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emmanuelco: my blackberry phone was stolen by an unknown person..how can i track down the person?? please help me and i have no tracking app on the phone but i have the pin and it's a BOLD 3

dayokanu: Fact is that Klose flopped big time at the only big club he played for in his career

Who would even take the word of someone like you who didnt even watch the match and was telling us Torres came in before our goal seriously

debosky: If the doctors say you are both fine, what makes you think you will instantly impregnate another woman? If the first woman you approach doesn't get preggers in say 6 months, what then? Move on to another woman? And another after that?

You haven't even identified the issue preventing conception yet you're already talking about divorcing her?

It is clear you haven't forgiven your wife for her having sex before you got married, else you wouldn't bring it into this conversation. Furthermore, you clearly believe it is her fault (either because she had pre-marital sex or out of a backward African mindset that women are the ones exclusively with the issues when it comes to conception).

Here you are saying you're fed up with your wife not conceiving - what if your wife goes around saying she is fed up of the impotent man she married?

Stop secretly resenting your wife and blaming her for what is not her fault (according to the tests). Explore all the potential options within your marriage and take a moment to think about what your wife is feeling.

armyofone: Watery sp.erm can also be a problem. whatever you want to do, discuss with her. Make sure it is all done amicably and not you doing some
secret randevous. Just as it is hard on you, I'm sure it is hard on her too knowing she is unable to give you a child/carry a baby like others no matter how tough she is trying to look.

BrotheR18: I have been married to my wife for 10 years now,without the marriage yielding any fruits.As we all know the fruit of any marriage is children.So for 10 years now no fruit of this marriage.I do not want to write a long missive but you the members of the forum need to understand a bit about my problem.
when I married my wife I was a virgin and I assumed my wife was one because we did not engage in pre marital sex because of my religious beliefs.(Born again christian).I have the utmost respect for women so I made sure that I concluded every rite of marriage totally(Dowry etc).I made sure the traditional,church and registry rites were carried out totally.

After the marriage I discovered my wife was not a virgin,and appeared to be more experienced than me in the ways of the world,but I forgave her because of my religion because all things have passed away and become new.However after the first year of marriage she failed to take in and get pregnant,I started to become a bit worried,although my faith in God remained unshaken.

By the sixth year I an my wife were really worried.By this time relations on both sides of the family had started to become worried too and had started to kick in with all kinds of theories and stories.All this time I keep to my faith and so did my wife who had also by this time become a believer.We visited all kinds of doctors and did all kinds of tests but to no avail.My relatives started to advise my about taking another wife or trying my luck elsewhere.

To cut a long story short,we are in the 10 th year of marriage and still no fruit of the womb.It is driving me insane and I am losing my faith.I have started to notice other women and thoughts of divorcing my wife have started to cross my mind although I have not discussed this with her yet.I am feeling I need to try else where to show I am a man.You can not understand the feeling of seeing people who got married years after you rejoicing over the fruit of the womb,I am happy for such people but It still tears me up inside.

My love for my wife is starting to wear away and I am just fed up .My mum is also on my case as well as my siblings.I think I am going insane and feel like ending it all and starting a fresh.At times I look at my wife and think about the approaching menopause.I think I have lost my faith in religion,because they keep telling you to ntry,try and try without any concrete suggestions.How long will I keep the faith.Should I get a divorce?
Should I put her away or try and get another woman pregnant behind her back? Please I need matured advise,before I lose my mind.Thank you.

MRbrownJAY: ^^^ these test are already on their way to Uganda, so coming to Naija is just a matter of time.
****business opportunity anyone?!*****
i forgot to say that it is called a HOME KIT SALIVA HIV TEST, and to my knowledge, it works like a pregnancy test, just a bit of saliva and within minutes you know the person HIV status. you are even lucky the gal would put the test on the bed for you to see the result in the morning....... the way you guys think, most would simply hide it and act accordingly (depending on the test result).

as for the court, First you would have to prove (without a shadow of doubt) that she bought it and put it there, Second that the result is actually from YOUR saliva......... and finally, even if you'd win the case, MY CLIENT WOULD BE SET ONCE AND FOR ALL ABOUT YOUR HIV STATUS....and whatever the judgment will be, thats a small price to pay for staying alive and SAFE!

