₦airaland Forum

The funny thing about the whole situation majority of the casualties have been Igbo officers

Na u waka go der, y then are u complaining?

Even the staff serving the food go dae look u like mumu wen u want pay

Nigeria and it's news is not good for your mental health

DryMouth:
Women dnt knw how to handle power..

They are always quick to show how much they re in charge.
How will u tell ur husband to wash plate in front of ur customers
What insult is that!

Where in the story does it state in quote;

"She told the husband to wash plates in public or infront of her customers"?

Abeg show me

Let's know who is being biased here

wirinet:
Tell him in public to wash the plates is rude. Shouting it a second time because he husband ignored her is the height of rudeness. That's is the wrongest approach in dealing with a husband.


How many provide is she providing for the family. From the story, she barely feeds the family. I am sure the man still provides the basics like house rent, electric bill and school fees. She could not even hire one staff (that does not cost more than 15,000 per month.

What do you expect her to do? Retaliate by slapping him back? She for land for hospitality the try am. The slap na love slap, else she no go get month to talk again.



What do women pass through? Abeg tell me. We men carry the whole weight of the family on our backs. If just for a few months a man is unable to meet all the family needs, women starts misbehaving.

No where in the story does it say she told him in public to wash the plates but immediately you have branded her.

Nowhere in the story does it say the husband has any form of income but immediately you have decided that the husband is the provider.

The woman telling him that for her to say it again she had nothing in mind, as this is a man they are both struggling together, her business that went down from a business with staffs to one without staff is because the money that's supposed to be used to pay staff is being used to provide for the family.

All these things na only for Nigeria e dae happen, where asking your husband for a request instead of him declining leads to a slap in public.

Na she good to receive slap for public infront of all her customers cause she be robot with no feelings?

Tomorrow another man who saw a man he doesn't know is her husband would try his own slap on her and nobody would know u are the genesis

wirinet:
Even thing is about approach. Before my wife got help, whenever she needs my help, she would call (my office is not too far away) and say "babe, I have to go out, please come and help me look thd donuts or the meat pies) or even to attend to customers. I will tell her to give me 5 mins and I would be there. No if the shop is crowded and she screams " come fry the donuts", I will ignore her. If she screams louder, "I am talking to you, come and fry the donuts", all hell would break loose.

Washing plates in public is a no no for me. I could do that at home if situation demands, but never in public.

U don't know if she was rude or not but u have already branded her rude that she used wrong approach?

Do u think if she was rude, a woman providing for the family like that would allow the husband slap her like that in public and just keep quiet and act like nothing happened.

Una never jam troublesome women before o.


I hate what that woman went tru it pains me so much

The reason I beleive the woman didn't talk to him rudely and the man just assaulted her out of pride is a woman that's rude that's providing for the house, if u slap her like that she go change am for u 2 seconds, if customers talk anything she will tell them mind ur business

Longman8:
Make una no 4get say the woman had to multi-task as a result, she resorted to pleading 4 help from her husband. Haba na, she be human being fa. Lets call a spade a spade.

They are just talking. I have run a business before a bar to be precise, during peak periods sth as little as u waste time to serve customer can make them leave then imagine where u want to leave all of them to go and start washing plates, when other places are available where they have same food and sales girls washing plates.

The man owes her an apology, some women if u leave them, they will close down that business come home stay with u and make it a living hell to the extent that u will be contemplating suicide or to go and steal, yet she still tried her best for the family. You only had one job it's not like u do it all the time it's just for the period, help her wash d plates at the backyard while she cooks, cleans attends to customers etc. You vex.

Or is it the woman that scammed him of his money?

With everything happening that side u still get mind wear ur police uniform

TUTU147:
She didn't have respect for the husband, there's a way she will say it and the husband will not be offended.

There's no way she would say it that a man with pride will not be offended. Tell him oga olu abeg help me wash the plates for backyard make I attend to these people war...

Oga Emeka u fit go wash those plates for backyard make I attend to these people still war...

Before a wife would tell u sth like this preye go wash plate way dae for backyard so I fit sell for these people,

Know that the man has done it before.

A woman that's going to this extent to sustain a family where the man is jobless enough that the man comes to the shop to stay with her at times what does she have to gain from talking to him rudely to go and wash plates?

EaglesEyes1:
Mr. Man, I didn't mean child abuse, your country is not like those advanced countries where the government take care of children and send them to foster homes if the parents can't be able to train up their children. Here in Nigeria, you see little kids begging on the street. Let me ask you, won't you prefer if these children work and earn a pay and bring to their parents/guardians than be roaming the street to be begging or turning to a tout? Since people like you and their parents can't avoid to bring out money to send them to school and provide all their needs till they are eighteen years old, then let them do the minimal jobs they can do which creates self discipline and self-worth. Most people today who are successful started as a kid knowing how to earn money by working and some learnt a trade or skill. Since your country can't be like the advanced ones, then what you must be concerned about is how to protect these kids from physical and sexual abuses.
And I didn't say the husband can't help out but a woman must know how to avoid bruising the ego of a man. Manner of approach matters.

House that out of the fact that there's no money, you had to sack all your real staffs and start doing your business alone you want to still go ahead to bring an extra mouth to feed in the name of the kid is poor so u are trying to help.

U never see wetin people way no get money dae suffer, ordinarily the family is struggling to survive u are not even sure the kids are feeding properly and u want go add another person pikin

wirinet:
To go open shop and sell for wife different from telling your husband to wash plates in public.
I have opened a small snack bar for my wife. She dare not tell me to wash plates in public. She sometimes ask me to watch the donuts when frying, if she goes out to supply customers. But asking me to wash plates? - never.

