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Chilipepper:
He saw her dad washing plates :Man cancels wedding after visiting his partner's family.

Good job. I'd cancel too if it were me.
That's what we call red flag.

elobrave17:
This made it the second time I renewed my house rent where I live presently.
Last year when it was due, the Landlord called me the same day to remind me that my rent was due. I told him to give me a little time to get the money. After five days he started calling again and was mean that he doesn't do his own like that. Finally paid him in about two weeks from the date the rent expired.

Last month the rent expired for the second time. He called again exactly the same day. I told him to give me some days. I paid him on the second day. I actually borrowed some money to make it up to pay him because I don't have it complete. The next day he came around to give me the receipt. After the receipt he told me to go and pay the bar man at nearby joint for two bottles of beer for him. I didn't know what to tell him because I haven't even paid back the money I borrowed to complete my rent. I saw him at that joint two days after, he asked me about the drink I said later.

Should I buy him the drink?
Does he think I have enough money because I paid the rent immediately?
I asked the other two guys if they have paid they said no. Three of us came in the same period so we renew the same day.

If u dare, buy him they drink ONCE, that's it.... He has opened shop on your head be that. So don't dare buy it. I understand if u can't tell him off to his face, so do it this way... Continue to postpone it, BUT DON'T PAY IT. The barman knows who drank n who to ask for his money.

In d meantime, start planning to leave that house, your landlord is obviously a troublemaker

MONEY247:
Hoodlums, drug addicts and different types of wayward individuals plague parks in almost every city of the country. here in Edo state where I currently reside, the trouble of this motor park guys is alarming. The harass drivers, commuters and claim to be tax collectors.Theey even fight themselves like it's a legal job... Really I don't see any value they're adding to the economy,they just disturb..

Many claim that if they were not not in motor parks they would have been thieves...
But that's not an excuse

All government agencies should please stop this menace it's not good at all

come n see d ones at Lagos major bus stops like oshodi, mile2, iyano-ipaja etc, u go know say una own better

Hardey33:
Ehhyy that quite expensive bro
Might just sell the phone

I think it may hv come down now sha. There is no harm on calling to find out. But in all u do, DON'T give it to anyone else, fake screen full mkt oo. I Samsung screen might be expensive, but at d end of d day, IT'S MONEY WELL SPENT.

Just check d MEMBERS APP on your phone n call them.

Hardey33:
Pls, does anyone know a reliable engr. And how much samsung s21 5g screen cost. The original one
Thank you

I'M USING D EXACT SAME PHONE AND I CHANGED D SCREEN AROUND JUNE LAST YEAR, CODT ME 360K.YEAH,I TOOK IT TO SAMSUNG REPAIR SHOP AT IKEJA.
CHECK D SAMSUNG MEMVET APP ON YOUR PHONE, CALL THEM N RHRY WILL GIVE U ADDRESS OF D NEAREST SAMSUNG SHOP TO U.

fullclub:
Will add more here as a remember.. Please don't mind the little errors in my typo.. I was at work when i drafted that.

This was very insightful. Thanks alot. May God bless your hustle.

Kingdavid579:
Why should one work as a teacher?

You hv clearly never suffered in life. Pray u never do.

Namaster:
Tinubu has been a CANCER to Nigeria and Nigerians.

#4K for these RUNTS is unbelievable!

He hasn't even started. We still hv 7 years to go. I'm glad all d tribalistic iidiots who voted him are suffering n complaining d most. I hope they hv sense in 2031.

alpharoyalty:
We have a solution already.
Simply get a smart TV, phone or tablet.
Subscribe to an unlimited Internet service.
You are good to go.
There is no live sport or football game that you cannot watch on this planet earth.
Including latest movies, documentary, cartoon etc
Anything you watch on DStv can be watched on your Smart TV, tablet or phone.

plz how do i see it? I luv wrestling n that d ONLY reason I sub dstv. But d 20k+ mthly is killing. I hv a smart TV and unlimited data. How do I do it plz?