......oh, and if the test was positive, she can countersue YOU that you knew your status but was hiding it from her, and thus willingly putting her life in danger. oh btw, to all the people that said that it would be the end of the union if your partner did that, could you tell me what you would tell your partner when HE/SHE asks you to go for a HIV test then? the way most of you think is one of the reasons why the disease is spreading so fast in Africa.

MRbrownJAY: imagine that you were sleeping and happen to drool right on top of a saliva hiv test that happens to find itself there.....how can that be a criminal offense bro?

also, shouldnt it be (in the contrary) an offense for people to NEVER get tested?!

leo083: Hey, NLers, we have been married for about 2yrs and i have never have any reason to doubt my wife until today, we've been leaving together for about 7 months since we marry for about 2 yrs. I was having indigestion, so I had to search for adrew liver salt wch I bought for her, dt I've always seen in her drawer, but today I didn't just see it there,so I digged further, then I saw (levonogestrel 0.75 mg) a packet of ROGOTINOR, a brand of POSTINOR in wch 1 has been removed, remaining 9 in the pack, I asked my wife what its doing in her drawer, she first said I bought it for her in onistha, then she said I bought it in kano, then later dts its my family members dt put it there. She asked me dt, "do I think she's having an affair?" I said I cant answer cos she needs to explain what a birth control pill is doing in her drawer, since she's already pregnant . Am into reproductive health and I know dt 0.75 levonogestrel is used for emergency contrapception. When I checked the manufacturing date, it was a drug made in pakistan on 08/201O, this period of thime I was in onistha,we were not together, then it couldn't be kano, cause even though I adviced her to buy it dt time in kano, it was 03/10 dt time.
I don't know what to believe anymore .
I'm not perfect and I know she's not, but what and how will it get to her personal drawer? She's presently denying it, dt though she's seen it there for like 7month she never put it there. What should I do.
Mature opinions pls

Ibime: Nateevs,

I have no more words to share with you on this issue. You have been disgraced too many times. The same season when you fought with me claiming Lamps is useless is the same season he obliterated the rules on midfield offensive play by copping 27 goals and 20 assists.

Now he is providing evidence to you guys who claimed he only did such and such because two guys were behind protecting him by playing the protection role as good as anyone who ever played behind him, whilst delivering composed passes, half-turns away from packed midfield and solid tackles and covering. Mind you, this is a 34 year old man.
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MRbrownJAY: there is now saliva HIV test that have been approved by the FDA, bro!!!

MRbrownJAY: IMHO if a person is in a r/ship and yet not willing to have a test (or break up) then he got what he deserved. there are many ways that you can catch the disease and therefore i would fully understand why someone would want to make sure that their partner is clean. what kind of immature irresponsible person wouldnt want to get a test? the sad part is that he may have other diseases that the test didnt reveal!

and if that action makes it the end of the r/ship then so be it, better be miserable and ALIVE than happy and DEAD!!!!

debosky: RVP owes us nothing, after nearly single-handedly dragging the club from 17th to 3rd. That is more than enough service to Arsenal FC. He's honoured his contract till date and doesn't have to sign another one.

RVP will do all the fans of this club a disservice to simply re-sign for more money, instead of doing his best to FORCE the hierarchy of the club to spend money on players we need. That is the service we need - if he pushes hard but the club fails to act ambitious, he should refuse to sign.



You have them already - Djourou, Diaby, Almunia and others will NEVER leave unless their contracts are not renewed.



Arsenal will continue to 'survive' while other teams exhibit ambition and actually go out and win things - it is instructive that quality players that either shunned us or left have almost all won things? Clichy, Nasri, Cesc, Cahill, Mata? No coincidence in the least.

chic2pimp: Abeg is this not he same Evra who has had a quite torrid season?
Evra of old probably but this one would be given the round around by Theo. And If not can always switch flanks with the other Winger.

The more I see of France the more I am convinced England have nothing to fear tbh.
They have all those star names but hardly do you see them dominate teams offensively. You would have thought they would have done that a bit more often.

