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[May God bless u for this wonderful post,often when i hear young folks saying trash like get money then u hv love i weep for them in my heart.
I've been living with this burden for over 5yrs nw and everything u hv highlighted here is the same case with me despite my fat pay,SUV etc each time i enter my lonely big flat i get frustrated.
I even started taking brt to humble myself a bit where I met a girl who came to my house and never returned again her excuse was that I hv a wife abroad that am just lying because my house is too big for a bachelor.
Its very lonely being rich and single and thats y guys in my bracket take solace in bars and clubs where d only thing we find is runs gehls and ashies that we feel d money can easily buy but d next morning we still wake up hating and causing cos d heart is void and empty and its searching for that thing money cannot buy.
Am in my mid thirties but i wished i had not spent my twenties seeking money like most young folks here do now. D worst thing is as i grow older d more difficult it gets cos the ladies gets more and more intimidated and insecured with me.Too bad!!!


quote author=gudrated post=35543651]It’s funny to me when I read online, especially in Nairaland that all that is required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I have experienced that), it is not always the case. I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a nice car, wear good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. I have been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. My ex-gfs have also accused me of cheating eventhough I was never caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with my relationship life I tire o. From that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs girls. They pretend to like you but all they are interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuffs. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’

5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence. They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid. You find it hard to know who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of your money. You beome confused and it gets difficult to settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher insitutions where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sigh….

8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap.

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you…hmm

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy true love. Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Ever rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.


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[May God bless u for this wonderful post,often when i hear young folks saying trash like get money then u hv love i weep for them in my heart.
I've been living with this burden for over 5yrs nw and everything u hv highlighted here is the same case with me despite my fat pay,SUV etc each time i enter my lonely big flat i get frustrated.
I even started taking brt to humble myself a bit where I met a girl who came to my house and never returned again her excuse was that I hv a wife abroad that am just lying because my house is too big for a bachelor.
Its very lonely being rich and single and thats y guys in my bracket take solace in bars and clubs where d only thing we find is runs gehls and ashies that we feel d money can easily buy but d next morning we still wake up hating and causing cos d heart is void and empty and its searching for that thing money cannot buy.
Am in my mid thirties but i wished i had not spent my twenties seeking money like most young folks here do now. D worst thing is as i grow older d more difficult it gets cos the ladies gets more and more intimidated and insecured with me.Too bad!!!

quote author=gudrated post=35543651]It’s funny to me when I read online, especially in Nairaland that all that is required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I have experienced that), it is not always the case. I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a nice car, wear good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. I have been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. My ex-gfs have also accused me of cheating eventhough I was never caught.

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with my relationship life I tire o. From that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs girls. They pretend to like you but all they are interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuffs. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many are.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’

5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence. They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

6. You become paranoid. You find it hard to know who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of your money. You beome confused and it gets difficult to settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher insitutions where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sigh….

8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap.

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you…hmm

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy true love. Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Ever rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.


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The handwriting had long been written on the wall,because Saraki is the only man prepared for the Job and the plan came out well for APC.

151487made:
because of 5thousandnaira u just dey use ur campaign scatter everywhr

5000naira keh or free punnani.

Flashing back nw I think my own experience is d worst.I went for a colleague's wedding and in our seat I appear to be d youngest,unmarried fellow.
There was this fine,well endowed dame that everyone was looking at and she kept coming to our table and each time she comes she ll ask if we are ok and we would say we are fine.
When it was time to leave d babe came nd asked me if I attended oau and I said No that I went to anoda scool, then she asked asked again if I attended fggc (as if men attends fggc) I still said No.then she looked at me somehow and she left. then when I got to the exit it dawned on me and I realised what I had done so I ran back and i started looking for her everywhere and till tomorrow I never saw her.
I lost a golden opportunity presented on a platter of gold by a fine babe that day.

holicalpha:
First of all.
I share ur school of thot bruv and I ll give u 3 origins for r ur head wey dey dere.The most overhyped institution I knw of in dis world is d marriage thing cos I've found out out a lot of my married frnds actually envy me.
I'm 32 and I've neva been married in fact it has neva crossed my mind and money has neva been d issue cos I drive a jeep nd I stay in a big house and I earn good income but marriage has been a no no,cos I've discovered myself nd I've concluded that marriage is not for everyone,my mum have stopped talking when her various emissaries couldn't work.if marriage is for u then go ahead nd do it but for my type I ll get a child one day and adopt.
I will keep doing what I knw hw to do best because I refused to be caged and held ransom by a woman.
Best of luck to all d married and aspiring to be married guys. If u quote me then u are on a very long thing.
That dude should be trashed for been depressed for over 6months because a lady wouldn't marry him

Second

Don't know why marriage is so hyped in some parts of the world (don't wanna say Nigeria)

Get a Job,roll with family and friends, if you must have a kid adopt one and live life to it fullest, nothing in this world is guaranteed, your wife today may bring about the downfall of you tomorrow.


As for me, I've never even dreamt of me marrying... If it comes No Wahala.
Ii




- Valar Morghulis.

I dhar

Thanks pal i will take this advise with the whole of my life

ChynoBEATS:
Dude.....to be quite frank with you on this..
If you know you Really wonna learn this
Get all the basic stuffs you'll need i mean the "Must have's" e.g : PC /laptop ,

a less expensive keyboard with midi ,

Headphone ,

good reference speakers,

small audio interface with mic input

N lastly A condenser Mic

I listed these things because if you dont have them n you Enroll for any Course concerning Music production ...you probably wont learn anything after you're through with the training

If you think it's a lie ask anybody ..... You cant learn music production without having the basic stuffs you'll be needing inORder to practise without Hitches n set-backs

1st things First Buy the basics Becos they are like a Textbook "simply because No school student in life can Scale through the process of learning with lots of knowledge about what he/she is doing without having A textbook " because you cant learn without practicing what you've learnt in school @home on your own.......

If you Rush you'll Regret Paying @the First place

Two things are involved here either u are over high on weed or u are trying very hard to gain popularity.ode oshi posting nonsense about our working governor.

anonimi:
Since you did not provide any concrete response to the excerpts of our 1999 constitution on the role of LGAs, can we take it that you agree Fashola has been doing LGA work, all these eight years with annual budget of N500 billion, photos of which you have inundated us with in your paparazzi job that you do for him at our expense

Your points are practical and makes logical sense. I will put them into effective use to see if it works.
Thanks.

Now where d ladies at?

godoluwa:
btw, whats teletubbies? ROTFL

You don't know teletubbies ni?
All this shikini small gehls that cannot differentiate their mouth from their nose.

Please do you mean music technology like a course in the university?

Hello House,
Please i am interested in being a top notch music producer as i wanna bring in the latest song equipment on board.I have read various tips online on how to be a music producer even though i am also a singer/rapper and songwriter but i feel the urge to bring in something different into my music.
I will appreciate if anyone can advice or link me with a top music producer where i can learn/start production classes.Now i don't want someone to suggest Don Jazzy as i don't have that money yet .Thanks pals as the comments start flowing.

Who needs a real man here? Please only ladies above 25 because i don't need teletubbies.

Please all the Hausa girls in the House show up.