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Ishilove:
It takes the grace of God to be married to certain men. Some are dogs who will chase anything in skirts, despite the beautiful wives they have at home

Beauty is vain, it is not the key to keeping a man, beauty with character is. Do you specifically know what 'hell' the guy is currently going through in the hands of the so called 'beautiful wife'- beautiful on the outside, ugly on the inside na im plenty pass jo.

dominique:
A marriage of less than a year, some men are truly scum tueh!

While some ladies are truly queens of scum too. Do you know what rubbish the wife is throwing at him in the house? You gals just think its just about beauty, nansense, beauty is vain, character is gain. beauty without character makes the man a scum, and that makes the two of them (man and woman).

Iwant2know:
Baba discussion should be confidential. Jorlov3@gmail.com. 07065158576.

The questions are straight forward, they deserve straight forward answers.

Iwant2know:
I am interested baba.. Here is my contact. 07065158576.

Ok, so how long have you been on Uber and what's your current rating? and hope you have the upfront payment of N35k?

Kasby2233:
. 09098627201

Ok, so how long have you been on Uber and what's your current rating? and hope you have the upfront payment of N35k?

So another camry 2005 is available, 35k weekly rent, 35k upfront deposit. Mature driver with sense of responsibility and good rating on Uber. Drop your contact here.

BayoManuels01:
Available Uber/Taxify Driver here
Experienced, Hardworking and Faithful.
You will never hear stories that touch.
Do you have a car and seek a partner?
Then look no further
Kindly contact on 07056068734

na wa o! For the past how many months now that you've been shouting the same thing here, are you sure you are not a problem yourself? Cos if not you should have found a partner by now. Haba. Just saying anyway. I guess you are looking for a very convenient agreement for yourself. You'd tarry well.

Romeo3:
Terms and conditions.

The story above has a lot of parts that favours the complainant. There are always 3 sides to a story.

When the complainant was agreeing to terms and conditions, he didn't make it public. There are many parts to this issue that was conveniently hidden. I refuse to be drawn into an online back and forth squabble, especially when everyone waiting for the downfall of us have drawn out daggers. There are more mature ways to settle an issue, and that is the path i insist on towing.

Oga, you dont run business on arrogance, as simple as that. Your clients (as long as you agree to take them on board) are YOUR KINGS. You are there to serve them, not the other way round. Except they forced themselves on you. Nobody is bringing out dagger to run you guys down, the very first day you guys decided to run your business based on arrogance, you have already 'daggered yourselves'. Its just coming to light bit by bit. I am watching this una movie in 7D sha, with pop corn for hand.

prodigyx1:
My anger right now can't be fully understood.

This guy called Ogunvic (Ogunleye Kayode) is the most foolishly proud, arrogant and irresponsible person I have ever met.

I'LL TRY TO EXPLAIN IN DETAILS


Towards the end of last year December I was fortunate to meet the Mech Specialist Mr Gazzuzz who sold me a faultless Tokunbo Toyota Corolla. After negotiations and all documents handed over I decided to meet Ogunvic and try out his over exaggerated Fleet Management.

We scheduled a couple of meetings and a few calls and in all he was very boastful about the system he runs and kept guaranteeing its 'foolproof'. Here's a summary of his terms and conditions:

Partner to handle all maintenance and mechanical faults.
Repairs to be handled by the insurance company will be treated "DULY".
FleetXpert agrees to "Notify" partner of any mechanical problems with the vehicle.
Partner provides "N30, 000 worth of Fuel + Total Card"
Partner to provide driver with
A Brand New Phone
Spectranet 4G Modem
Car Charger

In the event of unfortunate events Fleetexpert pays Partner 60% of whatever driver makes after fuel cost deduction "before the unfortunate event".

After he then added an eye sore that Partner to pay N20,000 Driver Registration Fee which was not included in the contract. I specifically told him that's not possible cuz I see no reason for such from the partner.

As at the time I had no cash on me for all he listed and I asked him to handle the 15k Spectranet, 30k fuel, 1k total card and getting fire extinguisher, car wash and floor carpets and car charger (estimated around 10k) totaling approximately 56k. I told him to deduct 20k off the weekly agreed till its fully paid off and he reluctantly agreed. I went ahead and got his specified phone.