Ibime: ^^^Mikel was fantastic. Im saying its nothing new with Mikel neither has he learned it recently. If you think this is Mikels best game, you must be mistaken. You must have forgotten how Mikel bossed Scholes in FA Cup final (2007 I think). I always considered Mikel to be the best protector of the ball in the Prem. The problem with Mikel is always being exposed with pace through the middle if Chelsea play with "high blocks" like AVB, Scolari and Ancelotti were often wont to do.

Ibime: I text him back to say that Mikel has not learned anything new as he is in his 30's and has always been composed on the ball except that he gets exposed with high-line like in the regime of Scolari, Ancelotti and AVB


Nateevs, you need to have a look in the mirror mate. AVB's "trash old players" have sealed their legacy. We did hold 45% possession, but could not take the handbrake off to attack fully because Bertrand and Kalou could not build up the plays with the boys and it would be foolhardy to commit all out with inferior firepower, only to get suckerpunched on the counter especially with Mikel not being fast enough to chase Bayerns forwards back. The decision to play Bertrand was the only tactical flaw Ive seen RDM make so far, and it stifled our ability to build attacks, but one thing is for sure - that Mikel and Lamps more than held their own in that midfield.

chic2pimp: The difference between then and now is that the FA has made the wise decision in appointing roy.
Roy Unlike Harry knows England players are far from being world beaters and would therefore bring a new mentality which I think might actually be benefitial.
It's team would be set up to counter attack the likes of France and knick it one on a break. Don't be shocked to see England defeat France.
If England can't beat Ukraine they should withdraw from the tourney.

montelik: I doubt this will be good enough. Nani is never as effective on the left, particularly when he is played as part of front 3. Valencia is a pure touch line winger, no good as a wing forward. Rooney will be isolated upfront alone and will struggle badly with no real support. Fletcher is not a central midfielder that can offer much when he pushes up to advanced positions. We tried him there in 09/10 season when Carrick insisted on playing the anchor man in front the back 4, and its was not successful. Anderson might be able to do well there, but so far he has shown nothing to convince me he can on a regular basis. If we had a true natural and dynamic left wing forward (Young isn't either) it might be successful as we could play Nani on the right and the other guy on the left, but with the present personnel I doubt this team will be a solution.

Ibime: ^^^I am here!!! I've been offline all weekend. Travelled to Mancunia.

Where is that boy Ritchboy who claimed that RVP has been more prominent than Drogba in this era?

Is he mad?

11 goals in 10 Cup finals.

No one will remember RVP's hattricks against Wolves but they will remember DROGBA!!!

StarBoard: True that.
Which is one reason why I wont write their chances off.
But I'm guessing it would help if all these youthful guys had someone through which their creative talents were channeled.
It's no use having all these great prospects (Muller especially) when there's no one to harness their skills.For all the veterans you mentioned above, they were decent at best in terms of talent, except that they had this ability to get the best out of their teammates.But they were hard workers too.
So what could be responsible for most international sides having no enforcer/talisman/leader?

dayokanu: These generation of players are still young. The oldest being Lahm 28 and Schweinsteiger 27. The others are still young. Neuer 26yr(Young for a keeper), Hummels 1988, Boateng 1988, Badstuber 1989, Khedira 1987, Ozil 1988, Muller 1989, Marco reus 1989, Mario Gotze 1992, All of them way under 25yrs and would likely get better

Ozil, Gotze, Hummels, Muller, Khedira.

The future looks bright for them

dayokanu: Lahm is a quiet leader who isnt vocal

I think Schweinisteiger is the more vocal leader in the team.

Robben is whiny and cowardly prima donna, He would be the first to go to the penalty spot in regulation time, but when its after extra time when guts are needed the most, He would run from the penalties like against madrid and yesterday. I think we should have a new penalty taker. I also think Shaqiri would push Robbery for starting slots


As much as we might hate on Robben but we should also know that before Robben we could barely get past the CL second round. With Robben we have now played 2 CL finals in 3 seasons, He might have proven to be the X factor or world class player needed to propel Bayern from the Second round debacles of years ago to regular finalists. Now someone needs to take over when we get into finals.