[quote author=TundeOlaoluwa32 post=131496317]That woman don buy market. [/quote Good for her. The way she humiliated that man in public was totally unspeakable. ]

Offpoint1:
Definitely a stolen phone, phone gotten from kidnapped victim or phone whom the owner has been kxlled... No amount of distress go make person sell s21 for less than 100k. Phone wey screen alone worth 300k+

I'm using this exact phone. I changed it's screen a mth ago for 360k st Samsung repair shop ikeja.

GreenxGreen:
Thunder ⚡⚡⚡ Fire 🔥🔥🔥 Anyone who go Vote the entire APC candidates again 😠😠😠

Tell d yorubas who prefer to suffer n die of poverty than see another tribe rule Nigeria.

ProjectsCityNG:
Cassava is the safest way not to lose money in life. Go ahead. You are safe

Boss, is there really mkt for it? I'm asking bcoz I don't know.

GrammarNazi1:
Jegede, do you have empathy yourself?!

Do you?

You can only take, but you cannot give!

Only leeches are like that.

U dey mind am? Later she will complain her bf/hubby used her for rituals. That's y I DON'T pity them.

Rikze:
Following the nationwide strike and shutting down of the national grid early this morning. Do you have light?


Over here in some part of Yenagoa, Bayelsa State, we had light all through yesterday afternoon till I slept off at midnight just to wake up by past 6am without light.


So please let us know the situation in your area. Please mention the name of the city, community, town and state.


Regards 😊

i hope d Agbadorians who voted this dead govt were excepted from d power outage? Rubbish!

BabbanBura:
These guys are a serious menace to morality - they turned alot of our girls to Oloshos, enticed landlords to increase rents astronomically, cajoled our youths into laziness and seeking quick fraudulent wealth, finished weak parents and elders into supporting fraud by turning blind eyes to their activities, and became the worst role models for young chaps who now see school and hard work as punishment since they can still hammer using fraud while living soft lives

Well said brother.

JaySmart4422:
I have this neighbour who rented a room and parlour self con
But the kitchen in their flat is very big as a family of 5 with plenty friends

They converted the kitchen to a Room and starting bringing their plate to the back of my bedroom window to wash

If you hear the noise of plates n pot u will pity me I can't sleep cos of constant noise n fight very loud, the whole noise feels as if it's happening in my flat.


Sometimes this plates and pots smells like a dead rat and I will be force to close my window.

I have begged this family severally to to wash their plates inside their flat but I will never listen rather they will be throwing tantrums.

Recently they made it a permanent place of washing plates n pots

So I had to involve the landlord and he asked them to stop

Since they the entire family have been in their flat insulting me calling me names.

Am becoming very uncomfortable

Right now I don't know what action to take cos I don't want to respond to any of this insult

How do I put an end to this .

long as d noise had stopped, there is nothing more to do. Let them talk n insult u all they want. Since no one is, saying anything to your face... Lock up n mind your business.

PrayWills:
Our court wedding was supposed to be on Friday. I caught her telling a married man I love you and calling each other all sweet names. I confronted her and she said she was telling of proving to me she was faithful that I should draw whatever conclusions I wanted to.

I went to work on Monday and came back and told her I wanted to pause the weeding until we could sort our issues and she said we should call it off totally.

As we speak she has moved back to her mom’s house with the two kids, what do I do?

PS: she was raised by a single mom

It's obvious to u that she is in luv with someone else, u also hv d evidence u need. What do u want us to advise u now? U better move on with your life n leave olosho alone.

Iykegodslove:
Good day everyone!! I am emotionally shattered as I type this message. I have been suspecting my wife for years now but no concrete evidence to confront her.

There is a boss of my mine who happens to be our family friend. Each time he calls my wife, she deletes the call history immediately. This has been happening for years but I keep quite because i love my wife and my children so much.

Of recent, i decided to know what is happening by hacking her call with him. Lo and behold, they are into deep relationship that my wife calls him baby. Infact, sleep has gone out of my eyes and am thinking of how to deal with the situation.