Being concerned about my car and its usage plus stories I read here on Nairaland about car theft and vandalism since most drivers don't have gated parking space. I asked him to search for a driver living around the mainland (preferably any in and around Surulere, Akoka, Anthony, Maryland, Isolo) and for security I asked the car be parked in my office complex which was by the bus stop expressway so it's easy for the driver to come out and pick up. With this I can also keep an eye on the conditions of my car. This offer was obviously turned down. He gave his reasons so I agreed.

I further asked if whenever I needed to use the car for work delivery or outing the driver could assist with discounted payment for service rendered and he agreed.

All doubts crosschecked I made up my mind to entrust him with the car regardless. On Friday 5th of January I handed over the car. He agreed to get a driver and do all necessary arrangements for the car to begin work as soon as possible.

Next day I checked my tracker and saw series of movements between Magboro in ogun state, lekki, ilupeju and ikeja. I called him to ask if he got a driver and didn't let me know but he wasn't picking so I asked Mr reliable Gazzuzz and he explained to me that he lives in magboro, works around ilupeju and has an office in lekki. So I relaxed even with sadness about the car gaining so much miles and no money to show. Kayode later called and with a tone said he wasn't going to continue with me. I called back apologized and explained my concern and we resolved the matter. He said he'll try to get a driver soon.

On Monday 8th he informed me he got a driver (Emmanuel Offikwu) staying at Agege and he's concluding discussions. So with hope work will start. According to the driver he started work on Thursday even though tracker shows lekki movements Wednesday and overnight. I found out later from Driver that the day he collected the car he took it to a mechanic to fix the silencer cuz it was damaged by Ogunvic and he kept it from me (remember the agreement signed). Now I kept silent.

By Tuesday 16th I called Ogunvic Kayode and asked for an update on my pay. He said driver made around 57k and he would make calculations and give me a breakdown. I said ok and waited. 2 days later nothing sent. I called and he said busy and I should remember I owed him. I still said no problem let me just know the breakdown so I know whats left or not. But by weekend kayode still didn't send anything.

Now according to kayode, driver remits monday evenings, he makes calculations and sends money to partners on Tuesdays. So by Tuesday I was hopeful I'll get a call this time.

In the evening around 6pm, I got a call from the driver and the news was he had an accident. While reversing he bashed into another car at lekki. Matters escalated and the car was in the police station. I asked since when he said on Sunday 21st. I asked if kayode was informed he said yes, on Monday. He said he was trying to handle the matter quietly but since it'll involve the insurance company to fix he decided to call me. He also told me he made 80k+ and gave Kayode 60,000 and he bought 7k full tank and 4k extra in keg. After his call I called Kayode and without blaming him for not telling me as per the contract I asked what he was doing to resolve it. He said he would call the other car owner and negotiate for car to leave station for repairs. I said ok no problem. I immediately called the insurance company (Axa Mansard) and with no hesitation the very nice lady (Taiwo who I also got from Mr Reliable Gazzuzz) said no problems, I should provide pictures of both cars, police report and repair estimates and that in a few days it'll be done. I smiled and thanked God for insurance.

Next morning Wednesday around 10am I called Kayode to ask how far, he said he had stuffs to do and will find time later in the afternoon to see the third party and apologize and issue a post dated check and avoid the police. This is a matter already at the Police Station.

He said he just got to know on Tuesday and I told him I didn't care and all I wanted was the car out ASAP. (All this while I was speaking calmly and he's the type that when he's speaking he wants you to take his opinion but when you speak he'll keep interrupting and press his opinion whenever there's a problem.)

He said I was blaming him and he got angry and told me if I don't want to "LISTEN" to him I should go and get the car out myself. I ended the call.

For a car that's been at the police station going to 4 days Kayode still has stuffs to do and my car was not important enough.

I called the driver and asked for the third party number. I called and he said we could meet at the station since he was close and that the police were even asking for the car owner to confirm insurance. I left my office immediately, went home to get all original papers and insurance certificate, I called the driver and asked him to join us so we resolved everything. I took an UBER and after 30mins on trip I called the driver only for him to tell me Kayode asked him not to come. I tried everything to explain to him the importance of him being there to witness any discussion but still he was adamant about coming.

Now my fire was burning very bad.


I got to the Lekki station where the car was and the police woman in charge told me the other guy had waited almost 2 hrs but left minutes before I arrived. The police further asked for the driver and I said he was on his way that we should start processing any thing.

