn’t earn it. How could they have?

Typical of you misogynistic lot not to give women credit where due. That’s why a family business can only be attributed to the man’s effort. Even though anyone with an iota of thought understands that it’s nearly impossible to succeed in running both a family and a business without the both partners putting in equal amount of work.

WritterNg:
Of course he'll name her as co-founder or co-chair, they were married. That's what love makes people do.

And like I said before, RESPECT IS EARNED! Not forced on people.

If you as a woman do nothing to earn my respect, you'll not be respected. How is that so hard for you to understand?

Google is your friend my dear, do your research. Every single woman on Forbes 100 list made her money through divorce settlement, inheritance or marriage. All made their money through men.

Chucks13:
I won't reply you because I saw the letter (f) in front of your moniker it's a promise I have be keeping on this forum never to insult or engage any female member of the house in hot argument.

I don't mean to disrespect you but I'm sorry I have no response to your comment...

more like you don’t have any meaningful response

DEROXMAN:
Tell us successful women without the characteristics he said

How about the one we are currently talking about (Melinda Gates)?

Just proud of your ignorance. aren’t you?