₦airaland Forum

proudly9ja:
2nd goal by Gervinho.
I like the way he switches from left to CF, same with Theo

Sicherheit:
First of all, where is the matrimonial home? It can't be the one where the husband comes and goes as he pleases, chats with other women in front of her, begs other women to send him Unclad picture? Matrimonial home where she has to beg him to stay home at night in case she goes into labor?

My sister this matrimonial home you are talking about, is it different from the one where she left all alone with the baby while her husband goes out to drink with his friends, the home with the husband who brings nothing to the table but takes? Is that the Matrimonial home you speak of? Then my dear, you have big issues and it is a waste of time discussing with you.

Since we are all praying for each other, my prayer is that all the women who are urging this woman to stay preserve this wonderful matrimonial home be gifted with the same kind in ten folds.
Do I hear an Amen?

Genius100:
Guy, are you married?

Sicherheit:
Why don't we ask Titilayo Arowolo about Moronic advice. I'm sure you are one of them who think you must die in marriage to gain value.
If you had any sense you will know that when a situation has reached a boiling point like this, the best thing to do is for everyone to get a time out. At least if she moves out, it will call the attention of the elders to their problems and they can help them work it out than remaining in the house, slapping each other until one person is pushed to the wall and reacts more violently.

jennykadry:
Uju abegii go away joooo, no spoil show for us, leave them to continue disgracing themselves abeg, i need the show abeg

BTW whatever anger he feels , he brought upon himself, if he wasn't sniffing into women's underwear and dashing her diseases, the wife wouldn't have confronted him and the confrontation wouldn't have led to anger. His lifestyle brought about the confrontation

Sicherheit:
@ Letty
If you know what is good for you, leave that house as soon as possible. You have to put some space between you and the fool you married until he is ready to be a husband. Your parents will prefer to be disappointed parents than grieving parents.

letty45:
some of these statements are big lies,  im being sincere because i want God favour


i ve only slapped him once and that was on monday.
he went out usual on monday night and came back when i was alseep, i didnt hear d door because of the gen and sent me a txt which i saw @ about 3am when i woke to feed our baby,  i didnt lock him out,  me that im scared of staying home alone,  i dont smash anything,  i slammed the door one day when got home really late.

letty45:
i never said you will never see anything ,  i said if you keep doing all these things dat good things will not come his way, and  i didnt say you are miserable life,  i said he his a saddest and find happiness when i cry and unhappy, and most esp,  i didnt say armed robbers will kill him,  he wore very dark shades when he was going out,  and i told him not to because he looked like an armed robber b4 they kill him,  and i ve appplogised severally since then,

dayokanu:
OP,

I guess you would have been happier if you husband had been killed by robbers ??

You pray he would never see anything good, And i guess your prayer is being answered currently

He is a miserable life and he would continue to be.

Yes God answered all your prayers except number 1, So why are you complaining

kasiem:
I agree with all the contributions here, but, i must also they're a bit foolish and vacuous in some way.

Let me apprise u guys, this things that get us berserked at the mention of our country, might be the main purpose of our creation. We can make ourselves sui generis by serving a positive catalyst with our capacity. Heroes like mandela and roosevelt used daunting situations to make mark in sounds of time. Here, the main problem facing our existence is that we like enjoying instead of building. Hitherto the epoch of roosevelt, america was totally in moribund state, but, he came and metamorphosed america into an exemplary country. Sometimes, we fetter ourselves with the reasoning that u can only make impact with leadership positions, but we don't that little things that we do matters alot. A citizen will be crying of bad roads, while he's blocking the waterways with garbage.

I graduated from secondary with mal practice filled o'level, when i realised myself i stopped it. Today, i'm suffering the nemesis, in the sense, that jamb last year was not release(after all my reading); this year the result was withheld and later released with high level of underscore. In all this, should i channel my time toward castigating the gov't? Implicit nope! Rather, i'm suppose to see for ways of informing my younger ones of the need to achieve success in academics through reading.

Another bane of nigeria is our unpatriotism, we like vilifying our products always, without taking into cognizance that "the more u support the local manufacturers, the more they improve". How can a patriotic teacher, who wants the technological advancement of the country be helping students with expo?

letty45:
now, in the present of the GOD u married, was i a virgin or not?, i didnt tell this to my but u told her?   now you lying i had an affair with an man. if i had affair with any man may the Almighty God punish me. you have been my only intimate partner in my entire life and you it. cause i told you a man was asking me out,  see what you turned it into.  God sees all of us. i have never made love to anyman apart from you in my life,  always lying

MyJoe:
This is the 21st century. Besides, her convictions and spiritual inclinations do matter.

xpagnol:
[b]which dream and vision are u talking about while you have been Being Intimate without marriage and you still think the vision is still there for you. [/b]my dear brother please wake up to reality. and know what you want in this life and go for it. mine isnt just a religious vision nor mission but have stayed away from sex for the past 7 months just to avoid distraction and self pity.

when ever you are ready to marry and ask God to give you a wife, He shall always do that for u.

sexkillz:
All these stress for what na? Why cant he just free the girl? It's just one month o? What say you?

MRbrownJAY:
sorry to say but whether you have Guatemala or Nicaragua passport or even certified bushman passport, money CANT buy you entry into UK for the next 10yrs, BWAAAAAAAAAAAH. . . . . . . . . . . . so i suggest you rephrase your above statement.

hectorblaz:
I have been dating this chic for like a month now, and I must confess that she's the best I've ever had. We are so compatible. And she's a walking example of my imaginations.