She clearly refused and said all parties involved must be present to confirm who is who. So I was stuck. I tried to call the driver and after very many tries he didn't pick. The police also called and he didn't pick up. I called the third party and he said once the driver comes I should let him know and he'll return.

At this point I had to narrate this story to the police lady who asked for Kayode's number and called him. In my presence she asked kayode to come over so everything can be resolved amicably. Kayode bluntly refused and said whenever he has chance he'll come. According to the police lady she said Kayode was arrogant and rude and I noticed her say kayode should chill since she was the one calling with her own credit he had no right to shout at her or refuse her talking. Kayode kept saying if he's to come it'll be later in the evening that he was busy. The lady was shocked and said is he expecting the 2 car owners to wait all day till evening when he has chance.

She referred me to the case section and the DCO asked an officer to follow us to the Kayode's office there in Lekki. We got there in pretence as clients for the secretary and as expected Kayode wasn't there. I was told by the police to file a different case against him at the ilupeju station close to Kayode's usually location for defrauding. So I left.

On my way I called Mr Reliable Gazzuzz and narrated my situation he asked me to calm down and give him chance to speak to kayode.

Few minutes later Kayode called me and stupidly said the reason he asked the driver to wait was because driver didn't have transport fare and he was to send him money but was busy. That he'll send soon. I said no problem so I faced home. By the time I got home around 5pm the driver called and was apologizing that he didn't have cash and also went to the hospital for treatment and that's why he didn't pick. I said no problem, call the other party and schedule a meeting time and inform me so we all settle the matter.

Next day Thursday I called the driver and he said the other guy agreed to Friday.

Friday morning around 9am I called the driver and he said he was on his way to the station and the other guy said to meet by 11am. I quickly got dressed and called Kayode and he said the driver told him the night before and he'll be leaving home soon that he'll pick me up at my office so we can go together. I told him driver was on his way there so I'll wait. By 10:30, kayode said he's almost at my place. I called the driver and to my surprise he said Kayode asked him to wait at his ilupeju location so we could all go together.

11am I called Kayode and he said he's close. Called driver and he said no sign of kayode. I called the other guy and acted like I didn't know there was a fixed time. He said he was at the station and waiting for the driver who he agreed to meet. So to buy time I said I was coming and he should please wait.

11:30am no sign of kayode so I called an UBER and left. I called the driver and told him to inform kayode I will go ahead amd they should meet me there. Getting close to the station I called Kayode and he said he had to handle certain things but will be leaving soon. When I got to the station I met the Gentleman waiting in the heat. He obviously wasn't happy and asked for the driver. I said they were coming. After a few minutes I called Kayode and he said they were coming, further said he didn't want anything to do with police and I said not a problem. We can speak with the guy outside and the driver and I can go in resolve the issue and be gone. For him coming is just to assist the driver incase he needs to pay money to the police or make negotiations or stand as his guarantor.

After 1 hour no sign of kayode nor the driver and the other guy vexing and me consoling. Driver stopped picking his calls.

I decided to plead with the police and ask if anything else can be done, I wrote a statement and she sent to the DPO. The DPO gave the condition that I first fix the other guys car and mine remains till its done.

Till now, kayode hasn't called, driver hasn't called.

This is someone who claims to run a Fleet Management Company. No regard for Partner, No remorse whatsoever.

My car still seats at the Police Station pending the quote from the other guy who says his car was bought brand new and as it's still under warranty can't give it to any mechanic except the car manufacturer. Who he says will get repair quote out by Monday.

That's the current situation and he's here still advertising for more cars to collect and damage while ripping off partners and favoring drivers.

Note I have call records on the Wednesday and yesterday Friday between kayode and I. I have tried attaching but doesn't seem to load.

The first day I had a conversation with this so called Ogunvic was the day I was CERTAIN, he lacks business management skills and I came here on this thread to write about it. You can confirm it. He is the most arrogant, proud and uncultured individual going into business that I have ever encountered in my life. I already said things like this will happen and I pity those that still deal with him. Although birds of a feather will always flock together. so people of similar like-minds like him will be able to do business with him. Sorry for this experience bro, its the signature of a terrible and untrained and unskilled individual.

Spunkalator:
Sorry, i meant this, cooldood, is this still available?

Why do you ask? Thought we've started talking on this.

justintime250:
I'm very much interested.my number is 09080044376.I look forward to hear from you.

Thanks in anticipation.

Drop your whatsapp number.

GAZZUZZ:
speak for your self.