Starboard, The finals Henry won was because someone else came to their rescue Left to Henry he wouldnt have won anything, In 2000, if not for Zidane and Trezeguet, Can you count the number of tame shots Henry shot into Toldos arms in that final?

Robben can probably take you to the final, Someone needs to take it from him there

chic2pimp: England should have more enough fire power to defeat Sweden.
C'mon it's sweden not the Argies or the Samba Boyz we are talking about here.
If Roy has them set up properly and playing well, they should at the very least(worst scenario) get a draw.

StarBoard: coogar
I just want to highlight the fact that Germany might not have the leader like they've always had in the past.
Maybe it has something to do with the youth movement ushered in by Leow.
The talent is always there, but I'll never forget how Ballack almost single-handedly dragged them to the finals in 2002 world cup.If he played vs Brazil, the result might have been different.
I remember how Matthaus and Samner drove the Mannschaft to titles in 1990 and 1996 respectively.
I remember Karl Heinz Rummenigge doing so in 1982 and 86, maybe not single-handedly.

I look around the present squad.I still can't pick out the obvious leader.Lahm may be captain but he's not the vocal, lead-by-example type who is on everyone's case when they step out of line type of character they need to win it.
Ozil is a gem, but I'm not sure he alone can Marshall the squad from an attacking standpoint.

I never thought the day would come when coogar would support a German side. But I am fed up with Spain winning everything so I guess I'll join you for just this once. . .

StarBoard: dayokanu,
Thierry Henry had his fair share of chokes, but that is not to excuse Robben..
I'll excuse Euro 2000 on his behalf because France eventually won.But Robben has had chances to win three major titles in 2seasons and hasn't done anything to vindicate himself in the vent of a loss.
The world cup in 2010 presented him with two clear chances to win it.then yesterday's debacle appeared.

As per the German team, I wouldn't write them off completely.What I observed is a lack of a natural leader and a rallying point.Previous German sides have had a Matthaus,a Koehler, a Sammer, a klinsmann, a Ballack to rally them for the common cause.Now aside from maybe Neuer and Lahm, who arent on the level of those i listed: I'm not sure there is someone who can rally the troops.

There is the obvious sprinkling of talent, Schweisteiger, Muller, maybe Kroos, I think they can go far. Winning it might be another thing entirely but I won't write them off completely.My only fear is that this loss won't scar these players to the point where it affects them for good.

montelik: I also don't agree with Rio in midfield. But I believe the article some up my feelings perfectly. We badly need new ideas, blood, energy, creativity and movement in central midfield. I was so happy with the way we started last season. Even though we were playing very open and somewhat careless football, I love the new direction and could see the improvements every game. I remember Ruudie craving for us to return to slow, cumbersome and super cautious but safe and effective style of 10/11 while I was happy to have team evolve a different style even if at risk. Eventually injuries and other circumstances meant we returned to our old pattern (even bringing back Scholes).

I really hope this summer SAF goes back to what we tried to do last season. Our interests in Kagawa, Hummels, Hazards e.t.c suggest we will hopefully try to go in that direction again, but this time hopefully we will be better reinforced. The plus now is some of our players will be more experienced and motivated after the way the season ended.

chic2pimp: It's quite simple Attack wins Hearts and Minds and on the odd occasions trophies but Defence ultimately wins games and ultimately championships.
Look at Inter,Greece,Porto I could go on and on.
Defence solidity is the foundation those titles won by those teams was built on.
Ofcourse Bayern have only themselves to blame. So do Barca really.

I see them going quite far but don't see them winning it.
Word on the street is that Hodgson is going to play the exact same way come euro 2012 and I can't say I blame him.

nateevs: In your wisdom please explain how all this don't defy all odds. Coming here talking bollocks. If you cannot stand the truth, go electrocute yourself.

payless: I will say it again, sorry if you are offended by anything. I have a nice job and at the same time I have absolutely no intention to remain there past November this year. I venture into different things and I know which one is working out well. My intention is to attend Brookings later this year for a Professional Certificate Course in Diplomacy, then head to Nigeria after that. I have other things I still look forward to doing. Man can only wish, but God has His own plan for all of us.