She told about it like 2 weeks ago but it sounded shallow. But last night when I asked her what was the greatest obstacle we had to overcome in order to get married, she said - RELIGION!

She said she was a Witness and that Witnesses don't marry outside. And that we shouldn't even think it cos it wont work. I have a lot to say but I cant even type it. I couldn't sleep last night. And am getting depressed right now.

I dont know what to do now cos I really, really, really love this chic. I really do need your advice. Can you guys help me?

If not that I have a higher calling and a vision I live for, I would have followed her to her church. But I just cant.

Can I get to convince or persuade her to join my RCCG church? Is it possible? Has it ever happened before?

Her whole family are Witnesses.

We are really in love with each other, though I think mine is deeper. But no one wants to let go of his or her beliefs to join the other person. If I switch, its as good as switching my destiny as well cos I need this pentecostal platform to fulfill my calling, and actualise my dream and visions.

Does anyone out there have any meaningful and workable advice for this dude, cos I would really, really love to get married to her.

suassooze:
Yeah they have it .

suassooze:
No way . Thats not a crime . Submittin fake documents is offence but you cant jail me because I can prove gu as perfect in india . And even I m rich so if I buy st kitts and nevis citizenship who the hell in world can stop me from entering uk .

suassooze:
Small correction to be made here . I bought the passport from immigration registry office and the mode is back dated naturalisation . So there is perfect records . And I have the same name same dob . And one more final thing . I m not going to end up in jail

letty45:
thanks so much, i havent told you half of what i have been through, today i took the bold step to asked him if he still wants to be married to me, but he didnt say anything, as usual he walked out on me. now i think i have reached the end of my marriage journey, i have learnt so much, i was really unlucky but i thank God that all other part of my life has been best thing that has happened to me.
i remember when i was on my last days of pregnancy, i beg my husband to alway stay home @ night because i could put to bed anytime and ill need him to take me to the hospital, he was still coming back really late. so i called my dad and cried to him that im having a feeling that i might put to bed soon and that there will be no one to take me to the hospital, my dad called my husband, but @ the end of this all i had to move back to my parents house since he claimed that he will be working till night daily( i couldnt tell my family that he had lost his job) my father told me that this just the smallest scarifise he cld ve made for me .my mum felt disappointed. so one day he came to visit me @ my parent s house with his friend and i told his friend how i felt, so unhappy abt putting my burden on my parents after all they have done for me and that all im asking my husband to do his to stay home @ nite for me,so that if im in labour he would take me to the hospital, so his friend adviced him and i moved back to our house,they day of my delivery, he wanted to drop me back @ my parents house that he was going for meeting , but i told him that i had a feeling ill put to bed on that day and that was how he was the one who too me to the hospital. im thinking of calling that his freind and just talk to him.

when he refused to say anything to me i told him to go to nairaland to see people s reply on what i have been through, im sure he is reading or have read this topic,. i didnt know that i was this strong to have gone through this and still be happy. if go back to my family today my dad and mum will be so so so sad to hear all i have been through. and if you reading this, remember all i have done for you, all the risk i have taken for you, how i stood my you in everything, and remember all the tears i have cried, remember all i have been through for you, remember all the sacrifises i have made and you i dont deserve all this, i deserve better

ritchboy:
Tshabalala?

1025:
with the situation on ground, can it be said that the only way to survive in nigeria is by joining the moving train(crime)? i find it difficult to believe that straightforward people can survive in anything in nigeria.
even in all these hardships, everybody is afraid to die and this is the aspect of our lives that makes these criminals(politicians) to continue in their efforts to make us beggars in our own country.
WHAT IS THE WAY OUT OF THIS poo?

KA24DETT:
U see your problem,,, u are taggin me as a british apologist,  all am saying is that u guys messed poo up, u didnt develop the country from where your colonial masters left off,  i gave u an example of an african country like urs  that got their independence at the same time like urs in a worse case scenario but are better now, when u are given lemons, make lemonade,  work with what u have and stop blaming people that left u 50 yr ago for your shortcomings,

Rossikk:
How will you know about others? Isn't your own situation all that counts?

Go and educate yourself because you're ignorant. Start by visiting this link: Learn the UNICEF statistics on basic indicators of Nigeria, starting with literacy:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_literacy_rate

Rossikk:
coogar said:

Very few. Why? Because (surprise surprise) YOUR BRITISH RULERS DID NOT CONSIDER IT A 'PRIORITY' TO EDUCATE MASSES OF NIGERIANS, IE YOUR GRANDPARENTS, WHICH IS WHY MOST OF US INHERITED ILLITERATE, VILLAGE-BOUND GRANDPARENTS.

Thank God for Nigerian rule, because as soon as our so called ''useless, corrupt leaders'' came into power, they immediately went about the task of establishing thousands of primary and secondary schools in every nook and cranny of the country, making literacy jump to 76% today, from an all time high of 7% under British rule.

Rossikk:
kulutempa said

You're an illiterate houseboy of the British. I bet you have on khaki shorts and shirt even as you type. The UI was not made a full fledged university until 1963 AFTER the British were kicked out. It was a ''University College'' under the British, and even worse, it was the ONLY one in the entire country after nearly 100 years of British rule, despite the fact they exported cocoa, groundnuts, rubber, iron ore, coal, tin etc for 100 years uninterrupted. Have you no brain? What did they do with all your money? OLODO. Contrast that with South Africa, where they built PROPER universities as early as the 1880s! Instead of you to demand an explanation from the British for their robbery, you're here playing happy slave. Mumu.