I just gave out 2 vehicles and collected up front payment on both.

Nice response.

Black Toyota Camry 2005 available for rental agreement with a driver with good rating on both taxify and uber.

Upfront Deposit before starting: #35k
2 Guarantors
Weekly rate: #35k

Drop a message for me and let's deal.

Cheers.

chillex8:
What happened ?

Its another one.

Hello,

A camry 2005 is available for e-taxi. Driver with experience on Uber/ taxify, 40k weekly rental, 40k upfront deposit, 2 guarantors. Drop your number here. Let's discuss.

estelle6763:
I just left a relationship with someone that has a personality disorder (confirmed by the therapist) but we didn't go deep into everything for her to confirm if he was a narcissist. I am convinced though because I know my experience, everything I searched pointed to it.
It was the worst experience of my life. It was and is very traumatizing and it seems like it will never end but it will only get better. It was only a short while yet it was very manipulative, abusive and disorienting. I was made to think I was the one with a mental issue when I've been perfectly sane all my life and in relationships with people.
I didn't know what I was doing anymore.
I started realising myself when we stopped talking for like 2-3 days between a hoover and it was like I woke up from a trance. I felt mentally drained and lost.
Immediately I found out what it was that was going on, I went NO CONTACT.
I loved him, absolutely, but I care about and love myself too. He is not capable of love as a narcissist, he will only act out what he understands as love for as long as he can and it is not love because it is still about SELF. Control, manipulation, gaslighting, devaluation, etc. This is what a narcissist is about in a relationship.
If your girl is a narcissist, she cannot connect on a natural level that normal people can.
Very unhealthy for your mental and general health.
Continue to get educated and I hope you can make up your mind.

Interesting. I will be patient with my girl for a while and try to sacrifice a great deal for her going forward.I believe love trumps all. Let me see how it goes for another 3months. We're in our third month and I truly care n love her.

estelle6763:
Jesus is able to do exceedingly. Absolutely. But you do not see fire and stay put.
Seeing this before you marry someone, you still choose to be with them "praying and hoping", when you marry them and it becomes worse, don't ask God why He allowed you to marry that kind of person nor say God didn't answer your prayers when you already saw the signs earlier.
It's like being in a relationship with someone that can kill you, yet you stay, "praying" that they don't.

God answers prayers and changes people but God also wants you to choose someone that respects and loves you.

You're not married, it is still a premarital relationship. Make the right choice before you end up losing yourself to a narcissist while waiting for a miracle.

The most important thing here is for you to be first of all sure that this person has a personality disorder at all, and then narcissism.
You should read information off the internet and measure up what you learn with your girl's personality....and then probably talk to a professional to be sure.

I have been silently praying that I am wrong about my suspicion that she's NPD,but going through several articles on it and comparing the traits with hers objectively,she displays Grandiose Narcissistic traits. What can I do, I care about her.

estelle6763:
Lol. Wow. This information is so sad.
You're telling someone to continue with a narcissist because of love? Stay in an abusive relationship because of love? That's not love, that would be codependency or something.
..
Narcissist, self-awareness? Change according to will?
Ah. You really should get properly informed about narcissism, you would not be saying all these if you really knew what it was about. You will tell the person to run as quick and far as they can!

I am saddened by this,cos I truly care about her.so if there's no remedy for her,it saddens my heart.

Zykod:
If she's refusing to make changes, you will snap at some point if....she needs to make changes while, you need to be tolerant, it's a two-way approach...Both of you need to meet in the middle, she works on herself, you tolerate her. If not, the relationship will suffer spikes and will be far from what can be called a healthy relationship !

I am a resilient person and give people benefit of doubt so I know I could be very tolerant and I have been with her. The only thing is she's unwilling to shift.She doesn't see anything wrong in what I ask of her to drop.

Zykod:
Unlike psychology that preac.hes NP.D has no cure, the backbone of N.PD is " se.lf ", sel.f here is the direct opposite direction of what Ch.ristia.nity preaches, if you adore the chick and mean well for her, introduce her to C.hris.t, this is the beginn.ing to correct the situ.ation. Invol.ve her in " in.ternal Chris.tian ri.tuals ", worship conferences, bible reading, and the truth of the gosp.el will break the m..ould in heart, note correction is dependent of the Ho.ly.spi.rit, and the willin.gness of the chi.ck to want to make changes, witho.ut a desi.re to change, nothing can be done, but the pa.th to tr.eatment is exactly what the new test.ta.ment doct.rine is a.bout.

