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Ferdybaba:
Tolutweety...This ur mind ehhh. Are u sure u are human?

This your invite writeup can make someone cancel his traditional wedding for this get-together.

This got me *ROTFL*

Scrypt:
Is that all? No congratulations Coco?

Oh! The shoes made me forget

You where is your own congratulations?

@OP God bless your marriage.

I love her shoes!!!!!

Madampinkolo:
What do you think facing front is
When i face front,it means im polite to you,i mind my bizniz,i avoid unecessary discussions or interaction with you,i do my possible best for you BUt will not go the extra mile.I'm facing my family,the people that think the sun shines from my a ss,the people I'm not afraid to be myself with.That's facing FRONT.No more shining teeth like an imbe cile,no more trying to be accepted by contorting my real self or accepting all manner of crap just to let 'peace ' reign.There is a time to ignore and there is a time to speak..O yes member is the name of the game.

Now,you need to understand you are talking to educated women,professionals, women who work and can pull in an income,women who are smart enough to make sure any property /asset is in both spouses names or the names of their children..Women who are the next of kin.

If i have a problem in my marriage,I go for professional counselling.I'd rather my problems are fixed by an unbiased party.And to buttress this,in year 1 of marriage,DH did something to me and I told my MIL,she pushed all blame to me and told me my DH is a baby.Needless to say,till date I have learnt to settle everything with my DH.We talk it out and move on!!

If anything happens to DH,I know i have a solid family to fall back on.I have people who love me and have my back.I have a job.Is it the inlaws who have never given my child a pin since she was born that i'll be expecting to assist me??I laugh in Swahili . Is it SIL that have never called me on my birthday? My BILs and SILs are successful except one,richer than me at the moment sef but i carry myself with dignity and i'm working hard.I do NOT expect jack from them while DH is alive,why would i expect anything if perhaps he's not there?

Brother eagleeye,you don't have a solution for the questions posed to you because you've not been able to answer.You keep saying DH should handle.We have asked you so what happens when DH will not handle? WHAT SHOULD THE WOMAN DO?

It's this 'man's family wields a lot of power' that caused me to always be nice,ignore sh it pushed my way,killing myself to accommodate a bunch of people who don't care about me.It's that crap that caused me to place them above my needs and my own family.Doing whatever they wanted.My salvation came when i put up a bit of resistance and then their true colours came out.I realised i am someone's child abeg..i have excellent parents,aunties,siblings,grandparents who will listen to me rant,who laugh and cry with me.Those are people who deseerve my undiluted attention.
Yes,i still pretend to give a sh it about them to my DH after all they are his family but he knowsss..I still chat on the phone nicely when they call,I still host them in my home & make them feel good,but they know i will NEVER again voice my opinion on things that concern them or do anything that would give me a shred of stress to please them.I don't inconvenience myself anymore,i don't waste my time making calls and trying to bond with those that are not invested in my welfare.

FACE FRONT o jare ..

DIDIVA and mamaTeniola,
I shall be back,i'm taking baby to Santa's grotto.

You are the reason why I'm following this thread bumper to bumper.

Scrypt:
'Fortunately', I am not. I'm hiding somewhere in the south south at the moment.

You have to attend. Don't hide under the guise of that wedding.

But you are 'hiding', why can't I 'hide' too.

Seen and done BTW

Scrypt:
Oh, great. Means there's alot to talk about and plenty selfies to view .

Errrr, The FP topic, well, call it philanthropy. I'm just helping out in the way I can.

Check your notifications

Errr....are you coming for the party?

Scrypt:
Lol, I tire oh. Where have you been? How was your POP?

Been around, saw your FP topic that was a nice initiative. POP was fine but I wasn't really involved, was too busy taking selfies

Where is the commotion?

Thought I will see people fighting and struggling...

All I see is a crowd and some people are sitting and discussing sef.

OP if you see real commotion you no go fit take picture . Your phone for don scatter for ground and if you bend to pick am them go match you join

okzcorp:
Tell them that which they want to hear.

Like?

okzcorp:
I have confirmed that Dee. She is the prettiest and her beauty astounds me.

Thanks

okzcorp:
Coco is in the best position to answer this brain teaser, because I cannot categorically tell you Yes now and you hear No later.

