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Fhemmmy: I think it is better we leave the personal story alone and just face the thread and discuss , , , , We dont wanna make enemies on the thread, but to unite in facing the issues

Yomieluv: Is ȋt that there was no Love lost between couple or what? Why should I spend a whole lot on marriage,and later divorce her?.. It baffles me,cos I am a Victim Too,I grew up without the love of a father, cos I lived with my mum. At times I see my father as a stranger to me. I haven't called, or see him this year. Its seriously affecting my life, cos I find it hard to give my heart to a woman. Most people call me sadist, what they don't know is that I am a victim of circumstance. I wish I could live better and flush all this from my memory.

durobraham: dear sagamite, ure a classic example of the amusements that make nl enjoyable. Its amazing how people who have never met u know u more than u know urself.

Definitely , i have regrets but not one of them is my son, if u have met my son u will understand me&Just because u dont understand doesnt mean its untrue.

Yes, having an unplanned pregnancy changed for the better in the way nothing else could have, thats fact. I am wiser, more compassionate& more thoughtful of others, m a better christian&a better daughter,

i have a solid family unit, it consists of my mum, my bros, myself & my 3yr

1025: @coogar,
hazard said he wants to come to manchester united? mikel said same and signed for manchester united. wiseman, if hazard ended up in manchester united, will there be a kagawa transaction? how many players had fergie gone to watch that ended up not coming? hazard has no history of diving and as such, he will not do well in man u.

kagawa will end up like obertan, gibson, bebe, diouf, manucho, berbatov and a long list of other who refused to dive. can't u see how young is fast becoming the best player in man u because of his diving abilities. the whole football world shocked the day young dived against his former club. now nani and evra have officially handed over to welbeck and young the diving juju. as good as valencia is, he has refused to dive and as such will soon find himself in the reserve team.

i dey feel for england because their fate lies in the hands of divers and uefa are well informed in the epl diving credentials of man u who could not beat fc basel in ucl and atlethico bilbao in europa cup.

davidylan: Plenty of fatherless kids who even as well-rounded adults still deeply resent being raised in a home without a father.
Would you allow your own 15 yr old daughter to have kids without a father?

Your situation is not a choice but forced on you... if you had a choice to come back in another lifetime i'm sure you would not choose the same route. If you need a bastard to know that you need to better yourself in preparation for having offspring then something is wrong with you.

I've heard the psychobabble before... "my child is a blessing because he/she made me change my life".... hmmm yeah responsible people dont wait until they are pregnant to know to do the right thing.

Ivynwa: The bolded is actually a state of mind, a notion which differs in different societies.
The negation of it in that sentence is because our society look down on a child born out of wedlock. Whoever invented the word "bastard" should be rebuked, who are we humans to certify one another as bastards and genuine? Many great persons were born out of wedlock and went ahead to make a good life for themselves while the genuine others are being cynical towards them by the side. Branding human beings such names is an erosion of their dignity. I am sure that many persons that were branded that had pains inflicted on their heart and their self confidence mashed on. Some of us in this forum, typing here and reading these may have even been born under such circumstances. Who are we to write them off as below humans?

Marriage is partly a control measure and should never be used as a yardstick of acceptance, rejection and condemnation of humans. As long as children born out of wedlock in our society are considered less humans and girls(whatever happened to the boys involved?) that got impregnated while unmarried are satan's daughters, the young ones will continue to throw away the children they made in such circumstances. Many of them may succumb to injuries while aborting, many may even die from it. Are we making life better that way?

durobraham: sweetie, i had a baby in school and graduated second best of my college class, yes better than all them chicks who didnt have babies.
m yet to have a night where i regret having my son& m not married cos i dont think i can trust any1 to raise my son like he should.

All i am saying is this, we all have different roads to take in this life, teenage pregnancy is not an ideal situation but the truth is abortion is not a remedy. God forbid u ever find urself in such a situtaion anyway,the right approach is to support whatever decision ur daughter makes as a parent, thats d only way her life will not be totally ruined...

Sagamite: I think there should be a law where if you have more than 6 kids and you are not able to take care of them for more than a 2 year period, the State should arrest you and force you into a labour camp to work your butts off till all the kids are 18.

Later, these fcked up Black men and their kids will blame the white man for their failures to make it in life.

