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@bandiejay i am sorry over the names calling but u know some people just draw it out of you,look at the op poster response to anyone who express a different view to his,the guy cant stand oopostion,must everyone agree with his views?having said that i apolgise to the house .

@vic justice now i know you are a complete fool,in as much as i am tempted to join the bandwagon in bashing and labelling the whole country as crooks just to appear on the popluar side i will not do it,let me ask you what efforts have you done in to better the situation?,i dont care how bad the situation the is i still belive there is hope in nigeria,we still have few great minds from nigeria doing well in the world of engineering,medicine u name it,we still had the likes of gani,fela ribadu and many more.anybody can sit down and critizes it is the easilest thing in the world.from my experince it is people like you who do the worse bloody hypcrotie,the land where you live in go and research into their history fool!!!!!!!to my fellow nigerians yes the situation is bad,yes the situatuion looks hopless but lets not not give up on the country,let each of us change the ways we do things,no other country can come do it for us,egypt tuinsa,libya did it,WE ALSO CAN OVERCOME .

@poster vic justice you must be sick in the head to be making such sweeping statements at this time and age,anyway this is a free forum so u can as well air your stupid views and get away with them

Yes before you all start shouting for my head and yabbing from sentiments,know this no one loves lagos more than i do,this is where i was born and raised,i attended my primary to university level here in lagos so i am a proper "omo eko"well lets go straight to what i am trying to say about fashola.
Now i know fashola means well for lagos by building and pulling down in lagos,building new structures all over the place but as an international economist fashola is building up poverty for the masses in lagos,let me explain further,what fashola is doing is called cosemtic application to the problems of lagos ,you dont develop a state economically by just building new roads all over the place,what is the earning power of the average lagosian?,where is the social safety net for people who may lose their source of income temporary,what are you doing about unemployment?everybody wants his child to attend private schools,why?what are you doing about the public run schools?what are you doing to improve these schools,how many government workers can really afford these expensive schools on their salaries?how many government workers can really afford to buy a piece of land or even a flat in lagos today without doing one illegality or the other,the chinese have come in offering billons of dollars to fashola to help improve lagos,do you think the chinese are fools?they will get that money back by building their megashops and put millons of small scale businessmen out of existence thereby increasing the unemployment levels,even london and the us grew first by enpowering the earning power of their people,it is not all about just pretty structures,ask the russians,the eastern europe countries,these countirs are beautfull but the people are very poor

exactly what i am thinking too,lets hear the real story

@tpia and clickgold you two have asked the most stupid questions on this thread,let me also ask you this question and i want an honest answer is it everyman that ever slept with you that you married? are u married to the man that disvirgined you?when will women ever grow up?una think say na only men dey toast women now?i am sure this dude must be a loaded guy and that was why the babe fall for her and besides she was not raped.and let me tell you women are toasted everyday by different men it is now up to the women to reject such advances or accept them,our duties as men na to to toast but no be by force.
so i beg make una grow up

@segan r u sure u were her first ,abeg no come here con dey boast o,@poster guy it seems to me that u are too soft,wake up o and that was why the babe got to you,dont u know many ladies today dont mind traping a good guy like u with pregrancy especially when their age don waka,i am very sure this lady in question is a lady in her late twenties?anyways sha since she loves u i go advise u to try just accept the situation as e be cos e don too late,and for ladies asking this stupid question "u didnt love her and u were making love to her"how daft and stupid some women can be,so u think everyguy that toasts u must marry u na wah o,women always complain that men are unfaithfull but when a faithfull man is standing right under their noses they often   reject him why?cos they all want that fine clean bobo,stupid lots,check all women history they all had one faithfull guy in their lives who they regected only few among them are wise to marry such fellows because fine bobos no dey let them see well

na wah o u were stealing fish,the owner caught u and gave u the whole    fishu say u dont want the fish again,but having said that i think u are a man with a good heart because u married  hereven though she was clearly not ur choice 4that i commend u,it shows deep down u are a responsible man, i dont care what anyone else says.
the problem here is that u dont love her the way you would have loved a woman to marry her,but then my brother what has love got to do with it?and besides she loves u why not use that her love as a starting point,if she is not educated up to ur standard get her enrolled into an adult school it is never too late,now u may never love her the way u want but lookinwards and i am sure u will find a space 4 her in ur heart,other than that my bro she has become a cross in ur life that u MUST CARRY we all have our crosses in life to carry.and besides it is better for a man to marry a woman who loves him rather than the one he loves.
i feel 4 u and i wish u all da best

why is the story the same about nigeria embassies all over the world,why why,may GOD help us

just as you said this is a real bad situation,you have to use WISDOM it is so sad,trust me if you dont do anything it will affect your son thats for sure

@tpia thanks so much,at least there are still people out there who understands what i am talking about.

i have noticed nobody talks about this group of people,and it is not fair at all,i am refering to children born of nigerians abroad,all we talk about is yabbing ourselves and how we all miss home, how naija is better or how abroad is better,for GODs sake what of our children born here ,i have seen many adult children born and abadonded by their nigerian parents or adopted out to the whites,many of them today want to know their roots while some dont care at alll while some of them even hate nigeria with a passion because of the way they were abadoned.
please let us spare a thought for these ones(remember obama)i am sure obamas father never expected that his american son would one day grow to be the president of usa,i met a brillant boy of nigerian parents the other day in spain,he was adopted out to spainish parents as soon as he was born,you need to see this boy,painfull thing is that he doesnt know any thing about his parents or where they come from as far as he is concerned he is spainish,now tell me who is losing out,nigeria or spain?' and that goes for all of us abroad.