Pray that the H.oly.sp.irit brings conviction...This is the m.ost effe.ctive trea.tment if you want ta.ngible results.


Let me know how it goes after a while trying these tips, i would relaly love to know how it plays out.

Good luck with your chick.

Thankyou.

Zykod:
O.ne thin.g is su.re, the env.iron.ment and associ.ation pl.ays signif.icant ro.le in N.PD, intr.od.uce y.our c.hick

t.o ne.w act.ivities so sh.e c.an m.ake ne.w frie.nds, th.is op.ens up n.ew c.liq, n.ew oppo.rtunities an.d t.akes aw.ay

the bo.nd betwee.n her a.nd h.er env.iron.ment wh.ere s.he imb.ibes ma.ny be.hav.ioral con.ditions. If she's a

Christia.n, i adv.ice she ch.anges he.r ch.u.rch, i advi.ce and reco.mme.nd t.hat y.ou intro.duce soot.hing,slo.w

mu.sic t.o th.e rou.tine, th.is rel.ax.es the br.ain an.d wi.th a m.ore pro.acti.ve syst.em, sh.e ca.n re.lax a.nd se.e li.fe

in a diff.erent w.ay, anywa.ys, let me sum.m.arize

1. C.hange of fr.iendsh.ip an.d asso.cia.tion is im.porta.nt

2. Ch.ange of av.enue.s sh.e g.ets inf.orma.tion, lik.e med.ia, new.s ou.tlet.s, etc

3. Ch.ange of chur.ch/wor.ship cent.re

4. Intr.oduce mu.sic

5. Introd.uce n.ew act.ivit.ies

6. N.ew env.iron.ment is im.portant, inv.olve h.er in s.ocial acti.vitie.s th.at deriv..es suppo.rting ot.her pe.ople, it

wi.ll creat.e a pul.l wh.ere " good.ne.ss " flow.s ou.t of h.er, th.is pr.e-cond.iti.ons h.er a.nd in.du..ces h.er t.o

th.ink lov.e fi.rst rath.er tha.n s.elf

7. In.volve her in B.ible re.ading cl.as.ses and corp.or.ate pr.ay.er

Hmm...interesting.What if she's the very stubborn type and can be very difficult to persuade her to change her source of information or church,etc,cos I believe her information source is part of the problem.

bluetrails7:
My scratch pad.I'll read this later.

Please don't read it, not for pub consumption




Narcissist -

A person with no soul. The only thing bigger than their inflated ego is the void that they demand others to fill.
The narcissist was left without an act once their puppet cut it's strings

narcissist
Someone so full of themselves that they think they can do no wrong. Believes they are always right, the best at everything and looks down on everyone else.


Narcissist
Someone who has little to no empathy, manipulates others, gaslights (makes others doubt their reality), lies incessantly, believes their own lies. They make you doubt your emotions and then call you crazy. They rage for absolutely no reason and you end up apologizing. It can be a parent, friend, brother, sister, boss, spouse. In the beginning they love bomb you into believing they are prince/princess charming. Then they slowly start to abuse you to have you believe you are insane. It's all to control you



Narcissist
1. Someone who always seems to turn the situation onto themselves. Instead of thinking about the other person they tend to focus on themselves and how they can benefit from the person or situation.

2. A person who is very good at manipulating others into doing what they want or making the other person feel that they're wrong in a situation when its clearly them. They love to make the other person feel like they're the crazy one.

3. A narcissist is someone who is arrogant, an exhibitionist, vain, manipulative, and greedy for admiration. Often caused by childhood trauma and PTSD. Narcissists do not do well with sharing, especially when it comes to relationships and friendships do to their need of attention and admiration. They crave attention and often get jealous when others receive it more than them. Narcissist cannot be helped because they usually do not know that they are narcissistic.






Narcissist
Someone who is full of themselves and think that they're bigger and better then everyone who is around them. Someone who is very self centerd and self assuard.



Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder in which there is a long-term pattern of abnormal behavior characterized by exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of understanding of others' feelings.[2][3] People affected by it often spend a lot of time thinking about achieving power or success, or about their appearance.[3] They often take advantage of the people around them.[3] The behavior typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs across a variety of situations.[3]






Signs and symptoms

Persons with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) are characterized by their persistent grandiosity, excessive need for admiration, and a personal disdain for, and lack of empathy for other people.[7][8] As such, the person with NPD usually displays the behaviors of arrogance, a sense of superiority, and actively seeks to establish abusive power and control over other people.[9] Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition different from self-confidence (a strong sense of self); people with NPD typically value themselves over other persons to the extent that they openly disregard the feelings and wishes of others, and expect to be treated as superior, regardless of their actual status or achievements.[7][10] Moreover, the person with narcissistic personality disorder usually exhibits a fragile ego (Self-concept), an inability to tolerate criticism, and a tendency to belittle others in order to validate their own superiority.[10]

The DSM-5 indicates that persons with NPD usually display some or all of the following symptoms, typically without the commensurate qualities or accomplishments:[7][10]

Grandiosity with expectations of superior treatment from other people
Fixated on fantasies of power, success, intelligence, attractiveness, etc.
Self-perception of being unique, superior, and associated with high-status people and institutions
Needing continual admiration from others
Sense of entitlement to special treatment and to obedience from others
Exploitative of others to achieve personal gain
Unwilling to empathize with the feelings, wishes, and needs of other people
Intensely envious of others, and the belief that others are equally envious of them
Pompous and arrogant demeanor






Associated features

People with NPD tend to exaggerate their skills and accomplishments as well as their level of intimacy with people they consider to be high-status. Their sense of superiority may cause them to monopolize conversations[10] and to become impatient or disdainful when others talk about themselves.[7] In the course of a conversation, they may purposefully or unknowingly disparage or devalue the other person by overemphasizing their own success. When they are aware that their statements have hurt someone else, they tend to react with contempt and to view it as a sign of weakness.[7] When their own ego is wounded by a real or perceived criticism, their anger can be disproportionate to the situation,[10] but typically, their actions and responses are deliberate and calculated.





To the extent that people are pathologically narcissistic, they can be controlling, blaming, self-absorbed, intolerant of others' views, unaware of others' needs and the effects of their behavior on others, and insist that others see them as they wish to be seen.[7] Narcissistic individuals use various strategies to protect the self at the expense of others. They tend to devalue, derogate, insult and blame others, and they often respond to threatening feedback with anger and hostility.[11] Since the fragile ego of individuals with NPD is hypersensitive to perceived criticism or defeat, they are prone to feelings of shame, humiliation and worthlessness over minor or even imagined incidents.[10] They usually mask these feelings from others with feigned humility or by isolating themselves socially, or they may react with outbursts of rage, defiance, or by seeking revenge.[7][8] The merging of the "inflated self-concept" and the "actual self" is seen in the inherent grandiosity of narcissistic personality disorder. Also inherent in this process are the defense mechanisms of denial, idealization and devaluation.[12]





According to Leonard Groopman and Arnold Cooper, the following factors have been identified by various researchers as possible factors that promote the development of NPD:[21]

An oversensitive temperament (personality traits) at birth.
Excessive admiration that is never balanced with realistic feedback.
Excessive praise for good behaviors or excessive criticism for bad behaviors in childhood.
Overindulgence and overvaluation by parents, other family members, or peers.
Being praised for perceived exceptional looks or abilities by adults.
Severe emotional abuse in childhood.
Unpredictable or unreliable caregiving from parents.
Learning manipulative behaviors from parents or peers.
Valued by parents as a means to regulate their own self-esteem.




Narcissistic personality disorder is rarely the primary reason for people seeking mental health treatment. When people with NPD enter treatment, it is typically prompted by life difficulties or to seek relief from another disorder, such as major depressive disorder, substance use disorders, bipolar disorder, or eating disorders,[8] or at the insistence of relatives and friends.[citation needed] This is partly because individuals with NPD generally have poor insight and fail to recognize their perception and behavior as inappropriate and problematic due to their very positive self-image.[2]

Treatment for NPD is centered around psychotherapy.








1. a person who is overly self-involved, and often vain and selfish.


2. Psychoanalysis. a person who suffers from narcissism, deriving erotic gratification from admiration of his or her own physical or mental attributes.



The noun narcissist today means someone only concerned with his or her own interests or predicament and its origin is from Greek mythology. Narcissus was a hunter who was exceptionally beautiful and also just as proud of his looks, ignoring other people around him. He was punished by the gods by falling in love with his own reflection in a pool of water. Not realizing it was himself he loved, he eventually died from unrequited love.