1025: @kagawa boys,
i have nothing against kagawa but let it be on record that kagawa came to mind as soon as it became obvious than hazard has choosen the current european champions over noisy neighbours.

honeric01: I was never forcing them to wear what i think would help their hygiene in the first place.. armpit gets more air than that part and wearing such a dress is hazardous to their hygiene.

All in all, you got the point i was trying to make.

davidylan: My barber had 11 kids from 4 women at the age of 34. his idea of "raising" his kids was having a fridge stocked with food so they can eat. I shook my head in sorrow. I kept asking him how he remembered all their names, doctors appointments, schools...

honeric01: I won't argue with you bro, does your nose smell or not? i mean inside of it when you eventually pick them? how about your ears?
I am not saying only women ooze odor when the factors above is put into consideration or did i? the contention here is that it's bad to wear tight clothing in Nigeria, especially Lagos (the hot period of course).
Hidden parts of humans smell if exposed to prolonged heat and its friends.

davidylan: hillarious! I dont blame the guy, here it is "normal" to have kids bearing a different surname from the mother, their siblings and even the guy shacking their mama.

Miss EZ: Although Davidylan sounds really harsh, atleast he has the guts to be honest about his thoughts towards this issue. Alot of people are quick to shout against abortion, but when found in the situation are very quick to do it. As for me i think that abortion is wrong, better still avoid fornicating all together to avoid such wahala. It is not easy for single mothers anywhere in the world, not to talk of teenagers who are not ready for such responsibility. The children also suffer especially in a place like Nigeria where he/she will be reminded that they were born out of wedlock.

I agree that teenage mothers should not be treated poorly or inhumanely, but i think the emphasis should be on prevention rather than tolerance of immoral behavior. Once these kids know that they can get away with it, what stops them from having another one. In the united states, you see young girls below 21 already having 2 kids and are on welfare or some kind of assistance.

As for the prolife/prochoice debate. I am prolife, but i also believe that women should be given a choice especially in despoil and molestation cases. It is not easy to have a kid born out of such circumstances because they will always be a reminder. For some the experience alone is traumatic, then to have a child come out of that, double wahala.

durobraham: This thread is so hilarious its unbelievable!! Its amazing how those like sagamite &Co who are supposedly pro choice are in here acting like every unplanned/teenage pregnancy must be aborted.
what happens to a womans choice?
seriously u guys, pregnancy is an opportunity to be a mother , what ever the circumstances, its important we help&support those we love & help them make the choices THEY can live with.
Dads; forcing a teenager to have an abortion is a terrible thing, i know u think u will be doing her a favour but have u considered that ur little girl may never get married baby or no baby, she may never go to college or work in a world class firm& then on those nights when she hates her 38 yr old life, she will long for the baby she lost&hate u the more!
Bottomline the decision to be a mother or have an abortion has lifelong implications for most people, so stop propagating this useless urban myth that abortion is some kind of bullshit panacea! smh!

davidylan: and you will be responsible for providing that child with a stable family environment? and you will be providing that child with food, clothes and filling the fatherhood void in his/her life? Yeah the baby should live but sleep on a hard cold floor because the father could care less? Yup the baby should live but have no medical insurance, be passed around from available friend to family member when mom has to work? Yup the child should live but literarily have to beg to be fed? Yeah the child should live but be deprived of having clothes to wear, no siblings to play with, no father-figure to shape/guide?

My guy, i once knew a 3 yr old kid who begged me (with tears in her eyes) to be her father... bro that day i realized one thing... it is not by coincidence that we have 2 parents. A week after i broke up with the mother, the child had a mental breakdown in school because she thought she would never have a father again. Stop chatting rubbish. You are not the one who has to live the life of pain and mental anguish that child will have to go through all because some adults quit using their brains.

jmoore: Ignorance is not an excuse. The baby should live

jmoore: Then those who are rich but suddenly are now poor should kill their grown kids because they cannot afford to feed them again? Enough said!!

jmoore: Ignorance is not an excuse. The baby should live

jmoore: That's the same thing anyone who cannot raise his/her child should do, put the baby up for adoption.

jmoore: Na u sabi. Steve Jobs(the apple man) was born out of wedlock. Only evil minds plan abortion.

jmoore: No!! the pregnancy can be taken care of

jmoore: Genevieve Nnaji was pregnant at the age of 17, She gave birth to the baby.

solomon111: Any girl that is useless enough to get pregnant before 'her time',deserves whatever punishment meted upon her.
What i will never support in this life or the next is abortion.
I believe that as far as God is concerned,nobody was born by accident.
A mistake in the sight of men,is not a mistake in the sight of God.

honeric01: A man's core is "outside"

A woman's core is inside.

