₦airaland Forum

Happy father's day, The man/father is the head of the home,he provide food,pays the rent,cloth the family,in the course of these,he sometimes forget himself i.e making sacrifices to make ends meet.But when the children grow up,they tend to give more to the mother than the father,some even forget their father.if a child gives the father 10k,it means the mother has gotten 40k.Why?,is the father not important or is it that mothers brainwashed these children or that children are more emotionally attached to their mothers.

Life is hard in nigeria,due to lack of jobs and an enabling environment to do business:no good road,constant electricity,clean water,poor health facilities etc,despite the huge trillions of naira that is budgeted every year by the government.Due to these factor's,individuals and corporate bodies tends to cut corners sn as to remain in business.life as a nigerian has become hellish,as the naira has nosedive against the dollar,it's now survival of the fittest.many that cannot bear the heat has travel out to other countries to seek green pastures.

CodeTemplar:
No bible verse.

Its a universal law that cuts across all religion,and races,even traditional religion and atheist that practice it,gets the benefit.

bigiyaro:
no be when you get you go give? how can you give what you don't have?

you have something,God deposited something inside everyone,giving is not only money,

Give and it shall be given on to you.If you want to receive,you must first of all give.what you give is what you get in return.give out a pair of shoes,you will receive shoes,give out money,you will receive money also.hate and you will attract hatred,ditto,love. It is a universal law that cut across all religion,tribe and races.

This is normal,it happens all the time,Some part of the earth bulges out like a ballon,i guess scientist/geographers took the picture from the moon,where are the other planets,in the sky(space) or under the sea are they not on the same plate as the earth.

frozen70:
If a man can't sponsor his marriage and the wife does that

Is he expected to Lord her, what do you mean by living in bondage ?

If you know you can't be responsible for what you should be and a woman does that, the best thing is for you to be her mumu botton and if you respect yourself you gain more

You can't be poor and be a wretched person at the same time, haba ❗

you got it right,that's the deal.

NOC1:
Some post are worthless, if they are not Lagosians who are they?
According to history the only people who can claim to be true Lagosians are those from Badagary, who eventually migrated to island with slave traders.
If you are looking for true Lagosian to govern Lagos it might be impossible. But those guys know not any other home except Lagos, they where born and brought up in Lagos.

You 've confirmed the acronym that says"lagos is no mans land".Igbo amaka is correct,

muykem:
Will you keep quiet my friend. It's a asiting governor you are talking about and is going as chairman of APC primary committee.

Is a sitting governor God,so,that is a licence to perpetuate evil.Edo is not a biafra enclave.

Spiff20:
How come Asari abandoned his Niger Delta struggle to become a Biafra frontman and stakeholder? This is funny.

Money is involved.

Ogonimilitant:
Who listens to this pig again
you think you can play religion card on Biafrans?
man, you are a lone voice in the wilderness.

This your statement shows that your security contract to guard your oil for Fulanis
has been renewed.

There are only three places for freedom fighters:
1, Prison
2, Exile
3, grave

If you are not in one of these places, you are a saboteur

Number 2 is a coward,

anthonyuncle:
they said,
lack of sex-can lead to prostate,

now
constant sex also?

btw, men that marry more than one wives don't die because of constant sexual activities

They do,marrying many wives does not make the man a sex punk,some have many wives but they have sex everyday while some with only only one wive do have sex everyday.

lyndaway:
He made a terrible mistake it either he leaves with it or do the needful

It's hellish to live with it,that is an eternal hell fire.

When a ball bounces accross a road,a clever driver knows that a child will run after it.Oshomhole knows that obaseki bus will stop @ PDP bus stop.but i dont think he knew that this will give PDP more power and political clout in the state.APC has shared their votes in Edo state.It's going to be a tough fight for both parties

aeion:
If I were a man, allowing a woman to single-handedly sponsor my wedding would be unacceptable. Any self-respecting man should be capable of funding his wedding and if not, at least contribute financially to it, along with the fiancée's contribution. You need not paint the town red or spend lavishly if you can't afford to, but the key is to spend within your means. If you've no money at all, meaning the woman will be the sole financer, then Mr., you shouldn't be thinking about getting married just yet.

that's thoughtful of you,but we have lazy alecs/gingolos who depends on women for their survival.

Scientist said the solar system comprises of the sun and the nine planets,the earth is said to rotate on it's axis.which brings day and night hence different continents have different time zones.there are celestial bodies in space that illuminates the earth,if all the planets uses the sun and the moon,hence some are said to be closer to the sun than others.with this it is clear that all the planets are sitting on the same flat plate as the earth.does other planets have their different celestial bodies,no,as mecury is said to be the closest planet to the sun.where then are the other planets located,in the sky or under the sea.the other planets are on earth,scientist chooses to separate them.

Seundrizzy:
smell lesbianism....
op are u one...
I smell lesbianism....

lazy youth,for you to perceive and recognize the odour,it means you 're swimming in it.