Lool. You guys sha

ceaser:
Why not check out the Lumia 730 Selfie phone, with 5mp front facing camera.

Hmmn. Maybe later because I know how long I saved for my current phone. I am not ready to buy another one yet.

Scrypt:
Used to. I'm always on the move so I changed denomination.

Born, Bred and Buttered

ceo4eva:
Do not be too quick to jump into another relationship after a breakup to avoid making further mistakes.

Well said!

Sometimes you wait for the scars to heal before going into another.

Scrypt:
Does it matter? . Do you?

Yes I do

Whobedatte:
food for thought! But which other place/spot do you think is appropriate?

Gardens/Parks just enjoy the scenery and talk. People rarely talk at the movies or those crowded places anyway. You struggle to even hear your own voice. I hate noise and crowds.

Lol. Why does a guy need to even spend anything at all just because he wants to get to know you? Forget about bringing friends now. Why must you choose a place you know he will spend money?

Scrypt:
Affirmative.

You attend AG?

Scrypt:
CASOR? :-/

Congratulations David, another feather to your cap. .

Veev, service is over. Went for first service. God bless Jesus House for a beautiful Sunday morning. Still basking in the euphoria of his glorious presence. .

And you, what are you doing here? . I hope you no dey chat for church?

We have CASORITES in the house?

davide470:
Really. What could have come up?? Are you doing Introduction too

Still don't take the Origin!!!!!!

Got a wedding to attend outside Lagos.

About the orijin....

For verily I say unto you.....it is easier for a CAMEL to enter the head of a NEEDLE than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.

Its your flesh that makes you desire fun and sex. Once your flesh is shed off and you have just your spirit, you no longer desire earthly pleasure so you could praise God for eternity without feeling like something is missing.

davide470:
Madam, don't take it o. Better still, take it during the get-together. I would gladly take you home

But seriously, don't.....

Not coming for the get together something came up.

And congratulations too

Veevean1 make sure you give him a good treat for passing

veevean1:
Good news yayy!!! He passed so happy on d downside he should get himself back to ds soil ASAP

Cocolav and okzcorp tell us something

Scrypt:
Lol. Deliver you safely indeed. Well, I can only suggest you don't take it so you don't make a mess of yourself.
Whatever you do, do not enter the bottle. .

Hmmn

Will give you feedback tomorrow

Scrypt:
Did you take the Orijin as planned? I'm waiting for the tale from the aftermath

Will take it tomorrow night. Still searching for a reliable drinking buddy that I trust to deliver me safely to my room if I get drunk.

MarvellousGod:
I don't get your point, So a househelp doesn't go to school? ? Maybe your own definition of a househelp is diff from mine.. By my saying I will be keeping my kid at a creche, you should deduce whether my help will attend school or not..


A househelp can't wash my clothes etc, just need someone that can run small errands and stuffs, give me this, give me that, just those minor stuffs.....Must I treat my help the way your client treated hers? ... btw, you should have called social service. ..

I will even prefer a relative..If I say I wouldn't need a househelp, then I'm simply lying to myself....

No matter how much I look at it, I still think 10 years is too young for a house help.

okzcorp:
Nah, stop sniffing buh I always pay my debts, ask her (you know who)

Mi amor cocolav, where are thou?

Here oo

MarvellousGod:
I will get a househelp, btw ages of 10 and 17, a school girl/boy. .. can always drop my kid at a creche but will need some assistance at home as regards washing plates, running small errands, doing some cleanings and stuffs..

Have always had house helps in our house right from growing up, most of them get acquainted that they refuse even going for xmas to their villa.Their parents always come visiting....Currently, we have two, one is in ss3 and preparing for Jamb...

Once a househelp comes and he/she is stubborn or has attitude, my mum takes him/her home the nxt week, no time for stories about her maltreating someone else's kid...

A house help of age 10? What happens to the child's education? what can that child do at home?

I once home tutored a kid whose help was the same age as he was...10 years. The girl would be washing clothes even I couldn't wash and was always looking unkempt and wearing the same clothes everyday. This kid would be at home every day doing chores while the boy I was tutoring will go to school. Its unfair and I don't support it. I almost called social services.