Bring up another point, this one no work at all..

Hidden stuffs smell more compared to exposed ones.

beblessed: I called my female cousin this morning and was informed she just put 2 bed her fourth child. She is now happily married 2 her childhood sweetheart who put her in the family way about fifteen years ago. When it happened, hell was let loose and infact she was disowned by family members. Only a distant childless aunt nurse her and a baby until she was sent 2 husband's mum. My cousin suffered hardship. The gist is that life has turned better for her and she is doing so well wit her husband,whereas some of us who made mockery of her condition are yet 2 settle down! Am happy she did not abort her now beautiful daugther. How do we make life easy 4 pregnant teenagers, especially in our culture n family?

Mayflowa: I am so unimpressed with this girl attitude. She is 28 and behaves like she is 16. Prezzo is not a better artiste than her. I feel so ashame watching her. She just ridicule all of us.

Agreed she is in love, but for pete's sake, this is national TV and you were there for a game. How long has she been looking for boyfriend in Naija? Is it that Naija has abandon all there girls? Her family must be very ashamed of her. To think she even stated that she was Prezzo's last resort and still fall head over heel for him is so puking. How interesting and prideful it would have been if she had dumped Prezzo after Zainab exited!

That is when she could have even secured the relationship. She is just not it. A Nigerian village housewife won't take that bullshit. Maybe it is just me because I have left naija for long.

Please tell, are Nigerians ladies like Goldie now?

chuckdee4: Just picked Portugal in my work's sweeps stake for Euro 2012, i guess i can kiss my fiver goodbye, would have had a bit more hope if i had drawn Russia.

Let the games begin

chic2pimp: The likes of Xavi and Alonso would probably be told to sit in Midfield and help maintain and dominate possesion.
The Playmaker role would be left to the likes of Iniesta and silva who can also play on the wings if need be(a key reason I feel Silva would get the nod).
Pedro,Fab and Llorente would most likely be the first names on Del Bosque's lips if Spain are chasing the game.

Aren't they just.
The best squad at the tourney bar none.
It's vital England win their group.

chic2pimp: I'll be more than surprised if those two start.
Del Bosque's Midfield five would most probably be Alonso,Busquets,Silva,Iniesta and Xavi.
The only doubt there is Silva but I am more than certain he'll start.

Bontee: @Cougar

Barca do not make up the major part of the spanish team anymore as only xavi,iniesta and maybe busquets might make the first eleven. So if a spanish team decides to field two barca players then what style of football will they now play and what will you say was their style in the first two matches before the last friendly match.

The Croatia midfielder has been on Sir Alex Ferguson's wish-list for some time. But although Tottenham value him at around £30m, United are unwilling to pay that much for the 26-year-old playmaker. United believe Spurs' failure to secure Champions League football next season has eased their task of landing Modric. The player tried to force through a move to Chelsea last summer but Spurs chairman Daniel Levy refused to let him leave.

It seems Modric is now ready to submit another transfer request, with Tottenham unlikely to stand in his way for a second summer. However, Spurs will hold out for as much money as they can, and United are certain to have to increase their initial offer.

Ferguson has already signed Japan midfielder Shinji Kagawa from Borussia Dortmund and is keen to add Modric and Everton and England defender Leighton Baines. Ferguson wants Baines to replace left-back Patrice Evra, who has been first choice in the position for the past five seasons but looked *vulnerable last season.

Everton, who are adamant that Baines is not for sale, value the 27-year-old at around £20m - a figure United are not prepared to pay. Although there is always a higher premium on English players, United value Baines at no more than £15m, as his age means he's unlikely to have re-sale value.

Baines, who arrived with the England squad in Krakow on Wednesday ahead of Monday’s Euro 2012 opener against France, said he was “flattered” to have been linked with United. A deal for him is unlikely to be done until England’s participation in the tournament concludes.

honeric01: Why are you being selective? didn't you see the factors i listed? do you have those factors in Atlanta? you're smarter than this damsel, so i don't expect to read some things from you.. see the factors i listed while addressing coogar, then compare these factors with Atlanta, let us know if these "bad news" are present in the Atlanta's atmosphere.

You MUST smell after going through all the listed above except you are lucky enough to go through Lagos heat in a AC-car.