The noun narcissist refers to someone intensely concerned with only his or her own self or interests and who seems to forget that others exist.





Narcissistic personality disorder — one of several types of personality disorders — is a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others.




t the same time, people with narcissistic personality disorder have trouble handling anything they perceive as criticism, and they can:

Become impatient or angry when they don't receive special treatment
Have significant interpersonal problems and easily feel slighted
React with rage or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior
Have difficulty regulating emotions and behavior
Experience major problems dealing with stress and adapting to change
Feel depressed and moody because they fall short of perfection
Have secret feelings of insecurity, shame, vulnerability and humiliation





Complications

Complications of narcissistic personality disorder, and other conditions that can occur along with it, can include:

Relationship difficulties
Problems at work or school
Depression and anxiety
Physical health problems
Drug or alcohol misuse
Suicidal thoughts or behavior






Narcissism, in lay terms, basically means that a person is totally absorbed in self. The extreme narcissist is the center of his own universe. To an extreme narcissist, people are things to be used. It usually starts with a significant emotional wound or a series of them culminating in a major trauma of separation/attachment. No matter how socially skilled an extreme narcissist is, he has a major attachment dysfunction. The extreme narcissist is frozen in childhood. He became emotionally stuck at the time of his major trauma of separation/attachment.







In my work with extreme narcissist patients I have found that their emotional age and maturity corresponds to the age they experienced their major trauma. This trauma was devastating to the point it almost killed that person emotionally. The pain never was totally gone and the bleeding was continuous. In order to survive, this child had to construct a protective barrier that insulates him/her from the external world of people. He generalized that all people are harmful and cannot be trusted.

The protective insulation barrier he constructed is called a false persona. He created a false identity. This identity is not the true person inside. The many types of false personas or identities that an extreme narcissist creates can vary.







Some narcissists may have the ability to change into a variety of identities according to the situation. The wounded child inside may choose to present a front as a “bad ass” and tough individual. He may look, by appearance, intimidating and scary to the average person. He could also play the “nice guy/person” whom everyone likes. A corporate type version can be one that is diplomatic, proper, and appearing to care but in reality does not. Another very likeable extreme narcissist can be the one that chooses the comedian role. He is the life of the party and has everyone in stitches, making them laugh constantly. Everyone wants to include this person because they are a lot of fun.

Try to get close or ask personal questions as to how he is internally doing and feeling and you will find is that he will quickly distract you. They will sidestep the question with another joke, making you suddenly forget what you were asking. Narcissists can be very skilled at dodging and ducking personal questions. If you press them, they will then slot you as “unsafe” and will begin to avoid you and exclude you from their life.




There is also the success oriented narcissist. She will be your friend and keep you close to her as long as you are useful. Once you do not have anything more to offer and she has taken all they wanted from you, you are history. You are no longer desired, wanted, or sought.

I remember a significant half dozen of these in my life. One narcissist in particular avoids me like the plague because he knows that I do not ultimately plan my life around whether people like me or not. Hence my behavior cannot be controlled by him. He is threatened by my self-assuredness. I’m not safe to him. It does not matter that I have helped him in critical moments of his life. When he realized that he could not control me to make him look good when I was with him, he dropped me like a heavy weight. I received no more phone calls and was taken off his radar screen.




Another extreme narcissist stopped calling me when I got my Ph.D. I believe that, in his insecurity, he could no longer look “better” than me and be the focal person. As a result, he felt threatened that I had a more powerful image than he did. I think it is silly because I do not care about whether people have degrees to validate their intrinsic value as a human being.

In my ministerial past, I have had several colleagues that I considered to be like blood brothers. We had sworn honesty and loyalty to each other. Once I opened up my weaknesses to them and then asked them to reciprocate, they looked for excuses to label me and reject me. The more I pressed them about their lack of being forthcoming and failing at their own promise of commitment to the friendship, the more vehement they became at avoiding disclosure of their warts to me. Of course, I already knew many of their flaws and already had no problem accepting them. Now it was their turn and they shut down and put up the thick wall.

What a powerful article.My previous boss displays most of the traits here.I always told my colleagues that he's narcissistic but they didn't understand.

Op,if you have a galfriend that has this disorder,what's your advice on how to deal with her.If she was raised by only her mum.[img][/img][color=][/color]

dreamchaser14:
Full time. Yes I can, What kind of car and what are the terms and conditions?