That's because that's a different scenario, so if the business was ab eating bar where she attends to customers while frying the donuts, if while customers are many she tells u look this donut while I sell for them, there are men who will still find it offensive.

To them they will say I no blame, u, u look me finish tell me to dae fry donut for u.

DryMouth:
Bro!
Women are something else.
Maybe he told the man authoritatively..

I can never side a woman without hearing from the man first.
A woman came to our close one day and reported how her husband was beating her because she told him to go pick the children from school.. out of curiosity to knw how a man would beat his wife because of that, I and my friends went there and saw a very peaceful man.
When that man explained the way and manner in which the wife told him to go pick up the children ehn, i felt like slapping the woman sef.

Woman have bad mouth. Dnt ever side them without hearing the man out.

What does she have to gain in telling him authoritatively?

The situation the woman explained looks reasonable, she's attending to a crowd of customers help her and wash the plates while she attends to them, if u don't want to you could have just walked out or say no.

But remember one thing the family needs the money

Yansham:
You guys always seem to forget the stress men do undergoing or insult they receive at work just to provide for the family without complaining.

But when the woman shoulders the family's responsibility, the man must drop his pride and help her.

Ask yourself 2 things, is the man doing that because the woman just wants to belittle him or as at the point it's needed.

The woman is attending to a crowd of customers trying to meet up, if she says ok attend to the customers let her go and wash the plates he can't.

Ok wash the plates let her attend to the customers as soon as possible then come over and take over from u, u vex.

What do u want her to do?

richnankar1:
My dear, I don't know the manner or tune you used in telling him, but I see nothing wrong in your husband helping you out even without been told.
Marriage is easy when there is understanding between both parties. Even if he has a job, he can still help you with domestic chores.

Am telling u, all dz people here saying she's wicked don't know what life is all about.

They think customers have time for such hassles, ontop say other places dae they left it to patronize u, u still fit no attend to them cause u waste time in serving, preparing the food, Washing plates only u cause u have no staffs, which is not your fault cause it's only her taking care of the family. Sth that was caused be her husband being scammed and not her.

Only one woman goes to market, comes back, prepares food, clean the restaurant, serve customers, still wash plates, you can't even pity her and u are claiming pride.

Poor people act very f00lish at times, if only they know that when u are poor nobody rates u, them no go dae send people

EaglesEyes1:
If you have that much customers where u can't be washing, u can at least afford a young boy or girl who can wash plates and serve for you. I have seen women who sell by the roadside with less customers, they all have a young girl helping them. Somepeople just hate to see someone doing nothing, they see them as lazy.
Because you are now the breadwinner, your husband now must work for you to have a right to get his daily meal from you. A wise wife knows how to make her husband do things for her without hurting his ego.
Woman stop asking if your actions are right or wrong, go to that friend's house and beg your husband so at least it will prove that you didn't mean any disrespect. Be a wise woman, foolish people will tell you that since your husband can't provide he is useless and you dont need him, if u like follow those foolish advices and not beg your husband, your choice. A wise wife hide the shame of her husband and prays positively for him. Be guilded.

Employ a young boy or girl. U mean child abuse abi?

Make she go carry person pikin way supposed dae school to come dae sell food for am in the name of wetin?

Which kind local wicked mentality be that?

I have seen a situation where an engineer lost his job and his wife has a shop, the shop is all they use to survive the man that's an engineer way don touch better money out of the fact that he knows what the shop brings to the tale he let his pride down sometimes, goes to open the shop for the wife when she goes to the market. Replaces her when she goes home to cook.

The fact that the man is there helping her doesn't take anything from him, cause he is smart enuf to know the situation on ground

richmond500:
So in summary, U tell ur husband to go wash plates so u can serve ur customers?

like him go sit down carry sponge wash plate for u for restaurant weh him open for u?
Is that really what I read or I missed some part?

She's not even supposed to tell him that, if the man is a reasonable and considerate man he would go and do it himself.

How would u as a man feel if your wife is going tru such stress, despite fending for the family u see her attending to loads of customers then she's attending to them, plates are piling up nobody to wash them, u can't help to attend to the customers and u still cant help to at least wash the plates.

Which kind yeye pride be that

Na the ediots way dae shout u can't ban open grazing in the south, wike and akeredolu has said they will enforce it, let's see the bastard that will come and stop it.

If u know say to kill dae hungry u stay ur side do the killing

I support this policy

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Welcome back to Problemgeria

Oath no dae work for Nigeria o

To chop oha soup don dae hungry me

Suffer

There should be a zoom link for this for south east youths in disapora who wants to join.

The only issue is the Biafran elements would come and start acting foolish shouting we need Biafra, give us Biafra

fuckingAyaya:
Where justice works

If na Nigeria your own don go

This is pure attempted murder.

That woman should be arrested and sent to prison

Nigerians must cast the process. You say you are depressed and attempted suicide and your phone is bad and then u run to your bfs house.

Next thing u know feminists would start up go fund me for her

GraGra247:
On the brighter side they make up to 10 times the money people make in 9ja for the same job or labor.

U should be saying 50times not 10times

Into the vast interiors of the north.

These people are really foolish, u banned alcohol in the north we didn't say anything, u still went ahead to start confiscating alcoholic drinks from southerner's in the north we didn't say anything.

We ban open grazing in the south una vex.

Regional meetings like this was started by the north, everytime their governors will be holding close door meetings and coming up with demands, southern governors kept mute now they are learning their style they start becoming angry

Now way Nigerians want start to use social media find person, I know say person must come out way go cast the process.

E no hard them