@brien,i repeat what i said you are a BUM,who the hell do you think you are,come i am not standing forth for any person, it is true they say empty drums always make noise.beast

hey guys take it easy on the poor guy,i have met him in person and i stand up to say he is not a fraud and i have asked him to withdraw his appeal for assitance,so guys back off.@brien you think everybody is a fraud like you,it is because of people like you that nigerians are not trusted today,which money do you even have by the way,bum like you.,for your information i have helped the poster with his request.

i have met the poster in person and he is clean,having said that let me say this ,nobody should render help to anybody on the internet because of too many frauds but in this case the poster was being very honest about wanting to go home though i have advised him to send money to her instead.

WOW!@frankkky men you are a GENIUS,why didnt i think of that before,wow,a millon thanks.i am buying my ticket tommorow,men you too much

i want to thank you all from the bottom of my heart for all your frank responses,it shows nigerians really care.
I have done some very deep soul searching over this matter since 3 days ago nd i have come to the following conclusions.
1.I have realised and accepted the bitter truth that the problem lies with me and not with maria or my wife.
2.I have decided to forget about maria no matter how painfull it is to me and concertrate on my marriage,who knows with time i may come to love my wife and also my son is there to consider.
yesterday i called up maria and held a deep conversation with her and i have pleaded with her to forget about me and get on with her life,i belive one day she will meet the man that deserves her and will give her happiness,this is my greatest prayer for her.
I have also decided to send her to send her a hefty sum of money not to buy away the hurt or anything like that,nothing on earth can ever buy what we had,but just to appease her and make life a little more comfortable for her,i feel so guilty over her.
In all these i have come to realise one lesson in life,we must stand and withstand whatever storms life brings our way
to make us break who we are and what we belive in.i should have stood for maria when i got to europe no matter what i was going through,i have no excuses.
Truth is i lost maria the day i got on that flight out of nigeria.
Sometimes you have to let go of the past so as to live in the present

hello goood people of naija,i am in a situation and it goes like this,maria was my very first love,we started started right from our secondary school days,infact we started going when we were both in ssi,we went everywhere togther,hardly a day passed without us seeing each other,we were so close,we finished secondary school together,though we both attended different higher insitutions,our love still waxed stronger,she attended UI while i attended unilag.
Somewhere along the line i got an opportunity to travel to spain and when i discussed this with her she wasnt so interested but all the same i traveled out with the sole dream of making life better for both of us
Well you know in life,there is always a kleg somewhere,when i got to europe things were so bad for me being iilegal and all.along the line i met a girl who took interest in me and got me a job and also showed me how to file in for my papers which i got but the snag was that this girl wanted to go out with me even after telling her i had someone serious back home,one thing led to another and we slept together and she got pregrant for me.
To cut a long story short we are now married with a child but problem is that the marriage is not working because i have never loved her and she knows this,my heart still belongs to maria who by the way rejected many suitors because of me in nigeria now she is 35 and she is blaming me for everything,i still love her and want to be with her i know it has not been easy for maria ,her brother called me one day and spoke harsh words to me
NOW i am so confused i dont know what to do,my wife crys everyday that i dont love her and it is true,i dont,pls someone help me out

i agree with the last writer

i thank you very much for all your advices may GOD bless you all

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hi good people of naija,please i need advise from you guys
you see i live legally in spain and i was lucky to get a wellpaying job
with a shipping spainish company,infact i am the first black to ever
get employed here,through the proceeds of my job i was able to open
an african store for my wife here in spain and she is doing well thanks to
GOD.
my problem is this,i want to advance myself educationally,i have always
wanted to become a lawyer but i cant realise this dream in spain because
of the language barrier dont get me wrong i understand spainish to a certain
level but using it at a higher level is a different issue.
so i have decided to go back home to naija to realise this dream,
i have able to save through the years i have been in europe but a friend just
came back from naija  and toid i cant survive in naija of today that the cost
of living is very high now and that my 15000e is peanuts in naija now.
what do i do now?do i go ahead and quit my job and go home to realise
my childhood dream or do i stay back here in europe and be a school cert holder
all my life,really i am so confused,granted i am making money here but is money
everything in life,i have a house in lagos which i can live in,please someone advise me on what to do

oh my dear,take heart and pray to GOD only him can show you the way out,having said that,let me say this our african men
are the the cause of cases like these,so many cases like this abound in europe,african men including nigerian men will get involved
with women, get them pregrant and then run away to africa saying a child from a white woman is not a proper child,then they go home and start raising another another family.
this is bad and we african men need to change this mentality it is evil,i know of a friend who has two kids from two different white women and left them to go to nigeria claiming he only did it to get his papers but one thing he forgets is that those children are human beings and that one day they will become something  in life look at the case of obama,i am sure obama senoir never imagined that his son would become the president of the united states such is life and mind you if not for obama strong and devoted maternal grandmother who knows what he would have turned out to be.
please we african men should stop this evil thing

marrying anyone out of pity is the greatest mistake anyone can make, i am saying this cos it happened to me
i married mt wife out of pity and today it is too late to do anything about it, you see she got pregrant for me
and i couldnt just leave her like that,in a way i blame myself for everything cos i only wanted a fling i never knew
it would lead to marriage,and the painfull thing about it all is that she is not learned,there are many things i would
have loved disscussing with her but we cant cos of her understanding level,most times i just end up crying
i am trying seriuosly to love her so i can least at be happy but it has not been easy. please someone out there advice
me on what to do cos i am afraid of divorce and what it can do to my handsome son she bore me