It should be noted that i am not working under the man in question only that we are church members and he has rendered countless of help to me. I am wondering what puts my wife into this mess. I am graduate but i decided not to work for anybody but to focus on my farming. I am doing well financially bcs i can boost of 500k or more every month. We are not lacking anything at all.

Please house ignore my typo and help with good advice.

Note: i dnt want to divorce my wife and am ready to forgive her bcs she has been of great help to my success and moreover, i love my family very well. What should i do to stop them?

I'm so sorry your passing through this.... I understand y u don't want divorce, but to solve this issue, u hv to pretend u do.

FIRST, act like a mad man n attack they man IN CHURCH, FULL GLARE OF EVERYONE (aim is to embarrass him), make sure his wife n kids withness it too.

Second, ambush him at night when he least expects n promise (verbally) to kill him if he doesn't desist.

NOW YOUR WIFE.

Call a family meeting n say u want divorce she she can't be faithful. SHOW THEM PROOF.

Take all your kids for DNA.

U can later forgive her, but make sure she sweats it out.

FINALLY, CHANGE CHURCH.

God bless you!

Usefulsense:
Before I commence my story, I want to specifically thank those who advised me not to travel. Your advise was borne out of genuine love and concern. One stated clearly that I should not leave known for unknown.

However, taking the bold step to leave Nigeria at the time I did was the best decision I ever made in my life. In fact, given the same scenario and even if I am 52 and my salary was #2million per month, I will still leave Nigeria.

The first 2 months was very difficult. The mistake I made was my insistence on getting accounting job. I did over 60 applications and all of them were rejected. I have no Australian experience neither do I have Australian certification.

My wifey was indeed an angle in human form. She provided the needed support. She shouldered all the financial responsibilities all by herself. This is the part that almost pushed me into depression. As an Igboman, we consider it a taboo for our women to feed, house and cloth us.

After two months, I decided it was time to re-strategize. I enrolled for a forklift training and within two week, I obtained my forklift license.
Not satisfied with that, I took some courses and did some checks that will qualify me to go into disability support work. I obtained First aid certificate, Diploma in mental health, certificate in infection prevention and control, certificate in care for the aged and disabled, police check, working with children checks, NDIS worker check, NDIS orientation certificate and many more.

I started applying for warehouse jobs. In fact, I had to reject a lot of them. I settled for one of the warehouses and it has been awesome working for the organization.

I have not gotten what I am looking for yet. I am using the warehouse to keep body and soul together. In the warehouse where I work, you will see people of different ages. from 18 years to 65 years working and making a good living. in Australia, there is always something to do.

The only thing I miss, is the big man mentality we have in Nigeria. Where I will sit in my office, call one of my staff in intercom and ask for a cup of coffee; and it will be brought to me in seconds. You can't try that rubbish here.

The level of security here is top notch. I have no fear, i move about anytime of the day/night.

After one week in Australia, I concluded that Nigeria is a completely lawless country and an animal jungle. Here everything is ordered. I am yet to hear a driver blow his car horn while driving. There are no touts, there are no omoniles. Electricity has never blinked for one second. water is constant, gas is there. I have never seen two persons fighting in the street. I have never seen a mad man or woman on the road or street beggars. The air we breath here is different from the air we breath in Nigeria.

It was in Australia that I realized that the saying in Nigeria that Nigerian police is your friend is actually true. Break the law in Nigeria and police catches you, just give them #2,000 you are off the hook. And the circle of lawlessness continues. Here, it is a different ball game. Proposing bribe will be used as evidence against you. It doesn't matter who you are. Every one is civil.

While in Nigeria I suffered malaria every month. There is no month I don't treat malaria. Since I got to this country, I have never had headache let alone malaria.

Children are doing wonderfully well at school and are already speaking through their nose.

In conclusion, I made the best choice. Even though I have not really found the kind of job I want to do, the little I am doing now contributes in paying bills and I have savings more than my monthly gross per month in Nigeria.