Camry 2005, drop your no I'd buzz you over whatsapp.

HastalavistaU:
Please I am an experience driver, Uber ready with good ratings...

I can do 40k if car is in a very good shape and not a fuel sucking demon typo car.

Happy Sunday

Drop your whatsapp no.I'd buzz you. The car is solid.

Tombrook0:
Hello
Please I need a partner with a Car to partner with on Taxify.
I reside in AKOKA.
I can be reach on 07061960316
Thanks

Are you an experienced driver and can you deliver 40k weekly without stories?

dreamchaser14:
Hello guys. I'm interested in driving for Uber on rental basis. I currently have an uber rating of 4.85. I stopped driving for Uber after I got a 9-5 job but I'm available now. I'm trustworthy, professional and friendly. Kindly get in touch on 08122191803.

But you'd still use the car to be jobhunting again I guess or are you in it full-time now? Can you deliver 40k weekly?

Seyifunmi12:
I will love to discuss further my contact is 08032468366

Will buzz you tomorrow.

Another Camry 2005 is available for uber/taxify.

Professional and experienced driver to deliver 40k weekly on rental.

Other terms will be discussed.

Cheers.

cross8701:
I don't think he was initially being rude and more like a way of speaking. I read the package and it didn't come across as particularly unclear. It's N50k weekly before deductions are made and this where terms and conditions come to play. Also I don't think one needs an MBA to successfully run any business. The most successful CEOs don't have nor need an MBA. When we are online, what someone writes may sound completely different from what another person reads.

Again, another information from another person, by the way, on the doc I received there is nowhere where N50k was quoted, either before deductions or after, you can speak for yourself, you cant speak for another, especially where there are all kinds of t&cs flying around from the same 'supposed company'. Oga, the most successful CEOs went for training and keep attending all kinds of training to sharpen themselves, if you dont catch the drift, its your bag. Again, if you dont see the initial comment as being rude, then you guys will certainly work perfectly together, good luck to you, cos you understand his 'rude ways', but for me, I dont and I cant deal with such. kashiko?

ogunvic41:
Did u see sample/for instance in the calculations? Did u see 60:40 after fuel consumed? I have sent my T&C to over 50 people on this thread only u complained of be deceived...OGA U HAVE PERSONAL ISSUES. I WONT REPLY U AGAIN, I REPEAT GIVE UR COROLLA TO SOMEONE ELSE...I DONT LIKE COROLLA EVERYONE ON THIS THREAD KNOWS AM A PEUGEOT PERSON

Where did you see me mention that I've been deceived?your conscience won't let you rest.if you like send the doc to 1 million people,it concerns me less.I don't have to think like the others,do I?As a financial and strategic investor,I scrutinize any agreement before executing.if you're too big and arrogant to be evaluated and scrutinized,oga carry your quack t & c comot,in fact I'd reforward it back to you.don't need quack doc prepared by quack to be executed by quack managers.

Romeo3:
no corolla will use 30k fuel and make a return of 110,000. price quoted was "for example" purposes.

This clarification is not stated on the doc sent to me and the cars listed include corolla.you don't use verbal discussion to enter agreement especially when its for business purpose with expectations from all parties involved.Also I haven't bought any cars yet but was just planning to buy if your model is clearly spelt out.But its obvious I have to be coming here to get info on your business model which is unprofessional.get a sound lawyer to draft solid agreements for you guys,if not you'd soon burn your fingers as you try to grow.

ogunvic41:
Only u complained... I only said ur mathematics is bad
I have been managing cars for over 4 months now I didn't make it public.... I don't need ur car bro...I hate corolla...if u don't understand the calculations must u make it public? Aside cars I manage for client I have mine too...give ur car to a driver and get 35k to 40k weekly am not begging u for cars

Is it wrong to ask questions (which you call complain)? What is there to understand in your mathematics, you sent a document by yourself, the document shows total net earnings of financial partner as N43,000, you are here busy quoting 50k guaranteed, who's deceiving who and who doesn't understand basic calculations now. You are clearly deluded.
Why is it a problem with you if I make your service rate public? if you are sure of yourself and straight-forward in your dealings. People like you have mouth more than competence, at the end of the day, you will use mouth to either put others in trouble or yourself. Again, I say this, you are a disaster waiting to happen, go and learn management skills, being able to drive, is not the same as being able to run a successful business.