Boss13:
What is wrong with being old and getting your finances in order before you get married? A man can still procreate even at old age. What is the rush in getting married only to subject your wife and kids into poverty and why should it take your entire lifetime to get your SHIT together?

You need to change your mentality.

What if you made your millions before getting married,then everything went down,will your children not still suffer,money can come at anytime but children wont:meaming,you cannot give birth to a child and he grows to adulthood today,it takes time,but you can make your money within 6 months to 1yr,so,when you wait up to 60yrs to get married because you want to make million,then you have missed the mark because the children will not know their father,so it becomes a storm in a teacup.

vickydankal:
Bikonu what will I not hear in this Nairaland
So you are saying, that my husband that sees different species of ladies his office daily because of the nature of his work, I should not reduce his tank and satisfy him because I’m draining him? Lol

Op your theory is baseless and unfounded. Good food, drink, exercise, good rest etc should be enough. Let me even ask when does it become too much? How many times do I can know

some women want it everyday and that's dangerous.

cerpvad:
Stop misleading people with your conspiracy theories. Sex cannot be too much for both genders so far they eat good food and exercise well

Men that are always on top of their wife are frail look,lacks strenght,it drains a man slowly no matter the food you eat,if you swallow a cow everyday.moderation is the key.

MyVILLAGEpeople:
I left religion in 2018. I don't believe in all these religious dogmas and beliefs anymore.

But I know there is a supernatural being behind this world and I believe in him.

how do you believe in him,how do you practice your belief.

charleff512:
Your observations are very right and valid.You don't need religion to succeed but just believe there is God and ask to have a relationship with him.I go to church but I have never played church nor let the whims and caprices of man's philosophy to guide my decisions in life.But I know and believe there is God that is all that matters.

If you goes to church,then you 're religious.you 're God,he created you in his own image.

Sixfeetbelle:
And what is wrong in her marrying the man? Is it written anywhere that the man must marry the woman?

There's nothing wrong.it's done in other places like india.but in our african setting,where it is believed that the man must bore/carry the family responsibilities,it is an anomally.hence,you must endeavour to foot the bill of your marriage.

yettymuse:
do you have a hoil??

How do u mean?

Unnerve:
Everything in moderation, this still does not mean that everytime a man ejaculates, his life shortens.

Is there medical science to back this up?

Semen is the power and strenght of a man,it need to be conserve sometimes, this is why you see some women getting plumpy while their hubby get skinny,that's the secret.

GboyegaD:
It all depends on the prowess of both parties. If it is beginning to affect one adversely, then it needs be moderated.

some women 're bent on it,or else they look elsewhere.

S*x is important in marriage,it is among the oil that lubricate every marriage,but too much of it becomes boring and kills the partner slowly,especially the man,each time a man releases semens,his life gets shortens,it even lead to postrate.that's why majority of men with more than two wives do not live long

Boss13:
If you do not have the financial means to get married, DON'T GET MARRIED. This is how to continue and sustain POVERTY

If you put money first before you get married,you will be the oldest bachelor in town.marriage is all about co operation between the man and his wife.sometimes,after marriage,the door of financial prosperity opens.

"Do you know yourself". Many people do not know themselves,they wait for others to tell them about themselves.This is wrong,because you 're the only one that can know yourself only if you can observe and discern all what goes around you:the re occuring decimal,successes, failures,happy and sad moments,attractive colours,time,date and seasons.Do you keep dates and time of things that happens in your life.what you 're wearing when it happened,the date you were born.your position in your family,detail acount of your best momments.If you do not have a record of your life,then you fall into the categories of those who do not know themselves.If you keep date,you will discover that some date,time and seasons are tied to some certain events in our life,some 're positive while others are negative.if the awareness is there you can work on the positve ones av taking advantage of it while avoiding the negative ones.

The answer is simple,Nigerians 're greedy because of the value system practiced in the home,that's where a child gets his first education.What are value system:it is the value one placed on anything:Nigeria values "MONEY"than anything even "LIFE"is less important to a nigerian compared to money.so since your success in life is measured with the properties you have and the balance in your bank account in nigeria,the rat race for wealth has gone beyond normal,survival of the fittest.It's normal in nigeria.

thesicilian:
Yeah, I've seen some cases like that. What would you do if you were the mother in such situation?

I will protect my child from the predator(step father),if it get to the extreme,i will quit the marriage for the sake of my child(ren),they 're my future.

cooooooks:
1. I disagree with the whole sponsoring of wedding thing. I don't believe in bride price (I no dey buy goat).

2. All this sponsoring wahala depends on the family of the lady and the lady herself. Some, according to my babe, see it as levels. " My bride price is higher than yours" rubbish.

3. Women are sponsoring and consponsoring their marriages right now. This is not a new phenomenon.

4. Finally, the response from a co sponsoring or full sponsoring wife depends on her and you. If you act as an assjole, of course it will come up.

Payment of bride price is traditional,you can't run away from it.while weeding is a foreign practice. Bride price depend on tribe,some pay 100 naira while some pay 200 including other things,depending on the tradition of the people.