If you are above 45 years and have your partner already in this country, and you are an employee of a company, it is in your best interest to leave Nigeria. Provided, of course, that you are healthy and you are not lazy.

One dark side to moving abroad is that you have more chances of being divorced by your wife. This is a story for another day as I have gathered enough reason on why families divorce and will create a thread on this someday.


I am open to any question you may have.

I hv always heard there are lots of menial jobs to do in Australia, u just confirmed it. Thanks for d info. God bless.

Letuspray4niger:
Good day all, please I need ur advice

I’m the only bachelor in my neighborhood, three rented apartments. I’m in between two families, they both have three three kids each, they are all very nice people, they rendered assistance to me in any slightest opportunity that presents itself, they pack my washed clothes under the sun fold it and well arranged before I returned home. They always sweep my surroundings, when they are doing theirs.

One of them, her husband is not always around. He goes and comes once in a while, she will always like to engage me in conversation any little chance she finds me outside, knowing fully well that she is a married woman, I don’t give room for such familiarity, she always offer me food by giving it to her children to give to me. (Make I no lie I need the food cus I no fit cook) I’ll also get things for her children too.

I noticed her getting me food was getting too frequent, I started given her attitude and being very official with her, and she took caution.

The other lady is here with her husband, she will join me in my car if I’m going out maybe coincidentally. It happened she was going to my direction, also, there was a faithful day I left my apartment keys at a barbershop in front of my estate, I came back that evening looking for this barber guy his number was not connecting, I went to my neighbor's house to ask her if he knew where I can find this guy, the man was not in the house, the wife came out that she will lead me to the guys house, and me I don’t know where the guys lives.

On our way going the husband was coming back home, he saw us walking in the street of the estate, he confronted us and we told him, just yesterday I came back at about 11:30pm when this woman with her husband here came knocking at my door that her husband is accusing her of having an affair with me, that he threatened to send her parking if she dares disclose the information to me and it happened that I’m close to the husband, we both discuss about politics a lot, the other neighbor who’s husband is not always around also came out, I had to confront the husband why dragging me into ur family issues did u seen me on top ur wife, why this allegation? He said is his family issue that he will take care of it.

A this point, I’m considering taking a legal action against him for character assassination, did I do wrong for given my Neiboure’s mwife a lift Or asking for where I can locate the barber guy? I’m guilty of this)? The husband has the right to suspect, but since nothing going on between me and his wife what I’m supposed to do, should I proceed with the legal action?

Matured advice please.

Bro, collecting food regularly from a married woman, walking with her (doesn't matter d explanation) by that time of d night, chatting n talking freely with a married woman IS A NO NO NO. You're not married, when u are, you'll understand fully. Plz note that most men (like me) won't talk... Na to hurt u big time I go plan. Sth that will cripple u financially, physically or more.... U better stay off pple wife.

Jennyclay:
I have never lived in such environment and I will never live in such environment

I can’t even visit someone living in such an environment not to talk of living there myself .

Don't u think u lack common sense? Bcoz u live somewhere better doesn't make other who live here any less human. Kindly learn compassion. Thanks.

woginid967:
There are no answers.

The economy is too harsh for these unwise questions


Everyone is different

Budget is according to pocket. Simple

This might offend u, but plz think abt it..... IF A MAN REALLY NEEDS TO BUDGET TAKING A BABE OUT, THEN SHE'S SIMPLY BEYOND YOUR LEVEL.

Open up to her who u really are, by taking her to where ever u can afford. If she's yours, she'll stay, if she goes, bro move on n keep planning your future.... Budget ONLY for your future, most likely that girl who walked away will still be single by d time u get to your "future". Thanks

Btruth:
What the Bible teaches about money

Sun, 21 Jan 2024

‘Though your riches increase, do not set your heart on them.’ Psalm 62:10

Let’s settle it once and for all. If God can trust you with something small, He will trust you with more (see Luke 16:10, 2 Corinthians 9:6-11). But His blessings come with certain conditions, and here are four you need to honour.

1) Don’t try to claim credit. God told the Israelites, ‘You may say to yourself … “My hands have produced this wealth for me.” But remember the LORD … for it is he who gives you the ability to produce wealth … If you ever forget … you will surely be destroyed’ (Deuteronomy 8:17-19 NIV).

2) Don’t forget others. The Bible commands ‘Instruct those who are rich in this present world not to be conceited or to set their hope on the uncertainty of riches, but on God, who richly supplies us with all things to enjoy. Instruct them to do good, to be rich in good works, to be generous and ready to share … so that they may take hold of that which is truly life’ (1 Timothy 6:17-19 NASB20).

3) Don’t become arrogant. Jeremiah admonishes us, ‘Let not the wise boast of their wisdom or the strong … of their strength or the rich … of their riches, but let the one who boasts boast about this: that they have the understanding to know me, that I am the LORD’ (Jeremiah 9:23-24 NIV).

4) Don’t allow anything to take God’s place. ‘Give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread. Otherwise, I may have too much and disown you and say, “Who is the LORD?”’ (Proverbs 30:8-9 NIV). Remember, you don’t own anything – you’re just an administrator of God’s estate and an executor of His will. It’s an awesome responsibility, so make sure you do a good job.

I luv d way u backed up every sentence or point with a bible verse, makes your entire writeup more believable n impossible to hv an objection to. Thanks, this was a good read to me.

Balablue64:
You see that oha with goat meat it goes well with fufu or even igbo garri.
Anytime we kill goat in the village it's always oha season my grandma will prepare it with cold hardrock fufu, ha i missed village food.
I still had it after i traveled to the village last year.
Please flush that efo riro down the toilet thank you.

Make them first commot all d meat way dey inside give me. I luv meat like say ehn...

Naijagram:
Seeking your thoughts, everyone!!!

I work as a salaried individual and earn around 400k monthly.

However, my girlfriend constantly asks for money. I give her almost 100k every month and she feels it's not enough for her. She's even voiced discontent, suggesting I only send her money when she explicitly requests it.

I'm beginning to suspect her motives, as she seems solely focused on my income.

She never suggests saving or helps in cutting costs; her primary interest lies in spending everything.
Despite my genuine love for her, I can't keep up with her demands. I had hopes for our future together, but it seems unlikely now.

I'm considering a breakup as a solution.

Has anyone navigated a similar situation?

My brother, I know exactly (from experience) what u passing through. So I'll tell u this... Now u hv seen all this n your heart has told u to dump her sorry ass, what are u waiting for? Many girls out there will value d little u give them. Move on now b4 it's too late.

onobire83:
I have 2 kids (boy and girl) with my wife in a marriage of 6 years , and I needed another child but my wife doesn’t (she went for family planning) what should I do?

Advice please

Threaten to get another girl pregnant n she will sit up.

Draslo:
This is not for me. My sister na church worker

My guy's sister is nothing you write home about. Their father has money, like 3 Rolls-Royce parked in the compound type of rich but the girl is very promiscuous. Many big boys on the island have had a fling because she must attend every raving bash. Her SM pages are full of filth in different countries. You'd easily call her online olosho sponsored by politicians. Her friends are worse cos they don't come from that kind of money. This girl is just 23 and already a red flag amongst guys. Even guys that have never seen her unclothedness will claim to have slept with her and people will believe as long as the guy has class.

My guy is getting married in January and doesn't want his only sister there. Can she still be saved?

First step will be for her to STOP THAT LIFE. Until she stops, my brother nothing will work.

general111:
Hello good people of Nairaland.
My fiancée to me today that her ex is requesting to meet her,and she was asking for my permission to go.
Should I grant her this request or should I be worried?

Stop being a pus@y. Deep down your heart u know seeing her ex isn't good for her or your relationship, why then do u consider allowing her go? Be a man, stamp your feet to d ground AND SAY NO